Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Swing]

Post some pics of her

Just saved the screen cap breh... big girl but she was cute tho.

 

[O.iatlhawksfan]

So every chick I find myself dating is a single mother. I doesn't really bother me but at 25 did y'all see a lot of women with no kids?

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Maaan, finally I am able to post here. I used to have a coli account around 2 years ago before I went on hiatus. I've been lurking a lot in the intervening time though. I really need y'alls advice about this chick I want to get. I don't know if I should disengage or keep yacking at her.
But anyways before I share the story just wanted to give a shout out to all the 6ixside brehs (it's always great getting game from you fellas with that local flava), especially @Asantehene ... you remember me breh? You were giving me advice on how to approach two chicks in my class two years ago. It was shytty advice my nikka . I graduated without getting the cheeks and I'm not talking to either girl right now which kind of sucks because we were sort of tight during school time.

You better redeem yourself by giving me good advice on how to handle this broad I'm trying to get right now

 

[Ohene]

Maaan, finally I am able to post here. I used to have a coli account around 2 years ago before I went on hiatus. I've been lurking a lot in the intervening time though. I really need y'alls advice about this chick I want to get. I don't know if I should disengage or keep yacking at her.
But anyways before I share the story just wanted to give a shout out to all the 6ixside brehs (it's always great getting game from you fellas with that local flava), especially @Asantehene ... you remember me breh? You were giving me advice on how to approach two chicks in my class two years ago. It was shytty advice my nikka . I graduated without getting the cheeks and I'm not talking to either girl right now which kind of sucks because we were sort of tight during school time.

You better redeem yourself by giving me good advice on how to handle this broad I'm trying to get right now

lolol what was your old sn fam?
i probably gave you good advice...

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

But anyways here's the story. I met this petite white chick at a party like late last year. I thought she was alright back then but we kept running into each other through our mutual friends and she looked like she was single so I figured I'd ask for her number which I did a couple of weeks ago (I can't remember if it was early January or not). Anyways during the time I asked for her number I remember her mentioning that she was joining this cooking meetup. She asked if I wanted to join and I said yea I'm down. The first meeting was starting like within the next two weeks so in the two weeks since I got the number I basically did not talk to her but after the first meeting I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie with me on Tuesday and she said she was busy on Tuesday but might be free on Friday and she would let me know if anything came up. Early in the morning Thursday I called her and she told me that she had to babysit her nephew (or niece? can't remember) on Friday and couldn't go out. Afterwards she told me that she pretty much wouldn't be free the last week of January because she'd been procrastinating about applying for jobs and had to do it ASAP and it would take her a while. The earliest she could do any hanging out is February, which incidentally is starting today!

Now the moment she told me this I was like because literally the last 2-3 chicks I approached who curved me did so in a similar vague manner (Like word for word I've had a broad not even give me a good reason - she said she didn't "feel" like hanging out this month, maybe next month - I was like cuz I already didn't like her shytty attitude anyways).

But anyways this chick is still a student so her excuse kinda makes sense. Since she's curved me two times, i was going to wait for her to put some initiative into going out sometime this week but it doesn't look like it's forthcoming. Should I pester her one more time or should I just basically ignore her until either she responds to me or she flies away like a birdie like that cam'ron song. What's y'alls advice? Has a chick ever not had time for you in the 1-2 weeks you started pursuing her but you still ended up being with her or is she basically a lost case for me? Keep in mind that my biggest problem since a long time ago is that I tend to take waay too long to make my move. I'm thinking of calling her tomorrow and just asking her if she wants to hang out and giving her an ultimatum, yes or no? If she says no I'm straight cuz there's maaad girls in the cooking class still who look promising so I won't be heartbroken for more than a day and a half lool

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

lolol what was your old sn fam?
i probably gave you good advice...

breh I don't remember. i think it might have been occams-razor.

 

[NeilCartwright]

So i just got to an HBCU last fall, im a junior. Its very small, about 2500-3000 people.


Im plotting on 2 volleyball players (who are friends/teammates) and another girl who is in one of my major classes.

Im wondering how can i feel all three out when we all have random classes together, and write for the school newspaper. So we all see each other at the meetings on Wednesdays, along with me having class with two of the three girls. I just dont want this to get messy



Basically how can i get to know all three without one of them getting salty? The 2 volleyball girls are thick as hell but at this stage im just seeing who i vibe with...You know how that goes. If a woman is talking to you, and finds out you're also entertaining her friend(s) then it can get messy

Can a brotha get some input

 

[Bless't]

I was going thru my phone, here's a Tinder gem from last summer

Great troll job.

 

[Clark Wayne]

echo the post by Playa.

Small success every week will slowly build up to where you won't even recognize yourself a year later. The gym is a huge one. Working out at least 3-4 times a week will keep you feeling motivated and less fatigued. Another key thing is watch what you eat. This was a huge issue for me as I grew up eating fast food at least once a day. It was like my body refused to give it up when I first attempted until I finally lost the craving. It's going to be a similar process for all your other mental battles.

In addition to speaking to females, take a honest look at your male friends. Are they adding value to your life or are some of their insecurities rubbing off on you? Also get used to people, friends, etc coming in and out of your life without getting personally attached. I had at least 2 male friends this past year that I used to chill with get girlfriends and disappear for a month. Then after the relationship got out of the initial lust stage, they would resurface. Me personally, I keep these friends at a distance now because I see how easily they get attached even though all of them "claimed" they wouldn't get tied town. One of the friends is already single again and I assume it's because he was in his girls face 24/7 and she got tired of him. You lose all leverage in a relationship when you become needy.

I believe one of my biggest issues when I wasn't as talkative was that I placed so much pressure on myself in initial conversations. Many people who are naturally talkative don't remember who they spoke with the day before, but for whatever reason I could remember details about conversations for months. In reality no one interaction with anyone is a big deal! I'm also a big supporter of being up front with a girl during your first conversation. You don't want to be wasting time wondering where you stand with her. If she blows you off or is not interested then you just saved time and can move onto the next one. This is why it's key to approach girls in abundance so you don't place too much weight on any one interaction.

Damn sounds exactly like me.

 

[Bless't]

Maaan, finally I am able to post here. I used to have a coli account around 2 years ago before I went on hiatus. I've been lurking a lot in the intervening time though. I really need y'alls advice about this chick I want to get. I don't know if I should disengage or keep yacking at her.
But anyways before I share the story just wanted to give a shout out to all the 6ixside brehs (it's always great getting game from you fellas with that local flava), especially [B]@Asantehene[[/B]/USER] ... [B]you remember me breh? You were giving me advice on how to approach two chicks in my class two years ago. It was shytty advice my nikka :stopitslime:. I graduated without getting the cheeks :rudy: and I'm not talking to either girl right now which kind of sucks because we were sort of tight during school time.

You better redeem yourself by giving me good advice on how to handle this broad I'm trying to get right now[/B]

This whole shyt has me like...

[IMG]http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view5/2802435/dan-savage-cracks-up-stephen-o.gif[/IMG]

 

[Lo-Co]

Damn sounds exactly like me.

Honestly this is me as well. I can remember the smallest thing that was said. I over think things like this

 

[the bossman]

But anyways here's the story. I met this petite white chick at a party like late last year. I thought she was alright back then but we kept running into each other through our mutual friends and she looked like she was single so I figured I'd ask for her number which I did a couple of weeks ago (I can't remember if it was early January or not). Anyways during the time I asked for her number I remember her mentioning that she was joining this cooking meetup. She asked if I wanted to join and I said yea I'm down. The first meeting was starting like within the next two weeks so in the two weeks since I got the number I basically did not talk to her but after the first meeting I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie with me on Tuesday and she said she was busy on Tuesday but might be free on Friday and she would let me know if anything came up. Early in the morning Thursday I called her and she told me that she had to babysit her nephew (or niece? can't remember) on Friday and couldn't go out. Afterwards she told me that she pretty much wouldn't be free the last week of January because she'd been procrastinating about applying for jobs and had to do it ASAP and it would take her a while. The earliest she could do any hanging out is February, which incidentally is starting today!

Now the moment she told me this I was like because literally the last 2-3 chicks I approached who curved me did so in a similar vague manner (Like word for word I've had a broad not even give me a good reason - she said she didn't "feel" like hanging out this month, maybe next month - I was like cuz I already didn't like her shytty attitude anyways).

But anyways this chick is still a student so her excuse kinda makes sense. Since she's curved me two times, i was going to wait for her to put some initiative into going out sometime this week but it doesn't look like it's forthcoming. Should I pester her one more time or should I just basically ignore her until either she responds to me or she flies away like a birdie like that cam'ron song. What's y'alls advice? Has a chick ever not had time for you in the 1-2 weeks you started pursuing her but you still ended up being with her or is she basically a lost case for me? Keep in mind that my biggest problem since a long time ago is that I tend to take waay too long to make my move. I'm thinking of calling her tomorrow and just asking her if she wants to hang out and giving her an ultimatum, yes or no? If she says no I'm straight cuz there's maaad girls in the cooking class still who look promising so I won't be heartbroken for more than a day and a half lool

Bruh, you got her number and didn't hit her up for 2 weeks. Why even get her number then?


You kept asking her to hang out after she never made any attempts to reschedule with you when she was busy

Putting all your eggs into this one basket instead of talking to different women at the same time

Lastly, asking if you should still continue pursuing when she's been giving you bs responses and there's other bytches in the class

Bruh stop this nonsense. And next time you get a bytch number, don't wait 2 weeks to call

 

[the bossman]

But anyways here's the story. I met this petite white chick at a party like late last year. I thought she was alright back then but we kept running into each other through our mutual friends and she looked like she was single so I figured I'd ask for her number which I did a couple of weeks ago (I can't remember if it was early January or not). Anyways during the time I asked for her number I remember her mentioning that she was joining this cooking meetup. She asked if I wanted to join and I said yea I'm down. The first meeting was starting like within the next two weeks so in the two weeks since I got the number I basically did not talk to her but after the first meeting I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie with me on Tuesday and she said she was busy on Tuesday but might be free on Friday and she would let me know if anything came up. Early in the morning Thursday I called her and she told me that she had to babysit her nephew (or niece? can't remember) on Friday and couldn't go out. Afterwards she told me that she pretty much wouldn't be free the last week of January because she'd been procrastinating about applying for jobs and had to do it ASAP and it would take her a while. The earliest she could do any hanging out is February, which incidentally is starting today!

Now the moment she told me this I was like because literally the last 2-3 chicks I approached who curved me did so in a similar vague manner (Like word for word I've had a broad not even give me a good reason - she said she didn't "feel" like hanging out this month, maybe next month - I was like cuz I already didn't like her shytty attitude anyways).

But anyways this chick is still a student so her excuse kinda makes sense. Since she's curved me two times, i was going to wait for her to put some initiative into going out sometime this week but it doesn't look like it's forthcoming. Should I pester her one more time or should I just basically ignore her until either she responds to me or she flies away like a birdie like that cam'ron song. What's y'alls advice? Has a chick ever not had time for you in the 1-2 weeks you started pursuing her but you still ended up being with her or is she basically a lost case for me? Keep in mind that my biggest problem since a long time ago is that I tend to take waay too long to make my move. I'm thinking of calling her tomorrow and just asking her if she wants to hang out and giving her an ultimatum, yes or no? If she says no I'm straight cuz there's maaad girls in the cooking class still who look promising so I won't be heartbroken for more than a day and a half lool

Bruh, you got her number and didn't hit her up for 2 weeks. Why even get her number then?


You kept asking her to hang out after she never made any attempts to reschedule with you when she was busy

Putting all your eggs into this one basket instead of talking to different women at the same time

Lastly, asking if you should still continue pursuing when she's been giving you bs responses and there's other bytches in the class

Bruh stop this nonsense. And next time you get a bytch number, don't wait 2 weeks to call

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Bruh, you got her number and didn't hit her up for 2 weeks. Why even get her number then?


You kept asking her to hang out after she never made any attempts to reschedule with you when she was busy

Putting all your eggs into this one basket instead of talking to different women at the same time

Lastly, asking if you should still continue pursuing when she's been giving you bs responses and there's other bytches in the class

Bruh stop this nonsense. And next time you get a bytch number, don't wait 2 weeks to call

I'd already thrown her into the bushes after she curved me on the Friday thing but I just wanted to feel her out some more cuz she's a student and she is busy.

The 2 week thing ... I fukked up ... I admit it. I'm not a very decisive guy in general but yoo i'm changing quick.
This year will be the year I turn everything around. Tired of having a dry dikk. The hoes in my class are fire. Plus I'll be hitting the club with some buddies on Friday - planning on getting additional numbers.

 

[kevm3]

I'm increasingly becoming more convinced that looks aren't everything as I get older. It sounds like common sense, but as men, as soon as we see a fine woman, our mind completely shifts into another zone and the majority of our logic and common sense get thrown out of the window. 9 times out of 10, this is how we end up in terrible situations. We put a woman's looks on a pedestal as opposed to the actual quality of her character.

One of the absolute key qualities that you need to find when dealing with a woman is to get with one that you are completely comfortable in being yourself around. Sooner or later, the woman will absolutely have to meet the real you and a lot of guys get caught up putting a facade trying to impress this or that woman, but they eventually get tired of putting on an act, the real them comes around and the woman leaves because 'you've changed', when in reality, the real you you've been hiding comes out. This sounds like common sense, but how many men really practice this as opposed to trying to use these pickup lines or secret techniques in order to impress some woman? The key to this is that you simply have to let women walk who do not naturally feel you.

There are women that a man just clicks with and then there are women where there is absolutely nothing there, but you end up trying to force the issues because she's fine. Instead of letting her walk, the guy will come up with a fake personality or some kind of routine and try to morph into the guy he thinks she likes, which eventually leads into the scenario I've talked about. He may catch her, but sooner or later, the act is too much effort to keep up, the real him comes out and she leaves because that isn't what caught her interest in the first place. Certain women you just have to let walk.

You simply have to spend 100% of time being yourself, but the best version of yourself and letting those women walk that aren't into who you are. There is a certain peace of mind that comes to you when you stop trying to put together some canned routine or dictating your every move by what you imagine what you think some woman likes. Stop asking yourself lame questions like, "What clothes do the women like? What secret things do I have to say?" Different women like different things. Your attitude should be if she doesn't like you, she needs to move out of the way so the woman who does can get a shot. The moment you stop questioning yourself and catering your every activity to what you imagine some woman likes and you focus on being yourself is when you start developing real confidence.