Middle of December: I post a pic on Instagram alluding to the fact that I had been in the gym for a year up to that point, not of myself but of weights with a caption on how much better I've felt. She one of the few people who likes it but DM'ed me like I'm mediately, she was typing kind of incoherently so I thought she was drunk but she said it was autocorrect. She said she wanted to talk to me but didn't have my number so I gave it to her. Like I've said I see her as extended family but I don't associate women with coincidence; we've had each other's IG for like 3-4 years but a pic referencing improvement on my physique is what pushed you to attain/reattain my math?
So she calls me minutes after I gave her my number (it's late, like after 11) and she's in ATL with her friends loud as fukk in the whip (she lives in the DC area) and she's saying how she misses me and it's been so long (a year and change) since we've seen each other. There was auxillary conversation about how we've been doing but that was the meat of it. She tells me that she'd be in Jersey (where I'm at) around New Year's so I'm like cool we can link up then. I'm a work-gym/studio-home cat so I'm not even sure where I would've taken her but I would've figured out something.
A couple weeks go by and she is in fact here but I had fallen into one of my down moods and this was when the Northeast was Sub-Zero temperature so I didn't make it out.
March: A couple of weeks ago I text her letting her know how I was feeling around the time we was supposed to link up and that if my work schedule changes (my days off are split by an odd work day) I'd try to go down there. I'm a night owl, so this is about midnight. The next afternoon she texts back like "You know who this is?"
I'm like, "Yes, A____...do you know who this is?"
she of course still has my number so it's joke and we were small chatting and she asks my days off. I tell her Mondays, Tuesdays, and Saturdays (odd shyt right?) She's like oh ok I'm usually free on weekends (the female move of offering availability). I'm like I wish I we're too and she tells me she's having a get together and that I could come if I'd like. I said I'd see but I knew I wouldn't be coming at that time cause like I said she's in the DMV and I was thinking when I do go down there it's when I have consecutive days off. She's like okay I understand if you can't come though since I live in Maryland it would be a stretch. I wasn't sure what else to say plus I was on the move so I left it at that.
Another week goes by and she hits me up randomly like "how are you"? So I respond and o eventually ask if she's up here cause I figure if she is we could do something light like lunch or something and just chill. She says she will be the next weekend (this weekend). I'm like okay cool we can get up then. That was on a Tuesday, on that Friday she hits me up again asking if I meant to text her initially. She's referencing the out of the blue text on the 20th apologizing about flaking.
I'm like "what you mean?"
She says "like did you mean to text me...was that meant for me?"
I say "who else would it be for?"
She goes "Just checking since it was random"
I tease her a little about being silly for thinking anything else but I let the convo die.
This weekend: Saturday night she calls me at 3:15 while I'm in the shower. I was gonna either text back on my big break at work (Sunday is a double shift day for me) or call her back after I got off at 9 or 10. I decided I'd take option 2 and get on the phone but she beats me to it, just while I'm working my second shift so I can't answer. She texts saying call her back when I can. I figure she's possibly up here but I find it unlikely since she would've let me know on Thursday or Friday.
So after work (9:30 tonight) I call back and she asks what I'm doing, I tell her I'm leaving work. hat tells me she's looking for advice.
Me: Advice on what?
Her: Well my cousin came up to see me and we went out and she was turnt.
Me: Turnt how?
Her: She was lit!
Me: Drunk?
Her: Yes, I felt like I was her mom.
So she wanted advice on how to let her cousin know that having to control her while she was inebriated was a problem. So I did the best I could and said let her know you like hanging with her but it stops becoming one when only one of you is cognizant, just come with the truth, etc. And she's like "Ah, so wise".
To myself I'm like
but she transitions to small talk asking how my day at work was, asking if it was hard, etc. I assume she knows I'm driving as she says to get home safe and let's me go.
So;
Exhibit A: Reconnection based on prospect of (my) improved aesthetics
Exhibit B: Volunteering free time
Exhibit C: Uncertainty over my text message (comes across like she thinks I was hitting up some other female I'm dating and trying to reconcile), almost a less secure way of saying "I know you be talking to other girls"
Exhibit D: Finding excuses to talk to me (I don't REALLY think she needed MY advice on her cousin lol)
I hope I'm overthinking but like I said, I don't assign the idea of coincidence to women, creatures who live in subtlety. I feel like if I'm right I've left hints I didn't mean to leave.
