Duke Wy Lin
It's been a good run. Wish y'all the best ✊🏿
Breh even my own momma and siblings don't know about my finances
I learned early on it's best to keep it private. I give that same advice to anyone who will listen.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Breh even my own momma and siblings don't know about my finances
I learned early on it's best to keep it private. I give that same advice to anyone who will listen.
Be thankful you got out clean man, others aren't so lucky whether it's kids, marriage and buying a home together etc.
It's a blessing she showed you what she's really about.
She was a good actor I will say. My gut feeling was RIGHT ALL ALONG!!
Duke Wy Lin
It's been a good run. Wish y'all the best ✊🏿
She might not have been acting though. Going through a stressful situation can bring out the worst in anyone, especially the type of person who ignores their wants and needs in life or don't know how to deal with challenges. It seems that she didn't know how to handle the sudden changes that she was going through with the career change, money problems and then the breakup so she lashed out at you . You probably saw her at the lowest point of her life. Not to say that what she did is even remotely justifiable. Insults and violence are always inexcusable in a relationship IMO.
Given the circumstance I do give her some degree of grace but I can't really see her or be around her in a place where we're 1:1.
I mean I get it - to a degree. I can't be accountable for all that right now. I gave her some money the past few months. I need to move a utility over her and my hands are washed clean.
Wargames
One Of The Last Real Ones To Do It
A bit of a older post to bump, but you let them get too comfortable doing that.
Establish how you want to communicate with a woman and they will either comply or shyt test you and if they do give you problems over that you can make a decision if they are worth going through that shyt for.
I prefer to text so I only text, if they call me I either ignore it and call them back later, or I pick up and say “let me call you back” and then text them a few hours later asking what’s up.
I don’t do FaceTime because I don’t want them peeping where I am at. Same reason I am not a fan of phone calls. It’s an invasion of privacy. The only time I will do phone calls are if it’s late and night and I think it’s her calling me to come over or if we’re dating and committed. In a dating situation I respect her wanting to talk more since we’re agreeing to be faithful and trying to build a relationship. I have to really like a woman to listen to her stream of consciousness nonsense, I feel like it’s the same for the women I tend to date too. I don’t talk to my friends often either for the same reason and I actually can relate to them more. At a certain point what the fukk are we talking about that requires a regular verbal conversation and not a text?
Basically if she really wants to talk then meet face to face and chill.
Anyway a compromise to get them off that phone shyt might be to send voice texts…. Sparingly.
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As time goes on you'll look back and be thankful.
VertigoKnight
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Not usually one to dikkwatch other men but not once, but twice I saw brehs who were in shape with women who were huge. And I mean obese huge
First I'm coming back from the beach with one of my PAAGs pull up to the light. See a breh crossing the road I thought the white woman was crossing separately but they're obviously together. This chick looked she was huffing and puffing even crossing the road.
Later that night I'm walking home and I see a young breh who looked congolese, hugged up on a Dr Robtinik body chick outside a train station.
Is this a case of some men settling for the first woman that shows them attention or an actual want for women that big?
like other than sex what can you do with this woman? You cant do biking or hiking or anyhting that requires her to be able to walk around for a few hours.
Maybe they offering a place to stay and some hot food and thats enough for some men.
First I'm coming back from the beach with one of my PAAGs pull up to the light. See a breh crossing the road I thought the white woman was crossing separately but they're obviously together. This chick looked she was huffing and puffing even crossing the road.
Later that night I'm walking home and I see a young breh who looked congolese, hugged up on a Dr Robtinik body chick outside a train station.
Is this a case of some men settling for the first woman that shows them attention or an actual want for women that big?
like other than sex what can you do with this woman? You cant do biking or hiking or anyhting that requires her to be able to walk around for a few hours.
Maybe they offering a place to stay and some hot food and thats enough for some men.
Its more than attention. These girls are begging for the D. Doing things a thin girl would think twice about with no questions asked. Fukking in public bathrooms, sending freaky texts in front of family, going raw hoping the kids will have attractive genes. I've seen some crazy texts and situations from these unnattractive chicks that a baddie would never send. So, it is what it is.
Plus, some of them may have gained weight during the pandemic and these brehs still believe they'll come home eventually.
NOSKI_DA_DON
Pro
I learned to deal with rejection but when its somebody i really like,who i had my eye on 4 awhile. I still get that "not good enough feeling". I don't know if its because its somebody I'm invested in or because that was the only female I was talking to
VertigoKnight
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Which works better? Being non chalant and putting in just enough effort OR instant responses (within 5-10 mins), pursuing with a bunch of chit chat (good morning, have a good day, etc) ?
I've been trynna find the right balance. I get girls who I'm not interested in... I barely put in any effort...maybe they just find me very handsome... but the ones I like and pursue I get ghosted... I try to be direct tho-- tellin them I want to see them...
Her: "what you doin this weekend?"
Me: "I'm trynna see you"
she'll heart the comment then I don't hear anything back... I'm like damn...
What's a good balance? remain laidback and aloof while also being upfront about your intentions or what?
Where are you trying to see them though?
Speaking from my experience women especially when they are getting to know you. Like a man who knows what his doing and has planned accordingly.
If I want to see a woman having a plan makes things very, very easy. And women have told me such. A lot of guys want to see them. They'll ask what do you have planned for us?
The guy will reply whatever you want to do.
Nope. Already written himself off.
If a woman asks me, what do you have planned I tell her.
I was thinking of going to this place or I say, I'm planning to go to the park with some picnic food, a good book and some music would you like to join me bring some drinks or some fruit?
Simple ideas and you don't have to be spending copious amounts of money on a date. You're just spending time with her in a fun environment.
Wargames
One Of The Last Real Ones To Do It
Rejection always hurts, so feeling bad is normal, just don’t dwell on it to long. The best way to get over it is to do things to keep it out of your mind. Even if I am trying to hold down a rotation, I regret the ending of any relationship. Especially if I really liked the woman involved. So don’t stress feeling bad, you’re human.
If you do have to think about it, try to see if there is anything you can learn from it and apply in the future. Even if consciously you don’t think there was anything of value to learn. The experience will subconsciously help you spot those red flags sooner and move on quicker or not become so attached.
There will always be another woman out there who will be open to you. You just got to keep trying and don’t let your past fill your mind with self doubt or resentment against women. The perk of a rotation is it holds you down and allows you to gain perspective on rejection. She made a choice, it’s not a sign of anything but her opinion. You can always find a woman with a different opinion than her… in fact multiple if you put the work in.
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Sounds like they have low self esteem or low options.
A lot of brehs are taking what they can get.
Could never be me.
VertigoKnight
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I've had plenty of beautiful slim, thin and curvy chicks doing all sorts of wild shyt with me. If a chick is fully into you she will be open to most things you suggest. As she wants you. Also when you press a woman and she feels totally comfortable with you she will open up and reveal stuff she's always wanted to try.
it's like that stereotype I see on here a lot that fat girls give the best head or crazy chicks have the best p*ssy sounds like an excuse for men to delve into dealing with these types of women. This is why I've always given props to to the coli brehs who can just admit they like fat women.
As for the covid weight trust me these women were well beyond that.
VertigoKnight
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A lot of men have it and I'm saddened that a lot of black men seem to have it.
But I'd rather be alone than ever settle for a woman looking like that. Much less be seen out in public with her. I know some men don't care, but other people will see the type of woman you are out and about with and judge you accordingly. Especially other women.
What do I look like if I work out and take care of my health and my significant other has let herself go or even worse is already over huge and only getting bigger.
Was at the beach yesterday and that's always an interesting place to people-watch. The chick I went with was looking good as hell in her one-piece.
toned and in shape and within herself she always wants to look her best for herself.
That's a mindset I love. I don't have to tell you to look your best it's hard-wired into her already.