Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Many of the men of this generation are in a state of 'arrested development'. They were raised under the feminine imperative pushed on them by society and by weak parents who let the television and school system raise their sons. Men in older generations at least expected and demanded that women live up to some kind of role. Nowadays, it simply doesn't exist. Men are the ones cooking, cleaning, and on top of that, they are still paying the majority of the bills. A lot of men are cool these days being that 'laid back' negro who lets anything go on. Women are so used to these kind of 'baby you can have whatever you like' kind of negroes that a man that actually takes control is something they can't handle. A man should desire to live up to the role of manhood regardless of what is pushed by society at large.

Exactly. I'm lucky to have a father and step father to guide me as a man in my life.

I take that as a blessing. While my mom Is telling me to find a girl and get serious. I have a step father saying stop that nonsense find a fukk buddy and grab the rubbers you're in your 20s don't find a girl where you live find a girl later on in life not even from our state. Then I have my father telling me females come and go please just stay focused on my school work because women will be the down fall in my future if they are number 1 priority in life.

Most important thing I hear from both is just be myself. Don't let nobody question Me as a man if they don't like me some one else will and the most important fact is I like myself and I'm happy.

They've built that in my head as long as ive been breathing.

And I hide nothing. The world knows I'm a 22 year old anime and wwe watching college student drunk. And I have more friends and females to count. I try to help my friends with this shyt and it doesn't work.

The girl who did my friend bogus. I seen it coming. I kept trying to warn him about all the signs. I give him all the advice I get from my family. But he ignored it and she broke up with him talking about she doesn't wanting to date to just get into a relationship a week later.

But what can you do if you don't Want stand your ground as a man or learn from mistakes?

I can go only so far on being a great friend.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Ive been gone all summer bc of the military. I had 3 women i was dealing with back home and in a week all three situationships have ended

Mainly last night:
-Ive been in CT and Houston for 8 weeks for training
-I cook for a girl i was talking to since around May
-I make a budget gourmet salmon meal, but it was a fun thing. A funny night bc she knows im not a chef
-We have a couple drinks of Hen and coke. After we eat we're just chillin but she makes it a point to not get intimate. (It came across like one of her homegirls advised her not to let it get too far) Staying on her side of the couch, im likereally?
-Bear in mind ive been gone for 8 weeks trying to put food on the table/handle my business...told her before i dont ask for much. Just need someone who asks my back, and she cant show me some love after i finally come back home?
-It also comes out that ALL her exes (as she told me) are "thugs" and have been in jail at least once. Im likewell i cant help you there. I just stay in my lane


She claims she was on her period and didnt wanna start anything when she knew it wouldnt go anywhere. Im not sure if i believe that...I told her thats cool but she couldve been more affectionateshe said she'll work on it but by that point i was so hot i just walked her to her car and took my ass to sleep.


Am i trippen? She texted me afterwards to thank me for cooking but to me it came across as: she comes to my apartment, eats my food, drinks my Henny, and cant even cuddle w/a nikka and get to 2nd base? When she knew this military shii had me stressed out for 8 weeks....I cooled off now but i gotta take this L and toss that to the bushes

 

[kevm3]

Exactly. I'm lucky to have a father and step father to guide me as a man in my life.

I take that as a blessing. While my mom Is telling me to find a girl and get serious. I have a step father saying stop that nonsense find a fukk buddy and grab the rubbers you're in your 20s don't find a girl where you live find a girl later on in life not even from our state. Then I have my father telling me females come and go please just stay focused on my school work because women will be the down fall in my future if they are number 1 priority in life.

Most important thing I hear from both is just be myself. Don't let nobody question Me as a man if they don't like me some one else will and the most important fact is I like myself and I'm happy.

They've built that in my head as long as ive been breathing.

And I hide nothing. The world knows I'm a 22 year old anime and wwe watching college student drunk. And I have more friends and females to count. I try to help my friends with this shyt and it doesn't work.

The girl who did my friend bogus. I seen it coming. I kept trying to warn him about all the signs. I give him all the advice I get from my family. But he ignored it and she broke up with him talking about she doesn't wanting to date to just get into a relationship a week later.

But what can you do if you don't Want stand your ground as a man or learn from mistakes?

I can go only so far on being a great friend.

Sad to say, but sometimes people have to learn the hard way. You're doing the right thing in not compromising who you are and trying to be some pretend guy in order to attract women. Also, you're right on focusing on your studies. My only advice is that if you find a high quality, high-moral woman, lock her down and don't lose her. Don't come in with the expectations that you can play around in all of our 20s and then you'll get some top notch dime who is virginal when you are in your 30s. When you are in your 30s, , yes, you will have a lot of options if you did what you are supposed to do . The problem is that the single women your age will either have a lot of kids or be crazy or have a ton of baggage. If you decide to go younger, that age gap will be there and it might be hard to relate to a woman 10 years younger than you. 5 Might be feasible. Still, quality women get wifed up fast. So with that said, don't rush into a relationship and look past all the signs of quality, but if you found that quality woman, do NOT pass her up so that you can play around and do NOT cheat on her. Quality is super rare in this day and age. Get her and get out of the game.

 

[MikelArteta]

Its true females run dudes this generation.
I hear from a lot of older heads, from men and females, my generation of men are lesser of what they used to be back in the day.

Dudes become nothing and don't stand for anything. They let others dictate what a man is and how they live their life and what they enjoy or stand for out of fear of criticism or not getting laid.

Instead of putting a lady on to some music she's never heard or shows she's never seen or things she's never enjoyed. Dudes pretend to like what the girls like to relate thinking that will help them out. Dudes try to become what she likes instead of just being themselves and if she don't like it oh well who cares. That's lost nowadays. Then that comes out toGirls using men in every angle from attention, time, money, emotions and so on then play the victim until another dude falls in for the trap. Then these dudes in all the local areas be so devalued the girls become lesbians and get an all time praise about it from all fields on people. Like its cool if you like girls now but its obvious when you make a big deal out of being one when in reality its just your preference it doesn't change or matter to the world we know you just want more attention. But since they already used up a guy she will no longer talk to him.

This doesn't make a dude hoh that makes most dudes resent women.

Hoh dudes regonize this shyt and don't get mad because their is no point we just become hard on these hoes and go watch Sunday night football. Makes life better.

men are scared and p*ssy whipped, if I don't simp some other dude will, if i don't empty my wallet some other dude will

 

[KingOFKings]

Let's get back to the basics.

1) Self Love - This opens up the doors in so many areas of life. Learn how to love and accept yourself, and others will reciprocate with the same.

2) Self acceptance - This is key. If you are a man who is striving, then you won't be afraid of self acceptance, as it doesn't mean you are calling quits or putting the brakes....it means you are okay with everything as is in that moment, yet continuing to strive for whatever. Self acceptance always leads to self confidence, because you're not judging yourself or being harsh to yourself. People can see it on your face when you're not self accepting, especially women. Self acceptance is GENUINE self confidence.

3) Smile - This used to be my biggest problem, I would be reluctant to smile thinking it would make me feel like goof. Yet once you have the above in order (especially self love and self acceptance), the smile is just natural, and it attracts.

4) Physique - If you already have a mouth piece, personality and decent self esteem......start working out, it will magnify everything ten fold.

5) Wardrobe - You don't need to dress all expensive, clothes that fit you will take you far. It's not the clothes that make the man, it's the man that makes the clothes.

6) Balance - You need to balance work with a exercise, being outdoors, doing the little things you love (to ensure happiness

7) Your rocket ship - Look at life as being on a rocket ship, everything you do and achieve adds to that rocket ship. If a woman of interest would like to join you, let her, if not, let her walk and find another rocket ship.

a) Believe your ship is greater than everyone else's
b) Do everything you can to improve upon that ship
c) If a woman of interest wants to tag along for the ride, she may, if not, she' free to leave

Have that attitude and you will be miles ahead of most men.

 

[TRUEST]

What opened my eyes even wider is those dubai prince threads that occasionally pop up on here. The same women that a lot of guys worship just merely for looking pretty are the same ones willing to engage in utterly filthy actions for a few thousands. A woman with morals is really where it's at, especially when you consider the alternative of having a woman willing to be used as a port-a-potty for 4 grand. That moral woman seems like a unicorn in this day and age, but better to be alone than to be with a woman who is of utterly filthy character

i agree.
it makes it more difficult to want to be alone when u have parents on ur ass on the regular telling to stop d1cking around and find someone to marry. lol.
i mean, i really want to believe that video i posted was fake (even though it could be) and that they're all actors but knowing how women are, i wouldn't be surprised if it isn't

 

[Ohene]

met way too many women this weekend

 

[360dagod]

Ive been gone all summer bc of the military. I had 3 women i was dealing with back home and in a week all three situationships have ended

Mainly last night:
-Ive been in CT and Houston for 8 weeks for training
-I cook for a girl i was talking to since around May
-I make a budget gourmet salmon meal, but it was a fun thing. A funny night bc she knows im not a chef
-We have a couple drinks of Hen and coke. After we eat we're just chillin but she makes it a point to not get intimate. (It came across like one of her homegirls advised her not to let it get too far) Staying on her side of the couch, im likereally?
-Bear in mind ive been gone for 8 weeks trying to put food on the table/handle my business...told her before i dont ask for much. Just need someone who asks my back, and she cant show me some love after i finally come back home?
-It also comes out that ALL her exes (as she told me) are "thugs" and have been in jail at least once. Im likewell i cant help you there. I just stay in my lane


She claims she was on her period and didnt wanna start anything when she knew it wouldnt go anywhere. Im not sure if i believe that...I told her thats cool but she couldve been more affectionateshe said she'll work on it but by that point i was so hot i just walked her to her car and took my ass to sleep.


Am i trippen? She texted me afterwards to thank me for cooking but to me it came across as: she comes to my apartment, eats my food, drinks my Henny, and cant even cuddle w/a nikka and get to 2nd base? When she knew this military shii had me stressed out for 8 weeks....I cooled off now but i gotta take this L and toss that to the bushes

She smelled blood breh

you gave off a "needy"vibe and it prolly cooled her off..you let her set the tone before you did..you should have told her to stay on her side of the couch 1st as soon as that broad stepped in the crib...sometimes you gotta air it out and run a no huudle while other times you gotta dink and donk down the field..if she was gonna spend more than a couple of hours at your crib, you had plenty of time on the clock to work your game...

Your the quarterback...sometimes the defense throws different looks..but they are different looks within the same formation..you didnt audible your gameplan and you got rattled...

Im cool with a lot of hoodrats and the key is to never come off as "needy"from an emotional standpoint...

Even if you are in your feelings, you gotta play that shyt off as smooth as possible..and you gotta break em down before you make a keith sweat cuddle move

i cant fault you for your feelings because i can imagine its tough in the military...

 

[NeilCartwright]

She smelled blood breh

you gave off a "needy"vibe and it prolly cooled her off..you let her set the tone before you did..you should have told her to stay on her side of the couch 1st as soon as that broad stepped in the crib...sometimes you gotta air it out and run a no huudle while other times you gotta dink and donk down the field..if she was gonna spend more than a couple of hours at your crib, you had plenty of time on the clock to work your game...

Your the quarterback...sometimes the defense throws different looks..but they are different looks within the same formation..you didnt audible your gameplan and you got rattled...

Im cool with a lot of hoodrats and the key is to never come off as "needy"from an emotional standpoint...

Even if you are in your feelings, you gotta play that shyt off as smooth as possible..and you gotta break em down before you make a keith sweat cuddle move

i cant fault you for your feelings because i can imagine its tough in the military...

That's the thing mane I thought I played it cool till we were done eating and all that. When we got on the couch that's when the resistance came, and by that time we both had a couple drinks.

Idk

 

[360dagod]

That's the thing mane I thought I played it cool till we were done eating and all that. When we got on the couch that's when the resistance came, and by that time we both had a couple drinks.

Idk

are you a shyt talker??

 

[NeilCartwright]

are you a shyt talker??

What you mean?

I joke a lot..on some Martin ish

Other times I'm laid back

 

[360dagod]

What you mean?

I joke a lot..on some Martin ish

Other times I'm laid back

I do think if you would have used more time on the clock, it might have worked in your favor..

going straight for the kill after a few drinks might have been rushing it a bit..

If you gonna be aggressive, you gotta do it as soon as she walk in the door..smack her ass or do some wild shyt just to fukk her head up..and then fall back

 

[Youseenmywork]

“A man at his highest level can upgrade a woman to her highest level. A king could marry a bum, and that bum would instantly become queen: the highest position in the land for a woman. But if a queen gets married, she cannot upgrade a man to king. He just becomes the queen’s husband.” -Patrice O’Neal

 

[TRUEST]

Ive been gone all summer bc of the military. I had 3 women i was dealing with back home and in a week all three situationships have ended

Mainly last night:
-Ive been in CT and Houston for 8 weeks for training
-I cook for a girl i was talking to since around May
-I make a budget gourmet salmon meal, but it was a fun thing. A funny night bc she knows im not a chef
-We have a couple drinks of Hen and coke. After we eat we're just chillin but she makes it a point to not get intimate. (It came across like one of her homegirls advised her not to let it get too far) Staying on her side of the couch, im likereally?
-Bear in mind ive been gone for 8 weeks trying to put food on the table/handle my business...told her before i dont ask for much. Just need someone who asks my back, and she cant show me some love after i finally come back home?
-It also comes out that ALL her exes (as she told me) are "thugs" and have been in jail at least once. Im likewell i cant help you there. I just stay in my lane


She claims she was on her period and didnt wanna start anything when she knew it wouldnt go anywhere. Im not sure if i believe that...I told her thats cool but she couldve been more affectionateshe said she'll work on it but by that point i was so hot i just walked her to her car and took my ass to sleep.


Am i trippen? She texted me afterwards to thank me for cooking but to me it came across as: she comes to my apartment, eats my food, drinks my Henny, and cant even cuddle w/a nikka and get to 2nd base? When she knew this military shii had me stressed out for 8 weeks....I cooled off now but i gotta take this L and toss that to the bushes

guys, whats the point of coming to this thread if you dont learn anything from it?

first, why would u cook for a chick that's not ur girl??? that is one of the top ultimate signs of submission. i know its hard to believe, but modern society has made it look like the norm for men to be cooking with those tv shows they bombard u with. but cooking (not for urself), but someone else is feminine. did u think u looked sexy doing that sh1t??

i've cooked in the past for a significant other but that's because she loved the african dish i make. and i made it for myself and she just happened to be around when it was fresh lol.

but yeah, back to your situation. another thing i got from ur post is, u think these women owe u something. they dont owe u sh1t and u dont owe them sh1t either. yeah, u were out making money or whatevr, thats ur business.

if ur objective was to fucck this chick, what you should have done is this (and yes, in the order i listed them):

when she came over, u two shoulda munched on something very light
u wash it down with the alcoholic drinks
then u try to get intimate with her

u spending all that time cooking and being a gadamn entertainer allowed u enough room to put ur foot in ur mouth. u most likely said something very stupid that turned her off.

also, how u gon make a full blown meal, eat, and then try to have sex after that? ever thought maybe, just maybe, that might make her sleepy? or gassy? aint no chick gonna wanna fucck if they feel like they gon sh1t any minute. u need to use some gadamn common sense man.

 

[Worthless Loser]

I don't know why dudes always trying to push a conversation with a chick when she keeps showing that she is not interested.

If you are having a casual conversation with a chick, and you either send a message to her, or you reply to her with a message that should indicate a response from her to keep the convo going and she decides not to respond, that means she is not interested in having a conversation with you. Point blank.

Got a call asking why this girl wasn't responding. Then the idiot considered messaging her some more to pick her mind and I'm like, why so you can blow up her phone and get yelled at by her? That will just make things worse.

Take the L and keep moving.