Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Follow their actions, take everything they say with a grain a salt, vet and see if they’ve overcome patterns.

Be at-least an 8 or higher as a man (level up in finances, body, mind, crib, masculinity, etc.) and you’ll have all of the leverage.

That be at least an 8 or higher thing is gospel, men.

2023 I was 300 pounds, overweight, depressed, and in a toxic relationship where my good qualities were sapped out before I was discarded. I was down bad.

I got serious about getting my money right, got a decent car a few pay checks into my new job, muscled up and now weigh 215 pounds, and the same personality I always had remains - just inside the a new body with new ambitions and confidence.

My girl and I didn't make it. She ghosted me a few months after I got my new job, and it was the greatest pain I ever felt in life. I was finally getting it together, but it was too late.

but in spite of the immense emotional trauma, I worked out every day, showed up to work (used sick days when the mental anguish was too much but still got paid), travelled, got into content creation, and refused to be a victim.

August last year while promoting my wine reviews (part of my content), I noticed a woman who kept commenting and laughing at my stuff. I added her, slid in her DMs, and said "Thanks for the add. You're super funny and pretty."

I'd come a long way, but I still had the trauma which impacted my confidence to believe anything would come out of it. But the craziest thing happened...she replied....

"You're quite handsome yourself :whew: I'm a little weird but hopefully you get used to my speed."

We continued chatting the rest of that weekend. She booked a flight to come see me 3 weeks later, and we made things official in November.

I healed from my father not being around and accepted his sincere efforts to build with me. Flew out to reconnect with him and met my brothers for the first time.


All because I elevated to an "8 or above" like Ahadi just suggested.


My EX continued to follow me on social media and eventually reached out. Said she was in disbelief that I was the same man she was with, that she feels we would have worked out if I was this person all along, and claims she believes fully her physical health decline is connected to how deeply she misses me. I'll always love her, wish her well, and be thankful for the lessons, even if the love was never what I needed it to be in order for me to be my best self.

I'm on some new shyt now though, so I can't go back to that. This past Valentine's Day Weekend:

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bN8977M.jpg
KBe4110yOA.jpg
fCsJ8993bio.jpeg
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I finally found someone who truly sees me, loves me, appreciates me and encourages me.

And all I had to do was see, love, appreciate, and encourage myself first. And slide in the DMs real quick :pachaha:


Believe in yourself breh. Women can be our best ally or worst enemy. Know yourself so you have the wisdom and discernment to look beyond the ass and titties to see the truth.

13 years ago, I was a lost kid in the early pages of this thread looking for answers. Painful 14 years of lessons letter, I hope I can provide you guys some answers too, or at least some hope :salute:


Just make sure ya'll thank my EX for unintentionally turning me into the man I am today :russ:
 

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I'm in Uganda again and you brehs are missing out perfect weather every day, nothing but black folks .

Beautiful woman with big booties everywhere..and because they take in the most refugees tons of Eritreans, Ethiopians, Congolese, Sudanese , rwandese vast selection

You'll see a drop dead gorgeous chick with a onlyfans type body and shes just cutting matooke at the side of the road

Pearl of Africa :blessed;

My wife and I are living in a 3bdrm house and paying 250 Canadian a month , we had a guy who came and mopped all of our floors, swept, took out the garbage, did laundry washed the dishes and it cost 20,000 Ugandan shillings which is like 6 Canadian or like 4 usd
Im next door in Nairobi right now, i hear the roads, traffic and internet in Kampala are :picard:
 

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Im next door in Nairobi right now, i hear the roads, traffic and internet in Kampala are :picard:

:heh: in Kampala yeah the roads are filled with potholes and it can take a hour to even move a few blocks. Internet isn't that bad with MTN its 5g and speeds are around like 50mbps but ohme internet is pricy

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I stay in Entebbe so really no traffic


mash bus 14 hours gets you to kampala for like 30 bucks
 

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That be at least an 8 or higher thing is gospel, men.

2023 I was 300 pounds, overweight, depressed, and in a toxic relationship where my good qualities were sapped out before I was discarded. I was down bad.

I got serious about getting my money right, got a decent car a few pay checks into my new job, muscled up and now weigh 215 pounds, and the same personality I always had remains - just inside the a new body with new ambitions and confidence.

My girl and I didn't make it. She ghosted me a few months after I got my new job, and it was the greatest pain I ever felt in life. I was finally getting it together, but it was too late.

but in spite of the immense emotional trauma, I worked out every day, showed up to work (used sick days when the mental anguish was too much but still got paid), travelled, got into content creation, and refused to be a victim.

August last year while promoting my wine reviews (part of my content), I noticed a woman who kept commenting and laughing at my stuff. I added her, slid in her DMs, and said "Thanks for the add. You're super funny and pretty."

I'd come a long way, but I still had the trauma which impacted my confidence to believe anything would come out of it. But the craziest thing happened...she replied....

"You're quite handsome yourself :whew: I'm a little weird but hopefully you get used to my speed."

We continued chatting the rest of that weekend. She booked a flight to come see me 3 weeks later, and we made things official in November.

I healed from my father not being around and accepted his sincere efforts to build with me. Flew out to reconnect with him and met my brothers for the first time.


All because I elevated to an "8 or above" like Ahadi just suggested.


My EX continued to follow me on social media and eventually reached out. Said she was in disbelief that I was the same man she was with, that she feels we would have worked out if I was this person all along, and claims she believes fully her physical health decline is connected to how deeply she misses me. I'll always love her, wish her well, and be thankful for the lessons, even if the love was never what I needed it to be in order for me to be my best self.

I'm on some new shyt now though, so I can't go back to that. This past Valentine's Day Weekend:

WI4430jk.jpeg
sXYc2324FI.jpeg
bN8977M.jpg
KBe4110yOA.jpg
fCsJ8993bio.jpeg
Ldw8526zAY.jpeg

I finally found someone who truly sees me, loves me, appreciates me and encourages me.

And all I had to do was see, love, appreciate, and encourage myself first. And slide in the DMs real quick :pachaha:


Believe in yourself breh. Women can be our best ally or worst enemy. Know yourself so you have the wisdom and discernment to look beyond the ass and titties to see the truth.

13 years ago, I was a lost kid in the early pages of this thread looking for answers. Painful 14 years of lessons letter, I hope I can provide you guys some answers too, or at least some hope :salute:


Just make sure ya'll thank my EX for unintentionally turning me into the man I am today :russ:

:obama: eat breh :salute: isn't it amazing finding a woman that likes you for you? You didn't have to simp and come up with some super serum for her to be interested in you?

One thing I heard that has always stuck with me through the years is that a woman breaks up with you because she thinks she can do better than you. Thta has always no matter how I've felt never ever go back to an ex. And its always funny hwo they always pop up when you're finally with someone new or don't care anymore with some sob story or blah blah i was going through this and that. I remember my ex fiance calling me on my wedding day, years prior I would have picked up that phone and feel some relief but I didn't that day.
 

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:obama: eat breh :salute: isn't it amazing finding a woman that likes you for you? You didn't have to simp and come up with some super serum for her to be interested in you?

One thing I heard that has always stuck with me through the years is that a woman breaks up with you because she thinks she can do better than you. Thta has always no matter how I've felt never ever go back to an ex. And its always funny hwo they always pop up when you're finally with someone new or don't care anymore with some sob story or blah blah i was going through this and that. I remember my ex fiance calling me on my wedding day, years prior I would have picked up that phone and feel some relief but I didn't that day.

That's true. Had my ex do that back in October, :francis:
 

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That be at least an 8 or higher thing is gospel, men.

2023 I was 300 pounds, overweight, depressed, and in a toxic relationship where my good qualities were sapped out before I was discarded. I was down bad.

I got serious about getting my money right, got a decent car a few pay checks into my new job, muscled up and now weigh 215 pounds, and the same personality I always had remains - just inside the a new body with new ambitions and confidence.

My girl and I didn't make it. She ghosted me a few months after I got my new job, and it was the greatest pain I ever felt in life. I was finally getting it together, but it was too late.

but in spite of the immense emotional trauma, I worked out every day, showed up to work (used sick days when the mental anguish was too much but still got paid), travelled, got into content creation, and refused to be a victim.

August last year while promoting my wine reviews (part of my content), I noticed a woman who kept commenting and laughing at my stuff. I added her, slid in her DMs, and said "Thanks for the add. You're super funny and pretty."

I'd come a long way, but I still had the trauma which impacted my confidence to believe anything would come out of it. But the craziest thing happened...she replied....

"You're quite handsome yourself :whew: I'm a little weird but hopefully you get used to my speed."

We continued chatting the rest of that weekend. She booked a flight to come see me 3 weeks later, and we made things official in November.

I healed from my father not being around and accepted his sincere efforts to build with me. Flew out to reconnect with him and met my brothers for the first time.


All because I elevated to an "8 or above" like Ahadi just suggested.


My EX continued to follow me on social media and eventually reached out. Said she was in disbelief that I was the same man she was with, that she feels we would have worked out if I was this person all along, and claims she believes fully her physical health decline is connected to how deeply she misses me. I'll always love her, wish her well, and be thankful for the lessons, even if the love was never what I needed it to be in order for me to be my best self.

I'm on some new shyt now though, so I can't go back to that. This past Valentine's Day Weekend:

WI4430jk.jpeg
sXYc2324FI.jpeg
bN8977M.jpg
KBe4110yOA.jpg
fCsJ8993bio.jpeg
Ldw8526zAY.jpeg

I finally found someone who truly sees me, loves me, appreciates me and encourages me.

And all I had to do was see, love, appreciate, and encourage myself first. And slide in the DMs real quick :pachaha:


Believe in yourself breh. Women can be our best ally or worst enemy. Know yourself so you have the wisdom and discernment to look beyond the ass and titties to see the truth.

13 years ago, I was a lost kid in the early pages of this thread looking for answers. Painful 14 years of lessons letter, I hope I can provide you guys some answers too, or at least some hope :salute:


Just make sure ya'll thank my EX for unintentionally turning me into the man I am today :russ:
congrats on the weight loss, job and reconnecting with your father,
congrats on finding your shorty as well.

just calm down a lil breh. thats all ima say lol
 
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I've been wanting to get a neighbors number for a while, extremely attractive, but a little nerdy/highly educated, we have talked a few times and connected to where I just need to ask. You know how with neighbors you'll see them once, and then not for like 3 weeks, even if you walk the same area every day,

So I see her last night, and she's outside, I am in a hurry, but I can do this, in like 3 minutes. Get the number, and make my meeting. She stops me to talk, and I say where are you going out to?

She says "I'm going to a play with friends (or with a friend)", and I know theater, so we talk about that for like 2 minutes, and I'm just like 'Take my number' and she's like ok, and starts to put it in. I get the first 6 digits in, and some dude walks up. Very nerdy, kinda effeminate. But I catch in the first second, that's the friend for the play. And she says to me,' Oh this is my neighbor' So I just shake his hand, and say goodnight. I didn't want to step in on whatever that was/is, but in my head I'm like I just needed another 10 seconds!! Maybe I should have just forced it, but unless that dude's gay, he's scheming on her too, and doing the whole friends thing.
 

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That be at least an 8 or higher thing is gospel, men.

2023 I was 300 pounds, overweight, depressed, and in a toxic relationship where my good qualities were sapped out before I was discarded. I was down bad.

I got serious about getting my money right, got a decent car a few pay checks into my new job, muscled up and now weigh 215 pounds, and the same personality I always had remains - just inside the a new body with new ambitions and confidence.

My girl and I didn't make it. She ghosted me a few months after I got my new job, and it was the greatest pain I ever felt in life. I was finally getting it together, but it was too late.

but in spite of the immense emotional trauma, I worked out every day, showed up to work (used sick days when the mental anguish was too much but still got paid), travelled, got into content creation, and refused to be a victim.

August last year while promoting my wine reviews (part of my content), I noticed a woman who kept commenting and laughing at my stuff. I added her, slid in her DMs, and said "Thanks for the add. You're super funny and pretty."

I'd come a long way, but I still had the trauma which impacted my confidence to believe anything would come out of it. But the craziest thing happened...she replied....

"You're quite handsome yourself :whew: I'm a little weird but hopefully you get used to my speed."

We continued chatting the rest of that weekend. She booked a flight to come see me 3 weeks later, and we made things official in November.

I healed from my father not being around and accepted his sincere efforts to build with me. Flew out to reconnect with him and met my brothers for the first time.


All because I elevated to an "8 or above" like Ahadi just suggested.


My EX continued to follow me on social media and eventually reached out. Said she was in disbelief that I was the same man she was with, that she feels we would have worked out if I was this person all along, and claims she believes fully her physical health decline is connected to how deeply she misses me. I'll always love her, wish her well, and be thankful for the lessons, even if the love was never what I needed it to be in order for me to be my best self.

I'm on some new shyt now though, so I can't go back to that. This past Valentine's Day Weekend:

WI4430jk.jpeg
sXYc2324FI.jpeg
bN8977M.jpg
KBe4110yOA.jpg
fCsJ8993bio.jpeg
Ldw8526zAY.jpeg

I finally found someone who truly sees me, loves me, appreciates me and encourages me.

And all I had to do was see, love, appreciate, and encourage myself first. And slide in the DMs real quick :pachaha:


Believe in yourself breh. Women can be our best ally or worst enemy. Know yourself so you have the wisdom and discernment to look beyond the ass and titties to see the truth.

13 years ago, I was a lost kid in the early pages of this thread looking for answers. Painful 14 years of lessons letter, I hope I can provide you guys some answers too, or at least some hope :salute:


Just make sure ya'll thank my EX for unintentionally turning me into the man I am today :russ:


Septum ring breh?

:mjpls:


Well congrats to you though.
 
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