Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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If I'm reading this right, she had no problem prioritizing shopping and her friend over you and your family and had to be "convinced" otherwise. I'm curious, did she know that this was planned before she made plans with her friend? If yes, she deliberately decided not to prioritize you. If no, she still deliberately decided you weren't important.
The old phone post, coupled with this has to be painful. Take your time and process, but that has to be addressed. If, for this specific situation, you switch mental/emotional gears and look at this from the lense of her being YOUR third option, you'll be more offended than hurt and most likely address it perfectly.
I'm against going through phones, but when you have more questions than answers about the person you're spending majority of your time with, AND that feeling hits that something is off, you gotta do what you gotta do. Just know that a lot can be read out of context and whatever you're looking for, you WILL find. From the looks of it, her behavior and decisions are showing you how she really feels, and that reciprocation on her end has to be either forced or "convinced." No one deserves that.
Responding with "ain't nothing casual about this sex" would have tightened her up real quick.For context, she was on a sexual vibe from the very first message. I played along, but I told her I wanted to get to know her. So we agreed to get drinks this Friday.
So we kept messaging on the app yesterday. Mostly about normal stuff. As it got later in the day, she started making more sexual jokes/comments. I played along, and she sent me her number.
She ended up sending me a vid of her twerking in lingerie. I complimented her. Then she asked me what I was doing tonight.
I told her I was chilling, and she said she was doing the same. I said I’m down to meet, but I don’t live on my own. She said she doesn’t either. I told her I could get a room for the night if she was down. She asked if I was serious. I said “yeah, I was already considering it”.
She asked me when I started considering it. I’m like. I said when I was picking a place to get drinks at. She asked me if I usually look for a hotel for dates.
Once again, I’m like
I’ve never been on a date but I didn’t tell her that.
I told her “Honestly no. I mean, I think about it but you were really bold lol”
She asked me if bold turns me on. I said yeah.
Then she said “It takes more than a drink to land me in bed babe. I don’t do casual sex, like to have some sort of connection.”
I told her I was confused. She explained that she needed to connect with the person on a date first. I was like “why did you ask me what I was doing tonight?” She said it was an innocent question. I told her she was toying with me.
She asked if I wanted her to slow down on the sexual comments/jokes. I said no. We kept texting. She ended up sending me a vid of her fukking herself with a dildo.
She said she’s usually not so sexual on the apps, but she decided to just be herself with me. We’re still going on the date.
Reading them @PatCake post and sheesh. It's easy for me to.say this as someone not married but I'd dead that shyt because it's only going to get worse and you are going to sink in a hole of depression to the point your life/health is going to be at risk. Idk how old you are but if y'all don't have kids take the minor financial hit if any now and rebuild
i was talking to a high school friend recently. He and i are both single and we were talking about the state of dating. I basically told him that were at a time in the world where as a man, you either go along with the bullshyt that feminism, IG, simps, dating apps etc. has turned these women into and end up castrated in the process or you hold out til you find a solid chick who's really down for you at the risk of being single.
its really one of those two outcomes if you're single nowadays. I'm choosing to hold out. even in the latter, there is a risk that she changes her mind down the line and gets bored or whatever.
I've accepted the fact that marriage, kids and all that may not be in the cards and thats perfectly fine because all that shyt does is anchor/tie you down in a life thats kinda pointless anyway lol
its really one of those two outcomes if you're single nowadays. I'm choosing to hold out. even in the latter, there is a risk that she changes her mind down the line and gets bored or whatever.
I've accepted the fact that marriage, kids and all that may not be in the cards and thats perfectly fine because all that shyt does is anchor/tie you down in a life thats kinda pointless anyway lol
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shyt....I even met up with my old boss two weeks ago and he was asking me about my relationship status. At some point I asked him, is marriage worth it? Be honest.
He paused
He turned his head
Looked at me like
and said
"I love my family and everything but I wouldnt do it again"
His reasoning was that he always preferred optionality...flexibility...the ability to get up and make a move to better himself (lifestyle, money, career etc.). He used to work at Morgan Stanley (Investment Banking) in NYC before moving to London and back to Toronto. There are people like Paul Taubman who was probably established at the bank when he was starting out - who have gone on to become billionaires/multimillionaires while he holding out for a nice pension.
He also said, "But when people ask, I'll always tell them to go ahead, that its the right thing to do etc etc"
I say all this to say don't be fooled with this marriage shyt. We have all seen the stats. We all know men who are miserable, and yet we still take that leap of faith hoping or thinking we will be in that 10-20% of fulfilling marriages lol. That's fine, just make sure you know who you're in bed with and dont do it due to societal pressure. Because this marriage shyt is damn near a cult and most men who act like theyre happily married just lying to you and to themselves
He paused
He turned his head
Looked at me like
and said"I love my family and everything but I wouldnt do it again"
His reasoning was that he always preferred optionality...flexibility...the ability to get up and make a move to better himself (lifestyle, money, career etc.). He used to work at Morgan Stanley (Investment Banking) in NYC before moving to London and back to Toronto. There are people like Paul Taubman who was probably established at the bank when he was starting out - who have gone on to become billionaires/multimillionaires while he holding out for a nice pension.
He also said, "But when people ask, I'll always tell them to go ahead, that its the right thing to do etc etc"
I say all this to say don't be fooled with this marriage shyt. We have all seen the stats. We all know men who are miserable, and yet we still take that leap of faith hoping or thinking we will be in that 10-20% of fulfilling marriages lol. That's fine, just make sure you know who you're in bed with and dont do it due to societal pressure. Because this marriage shyt is damn near a cult and most men who act like theyre happily married just lying to you and to themselves
Jeez man
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Update: She kept that same energy in person. Literally showed up with no panties on. I wasn’t prepared to match it. The alcohol helped, but I had too many sips.For context, she was on a sexual vibe from the very first message. I played along, but I told her I wanted to get to know her. So we agreed to get drinks this Friday.
So we kept messaging on the app yesterday. Mostly about normal stuff. As it got later in the day, she started making more sexual jokes/comments. I played along, and she sent me her number.
She ended up sending me a vid of her twerking in lingerie. I complimented her. Then she asked me what I was doing tonight.
I told her I was chilling, and she said she was doing the same. I said I’m down to meet, but I don’t live on my own. She said she doesn’t either. I told her I could get a room for the night if she was down. She asked if I was serious. I said “yeah, I was already considering it”.
She asked me when I started considering it. I’m like
Once again, I’m like
I’ve never been on a date but I didn’t tell her that.
I told her “Honestly no. I mean, I think about it but you were really bold lol”
She asked me if bold turns me on. I said yeah.
Then she said “It takes more than a drink to land me in bed babe. I don’t do casual sex, like to have some sort of connection.”
I told her I was confused. She explained that she needed to connect with the person on a date first. I was like “why did you ask me what I was doing tonight?” She said it was an innocent question. I told her she was toying with me.
She asked if I wanted her to slow down on the sexual comments/jokes. I said no. We kept texting. She ended up sending me a vid of her fukking herself with a dildo.
She said she’s usually not so sexual on the apps, but she decided to just be herself with me. We’re still going on the date.
We went to a hotel afterwards. I’ve been on nofap for a few months and it was wetter than the ocean. I did not last very long.
Every man should experience this. It will completely open your eyes.
All that “you have to take me to dinner, etc” is not only cause she doesn’t like you, it’s because she upped her price for YOU meanwhile someone else got it for cheaper.
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All because prostitutes have a platform lol. Women are getting their advice a game from prostitutes / escorts which is messing up the game.
Same here, I’m in a hold out phase. I just don’t trust women’s intentions, especially when they hit that 27-30 year old period. Last night a girl was been “single” pulled up on me, average build Telling me how when she was younger she was 120 (looked way better) now she 170. Asking me “what I do for work, age, location. Just real 4th quarter energy.
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Could you date a woman you have no physical attraction to?
She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.
She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.
Absolutely not
shyt....I even met up with my old boss two weeks ago and he was asking me about my relationship status. At some point I asked him, is marriage worth it? Be honest.
He paused
He turned his head
Looked at me like
"I love my family and everything but I wouldnt do it again"
His reasoning was that he always preferred optionality...flexibility...the ability to get up and make a move to better himself (lifestyle, money, career etc.). He used to work at Morgan Stanley (Investment Banking) in NYC before moving to London and back to Toronto. There are people like Paul Taubman who was probably established at the bank when he was starting out - who have gone on to become billionaires/multimillionaires while he holding out for a nice pension.
He also said, "But when people ask, I'll always tell them to go ahead, that its the right thing to do etc etc"
I say all this to say don't be fooled with this marriage shyt. We have all seen the stats. We all know men who are miserable, and yet we still take that leap of faith hoping or thinking we will be in that 10-20% of fulfilling marriages lol. That's fine, just make sure you know who you're in bed with and dont do it due to societal pressure. Because this marriage shyt is damn near a cult and most men who act like theyre happily married just lying to you and to themselves
Don’t forget a of these marriages have an open component or a spouse swap, or sexless.
No.