Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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In my experience inviting a chick over and intentionally not smashing drives them crazy. Cause the obviously play is to try and close the deal. When you don’t and genuinely enjoy their presence and conversation but still showing sexual interest is more advantageous in my opinion. Your results may vary.


In all my years I never had to make a move.

Only three times in my life has a chick invited me over and nothing happened.

And two of them we worked at the same hospital

The other had the sickle cell trait :hubie:
 

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Accept that it will probably end up not happening and focus on options. Anytime I get chicks off the app and it takes more than that weekend to meet up it's either they flake and ghost or I end up meeting them and realize they weren't the effort keeping the vibe going for 2 or more weeks.
yea I guess I can text her like once a day.
 

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I think you’re right. In that book I mentioned it gave some tips on how to expose avoidants early. Some, like my previous relationship, are good at camouflaging their damage until they exhaust themselves keeping it held in. That’s when they actually end up self sabotaging so they can escape.

I believe a lot of the dating scene after 28+ is like this.
It is
Drop the books tips
Come on, we need more gems in here
 

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Agreed. That's why I use the 3 date heuristic. By date 3 we better be in full down make out mode and at the least on the precipice of sex. If it doesn't happen on date 3 we know subliminally for date 4 "it's on" , if she tries to play that coy shyt by then..... well bushes... :camby:
This is way too cautious in my eyes you could cut the extra date. By date 3 you should be fukking. You can be full make out status with a chick and next time you link she still denying you the coochie. If she is she just tryna play games cuz she know once she give up the coochie she has nothing left to offer. Dont expect to fukk on date 1. But on date 2 and 3 you should be trying to smash after. This will save you time and 3 dates can be done in the span of 2 weeks. Remember there are only 52 weeks in a year don't let them waste your time.
 

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Me: let’s me Saturday at 8
Her: 8 is too late I’m old now laugh emoji (she’s 28)
Me: what do you normally do at 8 pm on a Saturday?
Her: stay in my bed and be lazy (laugh emoji)
Me: I see

That’s bushes behavior
 

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Here's a gem: stop letting that girl jerk you around just cuz she cute. Curve her ass today.
But I like when she jerks me around :noah:


Just kidding, just a lil JBO

Has anyone been in a long distance relationship or at least dating a girl from long distance? What was like a good cadence for meeting in person for dates, and how long would you try to spend together?
 

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Me: let’s me Saturday at 8
Her: 8 is too late I’m old now laugh emoji (she’s 28)
Me: what do you normally do at 8 pm on a Saturday?
Her: stay in my bed and be lazy (laugh emoji)
Me: I see

That’s bushes behavior
Would she be ok if you took her out at 7 and she was kept out past 8?
 

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I think women sub consciously always testing you too. They don’t even know it sometimes but they want to see what kind of man you are and if you are “worthy” of the p*ssy.
 
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