Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too

Like @WIA20XX said it’s funny and sad at the same time. How do you fumble that bad??

Now she sitting there looking dumb talking about “dating problems” 6 years later. You think :gladbron:
 
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Like @WIA20XX said it’s funny and sad at the same time. How do you fumbled that bad??

Now she sitting there looking dumb talking about “dating problems” 6 years later. You think :gladbron:

You mentioned whether they reflect...and I just don't know, because for as long as they've known - a man that wants them is just around the corner.

But turns out just being desired is not helping them at all.

Too many choices + Men lie + she changes what she wants, all the time.

And if she wanted something, got it, and it turned out bad, or she feels different - the fault is never within her. No examinaition of what she wanted, and what she's done...
 
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This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too
She getting a bunch of these messages:


:shaq:
:shaq::shaq::shaq:
 

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This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too
I'm not surprised. There's a reason why a lot of folks was telling people for the past several years to say within reality and be realistic, but they get mad you say that. Well, at least there are those whom now understand, but you can't say that for all of them.
 

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I'm not surprised. There's a reason why a lot of folks was telling people for the past several years to say within reality and be realistic, but they get mad you say that. Well, at least there are those whom now understand, but you can't say that for all of them.
Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got a advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy :hubie: crazy how life works eh?
 
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You mentioned whether they reflect...and I just don't know, because for as long as they've known - a man that wants them is just around the corner.

But turns out just being desired is not helping them at all.

Too many choices + Men lie + she changes what she wants, all the time.

And if she wanted something, got it, and it turned out bad, or she feels different - the fault is never within her. No examinaition of what she wanted, and what she's done...
Exactly

I never have faith that women learn from their experiences because it’s never their fault. Literally every one of my exes that i can see is single. They either on hinge or i know from the grapevine. It says a lot

I haven’t seen or heard of any of them getting married despite them all being in their thirties.
 

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Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got a advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy :hubie: crazy how life works eh?
The answer is right there. To someone like her, compromise is settling despite in some cases. it ain't.
 

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Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got an advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy :hubie: crazy how life works eh?
They might be on borrowed time :francis:
 

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how would y’all go about having a family friend who likes you?
:jbhmm:
she had recently reunited with us and asked my cousin about me and gave me her number to text. i like vaguely remember the last time we saw each other before reuniting we were probably like 8-9 years old lol

i don’t wanna make it awkward seeing her with the family after if anything goes bad from this

i dont have the skill points required for this mission lol
 

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how would y’all go about having a family friend who likes you?
:jbhmm:
she had recently reunited with us and asked my cousin about me and gave me her number to text. i like vaguely remember the last time we saw each other before reuniting we were probably like 8-9 years old lol

i don’t wanna make it awkward seeing her with the family after if anything goes bad from this

i dont have the skill points required for this mission lol
Are you 100% positive she likes you romantically or is she trying to connect because she is a family friend and yall haven't seen each other in a minute?
 

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Are you 100% positive she likes you romantically or is she trying to connect because she is a family friend and yall haven't seen each other in a minute?
my cousin said that he had a talk with her about how she fell out with a guy and was asking him to hook her up with someone new.

apparently his older brother mentioned my name in the convo & she said she found me attractive then told them to text me for her. idk if it’s worth it fr or she was coerced into feeling like she needed to do it but she’s attractive though
 

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my cousin said that he had a talk with her about how she fell out with a guy and was asking him to hook her up with someone new.

apparently his older brother mentioned my name in the convo & she said she found me attractive then told them to text me for her. idk if it’s worth it fr or she was coerced into feeling like she needed to do it but she’s attractive though
On the one hand, she's attractive and asked them to message you. On the other hand depending on how long her and that guy she fell out with were together and recent that shyt was you could be a rebound so watch out. I say go for it. Invite her out. You'll know if she feeling you or not for real then. This scenario isn't that bad since she got your number on the basis of talking to you romantically. If you worried about making it awkward in the future thats a risk but does the reward outweigh it for you? Only you can answer that.
 
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