Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

its the little things, seeing your parents fight but still sticking together etc. knowing everything ain't peachy
chicks from divorced or single parent homes don't have that fighting spirit

Chicks from married homes will divorce you because you aint simping like her pops. There isnt a catch all formula honestly. Everything is case by case

 

[MikelArteta]

Chicks from married homes will divorce you because you aint simping like her pops. There isnt a catch all formula honestly. Everything is case by case

 

[ViShawn]

The first few dates should be chilled, fun & getting to know each other, the serious topics should organically come up later & in small doses.

I had a Nigerian lady ask me serious intense questions before the first date, asking me about marriage, career, religion etc. I most of her boxes, I ghosted her, she called a few times & then she finally got the idea

Before the first date damn. Now that's one thing. I guess some people want to pre-screen but yeah that would be too much.

How soon are you diving into these topics? There is a big difference between wasting a year and the getting to know each other stage.

They come up in conversation. I recall one of the contention points with my last relationship (which I don't like talking about past relationships) was that she wasn't sure she wanted kids, so I did mention this because this person and I briefly talked about past relationships. I acknowledge I can be intense, but I don't go off the jump asking about marriage, etc. but there's potential for it to come up.

I also think both men and women do grill each other with questions which I don't like and avoid.

 

[WIA20XX]

I had a Nigerian lady ask me serious intense questions before the first date

LOL. Like I said before, Naija does not PLAY AROUND. Not the ones in this country at least. Maybe it's a different thing back in the motherland, but not in the States.

As for the topic, it depends on what you want out of the relationship.

When you're younger, it's sort of a "hook up" first mentality.
When you're older, it switches to "Do I even want to deal with a chick that's not on the same page as me".

Cause xes changes things.

 

[MikelArteta]

LOL. Like I said before, Naija does not PLAY AROUND. Not the ones in this country at least. Maybe it's a different thing back in the motherland, but not in the States.

As for the topic, it depends on what you want out of the relationship.

When you're younger, it's sort of a "hook up" first mentality.
When you're older, it switches to "Do I even want to deal with a chick that's not on the same page as me".

Cause xes changes things.

i don't associate with nigerian women anymore

 

[RaspberryFitted]

i don't associate with nigerian women anymore

EDIT: ain’t read the two pages back lmaoo.

 

[Apollo Creed]

i don't associate with nigerian women anymore

learned the hard way I see

they are literally the most renegade out of any African country especially those in the west. Nothing traditional about em (the tradition talk is to get non African men to simp).

 

[MikelArteta]

learned the hard way I see

they are literally the most renegade out of any African country especially those in the west. Nothing traditional about em (the tradition talk is to get non African men to simp).

My ex fiance was nigerian. I thought it was just her but nah even dated a few others after and they are all like that. Loud, aggressive, bossy, demanding. I'm sure some people like that but not me.

 

[Digital Omen]

Welp, my run with my (ex) girl ended last night
I was already getting the vibe all of last week that she was out and putting distance between us
Yeah it's wack, no one likes getting dumped but it is what it is
Her reasoning was that the "spark is gone" and "I need time to be by myself" and "I'm not ready to commit to a relationship"
I thanked her for her honesty and wished her the best in all her future endeavors
Reading between the lines it was obvious she wasn't over her ex husband. Her divorce was finalized September last year
We met and got together in December
And last night was all she wrote
I was the divorce rebound. I had mine when I got divorced too so I told her I understand and don't sweat it
And of course what was left unsaid by her but I understood immediately is she wants new dikk and check if the grass is greener and all that shyt
Being 45 and having been through this shyt before I appreciated her honesty and kept everything civil and copacetic
As I'm typing this I just got a series of texts from her
TL;DR "I'm sorry about this I wasn't ready for this convo which is why I had to put distance between us, that proves I'm not ready for a relationship"
(with me she means, but they always leave that part out)
My conscience is clear. I treated her like an official wifey GF. No stepping out, no BS, no drama.
She broke up with me and I let her go in peace. I follow the rules of the game.

 

[Apollo Creed]

My ex fiance was nigerian. I thought it was just her but nah even dated a few others after and they are all like that. Loud, aggressive, bossy, demanding. I'm sure some people like that but not me.

they are a headache lol It's why Nigerian men get a village girl or just date from another African Country/outside their race.

Nigerian women in the West tend to be the worst outta other groups just because the Nigerian Pride amplifies the typical issues dudes have with modern women lol

all their accomplishments mean nothing to traditional men, it's usually outsiders who be impressed on that "my girl a lawyer" stuff

 

[MikelArteta]

they are a headache lol It's why Nigerian men get a village girl or just date from another African Country/outside their race.

Nigerian women in the West tend to be the worst outta other groups just because the Nigerian Pride amplifies the typical issues dudes have with modern women lol

all their accomplishments mean nothing to traditional men, it's usually outsiders who be impressed on that "my girl a lawyer" stuff

Yup and that's not even mentioning the bride price and their inflated egos mtchewww

I really can't stand when women brag about their accomplishments I could care less. I've never cared what a woman does as long as she works and it ain't being a prostitute or onlyfans .


I'm jamaican and its the same for me for jamaican women I don't associate with them either. I just don't like loud, aggressive woman.

 

[DJSmooth]

i don't associate with nigerian women anymore

Lol I love the game. I love the hustle. I love when a Nigerian woman eyes light up when I tell what I do for a living. Feel like one of them ball players Bird, Magic or something.

 

[DJSmooth]

Welp, my run with my (ex) girl ended last night
I was already getting the vibe all of last week that she was out and putting distance between us
Yeah it's wack, no one likes getting dumped but it is what it is
Her reasoning was that the "spark is gone" and "I need time to be by myself" and "I'm not ready to commit to a relationship"
I thanked her for her honesty and wished her the best in all her future endeavors
Reading between the lines it was obvious she wasn't over her ex husband. Her divorce was finalized September last year
We met and got together in December
And last night was all she wrote
I was the divorce rebound. I had mine when I got divorced too so I told her I understand and don't sweat it
And of course what was left unsaid by her but I understood immediately is she wants new dikk and check if the grass is greener and all that shyt
Being 45 and having been through this shyt before I appreciated her honesty and kept everything civil and copacetic
As I'm typing this I just got a series of texts from her
TL;DR "I'm sorry about this I wasn't ready for this convo which is why I had to put distance between us, that proves I'm not ready for a relationship"
(with me she means, but they always leave that part out)
My conscience is clear. I treated her like an official wifey GF. No stepping out, no BS, no drama.
She broke up with me and I let her go in peace. I follow the rules of the game.

What? She got a divorce September 2022? And yall got together December 2022?

 

[MikelArteta]

Welp, my run with my (ex) girl ended last night
I was already getting the vibe all of last week that she was out and putting distance between us
Yeah it's wack, no one likes getting dumped but it is what it is
Her reasoning was that the "spark is gone" and "I need time to be by myself" and "I'm not ready to commit to a relationship"
I thanked her for her honesty and wished her the best in all her future endeavors
Reading between the lines it was obvious she wasn't over her ex husband. Her divorce was finalized September last year
We met and got together in December
And last night was all she wrote
I was the divorce rebound. I had mine when I got divorced too so I told her I understand and don't sweat it
And of course what was left unsaid by her but I understood immediately is she wants new dikk and check if the grass is greener and all that shyt
Being 45 and having been through this shyt before I appreciated her honesty and kept everything civil and copacetic
As I'm typing this I just got a series of texts from her
TL;DR "I'm sorry about this I wasn't ready for this convo which is why I had to put distance between us, that proves I'm not ready for a relationship"
(with me she means, but they always leave that part out)
My conscience is clear. I treated her like an official wifey GF. No stepping out, no BS, no drama.
She broke up with me and I let her go in peace. I follow the rules of the game.

sorry breh you were just the rebound. And yeah that's how it goes one day its all warm with women the next its all cold and you can feel that it's over and you just wait till them thangs dropped.

And yeah the whole with you. Chicks will say that they need time for this and bla bla but you snoop (don't) in a few months and they cheesing with their new love of their life.

It sucks but its life you'll be ok breh

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yup and that's not even mentioning the bride price and their inflated egos mtchewww

I really can't stand when women brag about their accomplishments I could care less. I've never cared what a woman does as long as she works and it ain't being a prostitute or onlyfans .


I'm jamaican and its the same for me for jamaican women I don't associate with them either. I just don't like loud, aggressive woman.

Yeah like i said they use the traditions to make men simp yet the womens duties get tossed out the window and the men they deal with are ignorant to the traditions to check them. Its why they target non Nigerian/non african men cause they cant be checked.