Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Ohene

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Well you wouldn’t set pride and ego aside when there is no real attachment.
You feel me. It really matters how serious he feels about the chick. If shes just a fukk-ting then fine...keep it moving. But clearly he was feeling her and thinks the rug was pulled from underneath him. Otherwise he wouldnt post in here about it

Weve all been there. Over the last few years I cant remember the last time i posted in this thread about a girl I was seeing cause most of the time it just wasnt that serious. I knew all I wanted to do was fukk anyways, so if they skated before or after I fukked I cant be mad at them for that.

But if i did post in here it was probably about a girl i was dating seriously and I truly cared about on some level
 

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You reach a time and age in life where you have to look in the mirror and decide what you actually want.

If you want a serious relationship there are certain things youre going to have to accept, and changes youre going to have to make to your approaches in dating in order to make that happen. Being more communicative, direct and egoless is one of those things. Not completely egoless but knowing when to suppress it.

If you wanna gallivant, then continue with the toxic, prideful methods...but youre going to continue to run into revolving doors with women. Youre not gonna beat them at their games.
 

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You reach a time and age in life where you have to look in the mirror and decide what you actually want.

If you want a serious relationship there are certain things youre going to have to accept, and changes youre going to have to make to your approaches in dating in order to make that happen. Being more communicative, direct and egoless is one of those things. Not completely egoless but knowing when to suppress it.

If you wanna gallivant, then continue with the toxic, prideful methods...but youre going to continue to run into revolving doors with women. Youre not gonna beat them at their games.
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Thats their problem

I dont use women as a barometer of how we should act. We are men and should hold ourselves to a higher standard...be direct and call them out when theyre acting like idiots. And if they react negatively that's their problem. nikkas not pressing them directly is part of the reason they act as dumb as they do; its cause they can get away with it scot free

I've been there as well. Some level of pride is necessary and can even draw the chick close to you. But sometimes you have to put yourself out there as well. I'm not saying homie needs to beg her to spend time, but if he is posting about shorty here, clearly he is infuriated, hurt and annoyed by whats going on. Clearly he likes her. So if it is that serious, put in a bit of effort and reach out one final time on some sincere shyt.

If she still not responding promptly and giving excuses then you know you tried and can wash your hands clean. If you want you can even know shes on some bullshyt and then leave without any doubt and with your dignity still in tact. That's how I see it personally.
You’re right. :ehh:
 

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You reach a time and age in life where you have to look in the mirror and decide what you actually want.

If you want a serious relationship there are certain things youre going to have to accept, and changes youre going to have to make to your approaches in dating in order to make that happen. Being more communicative, direct and egoless is one of those things. Not completely egoless but knowing when to suppress it.

If you wanna gallivant, then continue with the toxic, prideful methods...but youre going to continue to run into revolving doors with women. Youre not gonna beat them at their games.

Sadly most of this thread is dudes trying to beat women at their games :francis:
 

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its ok to let the right woman win. she's meeting a good chunk of your desires and needs and when you're up she's up. That way when u take the L you can look up at her like a failed gladiator because it was a fair victory. But too many men let the wrong women win and then wanna complain or be bitter about the situation instead of moving on and realizing that some other dude is going to go even further than you did and experience a far worse loss. The game does not change. 9 times out of 10 they're just treating a nicer, more patient man the same way. You just have to find your champion brehs. You don't wanna go to the league with someone that should've stayed on the bench.
 

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Met a 57 old year man in one of these career network events. We had a bit of small talk, the convo went on to him being nearly about to retire. He said his divorce ruined him financially, he won't be able to retire anytime soon.

The woman you choose to marry & settle down with is very important brehs. Choose her wisely brehs, it will affect every aspect of your life. Vet these women thoroughly. #ChooseBetterBrehs
 
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its ok to let the right woman win. she's meeting a good chunk of your desires and needs and when you're up she's up. That way when u take the L you can look up at her like a failed gladiator because it was a fair victory. But too many men let the wrong women win and then wanna complain or be bitter about the situation instead of moving on and realizing that some other dude is going to go even further than you did and experience a far worse loss. The game does not change. 9 times out of 10 they're just treating a nicer, more patient man the same way. You just have to find your champion brehs. You don't wanna go to the league with someone that should've stayed on the bench.

Or...don't bother thinking you need a woman to be a "champion" or even who is gonna understand the winning mindset. Being a great man comes with knowing that you became as such, with the help of people around you, not a stranger who happens to be relatively pretty and sucks your dikk from time to time. Ultimately you win alone and you lose alone, having someone who may possible amplify both, is a crutch and a problem.
 

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Meet a fly ass Indian chick in my elevator
I didn't have my phone on me, when it's my floor I ask for her number anyway
She gives it to me, I memorize it
Text her
After bantering a little back and forth
she hits me with

...














"I'm married"

Grand opening/grand closing
:troll:
 

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Meet a fly ass Indian chick in my elevator
I didn't have my phone on me, when it's my floor I ask for her number anyway
She gives it to me, I memorize it
Text her
After bantering a little back and forth
she hits me with

...














"I'm married"

Grand opening/grand closing
:troll:
Sounds like that doesn’t matter to her. I would keep going
 
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whenever women take long to answer a text when its the day of a date, it always throws me off to the point where I dont really care to go anymore

Maybe this sounds a bit defeatist but anyone else have this issue?

I honestly feel like just tryna to setup a date with this other chic instead :francis:
 

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Meet a fly ass Indian chick in my elevator
I didn't have my phone on me, when it's my floor I ask for her number anyway
She gives it to me, I memorize it
Text her
After bantering a little back and forth
she hits me with

...














"I'm married"

Grand opening/grand closing
:troll:
There really is no excuse to give out your number in situations like this but i guess ya never know their situation :hubie:

You never really know what the hell going on but I dont see why HAVE to fallback.

She gave you that number for a reason imo :manny:
 

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Preach :wow:

I’m surprised at the leeway these guys were giving her. Every time I’ve gotten the “I’ve been super busy” “I have a lot going on” “I’ll let you know” “I’m overwhelmed” or any variation of a soft rejection it’s ALWAYS been cause another guy was in the picture.

Going ice cold suddenly and long gap responses is classic another man signs. I mean there could be a 1% chance she’s truly overwhelmed but it’s definitely not a I’m overwhelmed let me sit back and be by myself for awhile.
My experience is shyt happens. Ain’t nothing wrong with directly asking her what’s up and if she doesn’t respond then cut her off.

A heat check ain’t a crime unless you’re in a playoff game.
 
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