Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Actually6Foot3]

That's one way to do it.

But her getting all emo and aggravated is how she's controlling your thoughts and behavior. She's deeply insecure, probably doesn't think highly of herself, and probably dealt with "tyrants" before.

That's what usually prompts this type of behavior, this type of reaction, even she's just reacting to something in her mind.

Every dude here has gone to sleep with a broad, and woke up to a cold shoulder because she had a DREAM where ol boy did something.

She's probably not doing it on purpose/consciously/intentionally - but the result is the same - She's living in your mind rent free.

So you'll go through this little tough time, her pouting, her stonewalling, or her yelling and crying - and all most guys do is

1) Try to reason with her emotions
2) Silent Treatment Back
3) Placate with words, efforts, and gifts

I been there done that. Most cats that are 30+ been there, and a lot of the time, keep finding themselves under her thumb.

You have two options, in my experience.

Let the broad walk/break up with her for being insecure
or
Invest the time into teaching her how to behave.

Nobody does the 2nd.

WIA

Another round of irrational crying on facetime last night because I went out last night. Funny thing is she was out too Her being out till 4 is okay but me being out till 5 is bad cause "im in a relationship"

this relationship wouldve been perfect otherwise but this is a big ass red flag. If I just listed out all the insecure bullshyt she's hit me with y'all would slap tf outta me for entertaining this shyt. I really can't deal with this.

Everything you said here is ringing true.



Just in time for summer

 

[Space Cowboy]

feeling yourself a little bit huh?

nice analysis ....

bottomline is women expect men to simp for the ass and when you dont comply they dont know how to handle it...they arent used to rejection....

as long as youre consistent with the broad from the texts...you should be fine

Feeling myself? Ha. I wrote it for myself just as much as I wrote it for him.

I‘ve learned all of this far too late in my life.

It took too many mistakes to get here.
”I was killed once before…..by a woman.”

 

[Ohene]

That's one way to do it.

But her getting all emo and aggravated is how she's controlling your thoughts and behavior. She's deeply insecure, probably doesn't think highly of herself, and probably dealt with "tyrants" before.

That's what usually prompts this type of behavior, this type of reaction, even she's just reacting to something in her mind.

Every dude here has gone to sleep with a broad, and woke up to a cold shoulder because she had a DREAM where ol boy did something.

She's probably not doing it on purpose/consciously/intentionally - but the result is the same - She's living in your mind rent free.

So you'll go through this little tough time, her pouting, her stonewalling, or her yelling and crying - and all most guys do is
ty
1) Try to reason with her emotions
2) Silent Treatment Back
3) Placate with words, efforts, and gifts

I been there done that. Most cats that are 30+ been there, and a lot of the time, keep finding themselves under her thumb.

You have two options, in my experience.

Let the broad walk/break up with her for being insecure
or
Invest the time into teaching her how to behave.

Nobody does the 2nd.

WIA

yea, the 2nd is futile - they just revert back to the mean

 

[Space Cowboy]

Anyways brehs if you're upfront and honest with a girl about how you operate DO NOT. I repeat, DO NOT make her your girl.

She will always think you're out with some bytch or eyeing someone. On one hand it gets you in the door cause women like men other women want and on the other shes gonna put you though hell.

Got into it with my shorty cause I apparently "looked some girl up and down" and disrespected her. you really would've thought I was in the girls face. AI did was look at her shoes and that set my girl off. It's part of a deeper issue. She never let go of the image of me being a hoe fr. She got till summer to act right. I'm not battling her imagination any more. I'm in the crib chilling and she thinks I'm out hoeing.

I see why nikkas just play saint and lie to hoes.

Your problem is you care too much. Till summer? No no no no. Put your foot down NOW And make that broad crumble to your power.

Tell her to work on being more secure and trust you or she gets thrown to the bushes.

She’s getting under your skin doing that female yap yap yap shyt. Don’t give a fukk and don’t let it bother you or you will overcompensate and be like “you’re my only love” and turn her off or some shyt.

Frankly you’re sweating the broad too much and care too much what she thinks. Tell her if being with you makes her some uncomfortable way she can leave and go with a man that makes her feel less insecure. I don’t give a fukk. Tell the broad that verbatim. If she accuses you of shyt put your foot down and keep it short. “I‘ve been at home. You‘re free to believe that or not. Either way, I don’t give a fukk. If you continue to accuse me of cheating on you and being an insecure child, the door is that way. You have been warned.” If she keeps it up, bush her.

An insecure woman like this is dangerous. If you do break up expect her to use that insecurity to try to accuse you of something. Of narcissism or abuse.

From now on she either acts right or she‘s someone else’s headache.

 

[Space Cowboy]

@Actually6Foot3

is the broad a product of a single mother without a father or masculine influence in her life? If so she may not be able to get past this insecurity because to her all men leave her.

I suggest most men to avoid daughters of single mothers. They are a ball of trauma And poison.

 

[jay83]

@Actually6Foot3

is the broad a product of a single mother without a father or masculine influence in her life? If so she may not be able to get past this insecurity because to her all men leave her.

I suggest most men to avoid daughters of single mothers. They are a ball of trauma And poison.

Went through this for a year when I was younger. Beautiful woman. The most frustrated I’ve been in a relationship ever.

 

[Space Cowboy]

Went through this for a year when I was younger. Beautiful woman. The most frustrated I’ve been in a relationship ever.

Failed by their fathers (and sometimes mothers). It’s sad but they’ll never trust a man without severe therapy intervention or she’s already healed and we know a lot of these women aren’t.

 

[Ohene]

@Actually6Foot3

is the broad a product of a single mother without a father or masculine influence in her life? If so she may not be able to get past this insecurity because to her all men leave her.

I suggest most men to avoid daughters of single mothers. They are a ball of trauma And poison.

this is a must. its a shame cause a lot of black women come from broken homes; its hard to find ones from good families.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

@Actually6Foot3

is the broad a product of a single mother without a father or masculine influence in her life? If so she may not be able to get past this insecurity because to her all men leave her.

I suggest most men to avoid daughters of single mothers. They are a ball of trauma And poison.

Nah her pops was in her life soft of. Basically he was present, same house but distant at the same time. And there's def some on going trauma between her dad and her momma.

 

[Space Cowboy]

Nah her pops was in her life soft of. Basically he was present, same house but distant at the same time. And there's def some on going trauma between her dad and her momma.

It might be salvageable but you need to lead and she needs to perform. She needs to understand that she has been warned and clock is ticking. Is she in therapy?

 

[Actually6Foot3]

It might be salvageable but you need to lead and she needs to perform. She needs to understand that she has been warned and clock is ticking. Is she in therapy?

Hell nah I don't think it's salvageable. We've been here before. Theres no foot to put down when it comes to a mental disconnect like this fr. She needs help for sure.

I've broken up with her before but gave it another shot.

Feel sorry for the next breh cause this cycle will start up again.
She was insecure from day 1 though but it was easier to manage because she'd tell herself we're not in a relationship she says. She just held it in.

She'd been pushing to move in but a big part of me didn't see that as her seeing it as the next step in the relationship but subconsciously an easier way to keep daily tabs on me so she wasn't left wondering what I'm doing as much.

 

[Space Cowboy]

Hell nah I don't think it's salvageable. We've been here before. Theres no foot to put down when it comes to a mental disconnect like this fr. She needs help for sure.

I've broken up with her before but gave it another shot.

Feel sorry for the next breh cause this cycle will start up again.
She was insecure from day 1 though but it was easier to manage because she'd tell herself we're not in a relationship she says. She just held it in.

She'd been pushing to move in but a big part of me didn't see that as her seeing it as the next step in the relationship but subconsciously an easier way to keep daily tabs on me so she wasn't left wondering what I'm doing as much.

You know what to do breh. Shame but you got lots of options and eyes on you. Do your thing, playboy.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Yo did I dodge a bullet ? Talking to my soon to be ex. She is complaining

"She can't get her time back"

" She feels like she is doing things alone that she should not be"

"Her situation is sad" " she is upset with herself"

She is trying to buy a house when I leave BUT the DMV is no joke!

This shyt is pathetic imo now she feels she is too old on the dating market at 28.....this girl keeps putting pressure on herself for no reason

In her mind she should be married with kids now she is mad . Like this ain't working out why be upset with me.

 

[skyrunner1]

Yo did I dodge a bullet ? Talking to my soon to be ex. She is complaining

"She can't get her time back"

" She feels like she is doing things alone that she should not be"

"Her situation is sad" " she is upset with herself"

She is trying to buy a house when I leave BUT the DMV is no joke!

This shyt is pathetic imo now she feels she is too old on the dating market at 28.....this girl keeps putting pressure on herself for no reason

In her mind she should be married with kids now she is mad . Like this ain't working out why be upset with me.

Like mentioned elsewhere..


"Longing, rusted, seventeen, daybreak, furnace, nine, benign, homecoming, one, freight car."

 

[Ohene]

Yo did I dodge a bullet ? Talking to my soon to be ex. She is complaining

"She can't get her time back"

" She feels like she is doing things alone that she should not be"

"Her situation is sad" " she is upset with herself"

She is trying to buy a house when I leave BUT the DMV is no joke!

This shyt is pathetic imo now she feels she is too old on the dating market at 28.....this girl keeps putting pressure on herself for no reason

In her mind she should be married with kids now she is mad . Like this ain't working out why be upset with me.

She should be married with kids or at least on the path to being stuck at age 28

Black women love kicking the can down the road and gambling their best years away on men who don’t want to get serious with them. It’s a real problem amongst us.