Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Guvnor]

Is it me or is dating weird now a days. Went on a date with this chick who seemed like she was down to fukk then once we met in person she was bland as fukk. It's like you would think there would be a lot of high interest based off our texting and how things were on the phone, we even traded nudes. We seemed to have a lot in common but in person the vibe was whack.

It's like she sucked at at the art of conversation. It's like the chick had no conversation skills and even when I tried to ask follow up questions like for instance I particularly remember when she said she was into horror, I asked her favorite franchise, she says Halloween, I say oh that's dope did you see the reboot of the series she said no, I was like you missed nothing what about the old ones, she gave me very little to work with. I'm thinking if someone is into horror they won't be able to shut up about it and we could have an engaging conversation but not her.

It got awkward so I flat out asked her how she felt about the vibe and she started going uhhh, I said if that's the case you know what it is, you're not feeling the vibe and neither am I let's just end things. She was like your handsome and have soft lips but the vibe just isn't there right now but I would be down to see if it develops. I objected knowing you can't force it and she basically said she would be down to fukk but she knows I want more of a connection. What do you think I could have did differently?

she said her twitter app has been acting up lately. I asked her to meet this weekend because we've been talking everyday since Sunday. she said she has plans this weekend so let's have a rain check and she wants to get ot know me more and make sure the first date isn't the last date. kind of red flag ish not sure how to play it or when to ask again to meet.

Roger Allen Curry said it best, the girl is a manipulative time waster or she is unsure about you. Either way I would bush her! If she doesn't know after talking to you for a week she would never know.

 

[Armchair Militant]

#How

I’m 27

When I lived on my own in college, I was depressed and socially anxious. After I graduated, I moved back home.

I improved on that, but I wanted to move out before getting the experience. My therapist told me to just get the experience anyway. I started using the apps a few months ago. I had a couple dates fall through.

I wasted a lot of time at home. Miami got too expensive. I’m applying for jobs out of state now.

 

[DJSmooth]

For context, she was on a sexual vibe from the very first message. I played along, but I told her I wanted to get to know her. So we agreed to get drinks this Friday.

So we kept messaging on the app yesterday. Mostly about normal stuff. As it got later in the day, she started making more sexual jokes/comments. I played along, and she sent me her number.

She ended up sending me a vid of her twerking in lingerie. I complimented her. Then she asked me what I was doing tonight.

I told her I was chilling, and she said she was doing the same. I said I’m down to meet, but I don’t live on my own. She said she doesn’t either. I told her I could get a room for the night if she was down. She asked if I was serious. I said “yeah, I was already considering it”.

She asked me when I started considering it. I’m like . I said when I was picking a place to get drinks at. She asked me if I usually look for a hotel for dates.

Once again, I’m like

I’ve never been on a date but I didn’t tell her that.

I told her “Honestly no. I mean, I think about it but you were really bold lol”

She asked me if bold turns me on. I said yeah.

Then she said “It takes more than a drink to land me in bed babe. I don’t do casual sex, like to have some sort of connection.”


I told her I was confused. She explained that she needed to connect with the person on a date first. I was like “why did you ask me what I was doing tonight?” She said it was an innocent question. I told her she was toying with me.

She asked if I wanted her to slow down on the sexual comments/jokes. I said no. We kept texting. She ended up sending me a vid of her fukking herself with a dildo.

She said she’s usually not so sexual on the apps, but she decided to just be herself with me. We’re still going on the date.

You need to meet her tonight.

 

[skyrunner1]

Is it me or is dating weird now a days. Went on a date with this chick who seemed like she was down to fukk then once we met in person she was bland as fukk. It's like you would think there would be a lot of high interest based off our texting and how things were on the phone, we even traded nudes. We seemed to have a lot in common but in person the vibe was whack.

It's like she sucked at at the art of conversation. It's like the chick had no conversation skills and even when I tried to ask follow up questions like for instance I particularly remember when she said she was into horror, I asked her favorite franchise, she says Halloween, I say oh that's dope did you see the reboot of the series she said no, I was like you missed nothing what about the old ones, she gave me very little to work with. I'm thinking if someone is into horror they won't be able to shut up about it and we could have an engaging conversation but not her.

It got awkward so I flat out asked her how she felt about the vibe and she started going uhhh, I said if that's the case you know what it is, you're not feeling the vibe and neither am I let's just end things. She was like your handsome and have soft lips but the vibe just isn't there right now but I would be down to see if it develops. I objected knowing you can't force it and she basically said she would be down to fukk but she knows I want more of a connection. What do you think I could have did differently?



Roger Allen Curry said it best, the girl is a manipulative time waster or she is unsure about you. Either way I would bush her! If she doesn't know after talking to you for a week she would never know.

Havent been posting much in here but I seems like I been seeing this theme lately. Brehs on hookup apps cupcaking with the hoes? I got to really gather my thoughts and explain to brehs that these hoes is GOING nowadays. Dudes is giving "boyfriend" vibes and should be giving off "lover" vibes. This type of stuff used to be understood or explained easily but probably got swept away with all the crazy content that gets posted nowadays for clicks.

Also back to your first question, yes dating is very weird nowadays. You have women who are getting high mileage with no breaks, plus they are suckled to their phone/social media and awkward in person. Have spoken about it before but have been on plenty dates with women who you would think things were a disaster in person with nothing to say, jump out of car and text a paragraph about all their emotions and thoughts, like I was just with you and you couldnt communicate any of that?! Its not even poker face or anything, they just have a hard time communicating in person. You have to be able to use more body language and see how they react from there. She probably thought you talk too much breh lol. Asking all these questions and she wanna get down

 

[The ADD]

Is it me or is dating weird now a days. Went on a date with this chick who seemed like she was down to fukk then once we met in person she was bland as fukk. It's like you would think there would be a lot of high interest based off our texting and how things were on the phone, we even traded nudes. We seemed to have a lot in common but in person the vibe was whack.

It's like she sucked at at the art of conversation. It's like the chick had no conversation skills and even when I tried to ask follow up questions like for instance I particularly remember when she said she was into horror, I asked her favorite franchise, she says Halloween, I say oh that's dope did you see the reboot of the series she said no, I was like you missed nothing what about the old ones, she gave me very little to work with. I'm thinking if someone is into horror they won't be able to shut up about it and we could have an engaging conversation but not her.

It got awkward so I flat out asked her how she felt about the vibe and she started going uhhh, I said if that's the case you know what it is, you're not feeling the vibe and neither am I let's just end things. She was like your handsome and have soft lips but the vibe just isn't there right now but I would be down to see if it develops. I objected knowing you can't force it and she basically said she would be down to fukk but she knows I want more of a connection. What do you think I could have did differently?



Roger Allen Curry said it best, the girl is a manipulative time waster or she is unsure about you. Either way I would bush her! If she doesn't know after talking to you for a week she would never know.

Doesn’t sound weird. Y’all didn’t click.

She offered you the ass just the same so this should have been a win……

 

[skyrunner1]

I’m 27

When I lived on my own in college, I was depressed and socially anxious. After I graduated, I moved back home.

I improved on that, but I wanted to move out before getting the experience. My therapist told me to just get the experience anyway. I started using the apps a few months ago. I had a couple dates fall through.

I wasted a lot of time at home. Miami got too expensive. I’m applying for jobs out of state now.

Wait, you at the crib?! Breh SHE GOING!! What area you goin on date, we can find the airbnb for you breh.. Though shyt might be expensive cuz its HIGH season and snow birds in town for christmas/new years

 

[DJSmooth]

Wait, you at the crib?! Breh SHE GOING!! What area you goin on date, we can find the airbnb for you breh.. Though shyt might be expensive cuz its HIGH season and snow birds in town for christmas/new years

If Miami area he can get one with some nice views and send her some picture from a rooftop or something. Easy layup.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Got a first date tonight been texting everyday for like two weeks. but you don't really know the vibe till you meet in person. and you gotta make sure you turn on the charm and flirt and all that shyt. Learned my lesson from back in the day having more of a conversation and coming off like a friend vs. someone who will fold em like a pretzel, respectfully.

 

[The ADD]

Got a first date tonight been texting everyday for like two weeks. but you don't really know the vibe till you meet in person. and you gotta make sure you turn on the charm and flirt and all that shyt. Learned my lesson from back in the day having more of a conversation and coming off like a friend vs. someone who will fold em like a pretzel, respectfully.

What’s the plan?

 

[Powerline88]

What you should have done was told her you're buying it and y'all are going back to yours/hers and you're gonna use it on her.

The buying it for her part is a lil debatable, some brehs will say that alone is a L but it would've got you in them guts within hours.

Damn, yall right I fumbled. I changed up though and straight up told her to come over and use it.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

What’s the plan?

Getting a drink at a bar then walking across the street to Mexican spot for nachos and drinks. She's got a flight early tomorrow so probably won't be a long night. might walk to ice cream place after. what you think?

 

[The ADD]

Getting a drink at a bar then walking across the street to Mexican spot for nachos and drinks. She's got a flight early tomorrow so probably won't be a long night. might walk to ice cream place after. what you think?

Drinks then back to her place. You got a limited window…..

 

[DJSmooth]

Yall need to move with a sense of urgency. A chick could want to fukk you today and have you blocked by tomorrow.

 

[Guvnor]

Havent been posting much in here but I seems like I been seeing this theme lately. Brehs on hookup apps cupcaking with the hoes? I got to really gather my thoughts and explain to brehs that these hoes is GOING nowadays. Dudes is giving "boyfriend" vibes and should be giving off "lover" vibes. This type of stuff used to be understood or explained easily but probably got swept away with all the crazy content that gets posted nowadays for clicks.

Also back to your first question, yes dating is very weird nowadays. You have women who are getting high mileage with no breaks, plus they are suckled to their phone/social media and awkward in person. Have spoken about it before but have been on plenty dates with women who you would think things were a disaster in person with nothing to say, jump out of car and text a paragraph about all their emotions and thoughts, like I was just with you and you couldnt communicate any of that?! Its not even poker face or anything, they just have a hard time communicating in person. You have to be able to use more body language and see how they react from there. She probably thought you talk too much breh lol. Asking all these questions and she wanna get down

Nah it's not that, I mean I do feel she was socially awkward but I asked if she wanted to get out of here and go to a hotel and she said nah not right now.

I had even kissed her and then when I tried to kiss again she curved it said she enjoyed the first kiss but told me she wasn't into pdas. She said if we went on a walk or there were less people in the spot maybe she would be down to kiss more because it was packed. After that is when I asked if she was feeling things and talked about cutting things off and that exchange happened. I explained to her if the vibe wasn't there to some degree it won't be worth my time. I was hoping the broad would leave but she stuck around, went to the bathroom after awhile then tried to give more eye contact and touched my arm but at that point I was over it and the convo kept being dry. I waited 10 minutes and was getting antsy, she even glanced at her phone once so I asked if she was ready to leave to which she said yes, I told her she could go but I'd stay back at the spot and nice to meet you. Hugged her good bye and that was that lol.

Maybe I could have left with her and tried to make out with her or something but I was good.

Doesn’t sound weird. Y’all didn’t click.

She offered you the ass just the same so this should have been a win……

True but not looking for that, I done smashed over 100 women. I could have smashed her pounded her out and all that but I'm looking for a connection so it could last long term even if it's fwb. Shorty was dry asf! It's like she didn't have no personality or couldn't hold an engaging conversation. I was thinking am I rusty here, it has been awhile.

Seen some other chick an hour after, Indian woman who also was texting like she was down to fukk, talking about she wanted me inside her but said she wanted to grab a drink first. She was fat as hell and boring in person, looking all to the left of me and shyt. I just excused myself and went home. Double strike out same night.

 

[re'up]

I'm clear from the start, she has to know this is fun and I'm going to be open, upfront and respectful.

I think the respectful part is key, a woman wants sex, but they don't want to be treated like shyt or a whore. A lot of guys gets that part wrong and mess up a potentially good thing.

A woman coming into our thing with the mindset that we're not serious but I'm not going to screw her over is a hell of lot less guarded and more open to that arrangement.

This is one of the key cultural norms, ex. that you can only be respectful or even decent, much less intimate, to a girlfriend/wife, and not anyone else. It's something both genders reinforce in their own ways, I guess the purpose it serves is basically re enforcing marriage? and discouraging anything else, to create a negative feedback loop for that experience. That has to come from like puritanical times and norms.

Have a homie who will sleep with someone and then sneak out the door, like some shyt out of a bad teen movie.