Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Lieutenant Daniels]

I remember during COVID, I matched with this woman on Hinge. We talked, went out, and I thought the date went pretty well—we were even planning a second one. But the day before, she told me I was a great guy but she just didn’t see things going anywhere romantically. I was like aii as I was canoodling with like three different chicks at that time

She was around 32 at the time, and I figured that would be the last I’d hear from her. But she kept messaging, and over time, we became something acquaintes

Fast forward four years—I'm now married with a child, and last we spoke she was still on Hinge talking about how there are no good guys out there. I just shook my head. The truth is, a lot of them had real opportunities—they just didn’t value them when they had the chance. Simps might buy into the narrative, but some of us know better.

At the bolded, the sad part is friends and family enable them to continue to move the way they keep moving.

Do women even reflect on their wasted opportunities or the one that got away? I don’t feel like they do.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too

Like @WIA20XX said it’s funny and sad at the same time. How do you fumble that bad??

Now she sitting there looking dumb talking about “dating problems” 6 years later. You think

 

[WIA20XX]

Like @WIA20XX said it’s funny and sad at the same time. How do you fumbled that bad??

Now she sitting there looking dumb talking about “dating problems” 6 years later. You think

You mentioned whether they reflect...and I just don't know, because for as long as they've known - a man that wants them is just around the corner.

But turns out just being desired is not helping them at all.

Too many choices + Men lie + she changes what she wants, all the time.

And if she wanted something, got it, and it turned out bad, or she feels different - the fault is never within her. No examinaition of what she wanted, and what she's done...

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too

She getting a bunch of these messages:

 

[AStrangeName]

This happened to my cousin. 6 years ago she was supposed to get married to this guy. Dude seemed cool, educated. We was all like ok she bout to finally get married. Then a few months later they broke it off and she said cuz she was looking for a "forever marriage". Aight now fast forward 6 years she is 40. No man, no kids, having dating problems and from what i heard from my mom she be complaining about "undesirable" men messaging and liking her on dating apps too...she refuses to date a man with kids too

I'm not surprised. There's a reason why a lot of folks was telling people for the past several years to say within reality and be realistic, but they get mad you say that. Well, at least there are those whom now understand, but you can't say that for all of them.

 

[cyndaquil]

I'm not surprised. There's a reason why a lot of folks was telling people for the past several years to say within reality and be realistic, but they get mad you say that. Well, at least there are those whom now understand, but you can't say that for all of them.

Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got a advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy crazy how life works eh?

 

[Ohene]

You mentioned whether they reflect...and I just don't know, because for as long as they've known - a man that wants them is just around the corner.

But turns out just being desired is not helping them at all.

Too many choices + Men lie + she changes what she wants, all the time.

And if she wanted something, got it, and it turned out bad, or she feels different - the fault is never within her. No examinaition of what she wanted, and what she's done...

Exactly

I never have faith that women learn from their experiences because it’s never their fault. Literally every one of my exes that i can see is single. They either on hinge or i know from the grapevine. It says a lot

I haven’t seen or heard of any of them getting married despite them all being in their thirties.

 

[AStrangeName]

Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got a advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy crazy how life works eh?

The answer is right there. To someone like her, compromise is settling despite in some cases. it ain't.

 

[WIA20XX]

She's being honest, but Is it a grift?

 

[The ADD]

Well my other cousin who was bout the same age as her just a year younger got married at 28 to a guy she had been dating for like 5 years. He was lowkey a bum but had aspirations she saw the vision stuck it out and now he has public servant job pulling his own weight. She could've did better i think she picked too early but hey she happy.

My other cousin she got married in 2022 during the pandemic. Met breh on hinge (back during its prime) they dated for a year or 2 and he proposed one day and hey married. I know he wasn't her usual type based upon dudes she was tryna date before but she was late 20s and knew realistically here's a decent guy from a good family, who wants to marry her so she was wit it.

Neither one of them dudes made a lot of money. Only one is over 6 feet tall (it aint the former bum). They aint standing out in a crowd if you saw them. They aint swole. They aint 2Pac in a business suit. But they are husbands. And their families are happy.

But my cousin who aint been married yet is high key spoiled. She an only child and both her parents had really high paying professional jobs growing up. So she don't know how to compromise. She got an advanced degree, works and lives in a tier 1 city (no names but think NYC level) rent free in her parent's old house since they retired and bought another one. But she's unhappy crazy how life works eh?

They might be on borrowed time