Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[EA]

Honestly... It's going to sound bad but you don't owe her anything and for that reason you just shouldn't care enough to feel obligated to tend to her emotionally. It's really that simple fam.

I'm like you, I'm nice... But you got to worry about yourself first. Truth is that no matter how much you're there for her she can flip and say "fukk you" at a moment's notice and forget all you've done for her.

I one offered to go to therapy sessions with that chick so she could resolve her issues from the past that led to get depression... Let us get into an argument though and it was nothing but disrespect/obscenities. Don't let these girls guilt you.

You're right, I've got to be more stern about this. The funny thing is that this whole ordeal has made me colder towards everybody else I still end up softening up for her. I just need to apply my new found coldness to her and I should be able to get through this.

In an ideal world, some Super Knight pops out of nowhere and saves her so she leaves me alone

 

[Spin]

If you're a man who is introverted/reserved , shy,or somewhat socially awkward at times, is there a way you can use your personality to your advantage. I know that if i'm around people that i don't feel comfortable around that how i'll carry myself, so how can a man make work that work for him?

I'm going to give an answer some might not agree with. Ditch trying to come up with a scheme to make being introverted/socially awkward work and start developing yourself. Your socially awkwardness is simply a pattern of you not constantly being around new people constantly. I'm not saying you have to go out there and become a politician or something, but you can work on the awkwardness. It begins with working on yourself by learning a new skill, getting in shape, or basically anything where you can see constant improvement. This will build your self esteem because make no mistake alot of it comes from a lack of self esteem. Girls pick up on that faster than guys so I'm going to call it as I see it.

Much of this takes practice and won't happen overnight. It can be something simple as joining a book club, toastmasters, taking classes at a gym, just find an activity where you are around people. Constantly pushing yourself is going to make you more attractive to woman without saying a word. Yea you can sit back and wait for a girl to approach you, but you're a man at the end of the day. We hunt. If you take what simply comes to you or what you're familiar with you're likely to end up with something you don't want. Worse you could end up with a chick who only approached you because she sensed your timidness and feels she can control you. I don't know your financial situation, but this is something to watch if you're well off.

Being able to communicate well with others is essential in life not just relationships.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I'm going to give an answer some might not agree with. Ditch trying to come up with a scheme to make being introverted/socially awkward work and start developing yourself. Your socially awkwardness is simply a pattern of you not constantly being around new people constantly. I'm not saying you have to go out there and become a politician or something, but you can work on the awkwardness. It begins with working on yourself by learning a new skill, getting in shape, or basically anything where you can see constant improvement. This will build your self esteem because make no mistake alot of it comes from a lack of self esteem. Girls pick up on that faster than guys so I'm going to call it as I see it.

Much of this takes practice and won't happen overnight. It can be something simple as joining a book club, toastmasters, taking classes at a gym, just find an activity where you are around people. Constantly pushing yourself is going to make you more attractive to woman without saying a word. Yea you can sit back and wait for a girl to approach you, but you're a man at the end of the day. We hunt. If you take what simply comes to you or what you're familiar with you're likely to end up with something you don't want. Worse you could end up with a chick who only approached you because she sensed your timidness and feels she can control you. I don't know your financial situation, but this is something to watch if you're well off.

Being able to communicate well with others is essential in life not just relationships.

Thanks for the honest feedback. It's something that I've always tried to deny or never address but my self esteem is low. Bad relationship with overprotective highly critical father, body issues growing up( weight and height), struggles with developing friends early in life, and very little success with women in my life were the perfect storm. Now at 26 I'm trying to fix it. Actually I've spent my whole 20's trying to learn and develop things most guys had in their teens

 

[Dominicansbelit]

If you're a man who is introverted/reserved , shy,or somewhat socially awkward at times, is there a way you can use your personality to your advantage. I know that if i'm around people that i don't feel comfortable around that how i'll carry myself, so how can a man make work that work for him?

Introverts are at an advantage cuz you prefer to be alone.. most people need others... you're one step ahead

 

[DarkHorse23]

Introverts are at an advantage cuz you prefer to be alone.. most people need others... you're one step ahead

What you said applies to me when it comes to people because I don't necessary need large amount of friends, just quality people, but when it comes to women that's where I have this sense of needing. It's a void that has been empty most of my life because I've had such few positive experiences.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I'm going to give an answer some might not agree with. Ditch trying to come up with a scheme to make being introverted/socially awkward work and start developing yourself. Your socially awkwardness is simply a pattern of you not constantly being around new people constantly. I'm not saying you have to go out there and become a politician or something, but you can work on the awkwardness. It begins with working on yourself by learning a new skill, getting in shape, or basically anything where you can see constant improvement. This will build your self esteem because make no mistake alot of it comes from a lack of self esteem. Girls pick up on that faster than guys so I'm going to call it as I see it.

Much of this takes practice and won't happen overnight. It can be something simple as joining a book club, toastmasters, taking classes at a gym, just find an activity where you are around people. Constantly pushing yourself is going to make you more attractive to woman without saying a word. Yea you can sit back and wait for a girl to approach you, but you're a man at the end of the day. We hunt. If you take what simply comes to you or what you're familiar with you're likely to end up with something you don't want. Worse you could end up with a chick who only approached you because she sensed your timidness and feels she can control you. I don't know your financial situation, but this is something to watch if you're well off.

Being able to communicate well with others is essential in life not just relationships.

Speak of the devil,just heard it again. At a restaurant and heard my pops speaking to a woman about me and mentioning that "I'm just reserved". Smh. People going always have opinions and never even had a conversation with you.

 

[Dominicansbelit]

What you said applies to me when it comes to people because I don't necessary need large amount of friends, just quality people, but when it comes to women that's where I have this sense of needing. It's a void that has been empty most of my life because I've had such few positive experiences.

Just understand that women can't love you for you.. they love what you have.. once you lose this they will sit you down and let you know that it's over...

A real man disregards women and acquires currency (and/or picks up hobbies that will never let him down)

 

[Jahmal]

but homie, a childless dude dealing with a single mother is a whole different battle. If you were childless would you have settled down with a single mother. A lot of childless dudes nowadays once they 25+ most women their age got children.

Thats why I date younger. I'm 34 and the women I mess with are 17-21. As soon as I women tells me she has children I lose interest. Stop settling for single moms and just date 17 yr olds!

 

[International Playa]

Thanks for the honest feedback. It's something that I've always tried to deny or never address but my self esteem is low. Bad relationship with overprotective highly critical father, body issues growing up( weight and height), struggles with developing friends early in life, and very little success with women in my life were the perfect storm. Now at 26 I'm trying to fix it. Actually I've spent my whole 20's trying to learn and develop things most guys had in their teens

Homie I was exactly like you, at 26 was when everything started working out for me, started getting females non-stop since then. Im not saying I get a loads of females but I get 2-3 a year which is enough for me, looking back to how I used to be anti-social.

Gym really helps with body issues, working out helps you feel more comfortable with your body, then add dressing better to the mix, your confidence levels will hit the roof.

Having my own flat and car really helped bro. Stay social get out there because you wont meet a woman in your home. You will stumble and have bad days but keep putting in the work in them trenches, it will soon pay off. Your time will come

 

[DarkHorse23]

Homie I was exactly like you, at 26 was when everything started working out for me, started getting females non-stop since then. Im not saying I get a loads of females but I get 2-3 a year which is enough for me, looking back to how I used to be anti-social.

Gym really helps with body issues, working out helps you feel more comfortable with your body, then add dressing better to the mix, your confidence levels will hit the roof.

Having my own flat and car really helped bro. Stay social get out there because you wont meet a woman in your home. You will stumble and have bad days but keep putting in the work in them trenches, it will soon pay off. Your time will come

Thanks breh.

 

[Mr210]

After jumping from relationship to relationship and doing a lot of dating the past few years I'm really trying to do the solo tip stack money etc but its becoming hard..,.

 

[Swing]

I was going thru my phone, here's a Tinder gem from last summer

 

[Mr210]

I was going thru my phone, here's a Tinder gem from last summer

Post some pics of her

 

[Spin]

Thanks breh.

Homie I was exactly like you, at 26 was when everything started working out for me, started getting females non-stop since then. Im not saying I get a loads of females but I get 2-3 a year which is enough for me, looking back to how I used to be anti-social.

Gym really helps with body issues, working out helps you feel more comfortable with your body, then add dressing better to the mix, your confidence levels will hit the roof.

Having my own flat and car really helped bro. Stay social get out there because you wont meet a woman in your home. You will stumble and have bad days but keep putting in the work in them trenches, it will soon pay off. Your time will come

echo the post by Playa.

Small success every week will slowly build up to where you won't even recognize yourself a year later. The gym is a huge one. Working out at least 3-4 times a week will keep you feeling motivated and less fatigued. Another key thing is watch what you eat. This was a huge issue for me as I grew up eating fast food at least once a day. It was like my body refused to give it up when I first attempted until I finally lost the craving. It's going to be a similar process for all your other mental battles.

In addition to speaking to females, take a honest look at your male friends. Are they adding value to your life or are some of their insecurities rubbing off on you? Also get used to people, friends, etc coming in and out of your life without getting personally attached. I had at least 2 male friends this past year that I used to chill with get girlfriends and disappear for a month. Then after the relationship got out of the initial lust stage, they would resurface. Me personally, I keep these friends at a distance now because I see how easily they get attached even though all of them "claimed" they wouldn't get tied town. One of the friends is already single again and I assume it's because he was in his girls face 24/7 and she got tired of him. You lose all leverage in a relationship when you become needy.

I believe one of my biggest issues when I wasn't as talkative was that I placed so much pressure on myself in initial conversations. Many people who are naturally talkative don't remember who they spoke with the day before, but for whatever reason I could remember details about conversations for months. In reality no one interaction with anyone is a big deal! I'm also a big supporter of being up front with a girl during your first conversation. You don't want to be wasting time wondering where you stand with her. If she blows you off or is not interested then you just saved time and can move onto the next one. This is why it's key to approach girls in abundance so you don't place too much weight on any one interaction.

 

[DarkHorse23]

echo the post by Playa.

Small success every week will slowly build up to where you won't even recognize yourself a year later. The gym is a huge one. Working out at least 3-4 times a week will keep you feeling motivated and less fatigued. Another key thing is watch what you eat. This was a huge issue for me as I grew up eating fast food at least once a day. It was like my body refused to give it up when I first attempted until I finally lost the craving. It's going to be a similar process for all your other mental battles.

In addition to speaking to females, take a honest look at your male friends. Are they adding value to your life or are some of their insecurities rubbing off on you? Also get used to people, friends, etc coming in and out of your life without getting personally attached. I had at least 2 male friends this past year that I used to chill with get girlfriends and disappear for a month. Then after the relationship got out of the initial lust stage, they would resurface. Me personally, I keep these friends at a distance now because I see how easily they get attached even though all of them "claimed" they wouldn't get tied town. One of the friends is already single again and I assume it's because he was in his girls face 24/7 and she got tired of him. You lose all leverage in a relationship when you become needy.

I believe one of my biggest issues when I wasn't as talkative was that I placed so much pressure on myself in initial conversations. Many people who are naturally talkative don't remember who they spoke with the day before, but for whatever reason I could remember details about conversations for months. In reality no one interaction with anyone is a big deal! I'm also a big supporter of being up front with a girl during your first conversation. You don't want to be wasting time wondering where you stand with her. If she blows you off or is not interested then you just saved time and can move onto the next one. This is why it's key to approach girls in abundance so you don't place too much weight on any one interaction.

That's definitely something i've struggled with and something i have to be cautious of. Meet a girl and be too much in her face(because i either don't talk to enough girls where i get a positive reaction OR i want the interaction to go positive) and you come across as clingy. I have to get myself to not to get attached to any girl or the outcome and stop being the chaser and let them do that, because at the end of the day a woman who really wants to see you and spend time with you, will make time to do it and be the one who is pressed. It's should never be you(the man) who is pressed.