Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Mufasa Ahadi

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Just bushed her, thanks for all the advice.

I honestly just want to get a new girl now. First I need to get my money back up and improve my verbal and communication skills. Thinking about joining toastmasters.

Just focus on yourself, don’t worry about a new girl. Just enjoy being alone and improving yourself as much as possible.
 

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Just bushed her, thanks for all the advice.

I honestly just want to get a new girl now. First I need to get my money back up and improve my verbal and communication skills. Thinking about joining toastmasters.
Aww man, If you gonna do toastmasters this type of stuff is right up my alley..

Not sure of situation but focus on YOU, Invest in YOU first and second, you do this your money will be up and women will come to you.. But back to the toastmasters type stuff and getting your money up. I dont know what industry you are in but if you are in these spaces and up on "game" you should be able to tweak these skills and use them in all types of networking situations.

I would also recommend you google your city and see what comes up with "networking groups".. Also Check out BNI in your city, they are dope as they take people from different industries and its based on exchanging referrals (I have given and gotten alot of business from this and other similar smaller groups). Also check meetup.com (I tend to see this have less of serious groups but more younger but if you in tech fields it can be valuable).

Also check the womens groups, lol.. They sometimes have fine print where they let men in or brothers at certain times but you cant hold positions. Bro I have never had more people be evangelical for my business or whatever industry i dip in than sisters who know and understand the value of networking. This alone will expand your circle and allow you to use as a kind of currency. (Most people have NO game and dont know how to network, if you have access to beautiful women who are cool with you soo many door$ open that you wouldnt even know, they will even have their friendzone simps doing your bidding just make sure that dont become you, Lmaooo)

Also check out youth/young professionals and/or minority groups, they also usually have a chapter in different industries, do these and try to get in leadership position. Have seen this used well and helped get in magazines and such if you care for that type of stuff. But getting in leadership position in these groups will open door$ and legs.. Also with regards to minority for some reason latinas just love brothers when they are in proximity to them and its a social space, that can be valuable in navigating alot of things and having that contact.

Its holiday time, I went to 3 potlucks last week and probably going to more christmas parties in coming weeks like 4. Try to attend as people are wayyyyy less formal at these events and you can make contacts before next meeting. If you feel uncomfortable just walk up to a couple guys and introduce yourself like "Guys, I know this is awkward, Im new, dont know anyone here, you guys look like you know your way around here, so just coming around to introduce myself, I am @BandOfGypsys"

Hope this helps
 

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damn hinge is crazy here in london, i just started using the app 3 days ago and already have 26 matches :wtf: 20 of them are girls who liked my profile first

as a guy with a body count of 4 i’m a lil overwhelmed. i got 7 dates planned next week but i have no intention of going to more than 1.

here are my matches today, they all liked my profile first and i haven’t even bothered to talk to any of them yet:

Wow This is London...Sheesh! Homie got the Hinge rotation on smash:obama:

Your coli brehs is rooting for you:ehh:

Get it while it's hot! These chicks be more pickier than 5 yrs old at a Mc Donalds convention lol
 

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Tell me some success stories brehs

Had a very good Monday.

Sunday night I matched with this Korean chick on Tinder she sent the first message. We shot a few messages back and forth.

Then I went to bed. In the morning she messaged me and asked if I was WFH. And if I want to meet for a coffee around lunchtime? Told her sure why not.

We decide on a place and then I go meet her, very sexy vibe, very cute. But this is daytime and I know we're both going back to work, but we had a solid convo. I can talk about most things and I never let a convo lull. And she was engaging as well

we overrun by 20 mins and both had to jet, but I give her a solid hug before we departed.

Later she sent a message saying she really enjoyed meeting up. And I told her the same.

I enjoyed the vibe and told her to hit me up when she had some free time. Left it in her court. Later that evening we start a bit of small talk in whatsapp about food, then she asks me if I would be up for meeting that night?

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She's doing weeknights next week at her job so would not be available for evenings, so I thought why not?

So went to meet her she was very near my hood coming from dinner with her friend, we went to grab a drink at a bar about 15 mins from me. Chatted some more and got really relaxed. Took her hand and was playing with it. Tested the usual breaking the barrier touching stuff. After that, we went outside and I walked her to her car, she offered me a lift as its freezing out here in Vancouver atm. Get in and we immediately start making out.

Got ourselves together and she dropped me off. Before I got out we made out again then I bid her goodnight. Told her to message me when she got home. Which, she did, and said she loved kissing and enjoyed herself. Told me she's free on Friday and we should hang out.
 

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I know Hinge is the top dog right now, but any of you cats still using Tinder/Bumble?

I'm using Hinge Premium, but I'm wondering if I should use some boosts midweek?
 

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Yeah, I’d say put some cash away for New Years, in case you want to hit up a chill lounge, or a hotel bar. Cause every woman wants a new years hook up.

For me summer time, all the women try to look their best, get their bodies right, that’s when everything is at full price, plus you’re getting the best version of themselves. (Between May - September)
Summer is the worst time to be locked down IMO. Too much ass on display and summertime fukkery to partake in
 

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When to Call?

Was on the bus and asked a shorty a question and she was "you may as well take my number.".

I didn't call the same day as that always backfired..but she bad and I want her..Was thinking I'll hit her up Friday? That ain't too soon ? I figured let today simmer and don't call I don't wanna give off clingy vibes.
 

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When to Call?

Was on the bus and asked a shorty a question and she was "you may as well take my number.".

I didn't call the same day as that always backfired..but she bad and I want her..Was thinking I'll hit her up Friday? That ain't too soon ? I figured let today simmer and don't call I don't wanna give off clingy vibes.
So she initiated the phone number exchange and you are worried about when to call.

Overthink brehs
 
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O Fenômeno

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So you initiated the phones number exchange and you are worried about when to call.

Overthink brehs
Whenever O was excited to call a chick she'd friend zone me or go ghost.

This was when I called the same day or the next day.
 

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Whenever O was excited to call a chick she'd friend zone me or go ghost.

This was when I called the same day or the next day.
You being excited wasn’t a tangible factor in them not calling you back. For whatever reason they weren’t feeling you and it went nowhere.

Fast Forward:

  • You are letting what some randoms did impact your current life
  • You could have easily set the table when you got her number by saying you had a few things on you plate today but you will hit her up tomorrow.
  • You can’t be clingy when y’all haven’t spent any time together
  • Women know you want to sleep with them so all the waiting game stuff is silly. Call/Text when you feel the need.
 

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You being excited wasn’t a tangible factor in them not calling you back. For whatever reason they weren’t feeling you and it went nowhere.

Fast Forward:

  • You are letting what some randoms did impact your current life
  • You could have easily set the table when you got her number by saying you had a few things on you plate today but you will hit her up tomorrow.
  • You can’t be clingy when y’all haven’t spent any time together
  • Women know you want to sleep with them so all the waiting game stuff is silly. Call/Text when you feel the need.
I'm tryna check my ego

Because I don't wanna get too cocky ..I feel I already have her bagged but It was something making me second guess myself.
 

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I'm tryna check my ego

Because I don't wanna get too cocky ..I feel I already have her bagged but It was something making me second guess myself.
She
Gave
You
The
Number
Unprompted

Checking your ego is about how you interact with her. You haven’t even begun that process :snoop:
 

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this joint last night

:wow:

Single mother, tryna lock your guy down. Body is crazy, you wouldn’t even know she had 1 kid.
 

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I know Hinge is the top dog right now, but any of you cats still using Tinder/Bumble?

I'm using Hinge Premium, but I'm wondering if I should use some boosts midweek?
I'm trying out Bumble now for a bit, still trying to figure out the algorithms.

For Hinge, don't waste money on roses. Those standouts will show up on your regular feed if you just keep adjusting your filters
 
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