Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

Anyone ever dealt with dating women that wants to move cities ? girl is tripping about leaving Atlanta and I absolutely love it here and honestly have no damn desire to leave this city. I have thought about it multiple times but I am truly comfortable here. I moved here purposedly and one of the options look very attractive to me. She wants to go back to northern virginia. If there is one thing I cant stand is SNOW and COLD. How did you deal with this? After considering it, I really just want to stand my ground about calling ATL home.

I moved and regret it to this day.

Say goodbye.

 

[WIA20XX]

A question that came up in a group convo with the fellas: Is it important to be friends with someone you're in a relationship with?

What does this even mean?

 

[Panther]

What does this even mean?

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Yup what I notice the best relationships I've had is when I least expect it. As in just live your life and you go to a party, church, grocery store or something and the stars align

Doesn't work this way at all for us ugly gang

 

[Brandsdale]

Anyone ever dealt with dating women that wants to move cities ? girl is tripping about leaving Atlanta and I absolutely love it here and honestly have no damn desire to leave this city. I have thought about it multiple times but I am truly comfortable here. I moved here purposedly and one of the options look very attractive to me. She wants to go back to northern virginia. If there is one thing I cant stand is SNOW and COLD. How did you deal with this? After considering it, I really just want to stand my ground about calling ATL home.

then might as well end it with ole' girl

 

[Byronml]

Anyone ever dealt with dating women that wants to move cities ? girl is tripping about leaving Atlanta and I absolutely love it here and honestly have no damn desire to leave this city. I have thought about it multiple times but I am truly comfortable here. I moved here purposedly and one of the options look very attractive to me. She wants to go back to northern virginia. If there is one thing I cant stand is SNOW and COLD. How did you deal with this? After considering it, I really just want to stand my ground about calling ATL home.

I would dig into her reasoning for why she wants to move back.

• What's waiting on her back there, if anything?
• What is it she's missing?
• If she relocates, will she be satisfied?
• What's really driving her desire to relocate? Does she already have a job lined up there?
• Why did she relocate before?
• Where is it she wants to call home and why?
• What are the chances that you two relocate and then break up a few weeks later?
• Is she considering your best interest as well in what she wants?

DIG for those answers, verify them, and stick with the option that has your best interest in mind.

 

[re'up]

The amount of people who ghost others for whatever reason seems to have skyrocketed. A urban poet once said "dont burn bridges my friend, imagine the gdub close and your ass got to swim".. That always stuck with me and has done me well in life.. But ghosting has become an acceptable thing now

hahah right. I am sure my posts reflect this, but that 100% has been occurring more and more to me personally. Usually it's temporary but the fact it happens, makes it harder to form close relationships with people, if you are always one text away from zero contact, seemingly without cause. But, I still like all these people regardless, I don't feel anger for them, even if they ghost or whatever, they are still good with me.

 

[skyrunner1]

hahah right. I am sure my posts reflect this, but that 100% has been occurring more and more to me personally. Usually it's temporary but the fact it happens, makes it harder to form close relationships with people, if you are always one text away from zero contact, seemingly without cause. But, I still like all these people regardless, I don't feel anger for them, even if they ghost or whatever, they are still good with me.

I dont know about you but it has 100% been this new generation of women, lol.. The younger girls are complete savages when it comes to that type of stuff.. Never seen some of this type of behavior til recently.. ghosting, being right next to the person, you drop them off and then they write you a novel in text instead of convo in person, being quiet on phone and then hang up and then want to hold an entire conversation thru txt, lol wtf.. None of this stuff happened before and I only realize it because I understand they been socialized thru screens their entire life I guess.. Come across as complete weirdos but whatever

 

[re'up]

I dont know about you but it has 100% been this new generation of women, lol.. The younger girls are complete savages when it comes to that type of stuff.. Never seen some of this type of behavior til recently.. ghosting, being right next to the person, you drop them off and then they write you a novel in text instead of convo in person, being quiet on phone and then hang up and then want to hold an entire conversation thru txt, lol wtf.. None of this stuff happened before and I only realize it because I understand they been socialized thru screens their entire life I guess.. Come across as complete weirdos but whatever

Wow, I am glad to see this just isn't me, and you have a similar train of thought and experience. Of course, I realize it's not, (just me) but I am still surprised, even as I encounter it more and more. I don't see it as just generational either, it's anyone who since 2012 has been fixated on social media/texts/smart phones

I never had social media, obviously I have had an iphone for a decade plus and text, but it hasn't entirely warped the way I think or socialize. It still seems weak, passive, and even cowardly, but I am an outlier.

There are a lot of studies and papers and opinion pieces from the usual academic media circles about this now.

 

[Ohene]

The amount of people who ghost others for whatever reason seems to have skyrocketed. A urban poet once said "dont burn bridges my friend, imagine the gdub close and your ass got to swim".. That always stuck with me and has done me well in life.. But ghosting has become an acceptable thing now

It’s the single biggest issue in dating these days

 

[MikelArteta]

I got her number brehs

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I dont know about you but it has 100% been this new generation of women, lol.. The younger girls are complete savages when it comes to that type of stuff.. Never seen some of this type of behavior til recently.. ghosting, being right next to the person, you drop them off and then they write you a novel in text instead of convo in person, being quiet on phone and then hang up and then want to hold an entire conversation thru txt, lol wtf.. None of this stuff happened before and I only realize it because I understand they been socialized thru screens their entire life I guess.. Come across as complete weirdos but whatever

Had one chick ghost me for three weeks pop back up recently. “Apologized” for it and immediately thought we’d be on the same level again. Asked me about my birthday plans and when I’ll let her take my to dinner.

In my head I thought, if you’re not even consistently continuing a conversation over text, why the hell would I expect you to take me out? But I simply said “sounds great”

She then proceeded to not say Happy Birthday on the day I told hershe wasn’t my wife nor long term girlfriend so for me to be upset about it would be futile.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I got her number brehs

sounds great. Hope it materializes into a solid connection.

 

[Ohene]

I got her number brehs

church girl?

 

[skyrunner1]

Wow, I am glad to see this just isn't me, and you have a similar train of thought and experience. Of course, I realize it's not, (just me) but I am still surprised, even as I encounter it more and more. I don't see it as just generational either, it's anyone who since 2012 has been fixated on social media/texts/smart phones

I never had social media, obviously I have had an iphone for a decade plus and text, but it hasn't entirely warped the way I think or socialize. It still seems weak, passive, and even cowardly, but I am an outlier.

There are a lot of studies and papers and opinion pieces from the usual academic media circles about this now.

yea that two eras stand out to me, that 2012/13 era, when IG and Tinder first get introduced to the space, apps have been on phones for a couple years and IG is completely detached from computer when first introduced. Like it was first app completely started on phone first..

Then 2016/17 just seems like an incredible turning point also, IG changes their algorithm. EVERYONE has a decent enough phone to capture decent enough pics, women of course being ahead of social curve compeletly dive into branding type media (makeup artist, eyelash tech, hairstylist TAKES THE fukk OFF to fill this void, goes from being women of night thing to across the board) Behaviors start to change, social media is starting to break thru in ways I never seen, phones streaming decent enough where youtube is mobile..

I think all this gender war stuff between last of gen x and early millennials is squashing out "late to party" things.. What you are talking about is the bleeding edge stuff that isnt being talked about.. I think many people will be shocked by the behavior and ripple effects coming down the pipe..