Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[L $ C]

Did you ever ask how she feels about you?

not really kinda felt the vibe lol

usually I feel right, this time ehhhh wrong

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

not really kinda felt the vibe lol

usually I feel right, this time ehhhh wrong

Why you feeling down though my dude? Like what were you supposed to do? Not try to kiss her? That's embedded in the male chromosome.

Any chick that is around me would definitely not be surprised if i ventured to kiss them - so even if they curved me it wouldn't be on some awkward "uh oh" type of shyt, it would be more like they'd punch me or slap me (playfully of course) cuz they know whats up

you made the right call in my book breh

 

[DarkHorse23]

These "females" I tell you. So I met this girl through another girl I use to talk to at my job. Never had a conversation with this girl until Tuesday. I work on the 1st floor in ladies shoes and I'm helping a customer and I see her and she says hi to me. Now keep in mind I'd never even spoken to this girl and only seen her once so I took that as maybe she might have some interest or give me some play . So anyway after my shift on Tuesday I approach her on the second floor and ask her out to lunch on Friday. So anyway at 3 pm(after my shift) on Friday I go up there too see her and I'm talking to her and she laughing, having good conversation, and the plan is still for me to take her to lunch at 4. So anyway at 4 I'm feeling good and I see her approaching me and we about to go, but I should have known something was wrong because there was another dude walking with her. So anyway she tells me ( paraphrasing) " he's new and he wanted to come to lunch with us. Is that ok?". I hear this and I'm like , and say yes. So anyway I'm walking with her and this ugly corny ass nikka( and that he was. Just saying) and feeling pissed at him, like why would this dude just invite himself to an invitation that wasn't extended to him and didn't include him. So anyway after we get to the food court, I'm thinking do I wanna stay and just play it cool and try to get to know her anyway even though there's another dude there or do I just wanna leave. My decision was soon made for me. No self respecting man would have done differently. So I approached her while she was in line and said "so he just decided to invite himself?" And then she says " No I invited him." I hear that and I'm like and say "oh". So anyway I leave her line and go to another line to order my food. So anyway as I'm getting my food and completing my order, I see her sitting with this dude and she waves for me to see her. I walk over and sit down and I'm seeing her on her phone texting and he sitting next to me looking stupid. So I get on my phone and pretend I'm on it, and excuse myself from the table. I dap him and tell her bye. That will be the last time I say anything to her ever. As you get older you learn to recognize the signs or rather not ignore the signs when a woman is being blatantly disrespectful. At 21-24 I would have stayed at that table. At 26 and understanding women better, I just excused myself. She probably could care less and that fine but for the sake of my self respect and pride there was no way I was going let this girl disrespect me like that. I may not be Lance Gross or Shemar Moore but there's no way I'm going let you run game on me like that. So it is what it is . Move on to next one.

 

[havoc]

not really kinda felt the vibe lol

usually I feel right, this time ehhhh wrong

You should say something if you have feelings for her. Let her know, breh. This an opportunity for you to see if she has any feelings for you or like you as a friend.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

These "females" I tell you. So I met this girl through another girl I use to talk to at my job. Never had a conversation with this girl until Tuesday. I work on the 1st floor in ladies shoes and I'm helping a customer and I see her and she says hi to me. Now keep in mind I'd never even spoken to this girl and only seen her once so I took that as maybe she might have some interest or give me some play . So anyway after my shift on Tuesday I approach her on the second floor and ask her out to lunch on Friday. So anyway at 3 pm(after my shift) on Friday I go up there too see her and I'm talking to her and she laughing, having good conversation, and the plan is still for me to take her to lunch at 4. So anyway at 4 I'm feeling good and I see her approaching me and we about to go, but I should have known something was wrong because there was another dude walking with her. So anyway she tells me ( paraphrasing) " he's new and he wanted to come to lunch with us. Is that ok?". I hear this and I'm like , and say yes. So anyway I'm walking with her and this ugly corny ass nikka( and that he was. Just saying) and feeling pissed at him, like why would this dude just invite himself to an invitation that wasn't extended to him and didn't include him. So anyway after we get to the food court, I'm thinking do I wanna stay and just play it cool and try to get to know her anyway even though there's another dude there or do I just wanna leave. My decision was soon made for me. No self respecting man would have done differently. So I approached her while she was in line and said "so he just decided to invite himself?" And then she says " No I invited him." I hear that and I'm like and say "oh". So anyway I leave her line and go to another line to order my food. So anyway as I'm getting my food and completing my order, I see her sitting with this dude and she waves for me to see her. I walk over and sit down and I'm seeing her on her phone texting and he sitting next to me looking stupid. So I get on my phone and pretend I'm on it, and excuse myself from the table. I dap him and tell her bye. That will be the last time I say anything to her ever. As you get older you learn to recognize the signs or rather not ignore the signs when a woman is being blatantly disrespectful. At 21-24 I would have stayed at that table. At 26 and understanding women better, I just excused myself. She probably could care less and that fine but for the sake of my self respect and pride there was no way I was going let this girl disrespect me like that. I may not be Lance Gross or Shemar Moore but there's no way I'm going let you run game on me like that. So it is what it is . Move on to next one.

Damn you did good breh. I can't say that I would have clued in as fast as you did. Chicks can friendzone you so fast you can go from to in seconds. Like this one chick I've been chasing embarassed me so badly I almost don't even want to share it here.

But it's good you shared this story bro ... others can learn from your *almost* mistake. I now know how to better handle situations like these.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

You should say something if you have feelings for her. Let her know, breh. This an opportunity for you to see if she has any feelings for you or like you as a friend.

If he took her out two times already its pretty much obvious ... do girls really think guys do all of that because there's no feels somewhere there. i'm not ready to believe that.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

You should say something if you have feelings for her. Let her know, breh. This an opportunity for you to see if she has any feelings for you or like you as a friend.

and FWIW the whole "emotional outpouring" "I have feelings for you" tactic has never ever ever ever ever worked for me. always blown up in my face. I would never do some corny shyt like that. You are pretty much surrendering your hand there and ensuring she's gotten you by the balls. Even though she might have been feeling you initially all of a sudden you will notice she is more dismissive and disinterested (as in she is taking her time). eff that.

 

[Youseenmywork]

and FWIW the whole "emotional outpouring" "I have feelings for you" tactic has never ever ever ever ever worked for me. always blown up in my face. I would never do some corny shyt like that. You are pretty much surrendering your hand there and ensuring she's gotten you by the balls. Even though she might have been feeling you initially all of a sudden you will notice she is more dismissive and disinterested (as in she is taking her time). eff that.

To play a game you have to be willing to lose. Flip the chess board in air when these situations arise.

 

[TRUEST]

These "females" I tell you. So I met this girl through another girl I use to talk to at my job. Never had a conversation with this girl until Tuesday. I work on the 1st floor in ladies shoes and I'm helping a customer and I see her and she says hi to me. Now keep in mind I'd never even spoken to this girl and only seen her once so I took that as maybe she might have some interest or give me some play . So anyway after my shift on Tuesday I approach her on the second floor and ask her out to lunch on Friday. So anyway at 3 pm(after my shift) on Friday I go up there too see her and I'm talking to her and she laughing, having good conversation, and the plan is still for me to take her to lunch at 4. So anyway at 4 I'm feeling good and I see her approaching me and we about to go, but I should have known something was wrong because there was another dude walking with her. So anyway she tells me ( paraphrasing) " he's new and he wanted to come to lunch with us. Is that ok?". I hear this and I'm like , and say yes. So anyway I'm walking with her and this ugly corny ass nikka( and that he was. Just saying) and feeling pissed at him, like why would this dude just invite himself to an invitation that wasn't extended to him and didn't include him. So anyway after we get to the food court, I'm thinking do I wanna stay and just play it cool and try to get to know her anyway even though there's another dude there or do I just wanna leave. My decision was soon made for me. No self respecting man would have done differently. So I approached her while she was in line and said "so he just decided to invite himself?" And then she says " No I invited him." I hear that and I'm like and say "oh". So anyway I leave her line and go to another line to order my food. So anyway as I'm getting my food and completing my order, I see her sitting with this dude and she waves for me to see her. I walk over and sit down and I'm seeing her on her phone texting and he sitting next to me looking stupid. So I get on my phone and pretend I'm on it, and excuse myself from the table. I dap him and tell her bye. That will be the last time I say anything to her ever. As you get older you learn to recognize the signs or rather not ignore the signs when a woman is being blatantly disrespectful. At 21-24 I would have stayed at that table. At 26 and understanding women better, I just excused myself. She probably could care less and that fine but for the sake of my self respect and pride there was no way I was going let this girl disrespect me like that. I may not be Lance Gross or Shemar Moore but there's no way I'm going let you run game on me like that. So it is what it is . Move on to next one.

you did extremely well in that situation. game comes from experience or being astute enough to derive wisdom from other people's experience.

my experiences have helped me define rules and regulations to dating. its just like arithmetic. 1 + 1 = 2. right? if ur out with a girl, and she's inviting someone else on the date, that equals = she's not that interested. if chris brown asked her on a date, would she invite anyone else??? no.

if ur out with a girl and she's recklessly eyeballing other dudes, = she's not that interested.

the inexperienced amongst us would still sit around and take the disrespect thinking and hoping to get laid at the end of it all. but when u've been through enough sh1t, u know to walk out at the first sign of disrespect.

 

[DarkHorse23]

you did extremely well in that situation. game comes from experience or being astute enough to derive wisdom from other people's experience.

my experiences have helped me define rules and regulations to dating. its just like arithmetic. 1 + 1 = 2. right? if ur out with a girl, and she's inviting someone else on the date, that equals = she's not that interested. if chris brown asked her on a date, would she invite anyone else??? no.

if ur out with a girl and she's recklessly eyeballing other dudes, = she's not that interested.

the inexperienced amongst us would still sit around and take the disrespect thinking and hoping to get laid at the end of it all. but when u've been through enough sh1t, u know to walk out at the first sign of disrespect.

Your whole post i couldn't agree with more, but especially the bold part is so true. At the end of the day if you know a woman would (and 99.99999% of them would) make exception if it was some famous nikka or pretty boy model nikka, but she won't for you then it's time to move on. Many women will tell guys she's "busy" or she had this to do, or that to do, or she "tired" or whatever but the fact is it doesn't matter if she has midterms, her mother died, or Jesus is coming back, if Chris Brown, Lance Gross, Lebron James or somebody of importance, celebrity, or of extreme good looks asked them out, they would drop EVERYTHING. So my attitude is i only ask, reach out once after that the ball is in her court, because i'm not chasing, nor am i trying to be perceived as thirsty and/or desperate. And maybe some women may say a man should be persistent or put in some effort. Nah because if you wouldn't make mr.nba superstar jump through hoops or a date or some act right then why should i settle for that. Hey maybe persistence works out for some guys, but that's not me. I've rarely been the type to to reach out more than once or twice, and the times i have i've always regretted it. A woman who likes you will make time for you regardless of her "life". That's my belief.

 

[Youseenmywork]

you did extremely well in that situation. game comes from experience or being astute enough to derive wisdom from other people's experience.

my experiences have helped me define rules and regulations to dating. its just like arithmetic. 1 + 1 = 2. right? if ur out with a girl, and she's inviting someone else on the date, that equals = she's not that interested. if chris brown asked her on a date, would she invite anyone else??? no.

if ur out with a girl and she's recklessly eyeballing other dudes, = she's not that interested.

the inexperienced amongst us would still sit around and take the disrespect thinking and hoping to get laid at the end of it all. but when u've been through enough sh1t, u know to walk out at the first sign of disrespect.

...to add to this I've walked out on dates before.

 

[Cynic]

I feel you in every other facet of my life I'm a cheapskate with my money but when I was in my 20s I was constantly spending money with no return. I remember I help this 1 gf pay for her surgery...I gave her like $600 and not even 2 months after her surgery she ended it with me and mind you we had only been together like 8 months. She had parents and siblings that was there responsibility not mine she wasn't wifey

She used your feelings for her against you... kind of like children do

They'll never love you like you love them...only their children

If you buy a woman a purse/bag or whatever...she'll use that to boast to her friends
Who'll get jealous (because they deserve it more) while acting happy for her ....

she'll sense this and know they are unhappy inside and feel guilty

Then associate those negative emotions with you and that gift.

Meanwhile we're clueless and thinking we are doing a good thing.





Have relationships brehs

 

[Youseenmywork]

She used your feelings for her against you... kind of like children do

They'll never love you like you love them...only their children

If you buy a woman a purse/bag or whatever...she'll use that to boast to her friends
Who'll get jealous (because they deserve it more) while acting happy for her ....

she'll sense this and know they are unhappy inside and feel guilty

Then associate those negative emotions with you and that gift.

Meanwhile we're clueless and thinking we are doing a good thing.





Have relationships brehs

Those analyzing skills when it comes to women be underrated. You have to be able to read women. I'm always practicing that and I people watch.

 

[Cynic]

These "females" I tell you. So I met this girl through another girl I use to talk to at my job. Never had a conversation with this girl until Tuesday. I work on the 1st floor in ladies shoes and I'm helping a customer and I see her and she says hi to me. Now keep in mind I'd never even spoken to this girl and only seen her once so I took that as maybe she might have some interest or give me some play . So anyway after my shift on Tuesday I approach her on the second floor and ask her out to lunch on Friday. So anyway at 3 pm(after my shift) on Friday I go up there too see her and I'm talking to her and she laughing, having good conversation, and the plan is still for me to take her to lunch at 4. So anyway at 4 I'm feeling good and I see her approaching me and we about to go, but I should have known something was wrong because there was another dude walking with her. So anyway she tells me ( paraphrasing) " he's new and he wanted to come to lunch with us. Is that ok?". I hear this and I'm like , and say yes.

Right there is when you needed to bounce... she had both of y'all around her finger

and was probably texting another n!gga too.... I would have felt sorry for that corny n!gga and bounced

You shouldn't be trynna smash girls you with....PERIOD

 

[Cynic]

Those analyzing skills when it comes to women be underrated. You have to be able to read women. I'm always practicing that and I people watch.

Reading them is impossible....but you can pre-empt their bullsh!t

based on female nature and prevent a lot of headaches

Like trying to reason with master manipulators