Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Ok so next question about I woman I met on POF last night:

She is 10 yrs older than me we exchanged about 5-6 messages, it was around 1130 pm. Well she states that she was tired but was liking what she was hearing and wanted to continue the conversation today and gave me her number without me asking and said goodnight. So like I stated earlier I work evenings, I was thinking later today I hit her up by text and after 2-3 messages, ask her out for Saturday night. How does that sound?
Breh, I think you need to try out calling instead of texting, just to see if it increases your success rate.
 

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Breh, I think you need to try out calling instead of texting, just to see if it increases your success rate.

I've always had more success texting than calling plus like I stated, I'm a paramedic it's easier for me to text at work then call. I usually don't move to calling until after a few dates
 

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Ok so next question about I woman I met on POF last night:

She is 10 yrs older than me we exchanged about 5-6 messages, it was around 1130 pm. Well she states that she was tired but was liking what she was hearing and wanted to continue the conversation today and gave me her number without me asking and said goodnight. So like I stated earlier I work evenings, I was thinking later today I hit her up by text and after 2-3 messages, ask her out for Saturday night. How does that sound?
A woman giving you her number unprovoked indicates a huge amount of interest. Youd actually have to try to fukk it up at that point. Just make a date thats easy for her, with a chance for sedyction and get that shyt breh
 

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A woman giving you her number unprovoked indicates a huge amount of interest. Youd actually have to try to fukk it up at that point. Just make a date thats easy for her, with a chance for sedyction and get that shyt breh

Yea I agree it was the first time in a long time I got a number without asking. Later this evening I will ask about Saturday night, trying to figure out what to do
 

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Yea I agree it was the first time in a long time I got a number without asking. Later this evening I will ask about Saturday night, trying to figure out what to do
I think your thinking too hard abouy ahit man. This is the perfect date template. Simple, convienient for her, and chance for escalation. Simple dates are good because the less ligistics the leas shell have to think about. This ties back into the ease for her. If all she has to do is ahow up shes less likely to talk her self out of it. Like imagine you meeting some new nikka and he wants to take you to a carnival or some shyt. Thats a lot of mental effort to be exerted. Now switch that with a trip to a bar. Ez. And somewhere close to the crib because at the end of the day you are going to friend zone yourself if you dont make a .ove and fast. I go for at least a kiss 99% of the chance if they give me any attraction indicators. Even if she backs off it shows you mean business and you know what you want. Thats admirable in this age of coy demure ass men
 
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Could you explain this? I need to see if this applies to me

n the same respect that women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make in order to facilitate their imperatives, women can’t actualize how a man would have himself loved by her. It is not the natural state of women, and the moment he attempts to explain his ideal love, that’s the point at which his idealization becomes her obligation. Our girlfriends, our wives, daughters and even our mothers are all incapable of this idealized love. As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to.

It’s very important to understand that this love archetype is an artifact from our earliest feminized conditioning. It’s much healthier to accept that it isn’t possible and live within that framework. If she’s there, she’s there, if not, oh well. She’s not incapable of love in the way she defines it, she’s incapable of love as you would have it. She doesn’t lack the capacity for connection and emotional investment, she lacks the capacity for the connection you think would ideally suit you.
 

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n the same respect that women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make in order to facilitate their imperatives, women can’t actualize how a man would have himself loved by her. It is not the natural state of women, and the moment he attempts to explain his ideal love, that’s the point at which his idealization becomes her obligation. Our girlfriends, our wives, daughters and even our mothers are all incapable of this idealized love. As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to.

It’s very important to understand that this love archetype is an artifact from our earliest feminized conditioning. It’s much healthier to accept that it isn’t possible and live within that framework. If she’s there, she’s there, if not, oh well. She’s not incapable of love in the way she defines it, she’s incapable of love as you would have it. She doesn’t lack the capacity for connection and emotional investment, she lacks the capacity for the connection you think would ideally suit you.
All viewpoints are welcome here. But man, you make it seem like being with a woman is a exercise in destruction lol
 

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I think your thinking too hard abouy ahit man. This is the perfect date template. Simple, convienient for her, and chance for escalation. Simple dates are good because the less ligistics the leas shell have to think about. This ties back into the ease for her. If all she has to do is ahow up shes less likely to talk her self out of it. Like imagine you meeting some new nikka and he wants to take you to a carnival or some shyt. Thats a lot of mental effort to be exerted. Now switch that with a trip to a bar. Ez. And somewhere close to the crib because at the end of the day you are going to friend zone yourself if you dont make a .ove and fast. I go for at least a kiss 99% of the chance if they give me any attraction indicators. Even if she backs off it shows you mean business and you know what you want. Thats admirable in this age of coy demure ass men


You are right, I am thinking a little to hard, I'm just going to pick a spot get some drinks and maybe an appetizer. I don't do dinner for first dates anymore. I have never and will never bring a woman back to my crib on the first time meeting her. I always go for a kiss if I'm feeling her though, and have yet to be rejected
 

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You are right, I am thinking a little to hard, I'm just going to pick a spot get some drinks and maybe an appetizer. I don't do dinner for first dates anymore. I have never and will never bring a woman back to my crib on the first time meeting her. I always go for a kiss if I'm feeling her though, and have yet to be rejected
I guess Im a bit mote trusting in that regsrd. I have no probs bringing new girls over
 
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All viewpoints are welcome here. But man, you make it seem like being with a woman is a exercise in destruction lol


This a quote from the rationalmale.com It's is something I whole heartedly believe in. I think I will not get that type of love that I idealized about...or how I should be loved.

Personal I don't value women like that. I like them I don't love them. I enjoy other aspects of life that don't involve women. I'm 32 breh the ware and tear as a man I can feel it now. I just got of relationship. A nikka is not inspired. If any guy in this thread finds a women and can stay true to himself more power to them and salute.
 

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Tell her how you feel

Swallow your pride if you can

Leave her without looking back if all else fails
 

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Damn I'm in a dilemma, so like I stated earlier I got a number from this one woman last night, she is the one I was going to ask out for Saturday. She is 9 yrs older than me

Well there is another woman I've been talking to and I'm ready to ask for her number. She is 6 yrs younger than me. I won't be able to go out with both this weekend
 

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Damn I'm in a dilemma, so like I stated earlier I got a number from this one woman last night, she is the one I was going to ask out for Saturday. She is 9 yrs older than me

Well there is another woman I've been talking to and I'm ready to ask for her number. She is 6 yrs younger than me. I won't be able to go out with both this weekend
Who do you prefer to see this weekend? Profusely apologize to the other and wait to see how the date with the preferred goes then come clean or keep playing
 
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