you have to be somebody who has a lot of money to throw away...enough where you can have your own section, let them come into it, and buy enough bottles/hookah for them and your homies all to indulge. thats how it is now. its a very different climate. but the women are usually gonna be women you and your friends invited.
the days of just posting up with a few friends and choppin shorties are mostly over unless you go to certain parties/club events. when i went to jerk and jollof women would touch you as you walked by or eye fukked you and it was then up to you to holla. but they usually werent the shorties you were feelin or they were from OT. the ones you really wanted were in sections with their peoples all night or with scammers, drug dealers and shyt
That's what my homies do. It's a mess, but the thing is, the chaos and the alcohol is the point. It's too chaotic for me. And there's so many variables, you have to be committed to the end. Women will eye me up and down, and then we talk, and then they get distracted. And then you get distracted. And then the hanger on start talking to her. And then her friends decide to leave. And then they come back. And then they meet at the hookah lounge later. It's full of pretense and you are basically gambling on people who are drinking heavily to make the decision you want them to make. My boys put a heavy hand on the scale, with all the bottles and condos, and still come up short, half the time.
What you mentioned about The Weeknd was interesting. I love his music. Was a 2011 fan. I do think a lot of his music has some emotional depth to it, it's obviously not like 90's R&B, but he softened a lot of his music up post 2015. He's vulnerable, but rarely romantic.
What happened around 2015 was all the imitators, who took that emotionally unavailable style and ran it into the ground. And then the Cardi B's, the Doja Cat, the SZA, the whoever else ran with it too. Kind of like social media, it gets taken to more and more extremes, everyone trying to outdo the other person.
