Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Bout to be two
If they are damaged, they act like this times 100...
Silence and ignore works wonders...
They win once you lose composure/argue/give in
It's constant "shyt testing"..
BlueHeffner
Veteran
The gymHow yall get confidence and stop being so shy?
To smang - all day.
Long Term - that's between you and your God.
I can't imagine that dynamic for a long period of time.
But if you happy, we happy.
Bout to be stepdad season
Yes... As you should.
It only matters what kind of person she is
Digital Omen
All Star
You're both adults. If you're both with it, salute
How yall get confidence and stop being so shy?
It's a whole lotta things tbh.
On the biological tip - you want to up that innate/animal/reptilian brain aggression - which is testosterone
- Reduce the carbs
- Eliminate soy and other estrogenic foods (look it up)
- Reduce the fat (50-70% of American men are overweight/obese)
- Get in the gym and lift HEAVY
Lifting weights, but any physical activity that takes a man to his limits, boost testosterone, but also a sense of accomplishment. (more on this)
With weights, it's easy to see that you moved your personal best up 20 lbs in 2 months. But as long as you can measure it, it's good.
That said, there are plenty of lonely dudes on bodybuilding forums. So lifting alone, testosterone coursing through your systems alone is not enough.
On the digital/mental tip
- Drop the porn, 100% - it wastes time, messes up your circuits.
- Drop social media - in addition to being a porn trigger, Social Media induces a lot of self comparison. And that only goes negative.
- Drop "red pill rage" media - Don't get me wrong, THESE HOES AIN'T LOYAL. But a constant diet of Red Pill stuff, channels your rage unproductively.
- You don't need a 100K coming in to holla at hoes. Indeed, the most "p" getting dudes sleep on air mattresses at they mama's house. That said, some decent money coming in, now or in the near future is key. NOT FOR HOES, but your own sense of accomplishment, your own sense of self.
- The money you make SPEND ON YOURSELF - you spend on getting healthier, stronger, more athletic. But also on hair cuts, skin care, grooming - i.e taking care of yourself and being CLEAN. An in shape dude in a white t-shirt usually looks better than a guy in Balmain and Balencieaga's. (But a tall, in shape, handsome, rich, famous, powerful guy that has female psychology on lock plus the gift of gab is unbeatable - but there are so many women out there that even Idris Future Jordan isn't really a threat)
- Having your own car is a plus. Depends on where you live. It's a big plus in NYC, it's a necessity in Houston
- Having your own place is even better. Economy is different, and this is not easy.
I could go into the hard skills of rapping to females, but that's secondary to a man's mental make up. It really doesn't take much in terms of the mouth piece to really breakthrough on these chicks. Especially for guys that are self aware of their own emotions.
This is the true root of your question.
How do I get my desire for women to the point where it's stronger than my fear of the unknown?
So far
- Max out your testosterone with heavy lifting
- No Porn to drain your juug
- No Social Media to kill your sense of self
- Stack paper and make yourself better, in your own image, no one else's
And what stops you could be a million things.
Few of mine.
When I was first getting my feet wet
- Is she gonna insult me?
- Is she gonna make me feel bad?
- Are her and her friends gonna laugh at me, in a bad way?
Not gonna lie, the rejection stung. But as things go, getting told "Naw" wasn't that bad.
None of that Hollywood stuff happened. No worst case scenario.
That devil in my mind WAS WRONG. But it didn't kill that devil though.
I started to go into interactions with things to say, but also with the knowledge that the downside was just "Meh" from these broads.
But now I'm not afraid of chatting them up.
As time would go on, I'd get stares, I'd get eye rolls...but then I'd get traction, then I'd get laughs, then I'd get chicks lighting up, then I'd unlock torrents of all these pent up emotions these broads had inside of them. Not the showy ones for attention (negative or positive), but realness.
And it was over after that.
Do I still get approach anxiety? Sure, from time to time.
- I'm too old for this broad
- This broad is too old for me
- I Just came from the gym
- I'm not dressed properly
When I falter, I go through my back catalogue of hundreds of approaches and know that it's either gonna be a moment of awkwardness or 3 months of bliss with a chick before I get tired of her BS....
So if running up on a chick trying to just talk to her for romantic reasons is giving you pause, you gotta take baby steps.
- Talk to cashiers and shop workers = not to get a phone number, but to get used to talking to strangers
- Talk to government workers
- Talk to people in line at Chick Fil A
- Talk to coworkers and classmates that YOU DON'T already talk to
- Talk to cops
And then have those same regular conversations with females. Don't even try to get phone numbers or IG or nothing like that.
Just get used to talking to them.
When it's time to really start approaching, the fear factor is down, and the conversational skills are up.
Now when you toss a compliment, make a joke, say something a little provocative - there's another element in the background. Sex.
So now you're gonna get used to playing with that energy.
And these broads love that multiple layered interactions.
He said this, but what did he mean?
The more you play with that.....
WIA
Mastamimd
Ain't shyt
Yes for short term
No for long term
Sleepy Floyd
Superstar
She just went full send today
and in 24 hours she'll be whining about how she can't find a boyfriend