Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

i got a question fam. im an avid cold approacher too but with how fickle women are (it was always bad but gets worse every year lol) i am starting to feel like its not worth the effort

i say this having just got home from a 38 yr old persian woman's place, where she sucked the life outta me and swallowed lol . I bagged her off a cold approach, but it be like damn. Why I gotta holla at 20 hoes...and get like 7-10 numbers just to get some action with ONE chick.

What is the alternative

 

[Ohene]

What is the alternative

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1. online apps are too in favor of the women and mostly futile
2. theyre not going to approach me
3. my mutual friends dont really have girls to hook me up with, and the last two times a friend did they were duds recently
4. i dont enjoy clubs really
5. my instagram is still not poppin like that and even if it was, im not tryna trick my money off on clout chasers

I guess I am just greedy . cold approach the only choice for someone like me unless my friends hook me up or i build up my social media
We shall see what September brings

edit: i am going to dial it back though and focus primarily on my book release / work. will be more opportunistic as opposed to hunting for women

 

[DJSmooth]

met some chick last thursday i think. were having some good convos but the last message i sent was a response to what i did friday night - at like 2am

message her sunday night asking how her weekend was...no response

Its a very fine line between being over eager and being too cool . youre basically splittin atoms talking to these bytches

An OG the other day told me,

"Women are to be enjoyed, not understood."

 

[The ADD]

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1. online apps are too in favor of the women and mostly futile
2. theyre not going to approach me
3. my mutual friends dont really have girls to hook me up with, and the last two times a friend did they were duds recently
4. i dont enjoy clubs really
5. my instagram is still not poppin like that and even if it was, im not tryna trick my money off on clout chasers

I guess I am just greedy . cold approach the only choice for someone like me unless my friends hook me up or i build up my social media
We shall see what September brings

edit: i am going to dial it back though and focus primarily on my book release / work. will be more opportunistic as opposed to hunting for women

 

[skyrunner1]

i got a question fam. im an avid cold approacher too but with how fickle women are (it was always bad but gets worse every year lol) i am starting to feel like its not worth the effort

i say this having just got home from a fit, 38 yr old persian woman's place after she sucked the life outta me and swallowed lol . I bagged her off a cold approach, but it be like damn. Why I gotta holla at 20 hoes...and get like 7-10 numbers just to get some action with one or two chicks .

I think this could be a combo of a few things, but from my perspective

-people in general exhibit more anti social behavior and when approached seem more caught off guard than anything (I try to turn this to my advantage)

-As get older, priorities can shift and it can stumble a little lower down the list of what you value knowing the amount of time you have to put in to get that amount of shots up so to speak (especially if you are not in night scene it becomes hard to get that volume on consistent basis)

-Proximity, this is always up there when I speak to guys in general if they are not in a high volume industry or vicinity which gives them opportunity to meet new people easily/passively without heavy lifting. This is a BIG deal, I can see a dude wit little game eat much better than a dude wit amazing game but not able to execute because he works in certain environment that takes alot of his time, he is tired when he gets off and doesnt get out much.

Me personally I can say I see what you mean, but I always LOVED the game, even before I found all this online stuff.. I remember goin with my boys to mall when we were teens and pushing each other to holla, like on some The Wood movie type ish.. Always been a part of how I move so its not really out of character, comin online just codified and clarified things if that makes sense. I try to chop it up with everybody, so it becomes 2nd nature.. In words of Dante Nero, I dont tense up at the super bowl so to speak, we been repping it out since preseason.

Also I am a AND person not OR. So to your other post, I always encourage brehs try multiple streams just like income it doesnt hurt. Especially since some of the others like online dating and Social media is such a passive medium once you have it set up for your benefit. Myself I used to eat crazy online but I havent really messed with it in awhile.. Also just see where you can find your niche, look at it like marketing.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

An OG the other day told me,

"Women are to be enjoyed, not understood."

but I want to raise a family with my Black Wife and twin daughters

 

[DJSmooth]

but I want to raise a family with my Black Wife and twin daughters

His ex-wife divorced him...

 

[RaspberryFitted]

His ex-wife divorced him...

man… that some ole bullshyt breh.

 

[Ohene]

I think this could be a combo of a few things, but from my perspective

-people in general exhibit more anti social behavior and when approached seem more caught off guard than anything (I try to turn this to my advantage)

-As get older, priorities can shift and it can stumble a little lower down the list of what you value knowing the amount of time you have to put in to get that amount of shots up so to speak (especially if you are not in night scene it becomes hard to get that volume on consistent basis)

-Proximity, this is always up there when I speak to guys in general if they are not in a high volume industry or vicinity which gives them opportunity to meet new people easily/passively without heavy lifting. This is a BIG deal, I can see a dude wit little game eat much better than a dude wit amazing game but not able to execute because he works in certain environment that takes alot of his time, he is tired when he gets off and doesnt get out much.

Me personally I can say I see what you mean, but I always LOVED the game, even before I found all this online stuff.. I remember goin with my boys to mall when we were teens and pushing each other to holla, like on some The Wood movie type ish.. Always been a part of how I move so its not really out of character, comin online just codified and clarified things if that makes sense. I try to chop it up with everybody, so it becomes 2nd nature.. In words of Dante Nero, I dont tense up at the super bowl so to speak, we been repping it out since preseason.

Also I am a AND person not OR. So to your other post, I always encourage brehs try multiple streams just like income it doesnt hurt. Especially since some of the others like online dating and Social media is such a passive medium once you have it set up for your benefit. Myself I used to eat crazy online but I havent really messed with it in awhile.. Also just see where you can find your niche, look at it like marketing.

Lol my friend bernard and I did that at the mall as well

I even used to do it with another poster in here

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

There are some concepts like self sabotage you may want to read about it, and get some context

There's also the idea that traditional relationships, and all relationships, friendships, whatever, have a cycle, that doesn't have to be predictable, but there is always going to be an easing from the "high", the intensity of ANYTHING pleasurable, especially something as intoxicating as love, lust, strong emotional connection.

adding on that, generally speaking, most people starts to mirror kind of a marriage like state after 6 months, approx, it's what we are taught socially. And that element of domesticity, toothbrushes and sleeping same bed together, a lot of convos start to revolve around "what do you want for dinner" (instead of flirting/whose house do we meet up at, coming over at midnight and having sex for hours) starts to feel a little more safe, as in this person isn't going to ghost you, but also starts to feel a little stalled? or a little smothering.

To me, you either accept that, and work at it, keep things exciting, traveling, push each other sexually, or leave it, but also realize it will not be THAT different with another person, relatively speaking. That cycle will reveal itself again.

or you kind of participate LESS in that dynamic but that's like breaking from traditional norms, which isn't easy or socially accepted at all.

True
I’m older than most of y’all and this has been what I’ve found too. Everything gets monotonous. It’s not that different with another woman it all gets cyclical

 

[Ahadi]

Do all these bytches fear butterflies?

 

[The ADD]

Do all these bytches fear butterflies?

Amazingly random

 

[The ADD]

True
I’m older than most of y’all and this has been what I’ve found too. Everything gets monotonous. It’s not that different with another woman it all gets cyclical

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

i got a question fam. im an avid cold approacher too but with how fickle women are (it was always bad but gets worse every year lol) i am starting to feel like its not worth the effort

i say this having just got home from a fit, 38 yr old persian woman's place after she sucked the life outta me and swallowed lol . I bagged her off a cold approach, but it be like damn. Why I gotta holla at 20 hoes...and get like 7-10 numbers just to get some action with one or two chicks .

Older than 27 …less likely to flake tbh

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

This dude coach Greg on YouTube super miserable ..I get it that you hate marriage

But damn every video he’s shytting on relationships

Just cause he got fleeced