Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[twan83]

I got flaked on tonight and I'm trying to see if I handled it the right way...


Last weekend I took out a female to dinner & a movie.. the date was coo.. she was coo.. I enjoyed myself..

Middle of this week I set up a date for Friday..

We were gonna

-get dinner

- go look at lights at the zoo

-smoke & drink

Well the zoo plan got washed when we found out the shyt closed at 9pm...


So at 6pm I hit her up.. She asked what I had in mind since the zoo idea was dead.. I told her I wasn't sure but I'm bout to go pick up the weed from my guy and we can figure some out when I get there... she tells me be at her place by 8 n that she got an errand to run quick...


So I get to my guys round 7:15 grab the weed n start up 2k with him... my phone rings and its shorty

She said some goofy shyt like " I feel really bad but I'm sick right now and I'm gonna stay in, I don't wanna be all in your face when I'm sick"

All I said was " oh okay it's alright.. bye" and hung up with her..

5 mins later I get a text from her " damn I feel some type of way"..

I replied back "nah... don't ... it's coo.."


N haven't heard back from her since..


Back in the day I would've pushed the issue but now that I'm older if they're gonna flake they're gonna flake..

If a bytch really wants to see u she will... Even if there sick a lil bit (when I was dating my ex I'd still see her if she had a cold or whatever)..

So I'm not gonna force the issue when ultimately it's all in the bytches hands ...


I just wondered what the point of the text was after she already cancelled


And I think I might've scared her off by the simple fact that I didn't have a ACTUAL go out date set up and instead was just banking on smoking and drinking with the bytch... maybe she thought I was trynin to run game for some p*ssy... idk


@twan83

I'll say this sure someone can get sick out of blue if ate something bad within a certain time cuz happened too me and seen it happen to people

Now having said that her ass was looking for we'll I hope u get better type of response if it was legit
Could u of said that sure
Did u need to fukk No
For the simple fact some people just aren't like that anyways to say that

Second her txt saying that response was uncalled for

And u even replied u don't feel that type gave her the answer she needed

Also she just mad cuz u ain't babying her or giving long replies

Finally most likely scenario is she not sick and just cancelled which stands the reason u handle it properly regardless

I only brought up the hypothetical bout her being sick cuz rare case even then u still handled it properly

So u did well imo

U nicer than me
If I feel u flake it's off the bat unless u got a legit excuse simple as that

Clear a spot on my roster while she getting released to the bushes

 

[Nuke Dukem]

I'll say this sure someone can get sick out of blue if ate something bad within a certain time cuz happened too me and seen it happen to people

Now having said that her ass was looking for we'll I hope u get better type of response if it was legit
Could u of said that sure
Did u need to fukk No
For the simple fact some people just aren't like that anyways to say that

Second her txt saying that response was uncalled for

And u even replied u don't feel that type gave her the answer she needed

Also she just mad cuz u ain't babying her or giving long replies

Finally most likely scenario is she not sick and just cancelled which stands the reason u handle it properly regardless

I only brought up the hypothetical bout her being sick cuz rare case even then u still handled it properly

So u did well imo

U nicer than me
If I feel u flake it's off the bat unless u got a legit excuse simple as that

Clear a spot on my roster while she getting released to the bushes

I feel you... I feel you..


I'm confused on her text... she was feeling some type of way because I didn't tell her to feel better..


At the time I thought she meant because she couldn't see me... but that doesn't really make any sense I guess lol

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

but that doesn't really make any sense I guess lol

Women (noun): doesn't really make any sense

 

[Kal El]

I got flaked on tonight and I'm trying to see if I handled it the right way...


Last weekend I took out a female to dinner & a movie.. the date was coo.. she was coo.. I enjoyed myself..

Middle of this week I set up a date for Friday..

We were gonna

-get dinner

- go look at lights at the zoo

-smoke & drink

Well the zoo plan got washed when we found out the shyt closed at 9pm...


So at 6pm I hit her up.. She asked what I had in mind since the zoo idea was dead.. I told her I wasn't sure but I'm bout to go pick up the weed from my guy and we can figure some out when I get there... she tells me be at her place by 8 n that she got an errand to run quick...


So I get to my guys round 7:15 grab the weed n start up 2k with him... my phone rings and its shorty

She said some goofy shyt like " I feel really bad but I'm sick right now and I'm gonna stay in, I don't wanna be all in your face when I'm sick"

All I said was " oh okay it's alright.. bye" and hung up with her..

5 mins later I get a text from her " damn I feel some type of way"..

I replied back "nah... don't ... it's coo.."


N haven't heard back from her since..


Back in the day I would've pushed the issue but now that I'm older if they're gonna flake they're gonna flake..

If a bytch really wants to see u she will... Even if there sick a lil bit (when I was dating my ex I'd still see her if she had a cold or whatever)..

So I'm not gonna force the issue when ultimately it's all in the bytches hands ...


I just wondered what the point of the text was after she already cancelled


And I think I might've scared her off by the simple fact that I didn't have a ACTUAL go out date set up and instead was just banking on smoking and drinking with the bytch... maybe she thought I was trynin to run game for some p*ssy... idk


@twan83

If it was a chick you've been dating for a while and this was her first time flaking, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and would've said something short like, "No worries, hope you feel better."

But that fact that you spoke to her at 6 PM and made plans, and then TWO HOURS later she says she's sick? Come on brehette...

You handled it well. No need to get angry or passive aggressive.

Indifference & apathy towards flaky behavior is the way to go.

 

[Kal El]

how do you guys feel about p*ssy eating?

i mean obviously we should not do it all for chicks we justsmashing for fun but guys argue we should not do it for wifey either..

do u guys agree?

i have heard some guys say they are married to a woman for years and get their dikk sucked and fukk and she is cool with not having her p*ssy eaten

I love it

I only go down on girls that are my girlfriends for obvious reasons.

But when you eat the p*ssy right, then hit it right.... you just earned yourself a get out of jail free card.

 

[AlwaysLurkin]

These hoes on dating sites always using angles..this bih fat but im in a drought so Ima take this 1 for the team

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I been talking to this fine ass chick (like a 9) recently and it's like it always is with really good looking chicks... They lack personality and it always feels like I'm in an audition trying to prove how funny, witty, confident, creative, and manly I am. Since I'm a vet at this I know I need to this. These chicks never appreciate you from the rip. And I'm a guy that has all the shyt women look for on paper (6'4", dual masters from top 5 university, good job, etc)

I think I'm gonna roll with this chick who is a 7.5/8 who vibes with me on every level. I don't have time to prove myself to someone who may not even be worth it. #grownmandecisions

 

[Turbulent]

I been talking to this fine ass chick (like a 9) recently and it's like it always is with really good looking chicks... They lack personality and it always feels like I'm in an audition trying to prove how funny, witty, confident, creative, and manly I am. Since I'm a vet at this I know I need to this. These chicks never appreciate you from the rip. And I'm a guy that has all the shyt women look for on paper (6'4", dual masters from top 5 university, good job, etc)

I think I'm gonna roll with this chick who is a 7.5/8 who vibes with me on every level. I don't have time to prove myself to someone who may not even be worth it. #grownmandecisions

99% of the time, it's more worthwhile to pursue something with the chick choosing than the one not choosing.

 

[Turbulent]

Took a girl out on a first date a last night had a great time. I'm gonna be in cali for a week out of curiosity when should I ask her for a second date upon my return from cali?

no way to tell for sure. also, depends on if you kissed her, if you fukked her, has she contacted you since? etc

i'd say if you kissed her and she actually looks like she's open, you should set up the second meet up ASAP and try to hit. if she's giving mixed signals, let her contact you.

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

All the convos I been having with chicks lately have been dead af. I've really stopped trying

Yea its hard man that unwritten rule that we gotta do all the work to keep the convo going, these chicks put no effort in at all with it and they don't really have to for obvious reasons

 

[Squirtle]

no way to tell for sure. also, depends on if you kissed her, if you fukked her, has she contacted you since? etc

i'd say if you kissed her and she actually looks like she's open, you should set up the second meet up ASAP and try to hit. if she's giving mixed signals, let her contact you.

We hung out with a group last night (the night after our date) we text constantly with both of us texting first and she seems open. Mind you this isn't a girl I met at a club or online or something this is a girl I know from high school and I'm trying to take it to the next level without messing up or looking like a simp

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

I might write a "bible" on relationships


I've learned so much of what to and not to do as a man.

The difference of being a simp and gentleman

#HOH and having respect.

vulnerable and a rock

What IS the difference?

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

Vday falls on a Tuesday so I'm telling these women that I'm working overtime that week

 

[Turbulent]

We hung out with a group last night (the night after our date) we text constantly with both of us texting first and she seems open. Mind you this isn't a girl I met at a club or online or something this is a girl I know from high school and I'm trying to take it to the next level without messing up or looking like a simp

In that case i would set it up ASAP and hit. Even if you are trying to see if it could be more serious, the best way os still to hit. Then eventually she will throw hints she wants more and then you cuff. If she's not down then you didn't mess up anything. In that case, just tell her unapologetically that you feel attracted to her and you want to get closer to her and if she's not sure she wants the same it's better you guys stop hanging out. And then you give her space. Either she wants the same thing or she doesn't. All that "i need time" shyt is for the birds

 

[Squirtle]

In that case i would set it up ASAP and hit. Even if you are trying to see if it could be more serious, the best way os still to hit. Then eventually she will throw hints she wants more and then you cuff. If she's not down then you didn't mess up anything. In that case, just tell her unapologetically that you feel attracted to her and you want to get closer to her and if she's not sure she wants the same it's better you guys stop hanging out. And then you give her space. Either she wants the same thing or she doesn't. All that "i need time" shyt is for the birds

Good stuff, thanks man.