Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Yeah bro. We went to lunch couple Fridays ago. Things progressed after that.

Last Friday night she had a football game to watch her friends daughter cheer. I asked her last minute if she wanted to go eat before the game. She couldn't bc she had to drop her kids off b4 game. No worries on that, last min ask on my part. Totally fine.

So the next night (Sat) we were texting, I asked her if she wanted to hang out Sunday, she said she would be busy(grocery shopping, cleaning the house) most of the day and getting her kids ready for school this week, but she said could hang out that morning. She loves ice skating so we/she(happily) agreed to meet that morning at 1130am to skate.
She texts me "good morning" at 830am....then 20 mins later texts again saying she can't make it bc she has a flat tire issue where it loses air, needs to get car inspection as well. I understand that issue and I know it's factual with her tire. Said she "woke up feeling overwhelmed". But basically since then she hasn't been communicating with me much at all this week. Couple days ago she took like 12 hrs to reply to my text. Never even "read" it. And she's ALWAYS on her phone.

Hasn't initiated convo with me at all this entire week. And today she was supposed to get back to me on something several hrs ago and never did. But yet, always on her phone. So, yeah...

(mind you she's been super into me up until this week)

I could send a polite text and ask if everything is cool bc I haven't heard from her much.... but I also don't want to look like a dumbass who can't take a possible clue.

I have recently had this exact same situation with a young lady recently.
Literally the exact taking almost a whole day to respond thing.

Personally the only reason I didn't bush her instantly after that stunt is because I worked with her
I would love for you to come back and tell me I'm wrong, but the interest is gone.

I'm not even going to speculate on the reasons why that is cause it's irrelevant.

I see the other brehs in here trying to shoot her bail saying she maybe genuinely overwhelmed, but once again basing of situations I have personally been through, a women loves to vent to the man she is interested in about what she is going through work, friends, life etc...

And if it's not you it's someone else :yeshrug:
 
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lol living with a girl is pretty eyeopening

the # of arguments increase by probably a factor of 7 if you were seeing your girl once a week

so if u were only arguing every 2 months back then, at first you prolly gonna argue with your girl weekly when she moves in. and in those arguments youll see how unlike what you originally thought, how unreasonable, uncooperative, unintelligent , emotional, illogical, selfish, moody, rude and petulant she is.

if you dont train her from the get and get her with the program, YOUR program, it will break you or your relationship because whilst the above is happening, you are getting exhausted and losing a serious deal of respect for her.

What a lot of men don’t realize is that at the end of the day, all women are going to act like this. You have to compromise, pick your battles and train her to do the same. Furthermore you need to acknowledge the bold and accept it for what it is other wise you’ll be steady thinking the grass is greener

All of that you said is facts even if you're dealing with a good woman. Which is why it doesn't make sense to dump a woman for simply being....a woman.
 

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I have recently had this exact same situation with a young lady recently.
Literally the exact taking almost a whole day to respond thing
I would love for you to come back and tell me I'm wrong, but the interest is gone.

I'm not even going to speculate on the reasons why that is cause it's irrelevant.

I see the other brehs in here trying to shoot her bail saying she maybe genuinely overwhelmed, but once again basing of situations I have personally been through, a women loves to vent to the man she is interested in about what she is going through work, friends, life etc...

And if it's not you it's someone else :yeshrug:

Preach :wow:

I’m surprised at the leeway these guys were giving her. Every time I’ve gotten the “I’ve been super busy” “I have a lot going on” “I’ll let you know” “I’m overwhelmed” or any variation of a soft rejection it’s ALWAYS been cause another guy was in the picture.

Going ice cold suddenly and long gap responses is classic another man signs. I mean there could be a 1% chance she’s truly overwhelmed but it’s definitely not a I’m overwhelmed let me sit back and be by myself for awhile.
 

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Sorry breh,the signs are there, there is another dude in the picture, an ex, baby daddy or a new dude.....etc

She is slowly fading you out (ghosting, silent quiting)
I keep saying it in this thread. There’s ALWAYS another dude. Especially when she starts doing the bolded. Usually they’ll give you just enough to keep you thinking and second guessing yourself (responding but waiting hours) just to make sure the new guy/ex/etc., is serious before going complete radio silent.

If I sense any bullshyt I bush first cold turkey and move on.
 

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Yeah bro. We went to lunch couple Fridays ago. Things progressed after that.

Last Friday night she had a football game to watch her friends daughter cheer. I asked her last minute if she wanted to go eat before the game. She couldn't bc she had to drop her kids off b4 game. No worries on that, last min ask on my part. Totally fine.

So the next night (Sat) we were texting, I asked her if she wanted to hang out Sunday, she said she would be busy(grocery shopping, cleaning the house) most of the day and getting her kids ready for school this week, but she said could hang out that morning. She loves ice skating so we/she(happily) agreed to meet that morning at 1130am to skate.
She texts me "good morning" at 830am....then 20 mins later texts again saying she can't make it bc she has a flat tire issue where it loses air, needs to get car inspection as well. I understand that issue and I know it's factual with her tire. Said she "woke up feeling overwhelmed". But basically since then she hasn't been communicating with me much at all this week. Couple days ago she took like 12 hrs to reply to my text. Never even "read" it. And she's ALWAYS on her phone.

Hasn't initiated convo with me at all this entire week. And today she was supposed to get back to me on something several hrs ago and never did. But yet, always on her phone. So, yeah...

(mind you she's been super into me up until this week)

I could send a polite text and ask if everything is cool bc I haven't heard from her much.... but I also don't want to look like a dumbass who can't take a possible clue.

Don’t over analyze this.

Respect your time and dignity by deleting her number.

Give it a few hrs/days and she’ll be a distant memory (if she was even memorable to begin with).
 

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Preach :wow:

I’m surprised at the leeway these guys were giving her. Every time I’ve gotten the “I’ve been super busy” “I have a lot going on” “I’ll let you know” “I’m overwhelmed” or any variation of a soft rejection it’s ALWAYS been cause another guy was in the picture.

Going ice cold suddenly and long gap responses is classic another man signs. I mean there could be a 1% chance she’s truly overwhelmed but it’s definitely not a I’m overwhelmed let me sit back and be by myself for awhile.
I don’t think it’s so much leeway. Ultimately they weren’t together so the reasons she fades away don’t matter. It’s more of a :yeshrug:

I imagine he got what he wanted and now its on to the next. New dude, truly busy, doesn’t really matter
 

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I have recently had this exact same situation with a young lady recently.
Literally the exact taking almost a whole day to respond thing.

Personally the only reason I didn't bush her instantly after that stunt is because I worked with her
I would love for you to come back and tell me I'm wrong, but the interest is gone.

I'm not even going to speculate on the reasons why that is cause it's irrelevant.

I see the other brehs in here trying to shoot her bail saying she maybe genuinely overwhelmed, but once again basing of situations I have personally been through, a women loves to vent to the man she is interested in about what she is going through work, friends, life etc...

And if it's not you it's someone else :yeshrug:
She can vent but you got to give her the outlet
He has not done that yet

I’m not seeing she’s not going to fade him
I’m just saying i prefer to go out knowing that i actually tried. Only thing stopping one from doing that is pride and ego.
 

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I don’t think it’s so much leeway. Ultimately they weren’t together so the reasons she fades away don’t matter. It’s more of a :yeshrug:

I imagine he got what he wanted and now its on to the next. New dude, truly busy, doesn’t really matter

You’re right. And that’s the attitude I adopt. At the end of the day reasons don’t matter.

I will say it’s easier to have the :yeshrug: attitude when you have other women in the pipeline. The scarcity/ sucka for love mindset brehs will keep themselves up at night trying to figure out what went wrong.
 

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You’re right. And that’s the attitude I adopt. At the end of the day reasons don’t matter.

I will say it’s easier to have the :yeshrug: attitude when you have other women in the pipeline. The scarcity/ sucka for love mindset brehs will keep themselves up at night trying to figure out what went wrong.
:obama:
 

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She can vent but you got to give her the outlet
He has not done that yet

I’m not seeing she’s not going to fade him
I’m just saying i prefer to go out knowing that i actually tried. Only thing stopping one from doing that is pride and ego.

I've had that same story play out too many times to give the benefit of the doubt.
The type of behavior she displayed doesn't deserve me reaching out to her IMO.
Some things are implied you don't need to reach out to confirm she's playing you
If I'm seeing someone and she takes a whole day to respond it shows me where she places me.

A women will come to you to vent you don't usually need to seek her for her to vent.
Each to their own though.
 

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I've had that same story play out too many times to give the benefit of the doubt.
The type of behavior she displayed doesn't deserve me reaching out to her IMO.
Some things are implied you don't need to reach out to confirm she's playing you
If I'm seeing someone and she takes a whole day to respond it shows me where she places me.

A women will come to you to vent you don't usually need to seek her for her to vent.
Each to their own though.
I hear you and i agree
But if this is the case i guess neither is really serious about each other and that’s why i said to jadillac “If you’re serious”

But if it’s not serious why even post in this thread about it
 

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She can vent but you got to give her the outlet
He has not done that yet

I’m not seeing she’s not going to fade him
I’m just saying i prefer to go out knowing that i actually tried. Only thing stopping one from doing that is pride and ego.
Setting aside my pride and ego has made me look foolish with women. :francis:

Women have no shortage of ego, pride and selfishness especially when there’s no emotional attachment.
 

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Setting aside my pride and ego has made me look foolish with women. :francis:

Women have no shortage of ego, pride and selfishness especially when there’s no emotional attachment.
Well you wouldn’t set pride and ego aside when there is no real attachment.
 

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Setting aside my pride and ego has made me look foolish with women. :francis:

Women have no shortage of ego, pride and selfishness especially when there’s no emotional attachment.
Thats their problem

I dont use women as a barometer of how we should act. We are men and should hold ourselves to a higher standard...be direct and call them out when theyre acting like idiots. And if they react negatively that's their problem. nikkas not pressing them directly is part of the reason they act as dumb as they do; its cause they can get away with it scot free

I've been there as well. Some level of pride is necessary and can even draw the chick close to you. But sometimes you have to put yourself out there as well. I'm not saying homie needs to beg her to spend time, but if he is posting about shorty here, clearly he is infuriated, hurt and annoyed by whats going on. Clearly he likes her. So if it is that serious, put in a bit of effort and reach out one final time on some sincere shyt.

If she still not responding promptly and giving excuses then you know you tried and can wash your hands clean. If you want you can even let her know know shes on some bullshyt and then leave without any doubt and with your dignity still in tact. That's how I see it personally.
 
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