Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

You’re clear on what you want, which is good, however with these women, it seems like you’re aiming with clarity a little too hard and those older women, move slower and value control.

The older divorcees aren’t confused, they just want desire without pressure and excitement without fallout. They want discretion & When it stops feeling discreet or safe, they dip. The banker didn’t reject you, she just slowed you down. “I’m flattered” means you passed, but she’s not blowing up her life for intensity without direction. Which is why she’s taking up the older man. You want to move with circumspection.

The pitbull woman is actually the best shot if you don’t overplay it. She’s not arrogant, she’s guarded and evaluating. Don’t announce the end goal or pitch a situationship. You just lead calmly: ask her out, keep it intentional, let the tension build.

Say to her: “I like you. I don’t date casually forever, but I also don’t rush things. Let’s get a drink and see if we actually enjoy each other”

That way you don’t lose polarity. You frame and she steps in. You’re good at this & know this. Boss babes want to just “let go”

That's great analysis. For expositions sake, I edit a lot down. I wouldn't actually say that to her. I'm a lot smoother than that. But, I do value speed, and the idea of now. I am decisive, but I am not just hitting these women with Jadakiss "are we fukking or not". Nah. Nah. I'll try with all three. Like the slot machine that our dating lives have become.

The interesting thing is, if I could have sex with any of the three, it would be the oldest one, for three reasons,

1) I can tell she likes sex and doesn't have enough of it

2) I can tell what kind she likes and I can do that

3) She went for what I like without me telling her

The neighbor one is bad as fukk. But, like a few others I know, they have their cards held so tight. Sex isn't to her what it is to that older one.

 

[Ahadi]

I may need to frequent some hotel bars

 

[Ahadi]

That's great analysis. For expositions sake, I edit a lot down. I wouldn't actually say that to her. I'm a lot smoother than that. But, I do value speed, and the idea of now. I am decisive, but I am not just hitting these women with Jadakiss "are we fukking or not". Nah. Nah. I'll try with all three. Like the slot machine that our dating lives have become.

The interesting thing is, if I could have sex with any of the three, it would be the oldest one, for three reasons,

1) I can tell she likes sex and doesn't have enough of it

2) I can tell what kind she likes and I can do that

3) She went for what I like without me telling her

The neighbor one is bad as fukk. But, like a few others I know, they have their cards held so tight. Sex isn't to her what it is to that older one.

Haha, I feel you, the slot machine analogy is spot on. You know speed matters, but also that coming on too hot kills the game. You’ve got the right energy with all three: decisive, smooth, confident just don’t give away your hand too early.

About the oldest one, I get why she’s high on your list. She’s explicit, experienced, and shows initiative. That kind of alignment it’s rare. The neighbor? Yeah, she’s more like a puzzle: cards held tight, has her own rules, and sex isn’t central to her world. Doesn’t mean it’s unattainable , just higher friction with strategy and patience.

This all sounds like a slow burn. Seeing if they step into your frame vs just playing along for validation.