Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

what's funny is i actually had a woman on my facebook proclaiming how evil women are. Joint was kind of funny to me. I think men would do much better with women if they put them in the proper context and stopped seeing them as these wonderful angels who you need to do anything to obtain. That's why I really don't like watching or listening to rnb because that simped out, worship a woman mentality starts getting in your mind. When you start making decisions with women based off a FANTASY, you will get terrible results. it's like trying to start some real life fights based off some techniques you learned from watching rocky..

A piece of knowledge I wanted to share with the family here is NEVER and I mean NEVER judge a woman by a first or even a second impression. You have to constantly watch and observe. Men fall so easy for 'ho stories'... They believe this even after they see her act in a manner unbefitting of a lady, but she gets to talking and makes some rationalization and they believe it because they WANT to believe it. Another piece of knowledge cats need to have in their arsenal is to put her on the line. Don't be one of those dudes afraid to bring your woman around your boys or around anyone for that matter. You need to see where her heart is at before seriously making any commitments. A lot of cats think hiding their woman will keep her from cheating, but all that will happen is you will be exposed to her cheating with a dude you don't know about. Bring her around your boys and see how she reacts. See if she is laughing and being flirty around them, etc. See if she's playing it out of pocket and focusing on them and asking about them more than you. If so, time to give her the eject.

this is true. a ho is thirsty for attention and simpery. so if you see her seeking that out when shes around other men, then you know what it is with her. more than likely shes using that male attention to get favors, sex, and gifts from other men. gotta watch all that.

 

[kevm3]

this is true. a ho is thirsty for attention and simpery. so if you see her seeking that out when shes around other men, then you know what it is with her. more than likely shes using that male attention to get favors, sex, and gifts from other men. gotta watch all that.

It's always wise for a man to expose a woman's true nature BEFORE he starts taking her serious. Too many men want to believe a fantasy when dealing with a woman instead of exposing reality and dealing with reality. That's why they might hide their woman and try to keep her from being around other men. You have to be a real dude and put her on the line. Let her come around your boys after you've 'caught her', and see if she knows how to stay down with you or if she's looking at you like a rest haven.

 

[Illuminatos]

Your Girlfriend Is A Raging Slut! How Does That Make You Feel? - YouTube

Whats yalls take on this lames opinion. Almost threw up in my mouth and cant believe i watched the whole thing.
Edit: On second thought, worth the full watch. Delusions

 

[kevm3]

I have a little philosophy and it goes like this. I don't just want attention for attention's sake. All attention isn't beneficial attention. What I want is the RIGHT kind of attention from the RIGHT people.

The only way to attract this attention is to constantly put out the best form of you and make sure that your interior beliefs is expressed outwards. In other words, be real about yourself and what you're about. You might miss catching some women who seek superficial things, but the women you DO attract will be of much higher quality and you will get much more run from them because they're legitimately attracted to you than some corny techniques and personality pandering you've done. Remember, how you start is how you finish.

 

[Turbulent]

Just venting out of my ass so don't mind me:

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I know its only been a couple months and things are smooth sailing like a motha.

The crazy thing is that, because of my previous (traumatizing) experiences, i'm expecting some kind of travesty to erupt during the timeline of our romance.

Is it fair to do this to myself? Am i too guarded and being way cautious when i should be enjoying the ride?

When a woman seems too perfect... it's almost always too good to be true. Maybe not now - but when the moment happens when she does the anticipated, i don't know if i'll be ready for it, as prepared and knowledgeable as i is.

Kinda sad the game is in the state that it is. Almost 3 months and i still don't give her 100 (i refrain from a lot, and i think that mystique is why she's still intrigued by the kid)... but i'm essentially doing what i told myself i'd never do, a shell of my former sell; i.e. saying that i'd "never play the game". But here i am, a lover's console and i'm maneuvering it with a control... fully engaged and awaiting for the proverbial enemy to strike without warning.

All the dreams that society, media (movies, television, music) sell you doesn't help. But as a bonafide member of the "gems thread", i should know what to anticipate and protect myself from any anguish, pain and heartache (and the kind that hurts the most... the lingering effects of severed love affair).

She was raised with good morals, has a great head on her shoulders, studied law and working at a paralegal firm and continuing her education and taking care of her family when she's home - all while finding time every weekend to see me.

The funny thing is that; i don't know what i have to offer the babe. No social status, not the most handsome guy on the plate, job is a joke and can barely be self sufficient... all i've got is my outlook on society and philosophy on living. She says that she enjoys the company and doesn't mind just spending time, no need to go out and do fun stuff. As much as i'd like to believe her, i know that if i don't take her out/entertain her... somebody else will.

I like to think that i'm funny. I'm witty/creative on the punch and can hold a conversation. But why do i have so many reservations and fears? What's holding me back from doing what i really want to do/feel?

Being in constant fear isn't the way to live and i know that - but... there's just something restraining me from the order to which i'd like to persevere into and develop as a person. That way, i'd be able to share myself with a prospect and learn how to love. Shiiit, i'm a taurean, as stubborn as a prick in the skin and as dim as the

My goal is to one day open up and be who i want to be and not feel like i'm compromising so much or fear that i won't succeed and always playing it safe. I've got to take chances, whether its with my career dreams or with a significant other.


I'd rather know for certain and let it be than guess, lie dormant and never know what coulda, shoulda, woulda.


A dreamer with aspirations but no application is as good as an empty application. Might as well be an aspiring dreamer with a empty imagination.


The Moody Blues - Your Wildest Dreams - YouTube





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you're doing the right thing as far as not giving her 100. funny story. years ago, in another lifetime i was in a relationship with this girl. Was hanging out with her and people from her job but i didn't like them that much (felt like they were phonies). on that day, they kept talking behind this indian dude's back, hating on him hard but i had never met the indian guy. one day i had to meet my girl at her job for something. I met the old indian guy (maybe in his 60s) and from the way they were talking i was expecting a very corny a$$hole. But he ended up being a cool dude. told me my girl is great and one jewel he dropped on me i always kept: You can love a girl from the bottom of your heart but always keep the top cause you never know. If you give her your whole heart and then she leaves with it, what are you gonna do now? the way he said it sounded better but you get the idea...


as far as what you can do for her, it seems like it's insecurity. Seems like it's almost like you think she's crazy to even want to be with you and at any moment now she could comeback to her senses and realize she could do better. Like you got her under a spell and she could wake up at any moment now and it makes you nervous. Get your mind right. Here what i think you need to do. Forget about her for a second. Are you where you're suppose to be right now? are you doing what you're suppose to do to be the best you possible at this moment? From the last part of your post, it seems like you're not if you're being honest with yourself. And knowing this is what is making you feel inadequate. This feeling could manifest itself in many aspects of your life and relationships. You're scared that people will see what you see in yourself.

You need to look within on your own, forget about what she or anyone thinks and just look within you.

-Is there something in there you don't like or would want to be different?
-If so can you change it? If you can't (for example some physical stuff you can't change, stuff that happened in the past you can't change, who your blood is, etc) then you need to make peace with it to feel serene.

If you can change it, you need to take the steps. get on the path to become the person you want to be. just the act of getting on that path will mean you are who you need to be at this moment and you won't feel as inadequate. After that you won't even care that much if she accepts what you have to offer her because your path is more important. You'll be proud to show her who you are and if she doesn't accept it, you'll just find someone who will. of course you could like her and like her companionship but you will like your path even more. but again this feeling of confidence will only come if you truly feel you're being the best you can be at the moment.


Sometimes insecurity is your subconscious trying to tell you something...

 

[Illuminatos]

Brehs, is there something wrong with me for wanting a girl that hasn't had a high number of partners? Am I being insecure?

 

[Wild self]

Brehs, is there something wrong with me for wanting a girl that hasn't had a high number of partners? Am I being insecure?

HELL NO! Don't let those undercover prostitutes change your mind. And certainly not the simps that kiss their asses, either. I remember a Ghostface interview where he talks about how most women these days rack up on a lot of bodies simply by having sex with 2 guys a month and how that builds up. 2 x 12 = 24 dudes a year. 24 x 5 = 120 dudes in 5 years. Most women that are in the club scene and engage in casual sex with men that have status and swag are not relationship material.

 

[MikelArteta]

Interesting brehs.

Only in my first relationship was i say totally open, and totally myself.

As a person I'm mellow, laid back, always willing to lend a helping hand. As well I'm respectful, faithful, quiet, I'd rather listen than talk. As well I rarely get angry, avoid drama and confrontation. I'd rather be home chilling reading a book watching a movie than clubbing, drinking, going out. I loathe attention, and talking to like 20 different females at once. I quickly learned in my youth this was a recipe for disaster dealing with women I'd be manipulated ad used, viewed as boring, reliable not giving them that thrill.

So my alter ego ws born will continue........

Sent from royalty breh

 

[kevm3]

Brehs, is there something wrong with me for wanting a girl that hasn't had a high number of partners? Am I being insecure?

That's what you're supposed to want. It's just in this corny 'new age mentality' that we're supposed to accept any and everything people do and be 'tolerant' of it..

 

[Ohms Law]

Brehs, is there something wrong with me for wanting a girl that hasn't had a high number of partners? Am I being insecure?

I see you watched the video. The guy himself comes off as some emasculated lame who's willing to accept any and every women he can get completely ignoring all character flaws she might have (also came off a little ).

 

[sixsixtwo]

Interesting comments:

Relationships and Previous Sexual Partners: Why the same repeated argument is irrelevant and the thing that women (in particular) are not understanding about this. : sex

 

[Shameonyou]

scarcity brings respect and value....remember that not with just women, but in everything else in life, how often you talk, how often you are heard from, seen...etc..

bring value to yourself with the less is more mentality

 

[sixsixtwo]

Brehs, is there something wrong with me for wanting a girl that hasn't had a high number of partners? Am I being insecure?

Sluts Don’t Deserve to be Loved | A Guide for a Young Patriarch

 

[Turbulent]

Interesting comments:

Relationships and Previous Sexual Partners: Why the same repeated argument is irrelevant and the thing that women (in particular) are not understanding about this. : sex

i like the OP and the discussion that followed.

i made a somewhat similar post in another thread about how men want to be the most virile partner their girl has ever had and this is why the number of partners they had matters to our ego...

all i wanted was to offer the raw male perspective (because that's what the threadstarter had asked). people weren't feeling it i definitely agree with the OP from that link that it's something you have to be at peace with and that dealing with it doesn't mean you have to delude yourself that she chose you because "you're the best".

-figure out what you like or dont like about yourself.
-change what you can change, accept what you can't to be at peace with it.
-figure out what you want in others and why you want it. don't let anyone shame you into settling for less. If someone positively influences you to -calibrate what you want, then figure out inside of you if changing your expections is for the best and THEN start your search with your new expectations without settling.


there is a nuance between settling for less than what you want vs. re-setting what you want first. if you want a woman with low partners, don't let anyone shame you into being with something else. but if someone challenges the reasons you want this, don't be afraid to re-evaluate why you want it and if what they said makes sense, maybe you need to change your expectations. if you still feel like you want a woman with low numbers, don't change anything. this is a very personal process because it deals with your "identity". Someone can influence you positively into becoming someone else (someone you want to become, someone you feel is better). But don't let someone shame you into being someone they want you to be.



sorry i went off on a tangent.

 

[Illuminatos]

I see you watched the video. The guy himself comes off as some emasculated lame who's willing to accept any and every women he can get completely ignoring all character flaws she might have (also came off a little ).

He's shared many girls. :lolhov::lolhov::lolhov: :lolhov::lolhov::lolhov::lolhov: