Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[<<TheStandard>>]

y'all gotta dead these fantastical dating ideals. Dudes are overcomplicating this just like women due to both being sold dreams of shyt that doesn't exist.

Fundamentally as a man if you get along with a woman, and she doesn't have a life style that is detrimental to yours, what are we really discussing? Like I said before a common theme I think nobody wants to admit is the attraction levels and trying to punch above their weight which yields to having to "prove yourself" or tolerating nonsense not wanting to "lose your chance" aka potential ownership of something "I`m blessed to have" aka a chick I subconsciously thing is above my attraction qualification level.

At the end of the day attraction is probably the first checklist for most men, cool, but next it doesn't take long to find out you don't get along with a chick or her life style is anti who you are, so things shouldn't even get that far and like I said before dudes should be out living life which in general will bring you around humans who align with the things you do.

I hear you but I'm coming from a place where I think I just dated too many jawns that I know I could do better than trying to get a nut and I'm off that.

Also as I've gotten older, I've realized that women have very high expectations. They want the princess treatment, a soft life, whatever you want to call it. I'm cool with providing that but if I have to provide that, I'm going to get a woman whom I'm attracted to, not just a chick who liked what I had going for myself and inserted herself in my world hoping she could benefit.

All I'm saying is at this point, I have to like, want and desire a woman too, otherwise I'm perfectly fine being alone because I know my worth and what I'm bringing to the table.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

y'all gotta dead these fantastical dating ideals. Dudes are overcomplicating this just like women due to both being sold dreams of shyt that doesn't exist.

Fundamentally as a man if you get along with a woman, and she doesn't have a life style that is detrimental to yours, what are we really discussing? Like I said before a common theme I think nobody wants to admit is the attraction levels and trying to punch above their weight which yields to having to "prove yourself" or tolerating nonsense not wanting to "lose your chance" aka potential ownership of something "I`m blessed to have" aka a chick I subconsciously thing is above my attraction qualification level.

At the end of the day attraction is probably the first checklist for most men, cool, but next it doesn't take long to find out you don't get along with a chick or her life style is anti who you are, so things shouldn't even get that far and like I said before dudes should be out living life which in general will bring you around humans who align with the things you do.

I hear you but I'm coming from a place where I think I just dated too many jawns that I know I could do better than trying to get a nut and I'm off that.

Also as I've gotten older, I've realized that women have very high expectations. They want the princess treatment, a soft life, whatever you want to call it. I'm cool with providing that but if I have to provide that, I'm going to get a woman whom I'm attracted to, not just a chick who liked what I had going for myself and inserted herself in my world hoping she could benefit.

All I'm saying is at this point, I have to like, want and desire a woman too, otherwise I'm perfectly fine being alone because I know my worth and what I'm bringing to the table.

I'll add.......I'm not in my 20s anymore. It's one thing to be 25 and just kicking it with a jawn and having fun knowing that it could end there if I don't see her as wifey material. It's another thing being 39 and knowing that just about every single women I kick it with is probably looking for something real. In my 20s, I could just tell a jawn come to crib to fukk. Now, the same chick regardless of how I personally feel about her wants a legit date, she's probably going to want a relationship, she's going to want trips, gifts and all kinds of perks so from my POV, I have to get what I want to even entertain a chick because why am I spending money, taking time away from focusing on my career, my hobbies, the gym, resting to hang out with her if she can't even give me what I'm looking for???

I can guarantee you most of the men in here have fukked a chick and had her immediately start handing them bills. I've had chicks I thought were wack do this.

I've never felt like I was punching above my weight class but I've definitely punched well below my weight class and now that I'm older, have more to lose, possibly looking for something long term or just someone genuine I enjoy spending time with, I see no reason to continue to deal with a certain caliber of women. I just don't.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Even if you do reach for the stars relationship wise, just like your career a great deal of it is out of your control/susceptible to “economic” factors.

It is supply and demand. To get the kind of women you really want isnt impossible but its often ultra competitive. The supply of dikk is simply way higher than p*ssy because men have higher sex drives and are the aggressors. Add dating apps/social media into the mix and the imbalance is only worse. Back then this was equalized by the fact women NEEDED men. But lets face it, some men abused that power as well and were big time philanderers. Their offspring not only dont need men due to feminism but have actively been taught not go prioritize men. These offspring are the women you and I are dating. They hate their dads and we pay the price as a result lol until theyre mid 30s and wonder where the time went. This is really an issue in the black community more than others.

So yea. Ambition helps but the woman still has to consent just like the employer has to hire you lol

I've gotten off the dating apps. I've realized dating apps are a waste of time for the reason we all know.

I try to connect with women in person and I've found that as adult, as long as I'm in the right spaces it tends to work out for me.

Sure, there's plenty of dudes offering dikk but there aren't plenty of quality dudes so if you have something to offer and have something going for yourself, things will eventually work out for you........and you won't have to settle.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

dudes is taking single moms and prostitutes, and Thai chicks who imitate ratchet chicks on dates while Local men are laughing at them. I don't think people realize you aren't going to tap into the "real" dating scene without putting time in these countries and you can't do that in a weekend. I've spent like 2 years on the Ground across various cities in Brazil for example and them brehs there dealing with the same shyt as us only thing is them chicks on avg are in better shape and more women wear their real hair but that aside its a shyt show there too lol,

a bytch, is a bytch, is a bytch regardless of where they are on the globe...... same behaviourds and petulant tendencies when they need to act up, just a cultural difference to how they do it

 

[The ADD]

 

[Apollo Creed]

I'll add.......I'm not in my 20s anymore. It's one thing to be 25 and just kicking it with a jawn and having fun knowing that it could end there if I don't see her as wifey material. It's another thing being 39 and knowing that just about every single women I kick it with is probably looking for something real. In my 20s, I could just tell a jawn come to crib to fukk. Now, the same chick regardless of how I personally feel about her wants a legit date, she's probably going to want a relationship, she's going to want trips, gifts and all kinds of perks so from my POV, I have to get what I want to even entertain a chick because why am I spending money, taking time away from focusing on my career, my hobbies, the gym, resting to hang out with her if she can't even give me what I'm looking for???

I can guarantee you most of the men in here have fukked a chick and had her immediately start handing them bills. I've had chicks I thought were wack do this.

I've never felt like I was punching above my weight class but I've definitely punched well below my weight class and now that I'm older, have more to lose, possibly looking for something long term or just someone genuine I enjoy spending time with, I see no reason to continue to deal with a certain caliber of women. I just don't.

Everyones journey is different so i’m not saying this tk be comparative but i’m also in my 30s and ive never had a woman do that bum shyt lol.

Women are usually always on my program and the “problem” is usually they were not raised to be a wife so while they are cool i can see quick there is t a future so i just enjoy my time and dont sell dreams

 

[WIA20XX]

I'll add.......I'm not in my 20s anymore. It's one thing to be 25 and just kicking it with a jawn and having fun knowing that it could end there if I don't see her as wifey material. It's another thing being 39 and knowing that just about every single women I kick it with is probably looking for something real.

True.

In my 20s, I could just tell a jawn come to crib to fukk. Now, the same chick regardless of how I personally feel about her wants a legit date, she's probably going to want a relationship, she's going to want trips, gifts and all kinds of perks so from my POV, I

If that's how you're coming at having a real relationship at 39 - respectfully, I think you need to rethink the situation.

Cause that framing is just basically Pay 4 Play with extra steps.

Why put yourself through all that if you can just fly down to DR or Colombia, or out to Thailand?

A real relationship, even without a gold digger, is way more expensive than a prozzie.

 

[MikelArteta]

I hear you but I'm coming from a place where I think I just dated too many jawns that I know I could do better than trying to get a nut and I'm off that.

Also as I've gotten older, I've realized that women have very high expectations. They want the princess treatment, a soft life, whatever you want to call it. I'm cool with providing that but if I have to provide that, I'm going to get a woman whom I'm attracted to, not just a chick who liked what I had going for myself and inserted herself in my world hoping she could benefit.

All I'm saying is at this point, I have to like, want and desire a woman too, otherwise I'm perfectly fine being alone because I know my worth and what I'm bringing to the table.

not only that many women out there everything is going great and they gotta start something. It's like they don't want to be happy with no drama.

 

[Apollo Creed]

True.



If that's how you're coming at having a real relationship at 39 - respectfully, I think you need to rethink the situation.

Cause that framing is just basically Pay 4 Play with extra steps.

Why put yourself through all that if you can just fly down to DR or Colombia, or out to Thailand?

A real relationship, even without a gold digger, is way more expensive than a prozzie.

I feel dudes blur lines and they end up in confusion. Dudes mix boyfriend and husband lingo with FWB goals.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

True.



If that's how you're coming at having a real relationship at 39 - respectfully, I think you need to rethink the situation.

Cause that framing is just basically Pay 4 Play with extra steps.

Why put yourself through all that if you can just fly down to DR or Colombia, or out to Thailand?

A real relationship, even without a gold digger, is way more expensive than a prozzie.

Nah.

This is just basic relationship shyt.

Trips, gifts, etc.

I was dating this baddie a couple of years ago, took her to a nice italian restaurant on our first date. She heard me mention that I like Assyrtiko (a white wine). She went to New York for a day trip and on our second date brought me a bottle of Assyrtiko that she got from NY just to let me know she was thinking of me and paid attention to what I like. I'm willing to do the same in return for women, flowers, random gifts.......that's not tricking or paying for play, that's just doing things to make your partner happy.

Also, who doesn't want to go on a trip with their signifcant other? As a guy you're going to end up paying more than the woman but that just comes with the territory of being a guy who's most likely going to earn more than your partner.

These are all normal relationship things that women expect but if you have a good woman, she will also spend money on you too. Women spend money like drug dealers when they like you. I've had women buy me all types of shyt and I've done the same in return for my women......but that's why it's important to date a quality woman who you like who also likes you.

 

[WIA20XX]

Nah.

This is just basic relationship shyt.

Trips, gifts, etc.

Here's what you said.

>she's probably going to want a relationship, she's going to want trips, gifts and all kinds of perks so from my POV, I have to get what I want to even entertain a chick because why am I spending money, taking time away from focusing on my career, my hobbies, the gym, resting to hang out with her if she can't even give me what I'm looking for???

Like again, your pov is that she's getting all these "perks". but "she can't even give me what I'm looking for"

So you're coming out the pocket, and she's not giving you what you want.

Why are you coming out the pocket, IF she's not giving you what you want?

How is that a RELATIONSHIP? That's a business transaction.

The way you're framing this - when you was 25, you could just call a chick over to smash.

Now at 39, to smash, you gotta have a relationship, where she gets "perks" and you don't get what you want.

Either you're not hearing yourself and what you're actually saying, or you're not expressing yourself well.

Cause a situation where you basically equate trips/gifts/$/perks to getting "what you want" is pay 4 play....and you're not even getting play.

If your idea of relationship is essentially - at 25 she could just hand over some cat, and now at 39 you gotta pay for it - you're not really understanding what a relationship is, imo.

All the rest of what you're saying sounds like what everyone else says - it costs to be in a relationship.

But it doesn't sound like that's what you want, or that's what you're getting.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Here's what you said.



Like again, your pov is that she's getting all these "perks". but "she can't even give me what I'm looking for"

So you're coming out the pocket, and she's not giving you what you want.

Why are you coming out the pocket, IF she's not giving you what you want?

How is that a RELATIONSHIP? That's a business transaction.

The way you're framing this - when you was 25, you could just call a chick over to smash.

Now at 39, to smash, you gotta have a relationship, where she gets "perks" and you don't get what you want.

Either you're not hearing yourself and what you're actually saying, or you're not expressing yourself well.

Cause a situation where you basically equate trips/gifts/$/perks to getting "what you want" is pay 4 play....and you're not even getting play.

If your idea of relationship is essentially - at 25 she could just hand over some cat, and now at 39 you gotta pay for it - you're not really understanding what a relationship is, imo.

All the rest of what you're saying sounds like what everyone else says - it costs to be in a relationship.

But it doesn't sound like that's what you want, or that's what you're getting.

Dude is leading as a trick.

Im not bashing dude but he doesnt even realize it which means he isnt ready for a real relationship, even the use of the term “baddie” = this bytch better than me.

I’ll never call a women no fukking baddie kr a dime, all that shyt reeks of “im so blessed you giving me time”.

When you used to something or something is normal you dont add these descriptors that imply something is out of the ordinary for you (Baddie implies higher level than normal).

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Here's what you said.



Like again, your pov is that she's getting all these "perks". but "she can't even give me what I'm looking for"

So you're coming out the pocket, and she's not giving you what you want.

Why are you coming out the pocket, IF she's not giving you what you want?

How is that a RELATIONSHIP? That's a business transaction.

The way you're framing this - when you was 25, you could just call a chick over to smash.

Now at 39, to smash, you gotta have a relationship, where she gets "perks" and you don't get what you want.

Either you're not hearing yourself and what you're actually saying, or you're not expressing yourself well.

Cause a situation where you basically equate trips/gifts/$/perks to getting "what you want" is pay 4 play....and you're not even getting play.

If your idea of relationship is essentially - at 25 she could just hand over some cat, and now at 39 you gotta pay for it - you're not really understanding what a relationship is, imo.

All the rest of what you're saying sounds like what everyone else says - it costs to be in a relationship.

But it doesn't sound like that's what you want, or that's what you're getting.

I think I was being misunderstood here.

The initial conversation we were having was about dating chicks you were halfway into which led me to speaking about how I only want to date women I'm truly feeling.

What I'm saying is that a woman has to meet my standards in order for me to entertain her. I was basically saying I'm selective about the women I'm dating because at this age there are higher expectations, particularly if I'm looking for something serious. I never said I was coming out of pocket for a woman who can't provide me what I was looking for, that's never happening.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I'm past playing games. I'll call something out if I notice a trend and give her a chance to correct her behavior. If she does, bless. If she acts defensive or continues with the behavior, i'll box her in the "fukk-ting" category or keep it moving altogether.

Preach