Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.
I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with
but I really do see a future with her) so we've all kicked it a few times. We could easily all chill together like we used to, new girl has no problem with that. Only when we started fukking did my friend switch up. Anyway, Friday comes along and my friend sends me paragraph calling me a scumbag, accusing me of choosing sides, I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. I've never seen her act like this with other women in my life so something seems different this time.
Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.
I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with
but I really do see a future with her) so we've all kicked it a few times. We could easily all chill together like we used to, new girl has no problem with that. Only when we started fukking did my friend switch up. Anyway, Friday comes along and my friend sends me paragraph calling me a scumbag, accusing me of choosing sides, I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. I've never seen her act like this with other women in my life so something seems different this time.Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.
I got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.
I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with
Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.
chick is toxic and you need to cut her off for your own safety
Mannn I know. shyt has already gotten way out of hand on many fronts
I think the deeper issue is how you keep making excuses for her brehI got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.
I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with
Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.
I think the deeper issue is how you keep making excuses for her breh
That's one of the issues for sure. It's so hard for me to cut the cord on someone I really care about.
Do you care about her more than yourself? Clearly she doesn’t
VertigoKnight
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The ones I've slept with I keep 100 with them. I like them, I enjoy their company, but I'm not there for a relationship.
Now that may not keep them from falling for you. But it also means she won't try and push it too far.
VertigoKnight
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Might not go on this date. Only reason I was down cuz it’s a little pretty Asian girl and if I hit her with the “I’m just tryna smash” I’m pretty sure she woulda unmatched like the rest of them tinder girlsjust wanted to see how them relationship brehs live, wanted to live the SIMPle life for a while
If you just looking to smash you could still pull it off.
These asian chicks are very amenable to first date hookups if you play it smooth.
i.e don't be sleazy and see if you can get her back to your place or hers.
This is my motto. Period. Same girl kept trying to come to me with her issues and problems I ignored her.
like nah I’m good. Hits me out of blue and asks me do I want to take her to dinner. Again. One liner. Nope. Think she got the message.
This is my motto. Period. Same girl kept trying to come to me with her issues and problems I ignored her.
the audacity of asking you to take her out vs framing it to spend time together.
Krisrunner2049
Pretty boi CFO Squirrels Burgers KillaKwuads
Date wasn’t awful but it sure showed that it was my first time doing some shyt like that. Asian girl lucky she was cute or I woulda dipped. Should I hit her up for a second date? It was a bit awkward in the first half ngl brehs
Walk us through lol
Krisrunner2049
Pretty boi CFO Squirrels Burgers KillaKwuads
It was pretty average for a first date. I only fuxked up on not tryna touch and kiss cuz I never felt like it was the right timing. And I learned from someone here can’t remember who so I can’t give credit but basically they said to get women to talk about themselves so that’s what I did and that worked
, I wasn’t feeling the “fukk me” vibes and as a breh that unknowingly missed out on tons of p*ssy I recognize the signs that a woman wants the D, I guess I accurately sized her up, just a bookworm lil Asian girl.I’m curious to keep trying