Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Child_Of_God]

Should I tell women that I’m still a virgin and looking to lose it on hinge and bumble? I’ve been going out more and talking to a few girls but so far I still haven’t gotten nowhere close to getting p*ssy.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Should I tell women that I’m still a virgin and looking to lose it on hinge and bumble? I’ve been going out more and talking to a few girls but so far I still haven’t gotten nowhere close to getting p*ssy.

Do NOT tell women you're still a virgin. Lie and act like you've been there before. Women like men who other women like.

 

[Child_Of_God]

Do NOT tell women you're still a virgin. Lie and act like you've been there before. Women like men who other women like.

But I heard some women are into guys that are virgins.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

But I heard some women are into guys that are virgins.

they aren't. They're going to assume you don't know what you're doing.

 

[MikelArteta]

Give example of such hints

Just from my own life

communication dwindles (no one is that busy)
she drops the she's been so busy (anytime I've heard this from a chick its time to eject)
She used to call you like babe or whatever and now she's calling you your first name
getting back one word text messages etc
Those plans you made for the summer etc. don't worry about them anymore
Before you were the first person shed call to tell about a job interview, new job etc. now
no longer wants to be intimate
asks for time apart
No longer jealous
starts to get angry over anything you do

 

[MikelArteta]

But I heard some women are into guys that are virgins.

back when i was a scumbag i'd alwas tell women i haven't had sex in years by choice . So they always felt so special when we'd finally do it

 

[Child_Of_God]

back when i was a scumbag i'd alwas tell women i haven't had sex in years by choice . So they always felt so special when we'd finally do it

People make it seem like getting sex is so easy but I’m struggling hard as hell to even get it.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

People make it seem like getting sex is so easy but I’m struggling hard as hell to even get it.

Sex IS easy to get. The key is not putting it on the pedestal. Think of it as a dessert to your life.

Women in this era are DTF. Just communicate that you want something casual.

 

[Child_Of_God]

Sex IS easy to get. The key is not putting it on the pedestal. Think of it as a dessert to your life.

Women in this era are DTF. Just communicate that you want something casual.

Y’all keep saying this shyt but I have yet to meet any women who is DTF. I tried basically everything.

 

[dizzy4111]

Good discussion the last couple pages that I really needed to read right now. I just got discarded by a girl I really cared about, that I put a lot of time, energy, and patience into the last 3 years, only be called a bytch of a man and every name in the book before finally getting blocked.

Been trying to work things out with her the last couple months using logic and healthy communication but that shyt just doesn't work once they've painted you black. My head is spinning right now but I'm trying to remind myself that I did my best for someone I cared about (and allegedly cared about me) but sometimes that's not enough.

 

[RealAssanova]

Good discussion the last couple pages that I really needed to read right now. I just got discarded by a girl I really cared about, that I put a lot of time, energy, and patience into the last 3 years, only be called a bytch of a man and every name in the book before finally getting blocked.

Been trying to work things out with her the last couple months using logic and healthy communication but that shyt just doesn't work once they've painted you black. My head is spinning right now but I'm trying to remind myself that I did my best for someone I cared about (and allegedly cared about me) but sometimes that's not enough.

The last few posts i wrote definitely applies to you bro.

Had my wake up call in my early 20’s. I’m in my early 30’s now.

Be happy you got it now unscathed and by unscathed i mean you don’t have a child with her or married to her. Some dudes ain’t as fortunate as you.

 

[dizzy4111]

The last few posts i wrote definitely applies to you bro.

Had my wake up call in my early 20’s. I’m in my early 30’s now.

Be happy you got it now unscathed and by unscathed i mean you don’t have a child with her or married to her. Some dudes ain’t as fortunate as you.

Oh 100%. Your posts and @TradePascalSiakam posts are what I was referring to.

It's sad man. Things got ugly at the end, got me saying things to her that are way out of character for me. Sometimes a chick just is so damn delusional that I can't hold back, then of course I'm the bad guy. It sucks because we started off just as friends the last couple years then we decided to give things a shot around the beginning of this year...so it wasn't just a situation I was willing to walk away from like I normally would when some random starts acting crazy.

fukking friends is a mistake lol

 

[RealAssanova]

Oh 100%. Your posts and @TradePascalSiakam posts are what I was referring to.

It's sad man. Things got ugly at the end, got me saying things to her that are way out of character for me. Sometimes a chick just is so damn delusional that I can't hold back, then of course I'm the bad guy. It sucks because we started off just as friends the last couple years then we decided to give things a shot around the beginning of this year...so it wasn't just a situation I was willing to walk away from like I normally would when some random starts acting crazy.

fukking friends is a mistake lol

Women can and want to do that to you. Knock you off your perch and soften you. Once that’s accomplished, they check out. Its crazy cuz you don’t really realize this until well after the relationship is over and you had time to go back and analyze things.

She had an image of you before getting into a relationship and that is what attracted her to you (ie/ you being mysterious, confident, suavè, etc.) Then you got into a relationship and somewhere along the way you started to change either because of her or the relationship. From your p.o.v, you think you may have changed for the better (ie. become more mature) while to her you’ve become soft and weak.

Its crazy! How can me becoming more mature make me appear weak? It doesn’t make any sense

But you could also change for the worst...like saying/doing things to her that is out of character (just as you mentioned).

Either way, its extremely vital brehs always strive to remain true and congruent to themselves and not change for a woman or the betterment of a relationship.

Word once again to @TradePascalSiakam

 

[dizzy4111]

Women can and want to do that to you. Knock you off your perch and soften you. Once that’s accomplished, they check out. Its crazy cuz you don’t really realize this until well after the relationship is over and you had time to go back and analyze things.

She had an image of you before getting into a relationship and that is what attracted her to you (ie/ you being mysterious, confident, suavè, etc.) Then you got into a relationship and somewhere along the way you started to change either because of her or the relationship. From your p.o.v, you think you may have changed for the better (ie. become more mature) while to her you’ve become soft and weak.

Its crazy! How can me becoming more mature make me appear weak? It doesn’t make any sense

But you could also change for the worst...like saying/doing things to her that is out of character (just as you mentioned).

Either way, its extremely vital brehs always strive to remain true and congruent to themselves and not change for a woman or the betterment of a relationship.

Word once again to @TradePascalSiakam

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

 

[RealAssanova]

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

1. They don’t want you to solve their problem fam. As illogical and weird as that statement sounds...its true. But to 99% of men, we want to even if it makes no sense. She says you don’t do this or that...when in reality you do so you’re like They just can’t and won’t admit to no longer wanting you and therefore in their mind want to end the relationship but in a way which puts the blame on you even though you’re not at fault. Sickening.

2. Men are forgiving and willing to look past certain things. Women are not even though they say they are. Which is why folks in here always speak about not being emotional, crying in front of your woman, going to her in times of hardship, failing, etc. Basically anything that can communicate to her that you’re not strong cuz the minute she sees that, the countdown to the end of your relationship has officially begun.