Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

So back I’m September/October, my girl went out to take pictures with this friend/photographer. I wasn’t totally cool with it to begin with bc it was a late night ordeal. She apparently met him at a bar where he was grabbing food and drinks before they went to the this outside spot where the “photos” were taken (shyts turned out wack af and look like they were just phone camera pics. So with it seeming fishy I check out dude IG story and there’s a boomerang video of her walking up some steps like

So I question her about it and she says it was a shot for a video he was working on (still never seen it) and that they were at a girlfriend of hers place. I told her nah that was foul and she needs to find a new photographer. She agreed and said ok if he makes me uncomfortable.
Fast forward to this week...she mentions that a DJ friend of hers is moving to NYC and wants her to promote his gigs. So she’s going out with him tomorrow night to this as a possible business opportunity. I asked her who is this DJ friend and all she gives me is DJ lemonade. I’m like well surely his momma ain’t name him that, he ain’t got a real name? She never told me and I guess expected me to ask explicitly. She doesn’t know thatI know it’s the same photog guy from before.

i dont know what to tell you. lol man...relationships are rough and the disrespect is at an all time high

you have to be assertive...but if youre assertive you risk sounding insecure. at the end of the day are you ready to walk away from this girl? i feel like you gotta be . it is a shame because the way girls test nikkas, youll be walking away from every relationship with that mentality.

what does your girl do for a living that shes looking for photographs and nikkas she can promote

 

[TRUEST]

So back I’m September/October, my girl went out to take pictures with this friend/photographer. I wasn’t totally cool with it to begin with bc it was a late night ordeal. She apparently met him at a bar where he was grabbing food and drinks before they went to the this outside spot where the “photos” were taken (shyts turned out wack af and look like they were just phone camera pics. So with it seeming fishy I check out dude IG story and there’s a boomerang video of her walking up some steps like

So I question her about it and she says it was a shot for a video he was working on (still never seen it) and that they were at a girlfriend of hers place. I told her nah that was foul and she needs to find a new photographer. She agreed and said ok if he makes me uncomfortable.
Fast forward to this week...she mentions that a DJ friend of hers is moving to NYC and wants her to promote his gigs. So she’s going out with him tomorrow night to this as a possible business opportunity. I asked her who is this DJ friend and all she gives me is DJ lemonade. I’m like well surely his momma ain’t name him that, he ain’t got a real name? She never told me and I guess expected me to ask explicitly. She doesn’t know thatI know it’s the same photog guy from before.

breh, ur chick's got eyes for someone else. and i dont know what it is about ur personality that gives this chick the nerve to feel its ok to go chill with another guy. business opportunity or not. tell her, u gon go with her next time. watch her facial expression. forget looking insecure. this relationship is already doomed.

u have the chance to redeem urself by giving her an ultimatum. dont ever think of going to hang with another guy alone under the pretense of "work" because if u do, u will cease to be my girlfriend from that point on. before u say this, make sure u got chicks lined up to replace (chicks that look just as good or better than her).

 

[EatingGoodNow]

@Asantehene
I’ve confronted her before about taking pictures on his bed even before that.

Also when I confronted her about him back then she was saying something like he’s not her friend and just a photographer. And how he’s not to be trusted business wise because he’ll use people in his crew help and when they get paid he takes all of the cut.

I’m not sure if she’s cheating per say, but I do think she’s trying to just be around a certain scene from time to time or maybe seeking some type of clout. But if we had an agreement to not deal with dude this is pretty disrespectful.

She quit her govt job I’m December. She has no history in the business of promotion and said the pics were just for fun. Meanwhile I’m a guy who’s near future holds 6 figure annual earnings, so I feel like I do provide some stability in that regard.

 

[EatingGoodNow]

breh, ur chick's got eyes for someone else. and i dont know what it is about ur personality that gives this chick the nerve to feel its ok to go chill with another guy. business opportunity or not. tell her, u gon go with her next time. watch her facial expression. forget looking insecure. this relationship is already doomed.

u have the chance to redeem urself by giving her an ultimatum. dont ever think of going to hang with another guy alone under the pretense of "work" because if u do, u will cease to be my girlfriend from that point on. before u say this, make sure u got chicks lined up to replace (chicks that look just as good or better than her).

They’re supposed to meet tonight but I won’t be in town. She didn’t tell me that they were meeting until I told her that I was going out of town. So it’s kinda seemed like a what can I get into since you’re gone and being semi straight up already is an alibi in case I call at night and she doesn’t pick up. Meanwhile a brew can’t take a shyt without her blowing me up if I don’t answer.
I don’t have any chicks lined up but that’s not a big deal to me.

 

[Solano707]

breh, ur chick's got eyes for someone else. and i dont know what it is about ur personality that gives this chick the nerve to feel its ok to go chill with another guy. business opportunity or not. tell her, u gon go with her next time. watch her facial expression. forget looking insecure. this relationship is already doomed.

u have the chance to redeem urself by giving her an ultimatum. dont ever think of going to hang with another guy alone under the pretense of "work" because if u do, u will cease to be my girlfriend from that point on. before u say this, make sure u got chicks lined up to replace (chicks that look just as good or better than her).

no diss, but this is terrible advice. Never be afraid to lose a chick, if she's your last one on the roster. Don't ever have the mindset that you have to have a woman stick around because she's your only option or whatever. Yeah, you'll go through a sex dry spell but at least you have your dignity. Women can sense that shyt and they will use it against you.

OP, cut that hoe off breh. She know what she is doing and she know it is disrespectful... you think your girl would be ok hanging out with another woman and taking pictures like that? hell nah

 

[Balla]

Can someone tell me why women have stank attitudes for no reason ?

bytch is doing a customer service job, CUSTOMER SERVICE, and I'm the one asking her how her day is, and she don't say nothing.

Do bytches really feel good about being rude?

That's why I let the door hit them in the face, I don't hold shyt.

I don't understand what the problem is with these women, you can't even be polite to them.

 

[International Playa]

i got a bad habit of planning shyt with bytches then i lose interest and dont wana see them when i plan on it
bytches like "so we still on today" and im like "nah i got sick"

thats how i got bushed after valentines day told that bytch i was sick and the following weekend i was "in sacramento visiting family"

bytch gave me the and i lost out on effortless sex

You playing with your food

 

[ChiefKenji]

So back I’m September/October, my girl went out to take pictures with this friend/photographer. I wasn’t totally cool with it to begin with bc it was a late night ordeal. She apparently met him at a bar where he was grabbing food and drinks before they went to the this outside spot where the “photos” were taken (shyts turned out wack af and look like they were just phone camera pics. So with it seeming fishy I check out dude IG story and there’s a boomerang video of her walking up some steps like

So I question her about it and she says it was a shot for a video he was working on (still never seen it) and that they were at a girlfriend of hers place. I told her nah that was foul and she needs to find a new photographer. She agreed and said ok if he makes me uncomfortable.
Fast forward to this week...she mentions that a DJ friend of hers is moving to NYC and wants her to promote his gigs. So she’s going out with him tomorrow night to this as a possible business opportunity. I asked her who is this DJ friend and all she gives me is DJ lemonade. I’m like well surely his momma ain’t name him that, he ain’t got a real name? She never told me and I guess expected me to ask explicitly. She doesn’t know thatI know it’s the same photog guy from before.

Lol bro, I would actually ghost her immediately, no explanation. She know what shes doing. She aint afraid to lose you, thats why she doing al that disrespectful shyt. Chances are ol dog done got something out of her already.

Breh, losses & winnings, thats life.

The moment you cut her loose and let her know he can have her without saying a thing:

1. He dont want her nomo.
2. She will try to respect you
3. Let her know that commitment to her is over, not even giving her D. Devalue her.

 

[EatingGoodNow]

breh, ur chick's got eyes for someone else. and i dont know what it is about ur personality that gives this chick the nerve to feel its ok to go chill with another guy. business opportunity or not. tell her, u gon go with her next time. watch her facial expression. forget looking insecure. this relationship is already doomed.

u have the chance to redeem urself by giving her an ultimatum. dont ever think of going to hang with another guy alone under the pretense of "work" because if u do, u will cease to be my girlfriend from that point on. before u say this, make sure u got chicks lined up to replace (chicks that look just as good or better than her).

She knows that I haven’t been acting myself the past day or so, but says that she don’t know why and I need to speak up if something is wrong. I agree, but part of me want her to see if she’d actually go through with this meet up. Me confronting her may possibly stop that. But who tf I’m kidding, the decision has already been made so I already know she would.

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

So back I’m September/October, my girl went out to take pictures with this friend/photographer. I wasn’t totally cool with it to begin with bc it was a late night ordeal. She apparently met him at a bar where he was grabbing food and drinks before they went to the this outside spot where the “photos” were taken (shyts turned out wack af and look like they were just phone camera pics. So with it seeming fishy I check out dude IG story and there’s a boomerang video of her walking up some steps like

So I question her about it and she says it was a shot for a video he was working on (still never seen it) and that they were at a girlfriend of hers place. I told her nah that was foul and she needs to find a new photographer. She agreed and said ok if he makes me uncomfortable.
Fast forward to this week...she mentions that a DJ friend of hers is moving to NYC and wants her to promote his gigs. So she’s going out with him tomorrow night to this as a possible business opportunity. I asked her who is this DJ friend and all she gives me is DJ lemonade. I’m like well surely his momma ain’t name him that, he ain’t got a real name? She never told me and I guess expected me to ask explicitly. She doesn’t know thatI know it’s the same photog guy from before.

Why you still with her? nikka gtfoh

 

[YaFingerDealMe]

No more broke hoes, no more chances idgaf if I do still want to smash

 

[TRUEST]

no diss, but this is terrible advice. Never be afraid to lose a chick, if she's your last one on the roster. Don't ever have the mindset that you have to have a woman stick around because she's your only option or whatever. Yeah, you'll go through a sex dry spell but at least you have your dignity. Women can sense that shyt and they will use it against you.

OP, cut that hoe off breh. She know what she is doing and she know it is disrespectful... you think your girl would be ok hanging out with another woman and taking pictures like that? hell nah

The problem with people like you that give advice is that, you’re dispensing your advice from a point of pride. You’re not thinking ahead or taking into account actual human practicalities.

It’s easy to say “don’t ever be afraid to lose a chick” but that is a very meaningless, useless piece of advise. It’s like saying to someone whos’s about to get shot to never be afraid of pain or death. How about advicing him to put on a bulllet proof vest? Or avoiding the situation in the first place?

Dude is in a very hard place and he obviously likes the girl. If he does not create a backup plan for himself, that girl will be able to persuade him into believing all types of fuccksh1t . If dude has more than 1 chick he likes equally it would be very easy to muscle up the courage to not put up with any type of disrespect from a chick. saying “never be afraid” of xyz is just about one of the top dumbest things u can say to someone in his position.

Use your brain next time u wish to challenge me, of all people

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

i got 2 questions just randomly

1. Is it wrong for a woman to not be more open minded in bed if she your chick? if she not willing to try something new, whose at fault?

2. How you feel about a chick holding a grudge in a relationship?

 

[ChiefKenji]

i got 2 questions just randomly

1. Is it wrong for a woman to not be more open minded in bed if she your chick? if she not willing to try something new, whose at fault?

2. How you feel about a chick holding a grudge in a relationship?

1. I always thought that there is always 1 (or more) specific guy(s) who is(are) able to do ANYTHING with the same woman who is rejecting that “new thing” you want to try and thus shes not 100% attracted to you, lol

2. She not over her ex

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

1. I always thought that there is always 1 (or more) specific guy(s) who is(are) able to do ANYTHING with the same woman who is rejecting that “new thing” you want to try and thus shes not 100% attracted to you, lol

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