Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

A convo this weekend, I was attempting to explain the "crash and burn" that many people experience in dating, (that I never really do, not ghosting, that I do experience)

Here's my summation: in the rush to "lock people down", and the immediate knowledge of other options, and the paranoia of someone "talking to other people", people rush very quickly into relationships, without giving each other room to breathe, and then end up disillusioned. A few girl friends of mine repeatedly describe scenarios that match

The optimization of APP dating, someone meets some qualifiers, "he wants long term" "he's good looking enough", "we had fun dates", lets get into a relationship RIGHT NOW. But, you don't really know that person intimately,. but no one wants the other person to "get away".

I think people do because they get scared that if they don't that person will find someone "better than him"

Like i was talking to a female acquaintance today and she was telling me how she's been going out with these two guys for the past couple weeks and both are great etc., but recently a 3rd guy popped up and he's a software engineer and blah blah and now that guy is in the "lead".

Thats the thing about these apps and people on them, a swipe away is someone that "looks better"or has "bigger boobs", or a "bigger az"z, or a "better job", or a "better body, is taller etc". you're never really satisfied.

 

[skyrunner1]

Sometimes I feel like I need a woman who won't mind and will lowkey encourage me having another woman.

Only way ever pulled that off was get a girl who like girls and she a dam near honey pot



But will introduce a whole other set of issues..

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

wow smh

 

[skyrunner1]

What issues

Just opens the door for jealousy and trust issues type shyt.. Just unnecessary stuff. I was kicking it with this one for a little minute, she was flighty type so I already knew what it was but it was cool.. Then she get accepted to some training for flight attendant and leaving town before she left we kick it with her friend and they basically set up a threesome.. Wow ok cool.. She leavin but her friend still in town, she know wats up as I told her wat she introduced but when shyt pop off she still got mad We worked it out and was cool after but just unnecessary BS. This was few years ago, she still send me shyt for my bday

 

[International Playa]

A convo this weekend, I was attempting to explain the "crash and burn" that many people experience in dating, (that I never really do, not ghosting, that I do experience)

Here's my summation: in the rush to "lock people down", and the immediate knowledge of other options, and the paranoia of someone "talking to other people", people rush very quickly into relationships, without giving each other room to breathe, and then end up disillusioned. A few girl friends of mine repeatedly describe scenarios that match

The optimization of APP dating, someone meets some qualifiers, "he wants long term" "he's good looking enough", "we had fun dates", lets get into a relationship RIGHT NOW. But, you don't really know that person intimately,. but no one wants the other person to "get away".

I think people do because they get scared that if they don't that person will find someone "better than him"

Like i was talking to a female acquaintance today and she was telling me how she's been going out with these two guys for the past couple weeks and both are great etc., but recently a 3rd guy popped up and he's a software engineer and blah blah and now that guy is in the "lead".

Thats the thing about these apps and people on them, a swipe away is someone that "looks better"or has "bigger boobs", or a "bigger az"z, or a "better job", or a "better body, is taller etc". you're never really satisfied.

I matched with this 28 year old female, last week. I gave her a compliment & she asked me straight up what I do for a living. I told her Nursing (I'm actually an architect) she unmatched me quickly

Dating apps, some women expect you to tick all her boxes.

 

[re'up]

Dating apps sold everyone the idea that this results based approach would optimize the messy process of dating, but I think it helps the business model of apps.

Don't have all the stats about user growth and success rate/who deletes the app/who goes back to it. And yes, I understand women are on a clock.

Said this before on here, and I am still kind of thinking this through, but you think of all the people in your life, and how many did you put through a highly calibrated screening process, regarding the entire future? And how many did you treat in the manner of if we don't fit it's over? You're done. Probably none. Not your homies, not the first person you fell in love with, probably not the last one.

People meet and start texting each other good morning good night every day and night, for a month, sleep together 3 times, and think that is the kind of intimacy where you really know someone, to spend your life with.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

huh

 

[DJSmooth]

I matched with this 28 year old female, last week. I gave her a compliment & she asked me straight up what I do for a living. I told her Nursing (I'm actually an architect) she unmatched me quickly

Dating apps, some women expect you to tick all her boxes.

I would have said "I'm a medical professional".

I wouldn't have told no woman that I'm a male nurse

I wouldn't even respond if the first question is what do you do but nurses be making bank so not sure why she unmatched? that's crazy.

 

[Ahadi]

I wouldn't even respond if the first question is what do you do but nurses be making bank so not sure why she unmatched? that's crazy.

Doesn’t sound cool in front of her “sisterhood”

He gotta be the head of neuropediatricalgastrodental chief officer of the the entire hospital

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

whatever

 

[darius19]

Is it safe to assume any chick now has a bunch of dudes she’s talking to in IG DMs, Snapchat, etc. even if she doesn’t have dating apps?

Or am I just disillusioned. Just wanted a sense check lol

 

[WIA20XX]

Is it safe to assume any chick now has a bunch of dudes she’s talking to in IG DMs, Snapchat, etc. even if she doesn’t have dating apps?

Or am I just disillusioned. Just wanted a sense check lol

Depends on her age
How fine she is
How "cultured" she is.
Who her friends are
How plugged in she is.

Like if it was hot little 22 year old - she's got 100's of guys trying to get at her, prolly only really talking to 2-3. But let that dude mess up, there's 100 to take his place.

If the chick is 35 - she might have a dozen matches, but prolly still thinking about her Ex and how she messed it up with him.

 

[MikelArteta]

Is it safe to assume any chick now has a bunch of dudes she’s talking to in IG DMs, Snapchat, etc. even if she doesn’t have dating apps?

Or am I just disillusioned. Just wanted a sense check lol

yes
even not being on a dating app, men at work, exes, male "friends", followers on instagram

 

[darius19]

yes
even not being on a dating app, men at work, exes, male "friends", followers on instagram

breh can I DM you? Need some advice, looks like your profile is restricted

 

[MikelArteta]

Any chick you talk to on an app. Screen cap a photo and run it through pimeyes or facecheck.Id sometimes you’ll be shocked.

I’ve stated before I was talking to a chick then found out she has done hardcore porn in the past and her vids all over the web. Also another chick found out she had a livejasmin cam account