Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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momma said:
I don't know if I care to know the reason why she wouldn't wanna be with me (either in a relationship or just as friends). I've gone through similar situations where male friends pissed me the fukk off some way and I figure its the same thing. And really I didn't expect her to drop her man for some guy she just met. My thing about closure is I just don't want any kind of relationship/friendship in my life to end on bad terms or where certain tensions were unresolved, that's all. And yeah I think I understand maintaining some sort of friendship/connection isn't that serious, but idk maybe its my obsessive nature and maybe I'm just overly sensitive and get caught up in my feelings when a situation turns sour and a person resents me for whatever reason.

Also I think I reflect alone too much lol. I'm sure that's what breeds my tendency to overthink and consequently obsess about things. I got a couple other girls I been talking to, I might ask one of them out over winter break if I feel like it. You don't think I should do that?
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depends. You could link up with these other chicks if you feel solid. But if it turns bad, try not to dwell too much on if someone resents you. How someone feels about you is their business. If you feel unsure about that, maybe take a minute to establish new ways of thinking into your mind or else the same patterns might show up again with these new women.

In my humble opinion, the red is an unhealthy way of thinking.
 
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Turbulent said:
by first changing your mindset.

she's the one who should be asking how she goes about sleeping with you.
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Lol this is true. A chick moved into my apartment complex a few months back when i bumped into her while she was walking her dog, single mom white chick from san antonio. I chopped it up briefly, exchanged numbers and then proceeded to not pay her much mind. She was pretty with a nice fit shape but not what i was used to as far as thick. Still, every once in a while i'd bump into her walking her dog around the complex and i'd chop it up with her a bit. Give her a warm hug, subtle flirtations and then KIM, never initiating texting or asking her out. A couple months later i run into her and she asked me if i wanted to watch a Spurs game on tv sometime, that she hired a baby sitter. I was like yea cool, one day. So a couple weeks later i'm fukking her in my bedroom lol, like we going at it, 2am, and her phone rings. She looks at it and says it's her "San Antonio boyfriend calling". She looks at it a bit, then just puts it on silent and we get back to fukking.

After that she'll text me here n there asking if i plan on staying up late, i.e. she has to put her kid to bed and walk the dog, so she wants to come through late night when they're asleep. But i tell her i get up early for work M-F, so sometimes i oblige, sometimes i say i gotta sleep.
 
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I'm trying to set up a guys trip for sometime in the late spring or 4-5 days. Yall have any good recommendations on places to visit (internationally)?
 
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Sharp said:
Better yet, don't even give closure. Just say ok and move on. Women need closure whether they are the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped. If you never give a woman closure to a relationship (acknowledging fault or explaining what went wrong) she will forever be stuck thinking about your situation for years to come. I simply move on, stop calling, stop texting, and stop all communication. No random texts, calls or anything. Women need men to feel like he's lost something great. If you don't respond that way (or at all), over time she will start to believe that she has lost something great. And it always works, regardless or not if she moves on with her life with another man.
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Supreme Leader Reinscarf said:
brehs how has dating changed for you in your thirties good or bad?

i've been single in my thirties for the first time as of may and i remember being a young scarf boy and hearing oldheads talking about just wait till your 30 it gets easier, just work on yourself, your career

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It's true but as you get older you realize most women 30+ have baggage.The ones who are 35,single,no kids yet are beautiful those end up as crazy ones for some reason :heh: Every woman has an ex story or has been "hurt before".Being a single man in his thirties we basically WON the game :blessed:
 
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I need some advice brehs. I'm a 19 year old college student whose been on his hoe'ing shyt. I've never had a serious long term relationship, and I'm really starting to want to. I'm getting tired of chopping up new girls just so I can fukk and KIM. I really don't know how some of ya'll keep it up. :to:

I'm worried it'll be some huge red flag if I end up a twenty-something year old whose only had a series of FWBs, one night stands, and 'situationships.'

Most of my homies are cuffed up too so I'm constantly seeing the positives of having a girl, on some grass is greener type shyt. :ahh:

At the same time, if I got a girl, I wonder if I'd be missing out on parts of being a young college breh. At this point in my life, do ya'll think it would it be a waste of time, effort, and emotion to get into a LTR? And I do have my family, finances, and education to worry about as well. :lupe:

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or just has some wisdom they wanna drop? Or am I thinking about it too much?
 
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