Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

the thing thats the worst you go out wiht a chick and she orders like a 12 dollar drink, steak, dessert and all that knowing the simp will pay.

I've gone out for work for like my birthday when folks are like they will pay for me and ill order like the cheapest thing

chicks? they going all out

i'm the same way

 

[Pyrexcup]

That's why nikkas need to chill on all the dinners and shyt, after 1 dinner, let her make the next move, see if she's willing to spend some bread on you, or at the least cook for you. I've heard females say bluntly that they know who to call when they wanna go out to eat.

of course they know who to pull that shyt on. same guy wining and dining a female week in and out is not even fukking her while some other dude calls up the same female after the date to smash. The streets are cold

 

[TheArchitect]

I walked outside this morning and felt the cold and decided "yup, I'm gonna try and find something for the FALL/WINTER at least." It gets boring not getting laid, although it's mostly because I haven't made any kind of move in a while. I have a couple of prospects, but I haven't really been able to even rap with them (due to not being able to access them; I've spoke with them before briefly, but I couldn't tell you if they hold attraction or not), but I think I'll at least give it a shot. This time I'm gonna try and get someone I'm actually attracted to, rather than just be with someone just to not feel lonely like last time....

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Im fukkin with this one chick out in PA
In my whole 31 years of life I never heard a bytch say this to me...

this muthafukka said "fukk my mouth!"

She's a keeper

Bruh.. Check out this convo I had thru text with the girl I'm talking to

Her: Maybe next time I'll let you bust in my mouth

Me: mmm that wud be sexy asl

Her: I'll eat your babies lol


Now I was like WTF.. bytch you wanna eat my babies lmao

Never had a chick tell me some shyt like that aha

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

That's why nikkas need to chill on all the dinners and shyt, after 1 dinner, let her make the next move, see if she's willing to spend some bread on you, or at the least cook for you. I've heard females say bluntly that they know who to call when they wanna go out to eat.

But what if she does all that ordering on the first dinner?

 

[Atlrocafella]

But what if she does all that ordering on the first dinner?

shyt comes with the first dinner date , hopefully you've spoken to her enough to kind of gauge whether she seems like the type to be that disrespectful. If she does that the first time you guys go out to eat, charge her to the game.

 

[kevm3]

It's been a few month since the break up and I have been seeing someone but sometimes the flashes still come in my head. I still think about her. Wonder how she doing. Especially this month since it's her mothers bday and hers and her moms died on her bday. The sucka/simp part of me wants to send her a card but the logical side is kinda like fukk that bytch. Some people say it's a nice gesture to send the card others are like fukk her yo. I have no idea how to handle this. Maybe I'm over thinking this crap. The Virgo in me

Honestly man, that's natural. Despite what people act like, the majority don't have hearts of stone as to where they can just erase someone from their memory instantly that they were closed with. It takes time for you to get over those situations emotionally.

 

[McPiff]

It's been a few month since the break up and I have been seeing someone but sometimes the flashes still come in my head. I still think about her. Wonder how she doing. Especially this month since it's her mothers bday and hers and her moms died on her bday. The sucka/simp part of me wants to send her a card but the logical side is kinda like fukk that bytch. Some people say it's a nice gesture to send the card others are like fukk her yo. I have no idea how to handle this. Maybe I'm over thinking this crap. The Virgo in me

the curse of being a virgo
stay strong breh dont contact her at all. you'll go through it

 

[MikelArteta]

the curse of being a virgo
stay strong breh dont contact her at all. you'll go through it

im not being heartless but nothing good will come from contacting her Nothing.

I been through it all i remember when i finally cut my ex out and it was her birthday an diw as goign to text but I didn't, I heard she was sick going to see if she was ok then I didn't. And you know what I'm happy I didn't. All it will do is set back your healing. When your finally healed and get to the point where you can look at your ex, or her pictures, or her facebook see her iwht a new guy and feel nothing and don't care THEN you can try and make contact if you want, and trust me by then you won't even care too.

 

[MikelArteta]

Wisdom

1A good name is better than fine perfume,

and the day of death better than the day of birth.

2It is better to go to a house of mourning

than to go to a house of feasting,

for death is the destiny of everyone;

the living should take this to heart.

3Frustration is better than laughter,

because a sad face is good for the heart.

4The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,

but the heart of fools is in the house of pleasure.

5It is better to heed the rebuke of a wise person

than to listen to the song of fools.

6Like the crackling of thorns under the pot,

so is the laughter of fools.

This too is meaningless.

7Extortion turns a wise person into a fool,

and a bribe corrupts the heart.

8The end of a matter is better than its beginning,

and patience is better than pride.

9Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit,

for anger resides in the lap of fools.

10Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?”

For it is not wise to ask such questions.

11Wisdom, like an inheritance, is a good thing

and benefits those who see the sun.

12Wisdom is a shelter

as money is a shelter,

but the advantage of knowledge is this:

Wisdom preserves those who have it.

13Consider what God has done:

Who can straighten

what he has made crooked?

14When times are good, be happy;

but when times are bad, consider this:

God has made the one

as well as the other.

Therefore, no one can discover

anything about their future.

15In this meaningless life of mine I have seen both of these:

the righteous perishing in their righteousness,

and the wicked living long in their wickedness.

16Do not be overrighteous,

neither be overwise—

why destroy yourself?

17Do not be overwicked,

and do not be a fool—

why die before your time?

18It is good to grasp the one

and not let go of the other.

Whoever fears God will avoid all extremes.a

19Wisdom makes one wise person more powerful

than ten rulers in a city.

20Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous,

no one who does what is right and never sins.

21Do not pay attention to every word people say,

or you may hear your servant cursing you—

22for you know in your heart

that many times you yourself have cursed others.

23All this I tested by wisdom and I said,

“I am determined to be wise”—

but this was beyond me.

24Whatever exists is far off and most profound—

who can discover it?

25So I turned my mind to understand,

to investigate and to search out wisdom and the scheme of things

and to understand the stupidity of wickedness

and the madness of folly.

26I find more bitter than death

the woman who is a snare,

whose heart is a trap

and whose hands are chains.

The man who pleases God will escape her,

but the sinner she will ensnare.

27“Look,” says the Teacher,b “this is what I have discovered:

“Adding one thing to another to discover the scheme of things—

28while I was still searching

but not finding—

I found one upright man among a thousand,

but not one upright woman among them all.

29This only have I found:

God created mankind upright,

but they have gone in search of many schemes.”

 

[MikelArteta]

Bottom line is, it's just really better to sit back and handle your business and enjoy your life than 'force-fitting' a woman into it. The problem in this day and age is that women weren't taught how to catch nor keep a man. Through television programming and through some of their hood-rattish mothers, a lot of these women were taught to either act masculine or like a prostitute. They have shows like Bad Girls Club, Sex and the City and countless other shows subconsciously influencing their actions. Dealing with women nowadays is almost like fishing in a lake full of mercury infested fish. Catching the fish might be fun, but you're not going to take that fish home to your family because it is too poisonous on the inside. Talking to, flirting with women, etc., is fun, but too many of these women are too poisonous on the inside to really want to build anything with... and you know it's not isolated when you have news paper reporting on how men aren't getting married nearly at the rate that they used to.

The real problem is that men want women they can view as someone they can build something with... like a true friend and not like that sneaky person that claims to be your friend but steals something out your house as soon as your back is turned. In order to keep their interest, it's like you have to reenact some sort of soap opera or you have to do some circus tricks to keep her mind entertained. Once she stops being entertained with you, she not so mysteriously disappears and you find that she is off to the races and dealing with the next man. The real problem is that you could be one of those 'decent dudes' who is doing everything society tells you that you should be to the woman, aka paying all the bills, making sure she has spending money, paying off her school loans, etc., and that's the man that she treats the absolute worst. She will probably end up taking that guy's money and spending it on some guy she met at the club or ride around in her 'man's car' with some guy she met at the school that providerman was paying for. Let's be real. Who honestly wants those kind of characters around them-- characters who, the better you treat them, the worse they treat you? And that you have to keep entertained as if they were children or else they start wandering into territory they shouldn't?

Society is set up now to where you can only treat women like brief encounters or not really deal with them at all. Obviously players are having the times of their lives, or in the terms of PUA, 'alpha males', but men who want to do something serious and look at a woman past sex are opting out because the moment they try to do that is the moment she brings drama into his life or snakes him. So really, is it a surprise that many guys are simply opting to do other things like stack their bread, get out of debt and just enjoy their life than continually chasing women?

Scenario 1: Spend your money on cars, clothes, cash to attract hoes from the club. You'll eventually get bored with this shallow lifestyle and have nothing to show for it... that is if you don't get caught up in an 'unwanted pregnancy', STD scare or even get a false rape case on you.

Scenario 2: Spend your money 'building a future' with that woman you thought was a sweetheart. Make sure the bills are paid, she has food on the table, and some spending money for fun. Find out she was cheating on you because you were too predictable and boring, or how she would say it, "You were working all the time and didn't pay enough attention to me!" Watch her take half of your assets and then pay her streams of money for decades while she spends it on the guy she cheated on you with to spite you even further all for treating her respectfully.

Scenario 3: Stack all of your excess money that comes from avoiding buying overly elaborate clothing, avoiding some super fancy cars to 'impress hoes' and not having to buy all of these elaborate gifts. Get your debt paid off, have a huge back-up fund and watch a lot of your job stress disappear because you know you don't have to put up with your company's nonsense because you have a huge pile of funds to fall back on. Feel free to take trips whenever you want and eat what you want. Have no worries about what your 'girl' is doing when she mysteriously becomes busy out of nowhere.

Is it any real wonder why more and more men are choosing scenario 3? There are those rare unicorn type women that you can actually build with and who actually have a sweet personality, but for the most part, you just save a lot of stress and money not putting up with the drama. There has to be some real benefit beyond what a woman is carrying between her legs for her to get a long-term contract, and in most cases, and more often than not, in this day and age, women are failing to bring that additional value... hence why men are focusing on other endeavors and putting women on the backburner.

 

[MikelArteta]

Bottom line is, it's just really better to sit back and handle your business and enjoy your life than 'force-fitting' a woman into it. The problem in this day and age is that women weren't taught how to catch nor keep a man. Through television programming and through some of their hood-rattish mothers, a lot of these women were taught to either act masculine or like a prostitute. They have shows like Bad Girls Club, Sex and the City and countless other shows subconsciously influencing their actions. Dealing with women nowadays is almost like fishing in a lake full of mercury infested fish. Catching the fish might be fun, but you're not going to take that fish home to your family because it is too poisonous on the inside. Talking to, flirting with women, etc., is fun, but too many of these women are too poisonous on the inside to really want to build anything with... and you know it's not isolated when you have news paper reporting on how men aren't getting married nearly at the rate that they used to.

The real problem is that men want women they can view as someone they can build something with... like a true friend and not like that sneaky person that claims to be your friend but steals something out your house as soon as your back is turned. In order to keep their interest, it's like you have to reenact some sort of soap opera or you have to do some circus tricks to keep her mind entertained. Once she stops being entertained with you, she not so mysteriously disappears and you find that she is off to the races and dealing with the next man. The real problem is that you could be one of those 'decent dudes' who is doing everything society tells you that you should be to the woman, aka paying all the bills, making sure she has spending money, paying off her school loans, etc., and that's the man that she treats the absolute worst. She will probably end up taking that guy's money and spending it on some guy she met at the club or ride around in her 'man's car' with some guy she met at the school that providerman was paying for. Let's be real. Who honestly wants those kind of characters around them-- characters who, the better you treat them, the worse they treat you? And that you have to keep entertained as if they were children or else they start wandering into territory they shouldn't?

Society is set up now to where you can only treat women like brief encounters or not really deal with them at all. Obviously players are having the times of their lives, or in the terms of PUA, 'alpha males', but men who want to do something serious and look at a woman past sex are opting out because the moment they try to do that is the moment she brings drama into his life or snakes him. So really, is it a surprise that many guys are simply opting to do other things like stack their bread, get out of debt and just enjoy their life than continually chasing women?

Scenario 1: Spend your money on cars, clothes, cash to attract hoes from the club. You'll eventually get bored with this shallow lifestyle and have nothing to show for it... that is if you don't get caught up in an 'unwanted pregnancy', STD scare or even get a false rape case on you.

Scenario 2: Spend your money 'building a future' with that woman you thought was a sweetheart. Make sure the bills are paid, she has food on the table, and some spending money for fun. Find out she was cheating on you because you were too predictable and boring, or how she would say it, "You were working all the time and didn't pay enough attention to me!" Watch her take half of your assets and then pay her streams of money for decades while she spends it on the guy she cheated on you with to spite you even further all for treating her respectfully.

Scenario 3: Stack all of your excess money that comes from avoiding buying overly elaborate clothing, avoiding some super fancy cars to 'impress hoes' and not having to buy all of these elaborate gifts. Get your debt paid off, have a huge back-up fund and watch a lot of your job stress disappear because you know you don't have to put up with your company's nonsense because you have a huge pile of funds to fall back on. Feel free to take trips whenever you want and eat what you want. Have no worries about what your 'girl' is doing when she mysteriously becomes busy out of nowhere.

Is it any real wonder why more and more men are choosing scenario 3? There are those rare unicorn type women that you can actually build with and who actually have a sweet personality, but for the most part, you just save a lot of stress and money not putting up with the drama. There has to be some real benefit beyond what a woman is carrying between her legs for her to get a long-term contract, and in most cases, and more often than not, in this day and age, women are failing to bring that additional value... hence why men are focusing on other endeavors and putting women on the backburner.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Quick background. Girl from work starts talking to me out of nowhere. It started off with a quick text about work and went from there. We had conversations at work prior to that but I thought nothing of them. I thought she was nice and attractive but people were saying she was with someone. Turns out they were on the outs, so basically she's fresh out of a longterm relationship. I probably should have passed when I found that out but I gave it a go anyway and now a couple months later she's saying shyt like she "really cares about me but she still cares about him too, etc." She doesn't know what she wants to do, she's all conflicted. I like her but not enough to deal with that or wait around. I'm assuming it's probably best to move on. I guess the lesson is don't mess with girls who are fresh off that long-term shyt?

 

[360dagod]

Quick background. Girl from work starts talking to me out of nowhere. It started off with a quick text about work and went from there. We had conversations at work prior to that but I thought nothing of them. I thought she was nice and attractive but people were saying she was with someone. Turns out they were on the outs, so basically she's fresh out of a longterm relationship. I probably should have passed when I found that out but I gave it a go anyway and now a couple months later she's saying shyt like she "really cares about me but she still cares about him too, etc." She doesn't know what she wants to do, she's all conflicted. I like her but not enough to deal with that or wait around. I'm assuming it's probably best to move on. I guess the lesson is don't mess with girls who are fresh off that long-term shyt?

And don't mess with co-workers

 

[EQ.]

And don't mess with co-workers