Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaPresident]

hey fellas, i been eating pretty good off these "dating" apps...


But not consistent enough for my tastes...my one question to the coli bruhs and savages is how do you go at the ones that's "not looking for commitment" or just trying to have fun? Those ones that basically want the meat but don't wanna come outright with it, without being disrespectful or scaring them off?

I've had luck with it just not consistent luck...hit two but I feel like i messed my chances up with a few others...need some advice/war stories...

 

[Alfred0Santana]

hey fellas, i been eating pretty good off these "dating" apps...


But not consistent enough for my tastes...my one question to the coli bruhs and savages is how do you go at the ones that's "not looking for commitment" or just trying to have fun? Those ones that basically want the meat but don't wanna come outright with it, without being disrespectful or scaring them off?

I've had luck with it just not consistent luck...hit two but I feel like i messed my chances up with a few others...need some advice/war stories...

Don't come off too thirsty for the smash...especially if you already know she probably gone give it up off rip. I would just come off like I'm a real chill dude that don't do the clubs much and give them a good vibe and then just hit them with the come thru or I go over they crib. If she trying to get you to spend money on her or take her out

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

I have to talk to her in a professional (or supposed to be professional) setting. I talk to her maybe 1-2 times a week via phone call/text & maybe see her once every month or so for work. I just keep getting a vibe from her but I have to toe the line & not make it awkward.

Oh I thought this was a chick you were currently getting at. But I didn't mean ignore her, but just ignore those comments. Like if she ever mentioned her bf don't egg that shyt on by engaging in that line of conversing.

Dealing with co-workers isn't something I have too much experience in. Under any other circumstance I would advise you to make a move because that's usually what gets the p*ssy wet. But in cases like this, if the feeling's not mutual you're probably in for some awkwardness.

Perhaps somebody else can speak on the co-worker thing.

 

[Alfred0Santana]

Too much texting, breh. That last one was just but I think you realize that already. Shorty is clearly reaching out. Keep them texts short and sweet, 1 or 2 words. Make her want you if you want her. If you don't want her then you definitely shouldn't be doing all that.

Shorty exposed her cleavage and you offered her a sweater.

You right...I know I was kinda cold with it. I just feel like she was trying to have me as a lil texting buddy while she see what this new dude about and I wasn't with that so I had to cut it off right at that point. I'm not gone front. I still got feelings for the girl but I really don't know what's the next play. I just think I need to leave it alone for a month at least

 

[the artist known az]

Oh I thought this was a chick you were currently getting at. But I didn't mean ignore her, but just ignore those comments. Like if she ever mentioned her bf don't egg that shyt on by engaging in that line of conversing.

Dealing with co-workers isn't something I have too much experience in. Under any other circumstance I would advise you to make a move because that's usually what gets the p*ssy wet. But in cases like this, if the feeling's not mutual you're probably in for some awkwardness.

Perhaps somebody else can speak on the co-worker thing.

She's not a co-worker but like a vendor that I have to deal with. Since I talk to her pretty often it has gotten more casual I don't want to make it weird. All convos are 98% done on our personal cell phones so I'm not really worried recording. Like today she called and she made a joke with double meaning that could be sexual and I laughed at it. It was a joke that a woman could get away with because 9 times outta 10 a male would never report it

 

[EffYou]

My b*tch not doing well I'm picking her up from work later thinking of bringing her a flower(single rose maybe) and chocolate or something. Ideas?

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

You right...I know I was kinda cold with it. I just feel like she was trying to have me as a lil texting buddy while she see what this new dude about and I wasn't with that so I had to cut it off right at that point. I'm not gone front. I still got feelings for the girl but I really don't know what's the next play. I just think I need to leave it alone for a month at least

Yeah she got feelings for you, breh. That's why you gotta act like you don't.

Just be cool, indifferent and act like you're busy all the time. Don't be mean but kinda be a dikk ya know? If she texts you wait a while before hitting her back. Make her think about you. Then hit her with a quick "Sup" or "Yeah". Leave her yearning for more. Make her want you. If she knows she has you, she can't possibly want you. And that's mainly what she's checking for in those texts. To see if she still has you.

Yeah just fall back. She'll hit you up again. Just don't fall into the trap and become a text buddy.

She's not a co-worker but like a vendor that I have to deal with. Since I talk to her pretty often it has gotten more casual I don't want to make it weird. All convos are 98% done on our personal cell phones so I'm not really worried recording. Like today she called and she made a joke with double meaning that could be sexual and I laughed at it. It was a joke that a woman could get away with because 9 times outta 10 a male would never report it

Ah ok. What was the joke though?

You should try to get her in a different environment outside of work. The more social the event, the better since you're not sure how she feels. Like if you're going out with a group of friends invite her along. Then "I had a good time. We should do this again. Yadda yadda yadda."

I got neck from a "cross" worker or whatever you wanna call it. But only because she said I wasn't her type when we first met and I wanted to prove I could. I had no feelings for her whatsoever though. Didn't even find her attractive. Plus I only really saw her if I wanted to. She was easily avoidable. So, yeah, totally different situation.

 

[the artist known az]

Ah ok. What was the joke though?

You should try to get her in a different environment outside of work. The more social the event, the better since you're not sure how she feels. Like if you're going out with a group of friends invite her along. Then "I had a good time. We should do this again. Yadda yadda yadda."

I got neck from a "cross" worker or whatever you wanna call it. But only because she said I wasn't her type when we first met and I wanted to prove I could. I had no feelings for her whatsoever though. Didn't even find her attractive. Plus I only really saw her if I wanted to. She was easily avoidable. So, yeah, totally different situation.

I ordered something & it had the initials BJ and she said something to the effect of "5 sweet BJs"...then there was like a 3 second silence and I laughed and she was like "sorry at my failed attempt at a joke" I laughed more and was like I'm not gonna even touch that one.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

I ordered something & it had the initials BJ and she said something to the effect of "5 sweet BJs"...then there was like a 3 second silence and I laughed and she was like "sorry at my failed attempt at a joke" I laughed more and was like I'm not gonna even touch that one.

Yeah she wants the d.

 

[the artist known az]

Yeah she wants the d.

I'll see where it goes, she started this job maybe 7-8 months ago and & I've seen her in person maybe 5-6 times. We are pretty much the same age, I maybe 3-4 years older. But every single time I've seen her in person she would mention something about her boyfriend. A co-worker of mine noticed the same thing & just shake my head & say I don't know, but she's definitely getting comfortable talking to me but I don't know her long enough/well enough to know for sure

 

[Gus Money]

If she has a boyfriend AND you have to deal with her at work then you should keep things friendly/professional and THAT'S IT.

Sometimes a flirt is just that, harmless flirting. There's no reason to risk making things weird by crossing that line, especially if she has a boyfriend breh.

 

[TRUEST]

1st post. Been lurking the Coli for awhile...started off in The Booth and bounced around some other places. Finding out about the locker room and this thread in particular has been clutch. A lot of y'all have been dropping gems and I felt with this situation going on it would be a good 1st post for me.....roast...give advice...do what y'all do lol. If it's long my bad. Just getting some thoughts off.


I've been basically out of this on and off serious relationship since June of this year but I've been keeping in contact with this chick. We talked for a while before we got together and I felt real good about her like she might be the one . Had her over for thanksgiving last year and moms fell in love with her off the first meeting. That was a mistake in hindsight and I will admit I think I was too excited. I broke things off in January but we ended up re connecting and hanging around each other on some do-over type stuff. Only problem was I kinda slipped back into my savage ways and she found out I had a tinder. She came to me one night at my place like she wants me and wanted to know if we gone do this or not. I basically was like "well I got some other things going on". She walked out and I haven't seen her since. You ever been in the moment and feel like you flexed on a broad but later on be like I could have played that better? That was me. I was out here smashing these broads with no feelings knowing it wasn't the same as her. Fast forward to November and my aunt comes down sick with cancer. She friends with me, my mom,sister and cousin on facebook so she knows everything. She starts texting me to check on me with all this stuff thats going on. She had posted a picture on Facebook around this time of a navy dude and her at some military ball. My aunt passes and she texts me the morning of the funeral saying she wishes she could be there with me and ends it saying love you. We never even said love you to each other when we was together so I respond back and say love you too.
Me and some fam went on a cruise to the Virgin Islands after the funeral. We had almost cancelled it with everything going on but it was much needed. Of course a nikka get drunk the first night and start simpin to her textin .. She tells me I broke her heart twice and she trying to get over me and hits me with the cliche "if its meant to be it will be" line. I left it alone but she kept texting me making small conversation and it took me a min to pick up on game. I noticed she would only text me in the morning when she was at work and wasn't around ol boy. This Tuesday she texted me and I put up a pic to show you how that went. I haven't responded since and she hasn't texted anything. I deleted her off everything and honestly once I got over that first day I been straight but something in me just feels like me and her have some story that hasn't been finished. Idk brehs

u handled that wrong my dude. always remember this, with chicks u want to fucck, make sure every conversation u have with them, either via text or phone, is mainly about "when are you free to getogether?". you must create opportunities for sex to happen. when females hit u up outta the blue, assume they want to see u and make a definite date!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and avoid making dates too deep into the future.

and you asking her "i thought u said u were trying to get over me". yeah that came off kinda weak. she knows what she told u. sometimes, when women make declarations about what they fixing to do or not do, and they end up doing that same thing they swore off, dont call them on it....until after at least u've gotten what u want. women are notorious for saying sh1t and not meaning them.

 

[TRUEST]

I would have made a thread but I did not want to be accused of attention whoring.

can some of the men give me an honest answer to this scenario:

I've been crushing on this guy that I know for like about 3 or 4 years. I never approached him and told him about it but out of the blue a month and a half ago he offered to take me on a date. It was alright . He was very Much so my type and he has a great personality.

He called me the next day to make plans for our next date. He so called injured himself playing basketball and cancelled.

He hit me up 3 days later wanting to chill at his crib

I agreed to it we never got up tho.

I hit him but no response so I took the L. He hit me today out the blue

Does it mean he was feeling someone more around the time and put me on the back burner or maybe he was going thru some shyt and didn't have the time for me ?

I need answers!!!

he's always known u liked him. he was going through a dry spell and decided to hit up a sure thing (you). but before u two could actually fucck, someone else got his attention.

when we like a woman, us men dont dikk around.

 

[Kyng]

My heart hurt
Why she don't want me

 

[Youseenmywork]

@Youseenmywork ever read "The rational male"?

It's a good book. Even man no matter the age should on that book. I can say today of I had a son its one of the books I would want him to read it to get a better grasp of the dynamics between men and women.