He llkst the plot, people stopped going to dating apps for relationships a long time ago. That’s not because of the app. The paradox of choice always existed with casual sex.
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He llkst the plot, people stopped going to dating apps for relationships a long time ago. That’s not because of the app. The paradox of choice always existed with casual sex.
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Im thinking about spinning the block on my ex. I broke things off 3 months ago bc she didnt like the job choice i made, felt like i was being backed into a corner. There were other things going on as well
But now i did some restructuring and im about to be debt free. That stress and anxiousness is gone when i wake up in the morning. That played a part in the strain on our relationship. So instead of me meeting someone completely new giving them this new version of me (id feel like a bad person tbh
) I wanted to double back to my ex
Idk if im trippen or not but we supposed to meet up on Sunday
But now i did some restructuring and im about to be debt free. That stress and anxiousness is gone when i wake up in the morning. That played a part in the strain on our relationship. So instead of me meeting someone completely new giving them this new version of me (id feel like a bad person tbh
) I wanted to double back to my exIdk if im trippen or not but we supposed to meet up on Sunday
What does that change about her not liking the job choice?Im thinking about spinning the block on my ex. I broke things off 3 months ago bc she didnt like the job choice i made, felt like i was being backed into a corner. There were other things going on as well
But now i did some restructuring and im about to be debt free. That stress and anxiousness is gone when i wake up in the morning. That played a part in the strain on our relationship. So instead of me meeting someone completely new giving them this new version of me (id feel like a bad person tbh
Idk if im trippen or not but we supposed to meet up on Sunday
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It doesnt change anything. But i ended up leaving that job she was trippen over and got one in my field.
Maybe the whole thing is wishful thinking. It doesnt change the other sticking points in the relationship, but it was 18 months in total and she knows everything about me..im in atlanta so theres no shortage of women but at 29 ima have to start over
Has she indicated she wants to get back together?
Did you leave the door open when you ended things with her?Im thinking about spinning the block on my ex. I broke things off 3 months ago bc she didnt like the job choice i made, felt like i was being backed into a corner. There were other things going on as well
But now i did some restructuring and im about to be debt free. That stress and anxiousness is gone when i wake up in the morning. That played a part in the strain on our relationship. So instead of me meeting someone completely new giving them this new version of me (id feel like a bad person tbh
Idk if im trippen or not but we supposed to meet up on Sunday
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We havent had that conversation yet. When i broke it off 3 months ago she didnt want to end it.
At a minimum im hoping that tomorrow can provide some clarity on the whole thing. Bc if shes open then ill go from there but if not then ill just move on and find someone new.
The tipping point for me reaching back out to her fr was when i was able to get rid of all the debt i had. I feel like a new man. I wondered if i was wrong for not enjoying this new phase with the one who was w/me through the rougher patches
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I didnt really mention it. There were a handful of things that we both were working on so things were not exactly great. When she started trippen about the job and basically gave an ultimatum i said i cant do it. The job was a non profit to advocate for LGBTQ rights, and i was trying to get back into my field, that non profit was just to pay the bills.
We havent really spoke since then. She texted me a while back on some "im sorry if i ever did anything etc, if i wasnt what you needed etc". Even in that text she centered it around religion. I think that was mainly just closure for her.
I mean she’s probably sleeping with 1-2 dudes minimum so gotta navigate that.
That “I’m sorry if I….blah blah” apology is never sincere. You are probably right it was just her way of getting closure. If you try to get her back, be prepared for her messing with other dudes again while y’all were not together.
Im thinking about spinning the block on my ex. I broke things off 3 months ago bc she didnt like the job choice i made, felt like i was being backed into a corner. There were other things going on as well
But now i did some restructuring and im about to be debt free. That stress and anxiousness is gone when i wake up in the morning. That played a part in the strain on our relationship. So instead of me meeting someone completely new giving them this new version of me (id feel like a bad person tbh
Idk if im trippen or not but we supposed to meet up on Sunday
You’re desperate.
Your ex is an ex for a reason. No take backs
Can’t remember if I asked this or not, but do y’all delete and download y’all apps after some time or just stay on them?
I ain’t been on in a min cuz they was doing bullshyt to my account because I kept deleting them after a few weeks.
I ain’t been on in a min cuz they was doing bullshyt to my account because I kept deleting them after a few weeks.
Read a few in depth/more academic pieces on dating apps and a book called Rethinking Sex, by Christine Emba, last year,----these are all valid points. which are fleshed out way further in what I read, but this isn't off point at all.
The book had a chapter on dating apps, that laid all that out with reporting, interviews, research. Just the slot machine concept is borne out in research abut social media, the idea of intermittent reward theory, dopamine hits, starts to feel better than the relative awkwardness of meeting up with near strangers.
And, this is just me talking now, this doesn't really bother ME like that, but for a lot of people, in a relationship, or like in the stages of that structure, the threat of someone just pulling out a phone and having a date/hook up/ that night can't be a good feeling. There's always people in our spheres, but that's like calling an escort, but legit.
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