Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

nah. you're devaluing yourself by saying that. all u gotto say is "sounds good".

when u start saying "i understand" after a girl cancels a date on u or does something similar, you're basically making urself look like you're used to getting that done to you.

when u say "sounds good", u basically leave the ball all in her court and u give the illusion it's whatever to you without actually saying "whatever".

i've had plans set up with a girl once on a saturday afternoon. day came, i told the girl i'm about to get ready and head over to the place we're suppose to meet. she hit me back on some "waitt, relatives just stopped over. i'll let u know when they leave". i responded with an "ok".

the entire day came and went and i didn't hear from her. and i sure as sh1t didn't say anything back to her after the last "ok". she hit me back like a week or so later. to which i didnt even act angry. i was mad. but we were doing this through text so i monitored my words very carefully so she didn't know.

anyway, about 2 months later. we finally meet and i ended up fuccking this chick like several times a weekend for like 4 straight months. during the time we hung out, she said one of the things that drew her to me was "my patience" with her. cause all that cancelling of plans she did, and all that other stuff woulda had most guys acting unbecoming, cussing her out etc. but she was kinda intrigued by my "lack of emotion". a lesson for yall.

lol, you know what? "sounds good" does seem better, lol

i don't know, maybe it depends on the rapport you have with the chick also. When i say "i understand" i meant it more like "i understand having a hard day, happens to the best of us" I can be patient as far as that's concerned. I'm assuming she's sincere and not playing games and i'm not playing games either. I like to set a frame like "the way we connect when we talk, it's me and you on the same team and our mission is fun and happiness." So then me saying let me know what it is basically puts it in your court like you said. basically telling her i trust her this time but i'm drawing a line in the sand at the same time. here's your golden opportunity if you want to get out of my team. if i strongly feel like someone is not genuine with me, i have VERY low patience with that lately, lol.

but i totally respect your approach though. It makes sense cause like you said it's like saying "whatever you choose won't make or break my day, I'm gonna be where i need to be with or without you." So basically maybe use "ok sounds good" and that's her last shot. bushes if she doesn't reply.

 

[semtex]

Idk what has happened but I put NO energy into tryin to get p*ssy these days. I'm either liftin weights, listenin to podcasts, or doing homework/studying. Being a software engineering major ensures that you become a dweeb to survive

 

[Turbulent]

either way, it didn't matter to me. i had "patience" with her because i was busy with other girls and i had a girl i believe, at the time i was talking to her. so her canceling was quickly forgotten when the next person in line came through that night.

easy to have game when ur used to dealing with females. when i think about the sh1t i said to this chick, i get amazed at the game. i'm not no don juan. but for those of u who lack game, just get used to talk to girls, even girls ur not attracted to.

and yeah this chick did like playing games. but for a guy who had his hands full with other girls, her games were meaningless. girls play games to elicit reaction. she wasn't getting that from me. so she was intrigued.

but this girl was top notched. she came from a rich family. she was educated. so i was free to creampie her everytime we fuccked. that sh1t was glorious. no consequences. if she got pregnant it was all good

LMAO @the creampie part. so ignant yet i completely understand, lol

totally agree with your attitude. their games are meaningless if you're sincere. do what you do regardless of what her intent is. Everything falls into place if you're not playing yourself. Chick i'm talking to right now she told me something like "what i like about you is that you're not pushy like other guys". The key is to stop worrying so much about what they're thinking. You just set your own parameters and boundaries and she's either in or out of those. And it's definitely easier to apply that philosophy when you have other people you're talking to or other stuff to occupy your time. Much props man!

 

[DaRealness]

either way, it didn't matter to me. i had "patience" with her because i was busy with other girls and i had a girl i believe, at the time i was talking to her. so her canceling was quickly forgotten when the next person in line came through that night.

easy to have game when ur used to dealing with females. when i think about the sh1t i said to this chick, i get amazed at the game. i'm not no don juan. but for those of u who lack game, just get used to talk to girls, even girls ur not attracted to.

and yeah this chick did like playing games. but for a guy who had his hands full with other girls, her games were meaningless. girls play games to elicit reaction. she wasn't getting that from me. so she was intrigued.

but this girl was top notched. she came from a rich family. she was educated. so i was free to creampie her everytime we fuccked. that sh1t was glorious. no consequences. if she got pregnant it was all good

OK fair enough. I just can't stand chicks who play games instead of going with the flow, but if it ain't that serious then I guess it's more bearable.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Why do they even do that? Like shyt can't ever go according to the plan with them. Must be emotions or some shyt

 

[TRUEST]

Idk what has happened but I put NO energy into tryin to get p*ssy these days. I'm either liftin weights, listenin to podcasts, or doing homework/studying. Being a software engineering major ensures that you become a dweeb to survive

what do you program in? what language?

 

[semtex]

what do you program in? what language?

Java

 

[Turbulent]

Why do they even do that? Like shyt can't ever go according to the plan with them. Must be emotions or some shyt

it's not always conscious. they do it because they feel like they can. They want to keep their options open and in some way it makes sense. She basically wants to have access to your attention, resources, time and devotion while making the smallest sacrifice possible. She wants that from everyone she feels she can get something from. She doesn't want to sacrifice because she wants to keep that energy in case she needs to spend it on some other person who will give her no other choice but to spend that energy if she wants to be in his presence. All this is sometimes subconscious.

basically she's like that only if we don't provide a better option to her on how to behave.

 

[TRUEST]

Why do they even do that? Like shyt can't ever go according to the plan with them. Must be emotions or some shyt

if you get as much offer from the opposite sex as women do, u'd have problems sticking to plans too. it takes a discipline woman to have all these options and still be respectfully committed or open to commitment to one single guy for a long period of time.

i mean, imagine for a minute a ton of good looking women hitting up ur phone wanting to hang out with u? or the ones who haven't asked yet, imagine reading the texts they send u practically trying to sell themselves to you. when u have all that kinda of attention being given to u without u even working for it, it fuccks with ur head.

thats why so many pretty women are single or they hop from relationship to relationship. once they have issues in one relationship, in their head, they're quick to be like "on to the next". because the reality is, there isn't just a next guy for most women. there's a line of guys that can stretch from here to the moon. so they hop from one guy to the next. when they find that the next guy lacks in ways that they cant seem to get used to, they try to go back to the previous guy. or they go on to the next guy in line.

 

[Shameonyou]

if you get as much offer from the opposite sex as women do, u'd have problems sticking to plans too. it takes a discipline woman to have all these options and still be respectfully committed or open to commitment to one single guy for a long period of time.

i mean, imagine for a minute a ton of good looking women hitting up ur phone wanting to hang out with u? or the ones who haven't asked yet, imagine reading the texts they send u practically trying to sell themselves to you. when u have all that kinda of attention being given to u without u even working for it, it fuccks with ur head.

thats why so many pretty women are single or they hop from relationship to relationship. once they have issues in one relationship, in their head, they're quick to be like "on to the next". because the reality is, there isn't just a next guy for most women. there's a line of guys that can stretch from here to the moon. so they hop from one guy to the next. when they find that the next guy lacks in ways that they cant seem to get used to, they try to go back to the previous guy. or they go on to the next guy in line.

yep, gotta always have options.....most girls do this when their hot, then come back to you when they are dried up shrivled t*ts status



run like django nikka

 

[sixsixtwo]

A Man Is Nothing More Than The Sum of His Experiences - Maverick Traveler

Social Welfare Creates A Society Of Sluts

 

[kevm3]

Idk what has happened but I put NO energy into tryin to get p*ssy these days. I'm either liftin weights, listenin to podcasts, or doing homework/studying. Being a software engineering major ensures that you become a dweeb to survive

You are doing the right thing focusing on your education, but stay in this thread and get your education on women because when you really get things going for you, they are going to start coming... and if you don't have the right way to handle them, they will tear your life up.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

it's not always conscious. they do it because they feel like they can. They want to keep their options open and in some way it makes sense. She basically wants to have access to your attention, resources, time and devotion while making the smallest sacrifice possible. She wants that from everyone she feels she can get something from. She doesn't want to sacrifice because she wants to keep that energy in case she needs to spend it on some other person who will give her no other choice but to spend that energy if she wants to be in his presence. All this is sometimes subconscious.

basically she's like that only if we don't provide a better option to her on how to behave.

if you get as much offer from the opposite sex as women do, u'd have problems sticking to plans too. it takes a discipline woman to have all these options and still be respectfully committed or open to commitment to one single guy for a long period of time.

i mean, imagine for a minute a ton of good looking women hitting up ur phone wanting to hang out with u? or the ones who haven't asked yet, imagine reading the texts they send u practically trying to sell themselves to you. when u have all that kinda of attention being given to u without u even working for it, it fuccks with ur head.

thats why so many pretty women are single or they hop from relationship to relationship. once they have issues in one relationship, in their head, they're quick to be like "on to the next". because the reality is, there isn't just a next guy for most women. there's a line of guys that can stretch from here to the moon. so they hop from one guy to the next. when they find that the next guy lacks in ways that they cant seem to get used to, they try to go back to the previous guy. or they go on to the next guy in line.

So yaw saying, I shouldn't even put time into this bytch, she gotta put time into me. Until then I can do whatever I want and get more hoes, don't just focus on 1 cause they ain't focused enough to focus on 1 guy, too much temptation

 

[semtex]

You are doing the right thing focusing on your education, but stay in this thread and get your education on women because when you really get things going for you, they are going to start coming... and if you don't have the right way to handle them, they will tear your life up.

I'm a master of observation. I've learned so much from not only my mistakes but the mistakes of others :ninja:

 

[kevm3]

I'm a master of observation. I've learned so much from not only my mistakes but the mistakes of others :ninja:

Exactly mane. Always let others make the biggest mistakes for you and learn from their experience, but also realize you will have a few mistakes of your own in the path of getting experience, but never let them be the huge mistakes others make.