Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[AAKing23]

What happened

Nothing in particular, just a random thought I had when thinking about the whole dating discourse out here and how women are complaining about the lack of good dudes.

And how all women just assume that they're good women off rip. It's crazy how they assume you'll want them however they are

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

And how all women just assume that they're good women off rip. It's crazy how they assume you'll want them however they are

I agree

Women aren’t held to a high standard in society when it comes to love and dating. Due to the inherent thirst of men the average woman has no incentive to become “good”. Why improve when 90% of your suitors will accept you as you are. Until men as a collective begin to relax their thirst and hold woman accountable in mass they will continue to behave as such. Society ranks women as inherently delicate and good so a woman walks around believing in that.

I can’t fault them for that. Most men would do the same if the roles were reversed. All you can do is have YOUR personal standards. If a woman doesn’t meet your threshold then find one who will.

Me personally, I’ve been under operation “I want what I want no exceptions” mode. I don’t care if she fits what I want mentally, if her body is mid then bushes. If her body is nice but her mental is mid then bushes. More men need to start shyt canning these women for being mediocre

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

What's with these women that are in their early/mid 30s "not sure" about wanting kids? Interesting enough I've met women in their late 30s that want them "someday"

“Not sure” = Taking birth control not actively trying to have a kid but if I do end up pregnant I’m keeping it

“Someday” = I’m holding out for Prince Charming

I look at “not sure” as if it happens it happens. They’re not actively seeking it out. I think the “someday” women are holding out for a particular guy in particular conditions. i.e. married, one dog, white picket fence type fantasy.

 

[WIA20XX]

the average woman has no incentive to become “good”. Why improve when 90% of your suitors will accept you as you are

They have all of these suitors, but they aren't getting the results that they want.

Women are constantly and consistently complaining about their dating options.

The main problem (from both sides) is that she's optimized herself for looks and only looks, when it comes to men. Some of them have a sexual skill set, but that in and of itself is a trap.

She may have leveled up in other areas - education, finances, hobbies? (usually none) etc - but those aren't the things men care about. It's not like she's spending the money on dudes, and most good dudes would not be happy to have her spend lavishly on him. (there are pimps and hobosexuals that want to drain pockets of course, much love to y'all)

So that's part of the puzzle. She's over-optimized on looks, and spending the rest of her resources on things that don't matter to men.
Non-looks factor ain't cooking, cleaning, nursing, caring for kids. That's assumed in the package.

That leads to the current situation.

For all you dudes that have pumped and dumped - you wouldn't be so quick to dump if she had something going for her other than her looks and sex skills (or lack thereof). Very few times in my life I've said, "I really do enjoy talking to this chick, picking her brain".

How many of these chicks do you want to talk to BEFORE you sleep with em? What about after?

And that's what's missing. At best a lot of these chicks are empty vessels.

A lot of cats, imo, wrongly assume a chick can't be interesting and engaging when it comes to her company and conversation.
And looking back on my dating history, that's not a wrong assumption to make. The chick you want to talk to, that offers something other than sex, - far and few inbetween.

Meanwhile, my exes periodically want to call me up to chat and catch up and get my thoughts on things.

 

[Brandsdale]

One thing I've noticed recently talking to a bunch of broads is many of them have never even had a relationship before or just had one many years ago. And these are chicks in their late twenties, early thirties.

ive noticed the same tbh

but i think we've also normalized "talking" stages so much. If you ask them same girls how many dudes they've "talked" to before the responses would increase imo

One thing ive noticed is women will have a million stories of dudes theyve talked to but thats where it kinda ends cause why start a whole relationship with a dude you dont really like, are turned off by, pisses you off, etc ?. Curbing a dude nowadays for these chics is a bit easier too with all the apps n shyt.

 

[Ahadi]

Women that say “I want to open up / let go of control but I can’t”



You better go to therapy or figure it out before dealing with me.

Why the hell should I take responsibility if your energy isn’t right.

 

[ViShawn]

“Not sure” = Taking birth control not actively trying to have a kid but if I do end up pregnant I’m keeping it

“Someday” = I’m holding out for Prince Charming

I look at “not sure” as if it happens it happens. They’re not actively seeking it out. I think the “someday” women are holding out for a particular guy in particular conditions. i.e. married, one dog, white picket fence type fantasy.

Yeah I mentioned I wanted kids with one woman last month and I think that made her lose interest in me because it's something I want in my future.

Weeks later after we stopped talking I saw her on Bumble and her children section mentioned "Not Sure Yet". I just don't understand that in your mid 30s.

Given what I know about her ie being an only child, a bit of careerist, etc I will surmise that kids aren't a priority for her so I'd assume no hence the misalignment.

I had an ex that mentioned kids but she would also mention how life transforming kids are. Ultimately her actions didn't match her words.

Matching your values and wants are important in pursuing a long term relationship. I've learned sticking to your guns instead of settling and compromising is the best path

 

[skyrunner1]

I agree

Women aren’t held to a high standard in society when it comes to love and dating. Due to the inherent thirst of men the average woman has no incentive to become “good”. Why improve when 90% of your suitors will accept you as you are. Until men as a collective begin to relax their thirst and hold woman accountable in mass they will continue to behave as such. Society ranks women as inherently delicate and good so a woman walks around believing in that.

I can’t fault them for that. Most men would do the same if the roles were reversed. All you can do is have YOUR personal standards. If a woman doesn’t meet your threshold then find one who will.

Me personally, I’ve been under operation “I want what I want no exceptions” mode. I don’t care if she fits what I want mentally, if her body is mid then bushes. If her body is nice but her mental is mid then bushes. More men need to start shyt canning these women for being mediocre

You get soo many examples weekly now it seems like running up the score but its needed because dudes are hard headed.. There is a dude in thread about a 48 year old women telling tracy mcgrady he should keep his tattoos because he can be an educated thug, he came in cape flapping saying she didnt mean thugYou got steve harvey basically saying women have to bring nothing to table and that men cant have any standards, to accept them as they are. Why would they be "good" when all the rules and society doesnt have any expectations for them..

 

[Apollo Creed]

ive noticed the same tbh

but i think we've also normalized "talking" stages so much. If you ask them same girls how many dudes they've "talked" to before the responses would increase imo

One thing ive noticed is women will have a million stories of dudes theyve talked to but thats where it kinda ends cause why start a whole relationship with a dude you dont really like, are turned off by, pisses you off, etc ?. Curbing a dude nowadays for these chics is a bit easier too with all the apps n shyt.

its why these chicks are so socially akward. They don't really know men nor are around men unless its sex.

 

[Brandsdale]

Women that say “I want to open up / let go of control but I can’t”



You better go to therapy or figure it out before dealing with me.

Why the hell should I take responsibility if your energy isn’t right.

heard that one before

 

[Brandsdale]

"let go of control but i cant"

is this bytch Cobra Commander?

 

[Ahadi]

"let go of control but i cant"

is this bytch Cobra Commander?

bytch im not your therapist.

Why should I or any man have to deal with your BS from other situations. That’s not our problem.

Too many women out here to be thinking “I can help her overcome”



& you’re already coming into the situation with a handicap and weighing down the man.

 

[Digital Omen]

I agree

Women aren’t held to a high standard in society when it comes to love and dating. Due to the inherent thirst of men the average woman has no incentive to become “good”. Why improve when 90% of your suitors will accept you as you are. Until men as a collective begin to relax their thirst and hold woman accountable in mass they will continue to behave as such. Society ranks women as inherently delicate and good so a woman walks around believing in that.

I can’t fault them for that. Most men would do the same if the roles were reversed. All you can do is have YOUR personal standards. If a woman doesn’t meet your threshold then find one who will.

Me personally, I’ve been under operation “I want what I want no exceptions” mode. I don’t care if she fits what I want mentally, if her body is mid then bushes. If her body is nice but her mental is mid then bushes. More men need to start shyt canning these women for being mediocre

The bolded is interesting because at first glance you're asking for the impossible. We were created this way. Thirst is a real thing because we're hardwired to spread our seed everywhere until the end of time.

We can't stop it, but we can try to manage it. I remember reading Iceberg Slim back in the day and the part where he bags Chris, he was thirsty for her but in his mind he had to make it a power play: "you gotta back up from them fabulous pussies...pretend you don't have a dikk" Basically flipping the script on her.

The vast majority of men have never ever turned down p*ssy. Because of thirst. I've done it a couple of times and that shyt is liberating. It's like unlocking a cheat code. Once you realize p*ssy is not the holy grail end all be all and if you don't get it you're not going to die or be less of a man it brings women down from the pedestal and gives you even more confidence...which is what women crave in a man therefore they want you even more.

 

[WIA20XX]

The vast majority of men have never ever turned down p*ssy. Because of thirst. I've done it a couple of times and that shyt is liberating.

I am going to go so far as to say, when a man is able to master his sexual desire - he becomes a god.

Cause testosterone is a helluva drug.

If them JBO brothers could have put 1% of their JBO time into stock, real estate, programming...

 

[re'up]

This could easily be twisted into a meme or one of those divisive questions, but it's a mildly amusing story

Was just in my area, and a car pulls up, window down, and this BAD girl I know is waving at me, she is really sweet and cool, and looks exactly like a South Florida instagram model, she had like 50k followers at some point.

Loved that she full on hopped out of the car, and ran up and hugged me, like three times, in front of her boyfriend, who she introduced, but he just stayed in the car. We caught up for like 5 minutes, I put her onto some spots back when, and we just talked, but eventually, even I was thinking you can't leave this dude sitting there, so I was like lets catch up soon.

Anyway, I hope they have a solid ass relationship and are doing well, would like to think my ego would be ok with something similar, On one hand, love that she was so open and not acting weird, but also, I can see why people would just rather wave lol