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I just won't do it.
I just won't do it.
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if u from the south chances are u prolly have a corny swag
better be on ya wayne/jeezy shyt and get a NY/Eastcoast Swag
better be on ya wayne/jeezy shyt and get a NY/Eastcoast Swag
Be happy and love yourself first and I'm all over the place but…..
You do not need anyone to validate you, you do not need anyone to fill a void in your life and you do not need anyone to bring you happiness or joy and run on sentence…..you do not have to morph into the image society and others set for you because they are not walking in your shoes 24/7 only you are.
Enjoy life and all it has to offer, conquer your fears, devote time to your hobbies, learn something new, travel, volunteer do what makes you happy! Augment your lifestyle and start taking pleasures in every moment you have living. Don’t waste your time trying to please anyone or winning their favor, never give up your core values and what defines you for anyone and especially don’t worry how others may perceive you. Be happy and love yourself first because how can you love others if you don’t even love yourself?
Story time!
There was a stage in my life where I felt empty and preached a gloom message to anyone who would listen of woe is me. To fill this emptiness I just started going out on a mass amount of dates with different women, sometimes even taking on a different character, sometimes even thinking I was so lucky to have a moment of their time, all with the premise of looking for/longing for someone to take on the responsibility of bringing me happiness and/or filling some sort of empty cup that needed to be filled I assumed existed in my life. Of course this was an unfeasible undertaking as the fantasy concocted in my mind was waiting on someone to come and take on the assignment of making me happy instead of looking within my inner core to make myself happy.
When I finally started to concentrate on me and be happy and content in spite of any situation at hand I developed a genuine beautiful relationship with myself. I realized that in order to be happy to stop looking for somebody/anybody to pour that glass of joy for me. Instead have the gaze and focus on you and converge on things and individuals that will enhance you on life’s journey. After this awakening, I started to exude self confidence, self-enjoyment, and marveled at the little things I would once look over that I could now be grateful for such as my loving family, my close friends, my health and just waking up every day. Which further led to……..
I I I I and more I’s sprinkled in with realizations cooks up………….which further led to……
I stopped looking for/desiring women or anyone to bring me happiness as I located the perfect person for that mission which is I. No this is not a message of pride and gloating, but once I fell head over heels with myself, I realized that no one can make my life feel satiated, make me become an improved individual, encourage me more than I. I realized that anyone who admires me for me would not want to change a single iota about me, and I became oh so oh so comfy in my skin. As I reached this point I came to the realization that no no no I was never the lucky one, they were/are. For the reason that, everything I ever wanted I already had within my inner core.
Permitting someone into my life or my heart is the supreme gift I can offer because my cup is overflowing and what I have is valuable, and I’m content scratch that I am happy being by myself if I have to. If you won the jackpot and decided to share with someone and they decline, are you going to sit down and cry and beg them please please please accept half of the winnings I beg of you don't go? No rational individual would, so in closing view yourself as the jackpot if someone does not desire to be with you, or decides to not stay around that’s not your loss it’s theirs. There is never a need to chase as the right person will come to you in due time and it will never be a game. It will come easy, it will be seamless, but in the meantime don't worry just enjoy life!!!!
You do not need anyone to validate you, you do not need anyone to fill a void in your life and you do not need anyone to bring you happiness or joy and run on sentence…..you do not have to morph into the image society and others set for you because they are not walking in your shoes 24/7 only you are.
Enjoy life and all it has to offer, conquer your fears, devote time to your hobbies, learn something new, travel, volunteer do what makes you happy! Augment your lifestyle and start taking pleasures in every moment you have living. Don’t waste your time trying to please anyone or winning their favor, never give up your core values and what defines you for anyone and especially don’t worry how others may perceive you. Be happy and love yourself first because how can you love others if you don’t even love yourself?
Story time!
There was a stage in my life where I felt empty and preached a gloom message to anyone who would listen of woe is me. To fill this emptiness I just started going out on a mass amount of dates with different women, sometimes even taking on a different character, sometimes even thinking I was so lucky to have a moment of their time, all with the premise of looking for/longing for someone to take on the responsibility of bringing me happiness and/or filling some sort of empty cup that needed to be filled I assumed existed in my life. Of course this was an unfeasible undertaking as the fantasy concocted in my mind was waiting on someone to come and take on the assignment of making me happy instead of looking within my inner core to make myself happy.
When I finally started to concentrate on me and be happy and content in spite of any situation at hand I developed a genuine beautiful relationship with myself. I realized that in order to be happy to stop looking for somebody/anybody to pour that glass of joy for me. Instead have the gaze and focus on you and converge on things and individuals that will enhance you on life’s journey. After this awakening, I started to exude self confidence, self-enjoyment, and marveled at the little things I would once look over that I could now be grateful for such as my loving family, my close friends, my health and just waking up every day. Which further led to……..
I I I I and more I’s sprinkled in with realizations cooks up………….which further led to……
I stopped looking for/desiring women or anyone to bring me happiness as I located the perfect person for that mission which is I. No this is not a message of pride and gloating, but once I fell head over heels with myself, I realized that no one can make my life feel satiated, make me become an improved individual, encourage me more than I. I realized that anyone who admires me for me would not want to change a single iota about me, and I became oh so oh so comfy in my skin. As I reached this point I came to the realization that no no no I was never the lucky one, they were/are. For the reason that, everything I ever wanted I already had within my inner core.
Permitting someone into my life or my heart is the supreme gift I can offer because my cup is overflowing and what I have is valuable, and I’m content scratch that I am happy being by myself if I have to. If you won the jackpot and decided to share with someone and they decline, are you going to sit down and cry and beg them please please please accept half of the winnings I beg of you don't go? No rational individual would, so in closing view yourself as the jackpot if someone does not desire to be with you, or decides to not stay around that’s not your loss it’s theirs. There is never a need to chase as the right person will come to you in due time and it will never be a game. It will come easy, it will be seamless, but in the meantime don't worry just enjoy life!!!!
Beerus
Banned
I sent her to the bushes, yet I'm still feining to just pick up my phone and hit her up....
fukk man the heck is wrong with me
fukk man the heck is wrong with me
I sent her to the bushes, yet I'm still feining to just pick up my phone and hit her up....
its called a emotional tie
1 of the three things a woman can hold over you
feel like texting or calling, checking out her instagram, facebook, twitter. The urges
.Just have to fight them and push forward in two weeks the addiction will die off
Beerus
Banned
What's the other 2 things?its called a emotional tie
1 of the three things a woman can hold over you
feel like texting or calling, checking out her instagram, facebook, twitter. The urges
What's the other 2 things?
sex and her beauty
any man that is hung up on a chick, or struggles moving on or not looking back is strung up on one of those things.
Right now your there checking your phone, hoping even though she's in the bushes maybe she texts you, your looking at your phone maybe I should maybe just maybe, it's hard its like a drug addict going cold turkey but I'm telling you its teh quickest way to kill that connection gotta starve it out.
Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.
I've been there and even worse, constantly checking a fb, telling myself its the last day then doign the same thing over and over again, everytime I checked it was like I was right back at square one, same with the fihgting to text or phone call, you will just end up feeling worse and kicking yourself for doing it.
I remember going like a month after I cut things off with this brehette, then I got antsy and sent a text that ish brought me back to like day 1 when she was always on my mind, now never again no looking back keep strong, once the connection dies you'll be
Stay strong!!
Beerus
Banned
iight man ima try even tho im still gon see her at worksex and her beauty
any man that is hung up on a chick, or struggles moving on or not looking back is strung up on one of those things.
Right now your there checking your phone, hoping even though she's in the bushes maybe she texts you, your looking at your phone maybe I should maybe just maybe, it's hard its like a drug addict going cold turkey but I'm telling you its teh quickest way to kill that connection gotta starve it out.
Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.
I've been there and even worse, constantly checking a fb, telling myself its the last day then doign the same thing over and over again, everytime I checked it was like I was right back at square one, same with the fihgting to text or phone call, you will just end up feeling worse and kicking yourself for doing it.
I remember going like a month after I cut things off with this brehette, then I got antsy and sent a text that ish brought me back to like day 1 when she was always on my mind, now never again no looking back keep strong, once the connection dies you'll be
Stay strong!!
damnit I shoulda listened about messing with girls at work now im really done with that shyt no more.I just hope she dont try to talk to me like she said she was gon too when I told her im just gon act as if we dont know each other.
Nuke Dukem
Da Bears
I see post on
Getting a girl
&
Getting over a girl..
Any advice on maintaing a relationship once you get the girl you wanted??
Getting a girl
&
Getting over a girl..
Any advice on maintaing a relationship once you get the girl you wanted??
EQ.
Mansur Brown - "Heiwa"
Sure. Don't change your persona, remember she feel for the initial you. A lot of it comes down to maintaining your true self and understanding that at any time she could leave you. Sounds drab and negative but such is life. @kevm3 and @Emperor_ReinScarf mention this a lot but remember she is there to improve your life not taint the quality of it. If at any time she's becomes more of a liability than asset, you should re-assess that situation.
another week...another girl checked out ..
man .. i don't even worry no more why these girls stop replying or all of a sudden go cold. Just last week it was all good..shorty hitting me up with "oh sweetheart i miss u .. can't wait to see you " to this week where there's no noise from her end and i ask her if she's free and i all got was "no"
..
i ain't catching no feelings over these broads anyway but i'm really starting to think that i'm attracting the wrong type of women. i always somehow find low class women that just wanna smoke weed and work retail somewhere with no ambition.
damn maybe i should have read this before posting .. but anyways..
man those bring back memories. When there was no roster and i was so thirsty..i would keep thinking of the one girl that got away and kept repeating things in my mind over and over and over again. Things like "oh i think i fukked it up cause of XXX" or "oh man i should have done this or took her somewhere else" ..
Looking back, all i could do is laugh at my self. Why did i give myself unnecessary stress over things i cannot control. If you did your thing and tried to show her a good time and she ain't reciprocate then :meh: and
.. it's an important principle you mentioned .. Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.
the sooner you stop putting women on pedestal the quicker you can move on and focus on the next one. There's no concept as "the one that got away" .. why not think of it as "the one that got away so you can find the better one".
man .. i don't even worry no more why these girls stop replying or all of a sudden go cold. Just last week it was all good..shorty hitting me up with "oh sweetheart i miss u .. can't wait to see you " to this week where there's no noise from her end and i ask her if she's free and i all got was "no"
..i ain't catching no feelings over these broads anyway but i'm really starting to think that i'm attracting the wrong type of women. i always somehow find low class women that just wanna smoke weed and work retail somewhere with no ambition.
sex and her beauty
any man that is hung up on a chick, or struggles moving on or not looking back is strung up on one of those things.
Right now your there checking your phone, hoping even though she's in the bushes maybe she texts you, your looking at your phone maybe I should maybe just maybe, it's hard its like a drug addict going cold turkey but I'm telling you its teh quickest way to kill that connection gotta starve it out.
Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.
I've been there and even worse, constantly checking a fb, telling myself its the last day then doign the same thing over and over again, everytime I checked it was like I was right back at square one, same with the fihgting to text or phone call, you will just end up feeling worse and kicking yourself for doing it.
I remember going like a month after I cut things off with this brehette, then I got antsy and sent a text that ish brought me back to like day 1 when she was always on my mind, now never again no looking back keep strong, once the connection dies you'll be
Stay strong!!
damn maybe i should have read this before posting .. but anyways..
man those bring back memories. When there was no roster and i was so thirsty..i would keep thinking of the one girl that got away and kept repeating things in my mind over and over and over again. Things like "oh i think i fukked it up cause of XXX" or "oh man i should have done this or took her somewhere else" ..
Looking back, all i could do is laugh at my self. Why did i give myself unnecessary stress over things i cannot control. If you did your thing and tried to show her a good time and she ain't reciprocate then :meh: and
.. it's an important principle you mentioned .. Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.the sooner you stop putting women on pedestal the quicker you can move on and focus on the next one. There's no concept as "the one that got away" .. why not think of it as "the one that got away so you can find the better one".
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Thanks. I'll prob try to get some engineering books and start strength training to improve myself physically
Rule number 1: Be real
Rule number 2: Be real
Rule number 3: Be real
Rule number 4-10: Be real
The bottom line is that a woman that wants to be there will find a way to stay around. If you got to do circus tricks or some other nonsense to keep her attention, then you're playing the game wrong. There is nothing these women are bringing to the table for you to do anything out of the ordinary to 'keep them around'.
The reality of the matter is, most of these women are transient and there's nothing you can do about it. Why? Because they were reared with the mentality that they need to 'explore' while they are younger, and they'll have some superman to save the day when they are 30, who is going to marry them and let them become a housewife. We had a thread on here telling women if they want a top notch man, they better get him in their prime, and tons of women argued against it, basically stating that they can wait until they are in their 30s and find some quality man to settle with. Most of these women don't want to settle down. They want to explore with a variety of men. It's just like a woman asking what can she do to make some player stop playing. There's nothing she can do. A player is going to play. A woman that wants to explore will explore. A woman that will stay around will stay around.
Best thing you can do is focus on improving your life and always keeping it real with a woman and not changing up. The one who likes your style enough will stay around. As a man, all you can do is be principled and be fair and be you. Then after that, let the cards fall where they may.
another week...another girl checked out ..
man .. i don't even worry no more why these girls stop replying or all of a sudden go cold. Just last week it was all good..shorty hitting me up with "oh sweetheart i miss u .. can't wait to see you " to this week where there's no noise from her end and i ask her if she's free and i all got was "no"
i ain't catching no feelings over these broads anyway but i'm really starting to think that i'm attracting the wrong type of women. i always somehow find low class women that just wanna smoke weed and work retail somewhere with no ambition.
damn maybe i should have read this before posting .. but anyways..
man those bring back memories. When there was no roster and i was so thirsty..i would keep thinking of the one girl that got away and kept repeating things in my mind over and over and over again. Things like "oh i think i fukked it up cause of XXX" or "oh man i should have done this or took her somewhere else" ..
Looking back, all i could do is laugh at my self. Why did i give myself unnecessary stress over things i cannot control. If you did your thing and tried to show her a good time and she ain't reciprocate then :meh: and
the sooner you stop putting women on pedestal the quicker you can move on and focus on the next one. There's no concept as "the one that got away" .. why not think of it as "the one that got away so you can find the better one".
That's the exact thing. Men end up getting 'emotionally hooked' as if they were on a drug. They were enjoying life prior to this woman, they got hooked, she leaves, and they go through those emotional withdrawal symptoms. You'll be fine if any woman leaves, especially if you don't allow yourself to get overly attached in the first place.
Men simply have to realize the kind of age we're living in. We're in an age where average women can and will be flooded with attention at the drop of a dime. Most of them are always talking to numerous dudes, fielding options, even if they are with someone. They get bored of option 2, 3 or 4? Then they pop back up in your life a week later like, "I missed u sweetie!" More like her other options aren't paying her attention anymore or she just wants some new flavor.
There's only a handful of quality women out there who you can build with, which is why we say repeatedly in this thread, don't throw that away. If a guy wants to trade a loyal woman for a few thrills, he's going to be the one losing big time.
I agree that we all have had times where we blamed ourselves, wondering what 'we did wrong.' Then, as you get older, you realize there's nothing you did wrong. It's more like you came across several women who didn't want to be held down. We're in the age of communism when it comes to dating. Most of the women you meet are 'everybody's property'. They want to explore. You'll only put yourself through an emotional ringer trying to cage up a fox that wants to run free.
That's one of the huge reasons I keep telling people to focus on things other than women. At least you'll have something to show for all the effort if you invest in that. If you invest all this time in PUA or trying to trick women to staying with you, you'll realize how much time you wasted because there will be no tangible benefit, especially when she ups and leaves for no real reason other than she was bored. It also is telling of how most men view themselves when they don't believe they are enough to keep a woman, but that they must resort to some sort of trickery to show that they are worthy of keeping her around. I'm not with that. If I'm not enough how I am, then she can get on. Bottom line.
Men need to start learning to develop peace of mind and to become rooted, meaning to be firmly entrenched in principle. We simply have to realize we are in a 'famine' when it comes to wifeable women, and to act accordingly, lest you put yourself in a position that will cause you emotional trauma. Questions we need to eliminate from our mind: "Am I doing what she likes? Did I say the right thing? Did I do the right thing? What do I do to get that girl?" Instead, focus on improving your life, becoming closer to God, strengthening relationships with friend and family, etc. Women will notice that of it's own volition and the one who likes what you're doing will find a way to get your attention.