Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Urbanmiracle
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So, my friend (or at least I thought) the other day I guess trying to show me "tough love" tells me my ex gf already has a new bf. Now Im not gonna lie, it hit me but I was still like 
cause we only broke up 5 months ago but I know she was probably already gone emotionally before that. I more 
at my friend for telling this nonsense. Im not a bitter or angry person, Im not gonna be like my ex needs to get hit by a rogue asteroid or anything, if she happy I'm about it. But now my mind is stuck on it like 
because Im still out here trying to just find a peace of mind. I dunno brehs. I just want peace and a good holiday. But to hear that shyt is like she just replaced a nikka like that. I didn't mean much to her. Even after being her rock when her moms died. Now some new nikka just swoops right in and gets the benefits of it all. Anyways brehs, Ive been working 16 hour shift for the past 2 weeks no days off so I haven't read this thread in a min. Hope you gents having a good holiday. I will, once the check clears
cause we only broke up 5 months ago but I know she was probably already gone emotionally before that. I more at my friend for telling this nonsense. Im not a bitter or angry person, Im not gonna be like my ex needs to get hit by a rogue asteroid or anything, if she happy I'm about it. But now my mind is stuck on it like because Im still out here trying to just find a peace of mind. I dunno brehs. I just want peace and a good holiday. But to hear that shyt is like she just replaced a nikka like that. I didn't mean much to her. Even after being her rock when her moms died. Now some new nikka just swoops right in and gets the benefits of it all. Anyways brehs, Ive been working 16 hour shift for the past 2 weeks no days off so I haven't read this thread in a min. Hope you gents having a good holiday. I will, once the check clears
Its life sadly she ain't yours anymore, and now you know for certain.
Who knows if it's going to last but who cares, continue working on you and push forward.
Who knows if it's going to last but who cares, continue working on you and push forward.
So, my friend (or at least I thought) the other day I guess trying to show me "tough love" tells me my ex gf already has a new bf. Now Im not gonna lie, it hit me but I was still like
I know exactly what your saying I'm 29 now, I haven't been in a real relationship that lasted more than a few months since gasp wow 2010, not that I struggle getting a date/woman just that the things that used to draw me looks, beauty, sex are not what I care about anymore. Back in the day I would have put up with so much ish, or stay now once the probation period is over and I see them for what tehy are I'm gone. So I'm not going to date, or chase just for the thrill or to do it. I wasted the majority of my 20s in relationships or stuck on exes and I'm happy I put that behind me. I agree that life is way to short to not enjoy it and live for yourself.
And I agree with that hope etc., doesn't matter what you do, steps you take you can end up on that big screen if she "changes". The longer I go without a relationship the easier it gets, I love travelling and I've been to places by myself for cheap. Just last week I went 3000 miles away for 5 days and the whole 5 days there I spent like 100 bucks just on food and it was not all inclsuive, that would be impossible with a woman.
But I do hold fast that having a great woman who sticks bny you and is supportive is GREAT however its so rare. I know firsthand the things women can do, I've been cheated on, gutted, mocked, lied, had my name ruined and I would rather be SINGLE than deal with 98% of women out there
Just like you are going through this...trust me there are women going through it. No matter what gender you are, everyone will go through this in life. I have a female friend going through the same shyt you are right now. One thing I have realized since being on this board is that men and women get fukked up, fukked over, under and dragged through the mud. But you cannot let that jade you.
Action Mike
All praise..
just got back brehs, weather was great
worry about women brehs
id rather travel
What camera did you use to capture these?
Im not jaded that's the thing.
Whenever a man speaks out against the system he has a label put on him
One thing I can't stand in life is others who have not walked in your shoes or lived your life try and tell you how to feel. It's like telling a rape victim to act a certain way, it happened 10 years ago etc.
You don't know me or my life so to sit there and trt and judge me
Whenever a man speaks out against the system he has a label put on him
One thing I can't stand in life is others who have not walked in your shoes or lived your life try and tell you how to feel. It's like telling a rape victim to act a certain way, it happened 10 years ago etc.
You don't know me or my life so to sit there and trt and judge me
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Youseenmywork
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^^^^THIS! I can say that im honestly "jaded" or whatever i dont have the urge to date or prusue women at all. Ive been reading malcom x autobiography and it some lines that struck acord with me and one of the reason i have been in a reflective mood and is doing a ton of changing to myself .
"Anything i do today, I regard as urgent. No man is given but so much time to accomplish whatever is his life's work. My life in particular never has stayed fixed in one position for very long. You have seen how throughout my life, I have often know unexpected drastic changes. I am only facing the facts when I know that any MOMENT of ANY DAY, or ANY NIGHT could bring me DEATH " -malcom x
So i would say im not JADED . Im just not inspired to deal with the flaking . Im not inspired to wonder why havent this puticular girl not texted back. Im not inspired to become bipolar or socialpath to keep women intrested ...when i know thats not really me. So im get busy living im not inspired by women at all.
going forward just rememeber they dont belong to you but to the gameSo, my friend (or at least I thought) the other day I guess trying to show me "tough love" tells me my ex gf already has a new bf. Now Im not gonna lie, it hit me but I was still like
Its like if you don't follow the game or the structure there is "something* wrong with you
Why its best if you can to go no contact and not look at exes facebooks, social media accounts, and tell any mutual friends to don't mention them.
What you don't know can't hurt you
What you don't know can't hurt you
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I'm happy to say that I've finally got the burden of my ex off my shoulders. The other day she messaged me and we spoke briefly and she was talking about how she's been lonely ever since we broke up and how she's not happy with her life. 6 months ago, I would have been feeling sorry for her and it would have messed with my mood but now, I'm just numb to it. I've moved on and I'm finally enjoying being single so I see why I should let her bring me down.
Im not jaded that's the thing.
Whenever a man speaks out against the system he has a label put on him
One thing I can't stand in life is others who have not walked in your shoes or lived your life try and tell you how to feel. It's like telling a rape victim to act a certain way, it happened 10 years ago etc.
You don't know me or my life so to sit there and trt and judge me
I don't think I called you jaded, no I didn't call you jaded. So I'm going to leave you right here. But continue on.....
No...I don't know you are your life and I was not judging you....but you keep on talking about your life....on a public board. But continue on....
You implied jadeness, see everyone is different we are not produced on assembly lines. Everyone is crafted with different personalities and abilities, everyone leads a different life. If you have never been in situations that someone else has been who are you to tell them what to do?
I notice that women always tell men to “get over it”, your jaded, your bitter bla bla bla, but women can’t equate to having their pride and the fundamental confidence that are the core of a man raked across the coals. It’s difficult for men to deal this type of shame and insecurity because it goes to the root of manhood and we deal with emotions differently, more often than not closing off and shutting down to avoid pain, fear, and shame to our fundamental sense of manhood. And because of the sense of shame, it makes it harder for men to ask for help, or just express themselves. And when they do here comes the shaming language, see I’ve been there, shredded, gutted, mocked, made a fool time and time again and it took me awhile to get over it so I feel a lot of compassion for any man who has dealt with that and I hope one day you will as well instead of just judging them as weak or jaded for not being able to get over it in a certain timeframe. It’s people like you in society that make it hard for men to just get over it
I notice that women always tell men to “get over it”, your jaded, your bitter bla bla bla, but women can’t equate to having their pride and the fundamental confidence that are the core of a man raked across the coals. It’s difficult for men to deal this type of shame and insecurity because it goes to the root of manhood and we deal with emotions differently, more often than not closing off and shutting down to avoid pain, fear, and shame to our fundamental sense of manhood. And because of the sense of shame, it makes it harder for men to ask for help, or just express themselves. And when they do here comes the shaming language, see I’ve been there, shredded, gutted, mocked, made a fool time and time again and it took me awhile to get over it so I feel a lot of compassion for any man who has dealt with that and I hope one day you will as well instead of just judging them as weak or jaded for not being able to get over it in a certain timeframe. It’s people like you in society that make it hard for men to just get over it
So, my friend (or at least I thought) the other day I guess trying to show me "tough love" tells me my ex gf already has a new bf. Now Im not gonna lie, it hit me but I was still like
Maaan, that shyt happened to me yrs ago and I felt the same way. That made me actually start doing the online dating thing. I smashed 2 chiks off of POF and still felt jipped that she was in a relationship as soon as I blinked. Then I actually took some time to sit back and just view relationships in general and realize what I was going thru was pretty normal. The only thing with that was I avoided her after the break because I knew she was a good catch and I didn't wanna see or hear about anyone new with her. Then my boy asked me about her and mentioned she in pics with a new guy out of nowhere
, that was like a kick to the gut with a pair of timbs on 
. At the time I happened to be reading The TAO of the Wu byRza and he mentioned when his first wife broke up with him, he took it hard and ended up just sleeping on his front lawn for like 2 days because she changed the locks on him. So reading other's people situation made me kinda realize these feeling are normal, it coulda been worse . Out of you and her, someone was gonna eventually meet someone else first. She would randomly call me and I just never picked up a call or read an email from her after. I did text her after a while and let her know there was no bad blood(broke up for distant reasons) , but there's no benefit for me in us communicating still. She texted me back asking if I was sure and I just never responded. I've been with my new girl now for 2+ years, we live together and I'm happy. I just accepted as far as relationships go, they come and go thru life. I still cherish the experiences of being with the ex. We had some great times. Life goes on and there's a lot to experience 
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