I get where you're coming from breh.
I learned the hard way from making most of these mistakes, so now following the "blueprint" so to speak just comes naturally.
The problem with the "Just be yourself, let things flow naturally" approach is that guys who are good catches have a few beta tendencies that will make girls dry up real quick. Just gotta know which cardinal sins NOT to make.......there shouldn't be that much thinking involved.
i understand the reluctance of those who dont wanna follow the rules. but i cringe when i hear them say "ooo i dont want to do xyz because it just doesn't feel natural or i dont want to have to do xyz because of whatever".
as u mentioned, there are things that dry up women very quickly. it will behoove these dudes to understand what those things are and avoid them, that's if of course they want to do well with the opposite sex.
i say this from past experience way back in my younger days. i am what many would consider a very good looking guy and i'm not saying that to brag. but when a girl sees u and is instantly attracted, but from talking with u, u see her interest dwindle, eventually, u learn what not to say and what not to do.
if being urself means u end up with a dry d1ck, then, what benefit is that for you? if u want to have a wet d1ck, u better reinvent urself or learn the rules of the game, or both. crying woe is me is not gonna get u anywhere.