“Help him” turning people into your therapist is the worst thing you can do. Nothing normal about trama bounding.
Focusing on self doesnt = being a hermit.
nikka is not in the mental and probably physical state to be in a relationship.
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“Help him” turning people into your therapist is the worst thing you can do. Nothing normal about trama bounding.
Focusing on self doesnt = being a hermit.
nikka is not in the mental and probably physical state to be in a relationship.
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I didn’t say anything about the person being his therapist.
Physical state to be in a relationship
Relationship have different levels and progressions. IF he finds someone that benefits him within the right boundaries that is a good thing.
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I’ll tell you what, energy transfer is real. So if he’s fukked up, he’s gona end up transferring his BS into her.
Plus he’ll be doing a disservice to himself and her by providing lackluster sex because he’s “off” and in another space.
Plus he’ll be doing a disservice to himself and her by providing lackluster sex because he’s “off” and in another space.
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Most of my self-esteem issues stems from this.I didn’t say anything about the person being his therapist.
Physical state to be in a relationship
Relationship have different levels and progressions. IF he finds someone that benefits him within the right boundaries that is a good thing.
I was heavy my whole life. I've lost weight, but in my mind I'm still that fat boy nobody wanted to dance with at parties.
Here's my progress.
Undead Ban's Before and After Thread.
I been meaning to make a thread like this for a while and I just saw some old pictures of myself. I think at my heaviest I was 330. I'm 210 now and I want to be under 200 Mostly intermittent fasting and a home gym routine.
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Im walking away from the dating game.Im talking to a woman now and feel shes the one but at same time if God sees she isnt im content being single forever 
. Too much out here and too many situations etc. Yes life is hard but peace of mind is priceless .Alot of people say get a passport and im like for what ?To deal with them foreign headaches is a negative for me. When you get older or middle age you dont follow popular trends. Good luck to yall in this trash dating game and if you hooking up good luck because so many STD,false rape accusations,drama etc. Crazy out here 
. Too much out here and too many situations etc. Yes life is hard but peace of mind is priceless .Alot of people say get a passport and im like for what ?To deal with them foreign headaches is a negative for me. When you get older or middle age you dont follow popular trends. Good luck to yall in this trash dating game and if you hooking up good luck because so many STD,false rape accusations,drama etc. Crazy out here
I didn’t say anything about the person being his therapist.
Physical state to be in a relationship
Relationship have different levels and progressions. IF he finds someone that benefits him within the right boundaries that is a good thing.
are you reading his post? the nikka is not going to be able to manage that shyt hence he needs to focus on self.
battle internal demons and give advise to spread it to the world brehs
you aren't ready for a relationship.Im walking away from the dating game.Im talking to a woman now and feel shes the one but at same time if God sees she isnt im content being single forever
No such thing as 'the one'.
dead the Disney fantasy.
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ugly duckling syndrome. I am slightly experiencing this as well.Most of my self-esteem issue stems from this.
I was heavy my whole life. I've lost weight, but in my mind I'm still that fat boy nobody wanted to dance with at parties.
Here's my progress.
Undead Ban's Before and After Thread.
I been meaning to make a thread like this for a while and I just saw some old pictures of myself. I think at my heaviest I was 330. I'm 210 now and I want to be under 200 Mostly intermittent fasting and a home gym routine.
To be real man you’re pretty defined for your body type, loc game looks on point, appear to be groomed, and appear to be above average height.
Ion know your story, but it LOOKS like you’ve came a long way from where you once were physically. You should accept this new version of you with open arms.
As far as your mentality & personality, Ion know. That is definitely a personal journey you have to go on.
Most of my self-esteem issue stems from this.
I was heavy my whole life. I've lost weight, but in my mind I'm still that fat boy nobody wanted to dance with at parties.
Here's my progress.
Undead Ban's Before and After Thread.
I been meaning to make a thread like this for a while and I just saw some old pictures of myself. I think at my heaviest I was 330. I'm 210 now and I want to be under 200 Mostly intermittent fasting and a home gym routine.
Good to see that you've changed for the better.
In terms of the females and your self image - definitely holla at a professional. Its 2023, it's cool to have a good sense of self.
In terms of the game, hollering at these broads.......
One of the biggest things you have to get past is that there's any sort of exchange of value, any sort of I am this, so I deserve this.
It's not a transaction.
You don't need to look a certain way.
You don't need to be a certain way.
You certainly don't need money.
Oftentimes you don't really need to perform any type of service.
They most definitely want you to think of it as a transaction...until it's time for them to pay up.
So when dealing with the females, remember it is not some type of equivalent exchange (or more realistically non-equivalent)
hence nikkas need to focus on themselves for a period of time and learn to love themselves.
nikkas are using women to feel a validation of existence hence why this thread is so long and hence why women are giving them hell.
If you can't master self you will continue to be carried on a string by others.
it's idiotic to try and engage in this stuff when you are clearly broken and anyone saying otherwise is giving horrible advice.
Never struggled with looks, or attracting anyone, there were girls in middle school "my friend wants to go out with you", "when you want to do stuff with me" didn't even know what to with the attention, I was still like running with my boys.
anyway, point is, was 18, in jail/halfway house/rehab until I was 21, and when I came out, any sense of self esteem/self ID was totally changed. I had to build it all up, bit by bit, and that's where you really find a sense of self/self esteem/self ID, that's not built on validation from others, or alcohol, or whatever.
And when you have true confidence, that comes from knowing yourself, and what you want, respect for others, once you don't NEED others for (unhealthy) validation, you will detach from the concept of needing a girlfriend, needing to have sex, to prove something to yourself, needing your friends to validate you.
anyway, point is, was 18, in jail/halfway house/rehab until I was 21, and when I came out, any sense of self esteem/self ID was totally changed. I had to build it all up, bit by bit, and that's where you really find a sense of self/self esteem/self ID, that's not built on validation from others, or alcohol, or whatever.
And when you have true confidence, that comes from knowing yourself, and what you want, respect for others, once you don't NEED others for (unhealthy) validation, you will detach from the concept of needing a girlfriend, needing to have sex, to prove something to yourself, needing your friends to validate you.
Mandarin Duck
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I agree with this which is why I stopped talking to her. There's shyt I need to fix about myself before I can date and I don't want to project my insecurities onto anyone else.
Mandarin Duck
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Isolation is kind of my go-to move.
We were actually talking about stuff like that. Self-improvement. Helping each other reach goals. She was actually cool as hell.
I just stopped seeing a therapist, but I'm going to contact them again and start going back.
You addressed none of my post.are you reading his post? the nikka is not going to be able to manage that shyt hence he needs to focus on self.
battle internal demons and give advise to spread it to the world brehs
There is zero reason in life to not engage with people that can benefit you (and Vice Versa) if it’s within a frame work that works for you.
Maybe you have damages that don’t allow you to do so but that’s not an absolute.
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