Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

To clarify, this is a lived experience thing, foresight, like I know how that plays out. She was nowhere near sober, but she wasn't blacked out. Probbaly on Day 2. But, bad nonethless.

I foresaw her having multiple loud ass phone convos with her crew, either trying to get them over to my spot, or trying to meet up with them. Then a phone charger. Then alcohol. Then coke. Then it's 6:34 AM.

There was no sexual intentionality behind her coming home with me, just attraction and a place to hang, which I can't knock the hustle. All I said was if you want to go home, I'll drop you, and she just bounced on my homie, and got in the car. He was looking at me crazy in the parking lot lol--but whatever. We had a connection, we are from the same neighborhood, I won't stay up all night, with drunk and high women to MAYBE have some awkward hook up, it's not even about the maybe, as much as it is that's not the experience I want.

 

[John Reena]

do people hate on you guys a lot in general?

and especially when you’re in the club pulling?
@WIA20XX @Ohene @VertigoKnight

if so, do you guys believe in being humble about it?
or do you guys fully step into that “fukk off,” you madd type of energy around other guys?

nikkaz DEFINITELY hate. Never forget one time a chick was tryna dance with me in the club and some dude literally YANKED her off the dance floor. It was astounding

 

[africngiant]

nikkaz DEFINITELY hate. Never forget one time a chick was tryna dance with me in the club and some dude literally YANKED her off the dance floor. It was astounding

i expected different answers from others. i wanted to verify cause i get hated on bad for seemingly no reason by other men. after seeing the replies, i started to think maybe “its in my head then”

but nah them white boys really be giving me the stares all the time lmao. especially when i got the freshie

shyt makes me more angry and reclusive but i gotta stop caring what ppl think

 

[John Reena]

i expected different answers from others. i wanted to verify cause i get hated on bad for seemingly no reason by other men. after seeing the replies, i started to think maybe “its in my head then”

but nah them white boys really be giving me the stares all the time lmao. especially when i got the freshie

shyt makes me more angry and reclusive but i gotta stop caring what ppl think

Da hell with dudes who hate on you. They can’t get mad u gettin tha women they want. When I see a dude being successful with women, I mind my business n keep it pushing.

 

[International Playa]

Lust fades.
Love fades.
Respect fades.

She might not sleep with the next dude, but there's no way to "keep" a woman.

Lemme define keep - That lovey-dovey Honeymoon mode her entire life.

Obviously a man can make it painful for her to leave.
A man can put himself in a position to always replace her..

But he can never HAVE her.

Once I understood that, it made my life much easier.

Dudes always afraid of opening up to a broad - the premise is that if he does, she will either treat him poorly or leave.

It's because he's trying to keep her in a particular emotional state so that she treats him in a particular way.

Once he realizes that this is impossible, it's not up to him, he's free.

Lotta dudes don't want to be free. Them wanting to keep a chick, also keeps them down.

And the same thing happens with the females, even faster if you ask me.

She wants to keep dude in that "we just started dating phase"

• All the attention
• The gifts, meals, dates, etc
• The getting close
• The opening up
• Getting official
• The sharing of tasks
• The showing off her relationship
• Marriage
• Kids

I don't care how fine a chick is, how good the sex is, I'm gonna love her, but that 1st 3 months thing is done.

I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.

I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.

Do you feel religious women make better wives?

Maybe religion keeps their moral compass on track to be more dedicated to serve her husband & kids, she won't easily give up on her marriage easily & would fight for it?

 

[Ahadi]

When a woman curves you on hinge, but you end up hooking up with her in real life

 

[WIA20XX]

Do you feel religious women make better wives?

Maybe religion keeps their moral compass on track to be more dedicated to serve her husband & kids, she won't easily give up on her marriage easily & would fight for it?

These days, I date primarily Black Women, who are generally more religious than anyone else. They practice and they come from practicing parents and families.

And I'd say the answer is NO.

There's nothing about Jesus that stops these chicks from being who they are.

Which I was saying, there's not much lessons to be learned from my college friends that got married early on.
Stat wise, college educated, working professionals tend to marry more and tend to stay married more.

In the cases I'm thinking of, both husband and wife came from intact married parents.

I'm not saying the rest of us are doomed, but i'm also NOT NOT saying that, lol.

WIA

 

[ViShawn]

 

[Ohene]

nikkaz DEFINITELY hate. Never forget one time a chick was tryna dance with me in the club and some dude literally YANKED her off the dance floor. It was astounding

lol i once approached a dime who was with like 3 girls and 2 dudes. Was getting play

The crew was split into like 3 pairs with the somali dudes leading the pack. Lil somali dude came back and pulled her from me lying about how its his girl and shyt

Had me heated but i wasnt gonna get into a fight or catch a bullet over some somali wasteman in his feelings. They be on cowboy shyt sometimes

 

[Ohene]

These days, I date primarily Black Women, who are generally more religious than anyone else. They practice and they come from practicing parents and families.

And I'd say the answer is NO.

There's nothing about Jesus that stops these chicks from being who they are.

Which I was saying, there's not much lessons to be learned from my college friends that got married early on.
Stat wise, college educated, working professionals tend to marry more and tend to stay married more.

In the cases I'm thinking of, both husband and wife came from intact married parents.

I'm not saying the rest of us are doomed, but i'm also NOT NOT saying that, lol.

WIA

In this day and age social media equalizes everything.

If a girl on social media consistently she going to be a delusional bird 9/10 times. Don’t matter if she a nerd, Bible hugger, from a two parent house , professional etc

 

[skyrunner1]

In this day and age social media equalizes everything.

If a girl on social media consistently she going to be a delusional bird 9/10 times. Don’t matter if she a nerd, Bible hugger, from a two parent house , professional etc

Instagram got YO bytch!

 

[Apollo Creed]

In this day and age social media equalizes everything.

If a girl on social media consistently she going to be a delusional bird 9/10 times. Don’t matter if she a nerd, Bible hugger, from a two parent house , professional etc

that's the thing EVERYONE is on social media nowadays and when a chick leads with she doesn't use it she prob got something to hide lmfao

Best men can do is protect themselves and their assets and just tred lightly and understand we are in a "seasonal" age va forever age (because ewe don't 'need' each other anymore).

 

[rabbid]

Best thing you can hope for is the girl that only posts tagged pictures with friends and random meals she made. I just personally hate going on there and being tagged in some goofy ass status update. I don't need everyone I've ever known seeing your silly ass updates from that one time we went to eat. I could see if we were married but in all likelihood you might not be here in 5 years.

 

[Ahadi]

lol i once approached a dime who was with like 3 girls and 2 dudes. Was getting play

The crew was split into like 3 pairs with the somali dudes leading the pack. Lil somali dude came back and pulled her from me lying about how its his girl and shyt

Had me heated but i wasnt gonna get into a fight or catch a bullet over some somali wasteman in his feelings. They be on cowboy shyt sometimes

I was out this weekend with one of my ppl and he was with some joint.

His joint was eyeing me and I asked straight up “are y’all together” all I heard was crickets & beatboxing. She starts choosing on me, he gets in his feelings



I told him “you need to speak the fukk up if that’s your bytch”



Granted, I should probably stop drinking lol, but the whole night she’s talking to me & as we walk up the stairs, she’s rubbing my back, I ain’t hear from creh again.

 

[Action Mike]

This is new...this girl is a good 5 inches taller than me but doesn't care lmao, death by snu snu it is