Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

Rejection is also a form of power, as in the formula

if I reject X amount of people, that means X amount want me, and therefore am highly coveted

and a sense of control, to control an essentially uncontrollable situation; which is who will want you, and when they will want you. and how they will want you.

 

[re'up]

Met the baddest Puerto Rican girl the other night, was at a spot in San Diego, happened to have two really bad/flashy girls with me, everyone switching around and chaos, at the bar she started talking to the girls, and then me, and then the usual musical chairs, I was trying to duck the two with me, and talk to her

Complimented her shoes, and was like "those are Valentino new line right"

and she says these are fake, but I got them in S. Korea, and we were on a good convo from there.

 

[The ADD]

 

[re'up]

People too much use text as like a either

a) a signaling medium

b) all or nothing/ as in, we text all day and have to say goodbye and goodnight, talk to you later or ELSE

I usually have a purpose, like an invite, or something we connect on, (to laugh at, to inform, whatever) so you have some foundation. After 30 texts, what does a goodnight or goodbye even mean? what are you talking about? what's the purpose?

what people are really asking for is constant reassurance.

 

[DJSmooth]

lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them

I had a chick with 3 jobs drive an hour during the week to come fukk me before regularly. No such thing as a busy woman. Most hoes don't even have real hobbies outside of work.

 

[MikelArteta]

I had a chick with 3 jobs drive an hour during the week to come fukk me before regularly. No such thing as a busy woman. Most hoes don't even have real hobbies outside of work.

yup like I said everyone is looking at their phone hours a day. That to busy to text woman is texting someone else.

 

[re'up]

This is a difference that I always point out: they may be on their phone 24/7, but what is their volume of send and received messages? if you ever have that opportunity, try to manage the responses and volume of that kind of texts. Hold some girls phone for an hour. And see that it's like a flood sometimes.

I have no dating apps, no social media, only Lyft and Air BNB, no group chats, my personal phone gets maybe a half dozen texts/text convo initiations/day. Few close friends. Maybe my sister. Maybe a woman or two. Maybe. Some days it may get none. Or one text. Plenty of women I know have dozens and dozens of messages coming in all day. Voice messages, regular voice mails.

The women I know that are very pursued are flooded with DM's, texts, from guys. Then there's dating app messages. Whats APP. Snap. Tik Tok.

I don't ghost or late respond or whatever, but you can be 100% sure I saw the text. People I described above? Maybe not. Some women/men treat it like clearing a work email inbox. They prioritize maybe 3-5 people and the rest they get to when they get to.

 

[Apollo Creed]

This is a difference that I always point out: they may be on their phone 24/7, but what is their volume of send and received messages? if you ever have that opportunity, try to manage the responses and volume of that kind of texts. Hold some girls phone for an hour. And see that it's like a flood sometimes.

I have no dating apps, no social media, only Lyft and Air BNB, no group chats, my personal phone gets maybe a half dozen texts/text convo initiations/day. Few close friends. Maybe my sister. Maybe a women or two. Maybe. Some days it may get none. Or one text. Plenty of women I know have dozens and dozens of messages coming in all day. Voice messages, regular voice mails.

The women I know that are very pursued are flooded with DM's, texts, from guys. Then there's dating app messages. Whats APP. Snap. Tik Tok.

I don't ghost or late respond or whatever, but you can be 100% sure I saw the text. People I described above? Maybe not. Some women/men treat it like clearing a work email inbox. They prioritize maybe 3-5 people and the rest they get to when they get to.

Thats fine and all but its just confirming dudes shouldnt make hoes a priority lol

 

[re'up]

and EMOTIONALLY managing all those texts. All those invites. how do you do that? That would be exhausting, even if you don't want to ghost, you eventually are like fukk, this is too much.

I get it. The other night one of these girls I probably complained about in here ghosting me, she was apologizing and we were talking about it, but I was like I understand. It's always cool between us, we've been close for 10 plus years. She had a dozen plus guys, probably more, straight up harassing her every day.

 

[re'up]

Thats fine and all but its just confirming dudes shouldnt make hoes a priority lol

Sure. Don't make up some absurd conspiracy theory explanation about why she didn't respond. She either chose not to, or didn't really see it. Probably you aren't the top percentile priority. How you move from there? Depends on the connection. If it's a medium to low connection, I probably won't follow up, even if you may get an entirely different reaction, just a week later. I'll wait until we see each other again, and re set. It's like pulling a slot machine.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Sure. Don't make up some absurd conspiracy theory explanation about why she didn't respond. She either chose not to, or didn't really see it. Probably you aren't the top percentile priority. How you move from there? Depends on the connection. If it's a medium high connection, I probably won't follow up, even if you may get an entirely different reaction. It's like pulling a slot machine.

I dont think anyone is making up any conspiracy. The genera consensus in here is match energy. Humans make time for the things they want to.

 

[re'up]

I dont think anyone is making up any conspiracy. The genera consensus in here is match energy. Humans make time for the things they want to.

Not in here, but you know what I am saying, we have all probably done it. "Maybe she is sleeping" "Maybe she's working really hard" "Maybe she lost her phone" "Maybe she want me to ask again",

matching energies is reasonable. Have you ever heard women explain why they didn't go out with someone, or didn't go out with you? To you, in person? The level of anxiety, future planning, tension, and like intricate scenarios is pretty real in my experience.

or they don't even remember why not, and are kinda like I don't know why I didn't.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Not in here, bit you know what I am saying, we have all probably done it. "Maybe she is sleeping" "Maybe she's working really hard" "Maybe she lost her phone"

matching energies is reasonable. Have you ever heard women explain why they didn't go out with someone, or didn't go out with you? To you, in person? The level of anxiety, future planning, tension, and like intricate scenarios is pretty real in my experience.

Maybe when I was 12. As a grown man when it comes ti women my logic is either she is cooperating or not, if she isn’t I move on. If the bytch got cancer she need to handle that and not be dating anyways

 

[Ohene]

This is a difference that I always point out: they may be on their phone 24/7, but what is their volume of send and received messages? if you ever have that opportunity, try to manage the responses and volume of that kind of texts. Hold some girls phone for an hour. And see that it's like a flood sometimes.

I have no dating apps, no social media, only Lyft and Air BNB, no group chats, my personal phone gets maybe a half dozen texts/text convo initiations/day. Few close friends. Maybe my sister. Maybe a woman or two. Maybe. Some days it may get none. Or one text. Plenty of women I know have dozens and dozens of messages coming in all day. Voice messages, regular voice mails.

The women I know that are very pursued are flooded with DM's, texts, from guys. Then there's dating app messages. Whats APP. Snap. Tik Tok.

I don't ghost or late respond or whatever, but you can be 100% sure I saw the text. People I described above? Maybe not. Some women/men treat it like clearing a work email inbox. They prioritize maybe 3-5 people and the rest they get to when they get to.

all this may be true but even if it is, who wants to be lining up in a queue waiting to talk to a bytch
it is what it is...if she feeling you she will respond more times.

i aint tryna be a c00n but i honestly have noticed non-black women are far more easy to make plans with and that they are cool doing basic shyt like going for walks, coffee etc. also the black women who are i find arent from toronto and are from smaller european/carribean cities and shyt

 

[re'up]

all this may be true but even if it is, who wants to be lining up in a queue waiting to talk to a bytch
it is what it is...if she feeling you she will respond more times.

i aint tryna be a c00n but i honestly have noticed non-black women are far more easy to make plans with and that they are cool doing basic shyt like going for walks, coffee etc. the black women who are i find arent from toronto and are from smaller european/carribean cities and shyt

This is just me talking,---that same kind of thing that you (and I) dislike, lets say the idea that you HAVE to take them to whatever place. Or whatever the demand was or they aren't going to talk to you

that's the same as ME thinking that if someone doesn't respond to me in EXACTLY the way I want, when I want then I am done with them forever.

It's the same rigidness, just applied differently. I don't mean that I am going to wait in anyone's que, I will probably just ask someone else, but I will be willing to engage when they are. I guess that's a difference.