Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

You’re correct in not jumping to sex for something long term but also realize that for women, that is what they’ll try and use to lock you down.

If she thinks you’re a catch she will try to initiate sex to lock it down. Seen that too many times.

My thing is to try an initiate/tease at intimacy somewhat early on. If she’s fully shutting it down, then you know how to move accordingly.

Not a one size fits all but there are patterns.



Story was a bit vague but I didn’t see anything indicating him trying to smash on the first date.

Agreed. That's why I use the 3 date heuristic. By date 3 we better be in full down make out mode and at the least on the precipice of sex. If it doesn't happen on date 3 we know subliminally for date 4 "it's on" , if she tries to play that coy shyt by then..... well bushes...

 

[MikelArteta]

In my experience inviting a chick over and intentionally not smashing drives them crazy. Cause the obviously play is to try and close the deal. When you don’t and genuinely enjoy their presence and conversation but still showing sexual interest is more advantageous in my opinion. Your results may vary.

In all my years I never had to make a move.

Only three times in my life has a chick invited me over and nothing happened.

And two of them we worked at the same hospital

The other had the sickle cell trait

 

[MikelArteta]

I see alot of girls esp Nigerian against that whole 50/50 type ish.

Toss em in the bushes brehs. Unless she is your wife don't waste bread like that on fly by night broads.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Accept that it will probably end up not happening and focus on options. Anytime I get chicks off the app and it takes more than that weekend to meet up it's either they flake and ghost or I end up meeting them and realize they weren't the effort keeping the vibe going for 2 or more weeks.

yea I guess I can text her like once a day.

 

[phcitywarrior]

I see alot of girls esp Nigerian against that whole 50/50 type ish.

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breh, Nigerians live in your head rent free. Aren’t you married to a Ugandan and out the game

Even in the football/soccer thread it’s the same thing

 

[Ohene]

I think you’re right. In that book I mentioned it gave some tips on how to expose avoidants early. Some, like my previous relationship, are good at camouflaging their damage until they exhaust themselves keeping it held in. That’s when they actually end up self sabotaging so they can escape.

I believe a lot of the dating scene after 28+ is like this.

It is
Drop the books tips
Come on, we need more gems in here

 

[cyndaquil]

Agreed. That's why I use the 3 date heuristic. By date 3 we better be in full down make out mode and at the least on the precipice of sex. If it doesn't happen on date 3 we know subliminally for date 4 "it's on" , if she tries to play that coy shyt by then..... well bushes...

This is way too cautious in my eyes you could cut the extra date. By date 3 you should be fukking. You can be full make out status with a chick and next time you link she still denying you the coochie. If she is she just tryna play games cuz she know once she give up the coochie she has nothing left to offer. Dont expect to fukk on date 1. But on date 2 and 3 you should be trying to smash after. This will save you time and 3 dates can be done in the span of 2 weeks. Remember there are only 52 weeks in a year don't let them waste your time.

 

[africngiant]

Here's a gem: stop letting that girl jerk you around just cuz she cute. Curve her ass today.

“make an entitled person mad today”

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Me: let’s me Saturday at 8
Her: 8 is too late I’m old now laugh emoji (she’s 28)
Me: what do you normally do at 8 pm on a Saturday?
Her: stay in my bed and be lazy (laugh emoji)
Me: I see

That’s bushes behavior

 

[Regular Developer]

Here's a gem: stop letting that girl jerk you around just cuz she cute. Curve her ass today.

But I like when she jerks me around


Just kidding, just a lil JBO

Has anyone been in a long distance relationship or at least dating a girl from long distance? What was like a good cadence for meeting in person for dates, and how long would you try to spend together?

 

[Regular Developer]

Me: let’s me Saturday at 8
Her: 8 is too late I’m old now laugh emoji (she’s 28)
Me: what do you normally do at 8 pm on a Saturday?
Her: stay in my bed and be lazy (laugh emoji)
Me: I see

That’s bushes behavior

Would she be ok if you took her out at 7 and she was kept out past 8?

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Would she be ok if you took her out at 7 and she was kept out past 8?

Maybe but I don’t care. If she can’t agree to 8 pm on a Saturday because she’s usually lazy in bed that’s like 10 red flags already.

 

[Regular Developer]

Maybe but I don’t care. If she can’t agree to 8 pm on a Saturday because she’s usually lazy in bed that’s like 10 red flags already.

Awwww, I feel bad, but probably for the best. 8 is kinda early to be in bed on a weekend, lol

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

I think women sub consciously always testing you too. They don’t even know it sometimes but they want to see what kind of man you are and if you are “worthy” of the p*ssy.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Awwww, I feel bad, but probably for the best. 8 is kinda early to be in bed on a weekend, lol

I said to her I see maybe it’s not meant to be. She just wrote back I can go out I’m just saying. I’m not sure I even want to take her out now. Haven’t met yet she’s already being difficult.