Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Jewnited States]

After reading your reply this is what i was going to say.... she asking to see your piece, you got the "ex-felon" dangerous allure thing going, even though you are not playing on it and staying on the straight and narrow......... you have no reason to rush things, let it play out organically, matter of fact don't even continue with sex talk. You're smashing chicks so you know what you're doing.

you shouldn't have the feelings of desperation of a dude who has never had p*ssy, never gets it, and is finally in a sitjation to get his dikk wet so he is panicking over every little thing because he doesn't want to "blow it".

Maybe you're over thinking it this was cause she isn't from the same realm. of women you usually mess with so it is a new foreign experience.....

either way.... chiiiiiilllll....... you get to smash and y'all enjoy, then good........ if you don't smash.... such is life.... you will have plenty of opportunities to get other box

Yeah breh you right. I'ma just cool it and see what happens. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen, won't be the end of the world and i will just use this experience as another data point in my assemblage of a personalized world view post-incarceration. That time away from society and women still has me a bit fukked up and I am overcompensating trying to prove to myself that im not undesirable and defunct as a man

The journey of life continues on as I try to figure this shyt out

 

[The Jewnited States]

This isn't meant to be condescending or preachy, or dismissing good advice, but A LOT of people hook up/sleep together/meet their girlfriends at work. At all kinds of jobs, service industry, academia, start ups, nightclubs, hotels, medical offices, dentists offices, restaurants, real estate, on and on.

There is some element of classism at hand when those discussions come up, I have never worked a job with many women, but there are many, maybe even most jobs were it's a part of the landscape.

The points of reference that people are using for the strict no work thing is usually like a corporate job, even a high level one, that has policies in place about disclosing relationships, or whatever. Like the movie Fair Play.

Kinda how i feel about it. I don't have much to lose. This ain't a career, this isn't some high stakes corporate job, this is a grocery store + restaurant and we got a 52 year old chef that knocked up a 30 year old coworker then proceeded to fukk another chick in the same department while the other one is still pregnant. We got two managers from different departments fukking each other. Our old store manager quit after getting all her money taken by a lower level manager she was fukking because he told her he was gonna buy a house for them and start a life together so she put up her life savings to help out and he ran with it


My workplace is toxic as fukk and a fukking clownshow overall

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Kinda how i feel about it. I don't have much to lose. This ain't a career, this isn't some high stakes corporate job, this is a grocery store + restaurant and we got a 52 year old chef that knocked up a 30 year old coworker then proceeded to fukk another chick in the same department while the other one is still pregnant. We got two managers from different departments fukking each other. Our old store manager quit after getting all her money taken by a lower level manager she was fukking because he told her he was gonna buy a house for them and start a life together so she put up her life savings to help out and he ran with it


My workplace is toxic as fukk and a fukking clownshow overall

Damn... you smashing ol'gurl would just be a Tuesday... .

 

[The Jewnited States]

Damn... you smashing ol'gurl would just be a Tuesday... .

Shiiiiit it might not even be news anymore by midday

The chefs side piece got drunk after work and fukked the borderline retarded dishwasher just this past weekend. A chick in the bakery was in a lesbian relationship with a chick in the kitchen until she cheated on her with a dude that used to work in produce until he got fired for stealing

 

[Redwood]

STOP fukkING WOMEN YOU WORK WITH

STOP fukkING WOMEN YOU WORK WITH

STOP fukkING WOMEN YOU WORK WITH

STOP fukkING WOMEN YOU WORK WITH

You can say that until you're blue in the face breh

Dudes are going to do whatever.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Shiiiiit it might not even be news anymore by midday

The chefs side piece got drunk after work and fukked the borderline retarded dishwasher just this past weekend. A chick in the bakery was in a lesbian relationship with a chick in the kitchen until she cheated on her with a dude that used to work in produce until he got fired for stealing

Now I see why you didn't feel a way about going in for a kiss.... .. instilled workplace culture is absolute degeneracy......

 

[JealousOnesEn_V]

Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.

Forgot to give an update on this situation...

Shorty ended up hitting me back, we went on a date and had a great time. She even came on my bday trip to Vegas this past weekend with some cousins and everybody had an amazing time. She invited me to the rodeo this week for my bday too so I’ll be spending the upcoming weekend with her once I’m back in Houston. She’s been very transparent about what she wants and how she feels. Everything has been great with her so far.

 

[Ahadi]

 

[RaspberryFitted]

young brehs 25 and under, do y’all feel the pressure of finding the one and settling down due to the current landscape of dating?

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

had to put my hinge on pause, the love is tremendous

the best one is 28 year old digital marketer....not feeling the fact she is 5'3" I like my woman taller

The other one is 34, software developer, 5'11"....thats the one I truly desire so we will see where that goes

A 43 year old is down to hook up, told her I am not looking for any serious up front

With that said, I am looking to be in a relationship. Preferably within my age 32-35.

 

[Ahadi]

had to put my hinge on pause, the love is tremendous

the best one is 28 year old digital marketer....not feeling the fact she is 5'3" I like my woman taller

The other one is 34, software developer, 5'11"....thats the one I truly desire so we will see where that goes

A 43 year old is down to hook up, told her I am not looking for any serious up front

With that said, I am looking to be in a relationship. Preferably within my age 32-35.

Should be going for 25-27 (anything above those are danger zone / clearance sale ages.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Should be going for 25-27 (anything above those are danger zone / clearance sale ages.

Lol to each his own...I would prefer to be with someone around my age that has her shyt together. Younger woman come with their own set of problems and are prone to change a lot. Give me someone that's more established, make their own money, desires stability and a one and done kid wise. I dont really want to do anything mid 20s Atlanta have to offer.

 

[skyrunner1]

Should be going for 25-27 (anything above those are danger zone / clearance sale ages.

When you playing the generalities this is true but when you get into it for the individual as long as they go in eyes wide open it doesnt always work that way and added nuance/preference can vary wildly. Dont take the "straight jacket of society" off just to put another one on that dictate your choices.

The breh @Mirin4rmfar seems to have a good idea of what he wants and moving accordingly. We all know there are no guarantees, just have to play the odds in your favor and live with results. Salute to all

 

[Brandsdale]

I’m being dumb lol but this had me thinking about renewing vows. How come people don’t do that stuff more often?

 

[Ahadi]

I’m being dumb lol but this had me thinking about renewing vows. How come people don’t do that stuff more often?

Exactly. The whole premise of dating, marriage, and starting a family is built on expectation—there’s always something to look forward to. But once the kids are grown or routines take over, those expectations often fade, leaving the relationship feeling stagnant. Renewing vows, celebrating milestones, or intentionally creating meaningful events FOR EACH OTHER can reignite that sense of anticipation and strengthen the bond, ensuring the relationship continues to evolve rather than plateau.