another chess post that could be related to women.
Have any of y'all ever played a game against someone in person and you already have it in your mind that they're way better than you. so at some point during the game they make a questionable move where you could take his rook or whatever. now you keep thinking "what the fukk is your ulterior motive? what the fukk am i not seeing?" so you don' take it and make another move instead. they end up winning the game and at the end you ask them "why did you make that move in the middle of the game? and they tell you "just a blunder i made, you should have taken my rook..."
trying to figure out what someone is thinking with certainty can mess with your mind and make you second guess yourself. Instead, it's better to analyze the move the other person made, try to see threats to your own interest and only possibilities of why they could have made that move. Trust in your system and preperation (your principles). once you see no threats, fukk what they were thinking cause as you can see, it's not always logically sound. if you detect no threat after a thorough analysis, assume it's an opportunity and seize it. if it's some deep game your opponent is playing on you that you just didn't see, then it's something new you'll learn.
same thing with women (and people in general). don't try to guess why they did XYZ or reading their mind. just worry about potential possibilities of why they did it without trying to pinpoint it. once you do that you stick to your principles and act accordingly. doesn't mean you won't still get burned somehow from time to time (get used, cheated on, etc). but if you do, that's just another pattern or threat that you learned and have paid the cost to learn for your next chess game/relationship. it's a way to perfect your system of principles. but trying to figure out with absolute certainty what she's thinking, you'll go insane, second guess yourself and be paralyzed (and they'll capitalize on that).