Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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DaRealness
I think very deeply
DaRealness
I think very deeply
I don't know. Just liked the video.
It was more of a general question. I just never understood why some dudes feel the need to still pursue someone who isn't interested rather than just KIM. That just reeks of desperation and a lack of self respect.
I used to do that because I felt like I wasn't going to find Anyone like that person ever again. Now I don't care at all if that person leaves. Only thing I'm self conscious about is my weight. I want to lose it to feel better about myself. And I feel like I dumb myself down sometimes.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
I hear that.
We all made mistakes in the past that we need to learn from. I'm working on myself in many ways as we speak. Life has a way of showing you shyt you'd rather not see, but it is what it is.The shyt life shows you hits you like a haymaker. I'm guilty of blindly swearing allegiance to people only to be fukked over or thrown under the bus. I'm also guilty of being a pushover. I was too much of a people pleaser. I was a human bridge that let people walk all over me. And they wouldn't do half the shyt I did for them for me. And I had to stop fukking with them.I hear that.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
I actually commend you for admitting to that, because not many people, especially men, do.
Sounds almost what I was a long time ago. I learned the hard way that everyone ain't loyal, which is why I've had to change my perspective and actions. It doesn't sit well with you at first, but after a while you learn to get very comfortable with being uncomfortable...in other words, you don't feel any way with setting boundaries and becoming way more selfish and 'cold hearted' than you've ever been. Those who feel a way about that after taking advantage of you will either respect it and cooperate, or simply bounce. Either one is a good result.
You have to survive in this world and being too much of a people pleaser for fear of them thinking negatively of you will only hurt you in the end. Never be a 100% down for someone who hasn't even proved themselves to you yet - that applies to anyone in life, friends, family, lovers, colleagues, whoever..
FACTS. my life was like this Quote
“Heard joke once: Man goes to doctor. Says he's depressed. Says life seems harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world where what lies ahead is vague and uncertain. Doctor says, "Treatment is simple. Great clown Pagliacci is in town tonight. Go and see him. That should pick you up." Man bursts into tears. Says, "But doctor...I am Pagliacci.”
its like one day i looked in the mirror and saw how much of a joke i let myself become at that point. i was everyone elses support system. talking people out of suicide. hanging out with people to help them out. lending everyone money. i did that shyt because i cared about people. but people just spit on me. and it was grimey. out of all the friends i have, i have ONE. ONE good friend. we had disagreements but never cared about it. ive dated an ex of his and he didn't care. he told me our friendship was bigger than that. on some nino brown shyt. id rather have one friend to fight a war with than a million cowards.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom in order to rise up.
Everything in the universe is about balance and when you're consistently giving out but not receiving, then you're going to suffer.
Nothing wrong with being a good person, but being there for everybody and doing things for people who clearly don't deserve it will eventually drain you mentally and emotionally. Believe me I know this from experience. You just have to be indifferent and not give a fukk at times. That means letting people learn their own life lessons without feeling the need to "save" them all the time. Having a good heart can be to your detriment if you don't know how to channel the energy properly.
Plus one good friend is better than none. Sometimes you may even have to kick everybody out and start afresh.
very true. thats what had happened to me for the longest time. and i need to be colder as much as it can pain me sometimes. i just need to preserve myself and stop treating everyone but me like gold.
Looking at the text convos between my girl and I from when we first met to know and wow the switched dynamic is amazing....I was texting her less and far in between then and she was more into the convos hitting me up out of the blue and replying as soon as I would text. Now the roles seemed to have reversed looking at our updated texting....how in the world? I have to find a way to bring back that initial "thing" that drew her to me and really made her want me.....
Ideas/thoughts?
Ideas/thoughts?
DaRealness
I think very deeply
Just make that your New Years Resolution. Now is the perfect time to meditate (if you're into that) and do some soul searching and find out where it is you're going wrong and not attracting the very same qualities from people that you yourself possess. Soon you'll find out that putting yourself first is simply self preservation - natural and vital. You'll come across a$$holes who will feel threatened by your new stance and try and guilt you into reverting back to your old self, but just give them the
with no fukks given. It's their issue, not yours. It's a difficult road at times but stuff happens for a reason.
