Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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VertigoKnight
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Late reply to this I missed a ton of notifications
My thought is I've been respectful when I see other women my main knows about. I would hope if she did want to see a guy she would do the same.
Atm she doesn't want to, or see herself wanting to. But who knows if that may change. our sex life currently is superb. and she's told me she's very satisfied with it.
But I'm adult enough to know that if I've chosen to do something I would be a hypocrite to deny that same option to someone I'm seeing.
I've mentioned one of the reasons I feel this is working is because we've both given ourselves the option of doing so.
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
its life breh.
nothing is exciting ALL the time.
thtats why its important to have hobbies and interests OUTSIDE of your lady.....
Definitely did the mall thing too as a far back as middle school, for sure a ritual to go and try and get girls numbers.
In person is the best way, personally, the most efficient, the most authentic, and probably the most rewarding. It feels pleasurable and rewarding, and healthy, even if that sounds funny, as opposed to texting which can feel good, but a little empty, like eating straight candy. In person, I walk away feeling a little high, as opposed to texting where it's like dopamine drips.
People are generally less open. Look to phones, look to AirPods, reality tv influences, look at the way some people hold their phone, like an extension of themselves, (pam up hand extended)
in person you have to be kinda unguarded, reflexive, and kind of give and take without pausing, whereas meeting people online/texting gives you a lot of distance. The perfect emoji, a cute meme or whatever. Not the same as being charming, flirtatious in person.
In person is the best way, personally, the most efficient, the most authentic, and probably the most rewarding. It feels pleasurable and rewarding, and healthy, even if that sounds funny, as opposed to texting which can feel good, but a little empty, like eating straight candy. In person, I walk away feeling a little high, as opposed to texting where it's like dopamine drips.
People are generally less open. Look to phones, look to AirPods, reality tv influences, look at the way some people hold their phone, like an extension of themselves, (pam up hand extended)
in person you have to be kinda unguarded, reflexive, and kind of give and take without pausing, whereas meeting people online/texting gives you a lot of distance. The perfect emoji, a cute meme or whatever. Not the same as being charming, flirtatious in person.
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NeilCartwright
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Wanted to ask you Brehs too, how much is your budget per month for dating these women?
Just got out of a 18 month relationship, I want some draws but not tryna break the bank to do it
Just got out of a 18 month relationship, I want some draws but not tryna break the bank to do it
when i first got back onto the scene it was probably like $150-200 a week
i've been winding it down now though. got those bullshyt dinner /drinks/contrived activity type of dates outta the way
now its just movies, walks/hikes, ice cream, and coming over to the crib for the most part unless its a new chick
Per month? … between $20-100
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
Look at it from her perspective… she KNOWS that 99% of the time a man is being nice to her he trying to lay the pipe. shyt has to be exhausting….Women are a$$holes.
I'm training this new girl in my department and she was mad cool. Real talkative.
Another breh will stop by and spark a Convo with me for a lil bit. He tried to talk to her and she was dry as fukk. Like he wasn't even pressing her but she was giving him one word answers. It just made me feel kinda irritated that women be having that "ugh don't talk to me" arrogance and that energy wasn't even for me.
That’s why not putting her on a pedestal works so well. Most men can’t or won’t do it. They aren’t used to it.
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
Yep.
You only spending when it’s new. shyt ALWAYS devolves into tv and chilling eventually
yup. some women try to deny it and say how they always wanna have "fun" in their relationships
shyt is a red flag to me; it scream high maintenance, ADHD and a need for constant stimulation lol
Context matters. I could say 40 dollars a month, or 800, it depends on how you want to run your "sales funnel".
What's your age bracket - College Young Gun, Young Professional, Manager, Senior Exec? Cause if you young, you can be cheap. If you're old, they're expecting to be shown a good time.
How old are the chicks? The older they are, the more they want you to shell out. Is it worth it? The young ones smell better, the old ones know more tricks (c) Lil Tyty Lannister.
In general, I do well enough money wise that I'm not pocket watching, but let that chick's eyes linger on something that says market price, or she asks for the wine list...
How are you meeting these chicks?
- In person - the opportunity cost of going out. Assuming that you're trying to smang after the bar/club. That's the cheapest way to do this, and the best way imo. If you're just getting #';s....->
- Online - the time you spend finding chicks, matching chicks, chatting chicks, and getting them out, and then paying for whatever date you want. Some younger chicks will be cool with low cost stuff, but the closer the chick is to (her) marrying age, the higher the expectations are.
If you get a roster, how often are you going out with them? Even if it's just Netflix and Uber Eats, that adds up if you see them regularly, and increases the chance of feelings be caught (on your side or her side)
In general, I actually find hitting up new chicks to be cheaper (time and money wise) than "old" faithfuls. But the general trend is cats are lazy, and they want to keep hitting up the same broads....
you better go trick overseas and get ya mind right lol
dating just for sex and setting a budget up for it = waiting for an L
If I'm pursuing her seriously 100-200 every two weeks
If it's just a jumpoff she got 2 dates max to come off some coochie. Then it's straight to the crib every time. Sometimes I'll take her to dinner so she can ramble about nonsense without feeling like a hoe.
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Matched a chick, get her number, she flakes … . I make one last attempt before moving on. Set up a meet…. got her IG and I see she got a kid
The audacity. Chicks with kids never fill out the kid part on aops they always leave it blank
They know why they doin. They like how nggas treat them when they don’t know. And she right. I was all chasin this broad now I’m like man whatever
The audacity. Chicks with kids never fill out the kid part on aops they always leave it blank
They know why they doin. They like how nggas treat them when they don’t know. And she right. I was all chasin this broad now I’m like man whatever