Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Not sure how I would take this advice if I was the OP. Here's the problem, first of all, asking for a number falls under the banner of "flirting" IMO. Just cuz you got a chick's number doesn't mean that you are pursuing her necessarily, it is part of the 'negotiation'. Of course if the chick is not feeling you you will find out quickly and stop talking to her - which it seems @DarkHorse23 did. It sounds like she is the one who keeps on coming back to him. Might be that even though she was not going to easily give up the draws she liked the attention and is now jealous. I don't know the specifics of the situation but from how he describes her she sounds a bit nutty. Remember that it's her who is claiming that @DarkHorse23 is "desperate" - what does this even mean? A lot of vagueness but I'm willing to give my dude here the benefit of the doubt.

I quite disagree with the bolded. Really dude? Doesn't that describe a large majority of the women in our lives? If I directly followed this rule I wouldn't have gotten a lot of kills. I do follow this rule in "spirit" though, as in there are just certain situations you know not to walk into. But a lot of the times you have to develop the instinct for this - and this usually comes from experience. OP is still building his experience, and I'm sure if he encounters a similar situation he will be more confident in what to do. In certain cases it's okay to talk to girls who hang out in a group (they might not be as close as you think - very competitive), in other situations it doesnt, it is like you are walking into a minefield.

The advice you are giving is good but it seems to me it should only be given to a certain type of guy. OP doesn't look like he has a lot of chances to talk to broads, so macking it to every girl is a good way to build experience. Sure it all went to shyt but he will be better for it in the long run. Let's just hope he doesn't lose his job .... :lupe:

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Dawg, I don't know how to rep but if I could do it, I would have repped this post. Good shyt my dude. I agree with everything you said. I think @TRUEST is jumping into this conversation (which has been ongoing for a while) with a lot of assumptions.

But yo tell us how it goes with your job. Hope it's not in dire straits. I would feel responsible if you lost that mahfukka cuz i gave you some advice here which I didn't think was stale given the situation :yeshrug:

No worries man. My job isn't in jeopardy in the least bit, and to ensure that it stays that way i'm going to discontinue talking to anyone up there. Just stay to myself and get my money and start the process next week looking for a new job.
 

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Not sure how I would take this advice if I was the OP. Here's the problem, first of all, asking for a number falls under the banner of "flirting" IMO. Just cuz you got a chick's number doesn't mean that you are pursuing her necessarily, it is part of the 'negotiation'. Of course if the chick is not feeling you you will find out quickly and stop talking to her - which it seems @DarkHorse23 did. It sounds like she is the one who keeps on coming back to him. Might be that even though she was not going to easily give up the draws she liked the attention and is now jealous. I don't know the specifics of the situation but from how he describes her she sounds a bit nutty. Remember that it's her who is claiming that @DarkHorse23 is "desperate" - what does this even mean? A lot of vagueness but I'm willing to give my dude here the benefit of the doubt.

I quite disagree with the bolded. Really dude? Doesn't that describe a large majority of the women in our lives? If I directly followed this rule I wouldn't have gotten a lot of kills. I do follow this rule in "spirit" though, as in there are just certain situations you know not to walk into. But a lot of the times you have to develop the instinct for this - and this usually comes from experience. OP is still building his experience, and I'm sure if he encounters a similar situation he will be more confident in what to do. In certain cases it's okay to talk to girls who hang out in a group (they might not be as close as you think - very competitive), in other situations it doesnt, it is like you are walking into a minefield.

The advice you are giving is good but it seems to me it should only be given to a certain type of guy. OP doesn't look like he has a lot of chances to talk to broads, so macking it to every girl is a good way to build experience. Sure it all went to shyt but he will be better for it in the long run. Let's just hope he doesn't lose his job .... :lupe:

i dont recommend kicking out a group of girls who know each other at work. even outside of work, i dont recommend it unless you've fuccked at least one of them and she's come back for more.

there's a image u portray, whether u choose to accept it or not, when u try to kick it to women who are in the same circles. if u try to fucck one and she shuts u down, best believe she'll be telling her circle of how she shut u down. and when a woman paints an image of u being unwanted, u are fuccked....at least in that circle.

if ur gonna kick it to chicks in the same circle on a romantic level, at least make sure u dont work with them. u can avoid social circles. u cant avoid awkward situations at work.

and to respond to @DarkHorse23. its good u've at least fuccked one of them. however, i'm trying to imagine what these women must have been saying about u for that nigerian chick to talk sideways to u. if i had to guess, she probably told one of them she fuccked with u, and they responded with something less flattering which made her feel disgusted for having been with u. something along the lines of "that n1gga's always trying to talk to everybody - he's pressed for ass'. these women are ruthless man. u need to watch ur back on this and fall all the way back.
 

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DON'T TALK TO WOMEN ON ANY JOB. This has been said multiple times in this thread. Why do you guys attempt this? ...I will never know.

your right...but if you work in an office setting, you might have more hardcore interaction with a co-worker than you do with anyone else after you leave...which is why the workplace affair thing has become a credible issue...

If you multiply those interactions by 3 to 5 years, you never know...:francis:

Men who can communicate to women in their language and understand them have the biggest temptations in any type of setting...including the workplace..

I used to ask that same question....

Now Im really seeing how hard it is 1st hand..

Even if you the type to do your work and run out the door, it really takes one interaction with a female that makes you go:takedat:to get the ball rolling...

Then it SLOWLY builds from there to the point where someone begins to open up..You can be a challenge, but it just makes her hornier/p*ssy wet...or you can give in...Which is what she wants:ld:..And dont let her be a bad bytch:whew:...

When you been at a job a certain amount of years, feelings and dynamics change....:wow:
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America creates the perfect brewing pot for fukkery like this...Longer hours creates increased interactions with the opposite sex in the workplace...And it leads to the potential bullshyt..

The job has become a co-ed jail
 

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i dont recommend kicking out a group of girls who know each other at work. even outside of work, i dont recommend it unless you've fuccked at least one of them and she's come back for more.

there's a image u portray, whether u choose to accept it or not, when u try to kick it to women who are in the same circles. if u try to fucck one and she shuts u down, best believe she'll be telling her circle of how she shut u down. and when a woman paints an image of u being unwanted, u are fuccked....at least in that circle.

if ur gonna kick it to chicks in the same circle on a romantic level, at least make sure u dont work with them. u can avoid social circles. u cant avoid awkward situations at work.

and to respond to @DarkHorse23. its good u've at least fuccked one of them. however, i'm trying to imagine what these women must have been saying about u for that nigerian chick to talk sideways to u. if i had to guess, she probably told one of them she fuccked with u, and they responded with something less flattering which made her feel disgusted for having been with u. something along the lines of "that n1gga's always trying to talk to everybody - he's pressed for ass'. these women are ruthless man. u need to watch ur back on this and fall all the way back.

I really have no idea what was said, but at this point start tomorrow i'm not speaking to anyone up there and as far as the nigerian chick is concerned(outside of making sure my supervisor handles this) this chick is invisible to me. She's so invisible that if she said "excuse me" when trying to walk by i'd act like i don't ever hear or see her. If she regrets fukking with me, then i REALLY regret fukking with her. I lowered my standards by even entertaining her in the first place.
 

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Do you hate your current job?

No. It was something temporary anyway. I'm a college graduate what i look like working in a retail store selling shoes indefinitely. I took this so i could have some money in my pocket while i find the right job for me, but it's time to renew my commitment to finding it.
 
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your right...but if you work in an office setting, you might have more hardcore interaction with a co-worker than you do with anyone else after you leave...which is why the workplace affair thing has become a credible issue...

If you multiply those interactions by 3 to 5 years, you never know...:francis:

Men who can communicate to women in their language and understand them have the biggest temptations in any type of setting...including the workplace..

I used to ask that same question....

Now Im really seeing how hard it is 1st hand..

Even if you the type to do your work and run out the door, it really takes one interaction with a female that makes you go:takedat:to get the ball rolling...

Then it SLOWLY builds from there to the point where someone begins to open up..You can be a challenge, but it just makes her hornier/p*ssy wet...or you can give in...Which is what she wants:ld:..And dont let her be a bad bytch:whew:...

When you been at a job a certain amount of years, feelings and dynamics change....:wow:
:lupe:


America creates the perfect brewing pot for fukkery like this...Longer hours creates increased interactions with the opposite sex in the workplace...And it leads to the potential bullshyt..

The job has become a co-ed jail



I've tried this on the job stuff when I was younger that is why I say what I said . I'm the type of nikka that sticks to principles. When you break your principles as a man a lot of bad shyt happens. Then you have to think u out fukk a chic from your job you have to look at her and whatever else. It so many reason TO me it's a bad idea.I'm just not going to go down that rabbit hole.
 

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I've tried this on the job stuff when I was younger that is why I say what I said . I'm the type of nikka that sticks to principles. When you break your principles as a man a lot of bad shyt happens. Then you have to think u out fukk a chic from your job you have to look at her and whatever else. It so many reason TO me it's a bad idea.I'm just not going to go down that rabbit hole.

I agree with what you said..it is a bad idea on many levels...

I just see why it happens in the 1st place..And why it might get worst...

Most Americans are spending more quality interaction time at the workplace than with their own families or hobbies..

Its a very scary road thats ahead:francis:
 

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I agree with what you said..it is a bad idea on many levels...

I just see why it happens in the 1st place..And why it might get worst...

Most Americans are spending more quality interaction time at the workplace than with their own families or hobbies..

Its a very scary road thats ahead:francis:

:francis: I'm working part time, and spending up to 28 hours a week up there. Taking that in account that's why i felt i wasn't a bad idea to try to meet some women, but after this experience i'll think twice in the future.
 

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Talked about it last month but Sunday night is the big day.

Going to be meeting up with a former E-harmony match turned friend from Portland for dinner and drinks in San Francisco. She's going to be with her friend, who she's low-key setting us up.

I'm going to finally meet my friend from Portland after four years but It's whatever with her friend. Not coming in expecting much. If things all go well :smugdraper: If not, "nice meeting ya" :manny: Going the whole "blind date" route. Yeah, I know how my Portland friend looks like but I'm purposely waiting to see how her friend looks when I get to the restaurant.

Build the suspense :shaq:

All I know about the girl is that she just moved to the city, her name, and she's vegan :whoo:
 
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your right...but if you work in an office setting, you might have more hardcore interaction with a co-worker than you do with anyone else after you leave...which is why the workplace affair thing has become a credible issue...

If you multiply those interactions by 3 to 5 years, you never know...:francis:

Men who can communicate to women in their language and understand them have the biggest temptations in any type of setting...including the workplace..

I used to ask that same question....

Now Im really seeing how hard it is 1st hand..

Even if you the type to do your work and run out the door, it really takes one interaction with a female that makes you go:takedat:to get the ball rolling...

Then it SLOWLY builds from there to the point where someone begins to open up..You can be a challenge, but it just makes her hornier/p*ssy wet...or you can give in...Which is what she wants:ld:..And dont let her be a bad bytch:whew:...

When you been at a job a certain amount of years, feelings and dynamics change....:wow:
:lupe:


America creates the perfect brewing pot for fukkery like this...Longer hours creates increased interactions with the opposite sex in the workplace...And it leads to the potential bullshyt..

The job has become a co-ed jail

LMAO at this breh. Sounds like you got caught being naughty :umad:

Give us the details :feedme:
 
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