Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[International Playa]

@B-boy you dropping major heat in here

Keep the fire coming

 

[Clay Puppington]

To women, every man is either a Lover or a Provider. They label us within one conversation.

Women treat Lovers much better than Providers. Don't end up on the wrong side of this one.

Whats the difference? General inquiry.

 

[Ohene]

This thread is mad depressing

lol

 

[Ohene]

Whats the difference? General inquiry.

Lovers are the dudes they want to fukk, fall madly in love with, have kids with etc. They can be the greatest dude or the worst dude ...but its something about them that just has a hold on the girl. To be a lover a girl has to feel a connection and there has to be chemistry


Providers are the dudes (simps) she wants to take advantage of or settle down with when the chips are down and she cant find somebody she really loves. They are dudes that are clean cut with good jobs and basically everything on paper, but for whatever reason they dont have that "umph" that gets the girl in a whirlwind of emotion.


That is how I take it

If you watch Insecure, think about the dude Molly took to the vow renewal thing last episode. That dude is a provider. The tall latino/mulatto dude however is a lover.

For Issa, last season Daniel was a lover.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup and the funny thing is when you don't seek or desire women that you are your true self, your not appeasing for everyone, your not simping your not playing games.

@Crayola Coyote

I see a familiar problem in your posts.

When I most wanted girls, those were the loneliest times. I thought I wanted women because I was lonely. Turned out, I was lonely because I wanted women. When I stopped chasing girls (too much heartbreak, focused on sports), they appeared in droves. I realized women aren't like achievements. Determination doesn't work. Girls are people, and people are repulsed by those who are too determined to hang out with them. Getting women is not an accomplishment. They are compliments to your life, not the focus.

What are some other goals you're trying to accomplish at the moment breh?

 

[MikelArteta]

Analogy


Woman married to the CEO whose having an affair with the 8 dollar a hour pool boy

Ceo = provider
Pool boy = lover

Most of these simps crying on YouTube or snapchat after there girl left em providing a long list of what they did for her = provider

Whats the difference? General inquiry.

 

[Clay Puppington]

@Crayola Coyote

I see a familiar problem in your posts.

When I most wanted girls, those were the loneliest times. I thought I wanted women because I was lonely. Turned out, I was lonely because I wanted women. When I stopped chasing girls (too much heartbreak, focused on sports), they appeared in droves. I realized women aren't like achievements. Determination doesn't work. Girls are people, and people are repulsed by those who are too determined to hang out with them. Getting women is not an accomplishment. They are compliments to your life, not the focus.

What are some other goals you're trying to accomplish at the moment breh?

Thanks for posting this. Took some high school Type L's over the past two months and saw myself becoming bitter, but I just need to get back on the court, in the gym, and lay off the piff.

 

[Atlrocafella]

How do men become Lovers and not Providers? Their beliefs.

As long as we believe we have options, women will be attracted to us.

Lose this belief, lose her love.

How do you balance both though? , or is it you have to be one or the other?

 

[HearNoEvil]

How do you balance both though? , or is it you have to be one or the other?

It's about how you make girls feel. Lovers make girls feel sexual and Providers don't.

Easiest way to keep chicks turned on? Not taking them too seriously because you have options.

 

[International Playa]

It's about how you make girls feel. Lovers make girls feel sexual and Providers don't.

Easiest way to keep chicks turned on? Not taking them too seriously because you have options.

What are some other ways to come off as a lover than a provider?

I been in relationships where looking back I was a provider. Then I been in one where I was the lover. The lover relationship she was more in to me than I was in to her.

 

[Deafheaven]

What are some other ways to come off as a lover than a provider?

I been in relationships where looking back I was a provider. Then I been in one where I was the lover. The lover relationship she was more in to me than I was in to her.

think of yourself as an exaggerated demigod that she is blessed to be with and she can take it or leave it. A lil extra I know but thats the easiest way to never be seen as a provider.

 

[Shadow King]

@Crayola Coyote

I see a familiar problem in your posts.

When I most wanted girls, those were the loneliest times. I thought I wanted women because I was lonely. Turned out, I was lonely because I wanted women. When I stopped chasing girls (too much heartbreak, focused on sports), they appeared in droves. I realized women aren't like achievements. Determination doesn't work. Girls are people, and people are repulsed by those who are too determined to hang out with them. Getting women is not an accomplishment. They are compliments to your life, not the focus.

What are some other goals you're trying to accomplish at the moment breh?

This sounds like shyt I was saying pages back

 

[HearNoEvil]

What are some other ways to come off as a lover than a provider?

I been in relationships where looking back I was a provider. Then I been in one where I was the lover. The lover relationship she was more in to me than I was in to her.

Tease. Dominate. Lead. Do things weak men don't do.

This sounds like shyt I was saying pages back

Desperation won't work but neither will shyness.

 

[Shadow King]

Tease. Dominate. Lead. Do things weak men don't do.


Desperation won't work but neither will shyness.

When you feel you've transformed into a superior version of self shyness can melt.

 

[HearNoEvil]

When you feel you've transformed into a superior version of self shyness can melt.

I'm not quiet because I'm shy. I'm shy because I'm quiet. When I start talking, I'm not shy anymore.

Action proceeds thought my man.