Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

The thing with hotels rooms and bars, is exactly what was said, proximity. So much easier to take the elevator upstairs than it is to go through some modern ordeal of Ubers and logistics, to even get 10 minutes down the street. but, also, it's always easier if it's just you two.

I always just say it without innuendo, "come back to my room with me", leave it open, leave it without expectation, but mostly people want the little small talk kind of thing, some kind of other reason besides sex/intimacy, so I can charge my phone, so i can use the bathroom, to check out the design

 

[re'up]

this year, at the Setai, and this girl starts flirting with me at the bar, and we have a great conversation, for like an hour, she's got the Valentino heels, crypto exec, something like that and now it's like 2:00 AM, and the bar is closing, I'm like you know you can come back to my room, and she's like no, no, I know I can, but...

I just kind of shrug, we kiss, exchange numbers, and I said something like sometimes this is the only time you get together, and she texts me 5 minutes later, "what are you looking for?" in my head, I think, I'm in Miami, I live across the country! She was 27 or 30, but I was like these people have lost it.

The problem with the hotel close is that, 100% she could walk back to the room, make out on the beach, hang out for an hour, maybe take some clothes off, we don't have to have sex if it doesn't feel right, sometimes I'M not sure I want to, that's fine. But, if you start stammering and laying out scenario's, making promises (even if true) it sounds desperate, and not true, just based on years and years of male/female interactions bias.

 

[DaHNIC82]

I had to re analyze something awhile back.. Why is it with majority of men when it comes to women they ften beat around the bush about what they want from her but when it comes to every aspect in life, We put our best foot straight forward?

When it comes to most aspects of life.. From ordering a Pizza to perfecting a jump shot to controlling a boardroom to even tackling a tiger, Men can take bold action but when it comes to women... Men start being indirect, they start lying to themselves, they start pretending, they start getting nervous, Why you guys think that?

 

[skyrunner1]

I had to re analyze something awhile back.. Why is it with majority of men when it comes to women they ften beat around the bush about what they want from her but when it comes to every aspect in life, We put our best foot straight forward?

When it comes to most aspects of life.. From ordering a Pizza to perfecting a jump shot to controlling a boardroom to even tackling a tiger, Men can take bold action but when it comes to women... Men start being indirect, they start lying to themselves, they start pretending, they start getting nervous, Why you guys think that?

Ill give this a crack, Your examples made me laugh tho but their is no ego investment in any of those, maybe the board room but if you make it to that point you probably repped it a million times or you wouldnt be there, like ordering pizza there is nothing to be afraid about , I think you would be surprised at the amount of people who will at the thought of tackling a tiger tho..The closest thing I would say is like a sales job, where getting rejected becomes like second nature.. Its where some will say its a numbers game but also a skill where you can improve.


Most guys dont have enough options to not be invested, especially young, dudes zoom in on "this one girl" and then project all types of things on to her, if she rejects him they are soo invested they take it like she is rejecting their whole bloodline and they are not worthy, lol.. So they are willing to play the friend hoping to friend their way into bed with them. It RARELY works because she is getting all the relationship benefits without giving anything up, you basically a hoe, a time hoe (might as well link a classic and let one of the goats break it down) They need more options, they need to get comfortable with rejection and they need to not pedestalize that "one girl" most likely..

If they are beating around the bush, they are probably insecure, or have trouble being direct with people overall.. That might be a whole other thing tho..

 

[re'up]

I had to re analyze something awhile back.. Why is it with majority of men when it comes to women they ften beat around the bush about what they want from her but when it comes to every aspect in life, We put our best foot straight forward?

When it comes to most aspects of life.. From ordering a Pizza to perfecting a jump shot to controlling a boardroom to even tackling a tiger, Men can take bold action but when it comes to women... Men start being indirect, they start lying to themselves, they start pretending, they start getting nervous, Why you guys think that?

Most people probably don't put their best foot straight forward on most or many things, but I get the point, here's my perspective, on what I think you are asking, good answer above too.

so, men/women are socialized and conditioned, to not be honest with each other. and this is how they are trained, taught, told, they will get what they want. it goes back to whenever, biblical times, but to use some more modern examples, the whole idea that Men Are From Mars: Women are From Venus. Women are taught the same, not to tell men they like them, or give too much too fast, or whatever, even if they want to.

the base concepts of that are that women and men are play a version of a game, with both parties essentially manipulating the other into getting what they want, which is the opposite of putting your best foot straight forward. It's indirect, it's implicit. Business is sometimes taught that way, depending on who you learn from. My thing is I actually try to do this. Lead with my best every time. No lies, no bullshyt, no false promises, but here's what I think, people prefer the bullshyt, both sexes.

 

[skyrunner1]

Most people probably don't put their best foot straight forward on most or many things, but I get the point, here's my perspective, on what I think you are asking, good answer above too.

so, men/women are socialized and conditioned, to not be honest with each other. and this is how they are trained, taught, told, they will get what they want. it goes back to whenever, biblical times, but to use some more modern examples, the whole idea that Men Are From Mars: Women are From Venus. Women are taught the same, not to tell men they like them, or give too much too fast, or whatever, even if they want to.

the base concepts of that are that women and men are play a version of a game, with both parties essentially manipulating the other into getting what they want, which is the opposite of putting your best foot straight forward. It's indirect, it's implicit. Business is sometimes taught that way, depending on who you learn from. My thing is I actually try to do this. Lead with my best every time. No lies, no bullshyt, no false promises, but here's what I think, people prefer the bullshyt, both sexes.

There are articles and studies on "good lies" and how they are better in certain situations.. If you been in the game long enough, you would even think women want a good lie than the honest truth. When a man gets a desired result doing one over the other enough times it becomes the nail in coffin

Honesty Isn't Always the Best Policy in Relationships. Here's When Experts Say It Might Be Better to Lie

Experts share notable exceptions to the golden rule of telling the truth

time.com

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Dear men have some standards

Learn how to reject women. If the chick doesn't fit your requirements, replace her. Stop focusing on just one broad. She's not special, there's a bunch of carbon copies out there lmao

Have a list of traits you're looking for in a woman. If one have green flags, give her an opportunity. If she's acting dumb, on to the next one

The issue with simps is they simp over a woman's looks instead of evaluating a woman's character. Simps aren't honest with women because they aren't with themselves. Dudes talking about "I wanna drink your bath water" TF lmao

If you find the woman sexually attractive, don't hide it. She wants to know you have the balls to approach her. And if you're lucky, she'll even gargle your balls haha

Stop playing it safe!

 

[NoirDynosaur]

@africngiant For flirting game, remember a majority is push-pull

Sarcasm in a playful tone

When you flirt with these broads, be better than her. Act like a bit cocky and somewhat arrogant, these hoes want a challenge

Remember, you are that dude. Act like him.

 

[DA_LURKA]

I had to re analyze something awhile back.. Why is it with majority of men when it comes to women they ften beat around the bush about what they want from her but when it comes to every aspect in life, We put our best foot straight forward?

When it comes to most aspects of life.. From ordering a Pizza to perfecting a jump shot to controlling a boardroom to even tackling a tiger, Men can take bold action but when it comes to women... Men start being indirect, they start lying to themselves, they start pretending, they start getting nervous, Why you guys think that?

They simply don't wanna mess up their chance at getting some p*ssy...

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

They simply don't wanna mess up their chance at getting some p*ssy...

Funny thing is u probably get more box if men were honest

Also u save so much time

 

[the elastic]

These Mexicans be out here landscaping with COWBOY BOOTS ON!

 

[Ahadi]

Funny thing is u probably get more box if men were honest

Also u save so much time

Yup. I rather be straight up / blunt then act cowardly.

 

[Brandsdale]

why give out your number if you got a husband?

 

[Apollo Creed]

why give out your number if you got a husband?

because she is tryna cheat OR thinks you are a simp who will give her boyfriend energy with no sex

 

[Brandsdale]

because she is tryna cheat OR thinks you are a simp who will give her boyfriend energy with no sex

figured lol

She seems really nice, but its just weird to hear after giving out ya number