Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

we've all been there. not even just with girls who we thought liked us...but even with girls who actually did like us. shyt is disrespectful, youre doing the right thing by bushing her. Just stick to your guns and dont crumble if she actually does try to start talking to your or apologize for her "late reply"

truss me breh, i'mma be borderline disrespectful in my attitude and cold. I know she doesn't owe me anything, but not even the human decency of responding to a text? If she replies to my text, which i know she won't, i am deleting it without even reading it. I wanted her, i ain't gonna lie. body and face were nice. But its all good yo.

women are great actresses, I'm sure we have all been on great dates that lasted hours, we thought there was chemistry, she was smiling, laughing, whispering in your ear, hand on your leg etc., maybe even got a kiss or a hug at the end, only to never hear from her again.

I've spoken about the male gut how many times we overlook it due to a connection we may perceive with a woman or just that shes beautiful and giving her leeway .

The greatest tool a man has is cutting off females and never looking back

i never really overlooked my gut. I knew the minute i asked for her number and gave her my phone to put it in that it wasn't genuine...more like she was put into a situation and couldn't say no type of thing cuz it would be awkward. Her body language, voice and lack of enthusiasm said it all I knew this...and i was somewhat startled as i thought she was feelin da kid and would've been happy to gimme me her number.

Now i 100% kno.

 

[Grams]

Idk what im exactly good at because i haven't experienced to much (sheltered by foreign parents growing up). I'm not a bad looking guy (except acne here and there) And i wouldn't say i dress horrible i keep my dress code simple Boat shoes + levi+ Colored v-neck or basic tee

But i just feel as if i don't catch any female eyes and it's most likely from my lack of confidence in myself and i'm a very self conscious person I would get told i walked stiff since i was young so now everytime i walk thats all i think about if i'm walking stiff or not and am i being judged for the stiffness shiits rough =/

Are you African

Texted this chick from my one of my classes this afternoon asking if she was studyin...got no reply and she online whatsapp.

got her number last wednesday..however, she wasn't too thrilled to give it to me even though she did. Funny thing is, i thought shorty liked me. Smiled at me couple times, moved closer to me in class with her friend, talked, etc. but my gut was right once again.

Ain't gonne front, it stung ...but come next week up until the semester ends, shorty ain't getting a peep or look from me. If she initiates, which i hope she doesn't, i'mma be really, REALLY short and nonchalant. I ain't deleting her number till the end of the semester either. Ain't tryna show her she got to me.

@Emperor_ReinScarf

@kevm3

@Turbulent

@360dagod

@Asantehene

Fam it's always the girls who you THINK are feeling you that sting man the most. I'd rather have a girl call me ugly af and reject me than to have a girl string me along and not answer my texts/avoid me and shyt

 

[RealAssanova]

Fam it's always the girls who you THINK are feeling you that sting man the most. I'd rather have a girl call me ugly af and reject me than to have a girl string me along and not answer my texts/avoid me and shyt

its cool fam. She ain't string me along or nothing. She just showed me who she is...and i thank her for it.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I'm in a weird place right now brehs.

I'm 31 and still attractive enough and successful enough to attract cute girls of all ages. But my dilemma is this:

-Girls younger than 28ish are cute, with potential but got damn they have some growing up to do. I'm super impatient on that end.
-Girls older than 28 are awesome, especially when you get in the 30's. They're so accommodating and understanding. It really is attractive. But their bio clock is ticking and it puts a rush on everything.

Which brings me to my current situation... I'm dealing with this 26 y/o AKA, slim with an awesome body but this chick might be the craziest chick I ever "dated." It's weird cuz she's smart and cool as fukk at times so I see the potential. But she's hella SELFISH. I mean bah gawd! This girl knows she's hot so she feels like a nikka is supposed to bend every which way for her. I'm an OG so I that shyt but she catches me off guard with random emotions and random acts of kindness. I realized that I can't deal with this long term but it's a shame. She's cool but her selfishness and daddy issues are ridiculous.

Which brings me to my closing point:

The younger girls have potential and have more time on their bio clock but they usually need a few years of seasoning from the world before they're ready to play fair. For instance, ol' girl I mentioned is about 2-3 years away from being a legit candidate for dating. By then the world will force her to calibrate that selfishness. I've seen it a ton of times. So many bad ass twenty somethings end up being average thirty somethings and all of a sudden are much more willing to compromise.

Just my thoughts

 

[FiveShoTz]

me and This girl who is a friend of my family been talking, she said she remember me wen i was younger but i dont remember her tho, back wen she lived in ny i was real young and she was like 14 or 15, she's the younger sister of my godmother who is my mothers best friend, and my godmothers son i consider like my cousin so thats the connection .

she 32 so uk the clock going off in her head

me n her been talking 4 the last month, last week i told her i was going to nc for 3 days to visit my grandmother , then asked her if she wanted to come, she said if im paying 4 everything she'll go i said no prob ,Toll and a hotel aint nothing, i asked if she could help me with the gas tho and she said she would.
she was real happy wen i asked her too.

wen we get to nc im going to my grandmother house to catch up with her, talk to her a lil n catch up and have some of her smothered porkchops with white rice that i love

after that back to the hotel

a hotel room with nothing to do 4 3 days...........
man i cant W8

as many nuts as ima bust she might come back to ny pregnant 4real

 

[Urbanmiracle]

So brehs the saga continues....


So my ex texted me out of the blue on some hi how you doing. I'm like bullshyt because she never text or calls unless there is a motive. But I humor it. We make small chat and it leads to her asking me about the iPhone 6. I'm like I didn't get it yet since we just separated the lines. Then this is where I get angry: she is like well speaking of t mobile, the bill is past due and my phone is gonna get cut off by Thursday. Do you have your half?

Mind you we cut the lines about a month ago so I don't think I owe. Maybe I do. And if she would have just came out and said hey I think you owe one more month, please help me pay then I would be more willing to comply, but since she wanna play like she gives a fukk about me then no. fukk her bill. So I told her straight up like why make this bullshyt small talk if you just wanted money from me? I'm like you don't have to lie to me any longer. Then we just get into it and now she wanna take me to small claims court.

Now brehs should I be the bigger man and pay this bill and be done or should I be like fukk that for her trying to bullshyt me?

 

[360dagod]

So brehs the saga continues....


So my ex texted me out of the blue on some hi how you doing. I'm like bullshyt because she never text or calls unless there is a motive. But I humor it. We make small chat and it leads to her asking me about the iPhone 6. I'm like I didn't get it yet since we just separated the lines. Then this is where I get angry: she is like well speaking of t mobile, the bill is past due and my phone is gonna get cut off by Thursday. Do you have your half?

Mind you we cut the lines about a month ago so I don't think I owe. Maybe I do. And if she would have just came out and said hey I think you owe one more month, please help me pay then I would be more willing to comply, but since she wanna play like she gives a fukk about me then no. fukk her bill. So I told her straight up like why make this bullshyt small talk if you just wanted money from me? I'm like you don't have to lie to me any longer. Then we just get into it and now she wanna take me to small claims court.

Now brehs should I be the bigger man and pay this bill and be done or should I be like fukk that for her trying to bullshyt me?

Why are you still giving this broad breathing room my nikka??

 

[Urbanmiracle]

I'm not I hadn't talk to her in weeks and I've been getting closer with this new older woman. She just hit me up out the blue. Honestly should have ignore it I know I fukked up on that.

 

[360dagod]

I'm not I hadn't talk to her in weeks and I've been getting closer with this new older woman. She just hit me up out the blue. Honestly should have ignore it I know I fukked up on that.

Block her number breh..

She sees an opening to keep fukking around with you...

If you show any negative emotion or get outta character, she's won...

And she won because she got you upset...

The chick I fukked with hasn't hit me up in almost a year after I fully got rid of her...

She will hit me up again at some point from a number I don't even know...I know this

She will get shut down in a respectful way and I will keep it pushing...

But you gotta go to the extremes with these females breh...

 

[havoc]

I'm in a weird place right now brehs.

I'm 31 and still attractive enough and successful enough to attract cute girls of all ages. But my dilemma is this:

-Girls younger than 28ish are cute, with potential but got damn they have some growing up to do. I'm super impatient on that end.
-Girls older than 28 are awesome, especially when you get in the 30's. They're so accommodating and understanding. It really is attractive. But their bio clock is ticking and it puts a rush on everything.

Which brings me to my current situation... I'm dealing with this 26 y/o AKA, slim with an awesome body but this chick might be the craziest chick I ever "dated." It's weird cuz she's smart and cool as fukk at times so I see the potential. But she's hella SELFISH. I mean bah gawd! This girl knows she's hot so she feels like a nikka is supposed to bend every which way for her. I'm an OG so I that shyt but she catches me off guard with random emotions and random acts of kindness. I realized that I can't deal with this long term but it's a shame. She's cool her selfishness and daddy issues are ridiculous.

Which brings me to my closing point:

The younger girls have potential and have more time on their bio clock but they usually need a few years of seasoning from the world before they're ready to play fair. For instance, ol' girl I mentioned is about 2-3 years away from being a legit candidate for dating. By then the world will force her to calibrate that selfishness. I've seen it a ton of times. So many bad ass twenty somethings end up being average thirty somethings and all of a sudden are much more willing to compromise.

Just my thoughts

First, get rid of your silly thoughts of Bio Clock. Women are age can still give birth and sustain their beauty. You dudes are killing me with this myopic generalization. I can't believe you actually think like this in the real world Understand that it isn't about the age; it's about the level of maturity of a woman you should be concern with and her attribute. Stay away from the crazy broads, breh. If you don't detach from that insane woman, you are going to age quickly by stress. Stay connected with the mental healthy lady that will bring tangible attributes to the table and won't drive you crazy.

 

[MikelArteta]

I keep telling y'all about exes.

I'll write in detail

 

[Ohene]

I'm in a weird place right now brehs.

I'm 31 and still attractive enough and successful enough to attract cute girls of all ages. But my dilemma is this:

-Girls younger than 28ish are cute, with potential but got damn they have some growing up to do. I'm super impatient on that end.
-Girls older than 28 are awesome, especially when you get in the 30's. They're so accommodating and understanding. It really is attractive. But their bio clock is ticking and it puts a rush on everything.

Which brings me to my current situation... I'm dealing with this 26 y/o AKA, slim with an awesome body but this chick might be the craziest chick I ever "dated." It's weird cuz she's smart and cool as fukk at times so I see the potential. But she's hella SELFISH. I mean bah gawd! This girl knows she's hot so she feels like a nikka is supposed to bend every which way for her. I'm an OG so I that shyt but she catches me off guard with random emotions and random acts of kindness. I realized that I can't deal with this long term but it's a shame. She's cool her selfishness and daddy issues are ridiculous.

Which brings me to my closing point:

The younger girls have potential and have more time on their bio clock but they usually need a few years of seasoning from the world before they're ready to play fair. For instance, ol' girl I mentioned is about 2-3 years away from being a legit candidate for dating. By then the world will force her to calibrate that selfishness. I've seen it a ton of times. So many bad ass twenty somethings end up being average thirty somethings and all of a sudden are much more willing to compromise.

Just my thoughts

this is an OG speaking. yall better heed

 

[MikelArteta]

If you desire drama in your life......Just stay friends with an ex, there are exceptions to every rule, but generally being friends with an ex is a horrible horrible horrible idea. I cannot fathom any circumstances where it is constructive unless you have reached the summit of peace where you can witness the ex with someone else and without an ounce of jealousy, bitterness or selfishness in your heart feel ecstatic for them and vice versa.


Reasons to never be friends with an ex.


1.Liberation of their guilt.


No one wants to be the bad person in any situation and an ex may still care about you in some way, so by offering friendship and you accepting the diminished role the weight of guilt they feel in making that decision to dump you is lifted.


2.Just in case....


Just in case things don’t work out with the new John or Jane Doe, having the safety and security haven of an ex that in their mind is still waiting for another opportunity. So by keeping you around as a “friend” if the grass is not greener then the....Hey remember our first date when you made me laugh type stuff starts to regurgitate.


3. Encumbers the natural healing process


By continually being “friends” with an ex the seed of hope which destroys the progression of healing continues to be watered and grows. Hey my ex text/phoned/ smiled at me that must mean they still wants me. When in general that is not the case, it’s the equivalent of starting on the 11 yard line in football, heaving an 89 yard pass for a touchdown but it being nullified due to a holding penalty that is 10 yards and the ball being placed now at the one yard line. Every time you think are getting ahead, feeling good the seed of hope pops up and you end up in even a worse spot than you were before.



To wrap it up as I always like to say people who I call friends have never made me feel disconsolate nor have they demoted me in their life. Life is already too short for any added further drama or stress. Just because someone dumps you does not make them a bad person nor do you have to hate them, they did what they thought was the best decision for their life, now it is time for you to do what is the best decision for your life.

 

[Atlrocafella]

man some good shyt in this thread the past couple of days. Good to see the brehs fighting the good fight.

It always good to come back to this thread to make sure you aren't falling into any type of sucker shyt. I got a main thing at the moment and im starting to notices small little things that are about to regulate her to the D league, possibly the bushes. I got two other potentials just waiting to take her spot.

as it has been stated before brehs, there is nothing a girl won't or can't do if she's into you. Don't fall for the games or bs

 

[Spin]

So brehs the saga continues....


So my ex texted me out of the blue on some hi how you doing. I'm like bullshyt because she never text or calls unless there is a motive. But I humor it. We make small chat and it leads to her asking me about the iPhone 6. I'm like I didn't get it yet since we just separated the lines. Then this is where I get angry: she is like well speaking of t mobile, the bill is past due and my phone is gonna get cut off by Thursday. Do you have your half?

Mind you we cut the lines about a month ago so I don't think I owe. Maybe I do. And if she would have just came out and said hey I think you owe one more month, please help me pay then I would be more willing to comply, but since she wanna play like she gives a fukk about me then no. fukk her bill. So I told her straight up like why make this bullshyt small talk if you just wanted money from me? I'm like you don't have to lie to me any longer. Then we just get into it and now she wanna take me to small claims court.

Now brehs should I be the bigger man and pay this bill and be done or should I be like fukk that for her trying to bullshyt me?

Man you in Brooklyn and you stressing over one chick? Like someone else mentioned block her number or even change your number and move on. By you letting her play with your emotions proves you still like her. If that is the case then fine, but if you're really trying to get over her you need to start talking to other chicks. Little by little thoughts of her will start to fade.

Do you go out to bars or any social events? Even if you get a new chick that isn't up to your "standards" it will be good to smash that one and start building a roster. The more you start smashing without "falling in love", the more confidence you will gain with women period.