Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

DAM Breh, I remember your original thread and sent congrats. I know it sucks but you have to understand its better to know SO EARLY and count your blessings. The deceit and betrayal is too much, this type of stuff and get you lined up and killed. Having a third/fourth unknown party who has access to your closest confidant is not something to play with. Im happy you been blessed with this info so early in union you can probably file for annulment and leave relatively unscathed. Speak to your lawyer ASAP.

This is a present from the GAWDS above. I have a post in my head I been trying to find the time to type out of the shyt I have heard and seen these last couple weeks in my holiday parties rounds I have made. ALOT of brehs are in situations they are not aware of, Its SOOOOOOOOO many women in workforce who are just doin crazy shyt. The Industries I am privy too, its just completely insane. Believe me when I tell you, you have been blessed.

maaaan

when I worked at a big 4 accounting firm I remember there was this cute, tall, slim asian chick on my floor. she and this tall ass white dude were very very tight. even if you had never talked to them you could just tell that they were overly friendly and sexually attracted to each other based on how they interacted and looked/smiled around each other.

i remember one day we had a christmas party that I skipped out on...i think nelly was the guest performer. anyways...i come back that weekend and a bunch of ppl were telling me that shorty was there with her husband or fiance or some shyt and mighta been dancing with the white guy at some point despite that. either that...or the husband wasnt there and she was doing that. CRAZY

i keep saying in threads lately, nikkas dont know how to choose a lady. The signs be there but it's a fine line between being insecure and intolerant of disrespect. I be on the right side but society, social media and lames will have you believe that if you set boundaries as a man its cause you insecure. It's imperative that you listen to your gut with these women; if they do some shyt foul, check them. If they try to get all defensive or deflective ....bush them. Straight up

 

[PatCake]

daaaaang bruh. what now?

Crossroads

 

[The ADD]

Crossroads

 

[Guvnor]

Wife recently bought a new fone. Forfeiting the old one. One she had used for the last 3 years right before we go married. We got married 2 months ago (https://www.thecoli.com/threads/got-married-last-weekend-brehs.1056932/)


Did I not get curious and start reading old texts on her old fone while she was at work

I found out the dude who for some readon just wouldn't go away the first 6 months of dating is the actual love of her life

She basicly tried all she could to get with the guy and he kept curving her. It wasn't him keeping contact with her it was the opposite. And the times he would call he was simply returning the 10+ missed calls she left him.

I was the fall guy. I was the other, other option. Not even 2nd choice but third(there was another dude she'd been waiting on but he didn't make the move. If even said if he did she'd dump meee)

She basicly gave up after the dude impregnated a chick. Then I became the ' I guess this one will do just fine' guy

I'm finding this shyt out after giving her the ring

Damn breh I pray for you and know it must be tough but at least you know the truth.

Are you going to accept things as they are and just play ignorant? Did you speak with her about it or keeping the info to yourself?

 

[Ohene]

Crossroads

take your time and think about it

just know that if you decide to move forward, you have to leave that shyt alone/in the past. otherwise, the contempt will come out in the way that you talk to and treat her and it end eventually anyways

 

[RealAssanova]

Damn breh I pray for you and know it must be tough but at least you know the truth.

Are you going to accept things as they are and just play ignorant? Did you speak with her about it or keeping the info to yourself?

There isn’t any point speaking about anything. She will deny, downplay or worst gaslight him for goin thru her phone.

If he has any ounce of dignity or self respect, he will leave her.

 

[Ohene]

There isn’t any point speaking about anything. She will deny, downplay or worst gaslight him for goin thru her phone.

If he has any ounce of dignity or self respect, he will leave her.

fair but when it comes to things of this magnitude he has to make the decision himself rather than rely on randoms on the internet because its him who has to live with the ramifications. thats why when it comes to this type of stuff I dont weigh in tooo much

 

[PatCake]

Damn breh I pray for you and know it must be tough but at least you know the truth.

Are you going to accept things as they are and just play ignorant? Did you speak with her about it or keeping the info to yourself?

It will be very hard to just let it go.

When a woman really loves, she puts that extra effort and she goes to certain extents for a guy. Man i'm finding out this person would take a day off and spend money trying to visit someone who's sick. I never got that. Every single trip i went to pick her up. When I was sick and far away all i got was 'hope yoi feel better'. Now i'm finding out if I was someone else it'd be different.

When I went to visit before we got married. She never cooked. I'd get there and buy takeout all weekend. Come to find out when the dude would pass by she'd go l out and buy grocery. Ask him 'what should I cook for you?'.

Just last weekend my sister said shes gonna come and introduce her serious bf to me. My brother and his wife arranged a whole saturday visit to make it a nice lovely saturday(said he's coming too). So that means we have to wake up and prepare the house for my family right?
No! Friday night she says "I have date with my friend she's been asking me to go shopping with her. Can we at least postpone your family's visit to next week? Or i'll see them tomorrow late when I come back shopping".

We argued for 30 min until i convinced her that my priority should come first as her husband before her friend's.

Looking back now I realize why.
I don't know breh. I have big decision to make.

 

[skyrunner1]

Drop it broski.

shyt been a blur breh we had Art Basel, Rod Wave concert, Rolling Loud, Usher concert (last night) just in last couple weeks, everytime I even think about it I just smh and mumble wtf. I got to get my bearings, picked up my Coquito this morning from my boricua and getting my cremas from a lil haitian jawn later.. If this cfb playoff game is wack we gon see.

 

[DJSmooth]

It will be very hard to just let it go.

When a woman really loves, she puts that extra effort and she goes to certain extents for a guy. Man i'm finding out this person would take a day off and spend money trying to visit someone who's sick. I never got that. Every single trip i went to pick her up. When I was sick and far away all i got was 'hope yoi feel better'. Now i'm finding out if I was someone else it'd be different.

When I went to visit before we got married. She never cooked. I'd get there and buy takeout all weekend. Come to find out when the dude would pass by she'd go l out and buy grocery. Ask him 'what should I cook for you?'.

Just last weekend my sister said shes gonna come and introduce her serious bf to me. My brother and his wife arranged a whole saturday visit to make it a nice lovely saturday(said he's coming too). So that means we have to wake up and prepare the house for my family right?
No! Friday night she says "I have date with my friend she's been asking me to go shopping with her. Can we at least postpone your family's visit to next week? Or i'll see them tomorrow late when I come back shopping".

We argued for 30 min until i convinced her that my priority should come first as her husband before her friend's.

Looking back now I realize why.
I don't know breh. I have big decision to make.

Sounds like you've been known you made a mistake.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

@PatCake sorry bruh. you should reflect and think about her attitude towards you and if she's been subtly treating you like you were the third choice. If her actions reflect this you might have to divorce. you are better off without her if that is the case. just get your shyt straight if you decide to divorce before you tell her first. no man should have to experience what you just said in your last few posts fukk that bytch, respectfully.

 

[The ADD]

@PatCake

That’s rough breh. Hell that’s an understatement. I’m a few months away from getting married so I have sense of what it took for you to get there.

My only advice is that if you do decide to bail you have it all lined up and ready to press the button. If you don’t then it will be easy to backslide.

 

[re'up]

I am. The date is tonight.


Yea, it’s close to Miami shores. Honestly I don’t even feel the need to do all that.


She sent me another vid

Damn, in Miami?

Esme Hotel
Setai bar Jaya
Faena for drinks, shyt was like 2k a night
Edition, was 1300 a night

you don't need to get a room, but just meet at one of those spots. Miami is the sexiest place I have ever been. But, the videos and all that a lot is just for attention. Happens to my boy all the time, when he meets girls at the club. He gets them for sure, but if it's numbers, they will send sexy snaps, vids, pics, and never meet up.

 

[re'up]

I think that everyone's entitled to a private side of their life. And seeing the visible proof has to be painful, but there's also maybe, you are seeing someone's decisions and thought processes in hindsight, and because you never knew about it, it's shocking.

blow to your ego for sure. But, there are tradeoffs. People marry for stability, a lot of the time, not the crazy passion. I don't want you to tell me, but the sex is usually a major tell in this. A lot of times you can have sex so good with someone, that it makes them act way out of character, losing themselves, (what you are saying the extra stuff she never did for you), it's not always about romantic/stable love. The kind that a lot of people marry for. it's something else.

 

[RealAssanova]

It will be very hard to just let it go.

When a woman really loves, she puts that extra effort and she goes to certain extents for a guy. Man i'm finding out this person would take a day off and spend money trying to visit someone who's sick. I never got that. Every single trip i went to pick her up. When I was sick and far away all i got was 'hope yoi feel better'. Now i'm finding out if I was someone else it'd be different.

When I went to visit before we got married. She never cooked. I'd get there and buy takeout all weekend. Come to find out when the dude would pass by she'd go l out and buy grocery. Ask him 'what should I cook for you?'.

Just last weekend my sister said shes gonna come and introduce her serious bf to me. My brother and his wife arranged a whole saturday visit to make it a nice lovely saturday(said he's coming too). So that means we have to wake up and prepare the house for my family right?
No! Friday night she says "I have date with my friend she's been asking me to go shopping with her. Can we at least postpone your family's visit to next week? Or i'll see them tomorrow late when I come back shopping".

We argued for 30 min until i convinced her that my priority should come first as her husband before her friend's.

Looking back now I realize why.
I don't know breh. I have big decision to make.

Yea the signs were there..

Moving forward, don’t ever go against your gut. That is something i learned the older i got.

That is your best friend.

Anytime it starts to act up regarding a particular person when it never used to, its a sign to get ready to move on.